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Q: ok heres the thing i went to the movies 2 with this kid john ill call him and well he asked me to go to the movies but he never paid or anything and he is mad shy but the thing is he is annoying and stupid but i like him in a way and he is forever talking about his ex how he hates her and shit i guess what im trying to say is hes not so shy when he texts me but in person hes is and i dont know if i like him im thinking of only being friends with him because i dont know if theres anything else there but i was wondering should i get ride of him or should i try to work out my committment problems with him but i really dont think were compatible and maybe im to much for him to handle but i dont know how to break it to him if i do hes the kind of person who will talk a lot of shit and who is not so forgiving please help if you can im sorry if its confusing its confusing me
You are going way too fast for him and that is because guys are slow in the arena of communication, maturity, emotional connections, inner-self awareness, other-person awareness, and so on! He will be confused as hell over you for a while, and probably is resentful of his last girlfriend because he did not get her either. Guys like this are going to have an extra hard time figuring girls out and how they are supposed to relate to the opposite sex. Is he worth your time and effort? Probably not unless you really are smitten with him and he is really into you. Otherwise take it super slow, maybe just stay friends for a while. He is too young and immature to be great dating material right now, and will not be a great boyfriend. He may have some nice qualities, but you have a better chance at seeing those develop if you remain friends and don't put any pressure on him at all. You are right to be wary of guys that talk smack against all their ex-girlfriends...they usually have a lot of problems accepting any responsibility for anything and will blame you in the end for whatever they do wrong in the relationship, too. You are wise to see this coming and steer clear or at least stay aware. Good luck! Remember, dating should be fun, so if it is work and no fun, then forget it!

thanx you really helped alot i feel the same way im also older than he is and i really just want to take it slow because i dont think theres anything yet or ever thanx great advice

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