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hey guys. okay. me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 9 months now and weve already had sex and stuff. (idk if that will help with the answer or not..) but anyhow things used to be great until a long time ago i suggested that we dont have sex as often and then we talked and then we decided that that was dumb and not to do that. after that day though it seems like we havent really been the same. gradually it seems like we argue alot and get mad at eachother really easily and i hate that; and i know he does too. i love my boyfriend with all of my heart and it kinda seems like we both dont care about eachother anymore. there`ll be days i`ll wake up and think i dont wanna do this anymore but then there`ll be days when i looooove him so much. okay AND get this. when we get in a fight and hes being realy mean and then we suggest to take a break he`ll cry about it and expect me to just say that its okay but im not going to do that anymore. i cant. somedays it feels like we bring out the worst in eachother and i hate that. not to mention i could really do without his trust issues too. *breathes.* okay so i need some help here. what can i do to make things better with us, and get rid of the tension and arguing and crap? and to try and help him get over trust issues? i love my BF so much and i dont want to loose him but that seems my only option other than ignoring him the rest of the night these days. please help! it would be GREATLY appreciated. =)
okay ignoring him will not work, it will just drive you even more crazy because your mind will be racing a mile a minute with all kinds of crzy thoughts and silly ideas. what you really need to do is sit and talk. i mean really talk. communication is one of the most important factors in a relationship, that and trust. and since you guys are having trust issues as well, it looks like you really need to work on things. tell him you want him to sit down and hear everything you ahve to say without being interrupted and after you are done say exactly and truelly how you feel (and dont sugar coat anything) then he can say what he has to without being interuppted. what you should day is basically what you just said in your question, because all of that is completelt honest. if you can tell millions of strangers how you feel about him then you should be able to tell him. and from there you guys can figure out the proper solution. good luck.
(Rating: 5) thaaanks =)!