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Q: OK, My friend well she is not really my friend but she is more like a person i talk to once in while and she is fun to talk to. Well she got raped, and know one knows if she is ok. I jus do not know what to say or think, every time i think about it i start to cry .. I can't call her or anything b/c i do not know her number. I just pray she is alright it's been like 4 days or so. Please someone if you ever knew a friend that this happened to tell what i am supposed to say her or how i know if she is ok.
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I'm so sorry to hear about this. I know how hard this must be on you. But you can do something to help your friend out. Since you don't know her number, you can try searching for it in the white pages, or online...zabasearch.com is really good for trying to find people's contact information, or you can try white pages online. If you have common friends, try asking them, or anyone who knows her, if they know her number or can help you find it.
Once you get in contact with your friend, it'll be really hard to bring up the subject. The same thing happened to my friend a few years ago (she was date raped). Be as supportive as you can; you can try letting her know how sorry you are, that she's a strong person and will get through this in time. Also, if she knows the person who raped her ( a lot of times, girls get raped on a date), she can press charges..that is really important. If she has any information at all about the rapist, she needs to contact the police, even if she may be ashamed to at first. That's one of the main things.
She may want to talk to a councelor about this- it's a serious matter, and talking to a professional who understands will make it so much easier for her. I'm sure there are a number of support groups as well, where she can interact with other victims of rape- the main thing is for her to understand that she is not alone, that it was not her fault, and that she is strong enough to get through this.
You can get information on this website:
http://www.survive.org.uk/
A quick internet search will give you tons of websites for rape/sexual assault support sites.
There are a few things you should keep in mind:
a) the first thing she needs to do is see a gyno. or go to a clinic to get tested for HIV and other STDs. (many clinics offer free testing and counceling).
b) she can go online for support groups
c) the healing process- she should definately talk to a councelor and friends about this.
I hope this information helps you. What happened to your friend is terrible- I feel so sad for her, and hope that she copes with this. She needs to know that there are people who love and support her. And above all, she needs to realize it's not her fault.
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