When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.
What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)
Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)
Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)
We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)
You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)
We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)
Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.
One person can make a difference and every person should try.
The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.
Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)
The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)
Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)
When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.
Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.
Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)
The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)
Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)
DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'
Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)
The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)
Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)
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I am 28/f. The situation is complicated. He has had a female best friend for a while now. I have always felt a little jealous, like he was spending more time with her than with me. I know her and her boyfriend, and thus am 100% sure he is not cheating with her, but I am still jealous. About two months ago, we started marriage therapy. When he told me he wanted to to that, he said he felt like he should move out for a while and had arranged to stay with this woman temporarily. Now I am insanely jealous of her. He knows this. So does she. They are starting an internet business together, and as work at the same place, and spend a lot of time together as a result. We have been doing well in therapy. He understands my jealousy and has been spending less time with her over the past couple months, but now they are starting to spend more time together again. In fact, he is at her place now working on their internet project. Her bf is there too, but it is still hard for me. I don't know if I will ever stop being jealous of her. Honestly, I would feel better if he never saw her again. But I know that they are just friends, and I would feel terrible asking him to not see his best friend again.
Oh, about 5 years ago, I had a male best friend. My marriage was on the rocks then too as I was in the midst of terrible depression (for which I take antidepressants still). My husband let me go out with my friend all the time, so now I feel like a hypocrite not wanting him to spend time with her. But I never made arrangements to live with my friend.
Other than this issue, we have really worked out pretty much everything in therapy and are doing so well. I am very much in love with him again, and he loves me and makes it very clear. That only makes me feel worse about this jealousy I feel. Then I get stressed. It is a downward spiral from there.
I guess my questions are: Should I be so jealous? What can I do to make it less of a problem? Will I get over it? Should I ask him to not see her, or is that just a bit harsh? (link)
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Hey,
There is something called "compromising", and that is when someone does something for you, you have to do something for him in return.
Like here in your situation, when your husband allowed you to hang out with your best friend when you where in a terrible state of depression.
So now you should let him hang out with his best freind too, at least to hang out somewhere or meet up at a cafe or something. And they could still work together on that internet business of theirs and talk on the phone and stuff. These are the things that you should not make a problem out of them.
But what you are right about , is that he most definitely should not make arrangements to live with his freind, because i am sorry ,but this is so disrespectful of him and you shouldn't approve of, what the hell is he thinking of ? He has a wife and a house, and he's just simply moving out to live with his friend? That would not be approved of ever ,by any wife. Let me rephrase that, a married man who has a wife, just moves out to live with another woman. Anyone who would here that story would assume something is going on between him and his best freind. But i am not going to assume so, and i will be on your side, because you are loyal and you trust your husband and believe that he would never cheat on you with her.
So right now, i am going to answer your questions, with simple answers, and these are the answers that you should really consider and work on them. First of all, you can not allow him to live with his best friend or any other woman when he is a married guy and has a wife and home to be in, even if he shows you that he loves you so much and treats you so good. Its damn right , your right to disapprove and get mad. Other than that, don't ask him not to see her, inface tell him, that he can't live with her, but he can meet up with her at some place where they could work and talk and get some coffee or something. So that you would be right, and in the same time, you wouldn't see harsh or protective and jealous. But you can ask him to hang out with you more and go out with you and stuff , and try to make your relationship much better. And if you can do all that,and you still feel jealous , then i am sorry, i won't stay on your side anymore, because if you ask him to do all this, and he agrees and actually shows some change , then you would be wrong if you are still jealous , because if he agrees to do this, then he obviously loves you so much and can't turn down anything you tell him do.
Think of what i said, and if things get better or worse, be free to contact me, and i would be glad to help you and tell you what to do.
Goodluck:)
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Your advice was sensible, and it is what I keep telling myself. I guess I needed to hear (read?) someone else saying it to pay attention to it. Thank you.
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