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Q: my brother is the preppy popular guy. im the gothic creepy girl. its just two different cliques not life or death. he gets anything he wants. and sometimes i have to do stuff for him. hes a lazy ass. i went off on him he said mom shes being mean. i could have knocked him out cold. hes in highschool. i got grounded i refused to get him a drink and yelled at him. is that gay or what. i talk to my parents they dont care. everyone notices it but my parents even he said i have a shitty life ya slave. im not his slave im his younger sister. my friends notice it their surprised how well im takin it. im gona kill him. how do i get it through their tick skulls IM NOT A SLAVE. im goin fuckin crazy i get grounded if i dont do his work right! how do i get my parents to stop!
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Yes, you can use whatever words you want to. Basically tell him that you will use "the golden rule" which means to do for him as you would want him to do for you, as long as he uses it, too. Tell him you are happy to serve him once in a while if he returns the favor. Be polite and clear and especially firm when you tell him. Ask your parents to support you in being nice to one another. It will be music to their ears. Every time your brother asks for something, ask him for something in return. If he starts being nice back, then you can wait awhile before asking for a favor. Otherwise, ask immediately, and make it clear it is an equal exchange.


Politely refuse to do any more than you should be doing for him, and walk away. If you act respectful and don't let him get you all worked up, then he and your parents will have nothing to blame you with. From now on, you will demand respect and give it, not because he deserves it, but because by demonstrating that you are a focused, self-controlled, superior thinker, it will drive him absolutely crazy. Don't react or worse over react to his tauntings, because this is what he really wants from you, so that he can try to then intimidate you. Respectively tell him that you would be happy to get him a drink if he was unable to do so for himself, but since he is a big boy, you are confident he can succeed at the task of self-hydration. Don't be a smart-ass in front of your parents, though. Instead, when in front of the parents, you should oblige him happily and then immediately ask for a favor of equal consideration from him. If he refuses, then tell him that his lack of reciprocation is unfortunate and that if he chooses to maintain an unwillingness to be mutually interactive, you will likewise be forced to reverse your indulgences, until he esteems both you as his beloved sister and the virtue of recriprocation. Kill him only with kindness and wit, until he either ceases to be a pain in the ass or complies with your standards.

can u use smaller words plz im lost lol

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