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i recently learned that one of my very close friends is bisexual. She didnt tell me, i just kinda found out through the grapevine. Well, I'm fully supportive of her and everything, but I just dont know how to deal with it. How do i tell her I know? I dont want things to be different between us, because we're really good friends. Help please.
Sincerely,
Confused

First of all, don't believe rumors. Just ignore it, and put it out of your mind. Unless she tells you that she is bi, don't believe it. Go to her and say, first off, that it makes no difference to you if she is or not, and then explain that you heard a rumor and wanted to know if it was true or if some idiot with a grudge was just trying to ruin your friend's good name. Things may be awkward at first, but it won't take too long to go back to normal. I'm bi, and it took me a while to fully come out to my friends. They didn't care, and said that they loved me anyway. I don't get crushes on them, and if I mention a girl I think is hot, they react the same way they would if it was a guy. If anything, this will make you even closer--this is pretty personal. If at first she lies or avoids telling you, don't worry about it. Like I said, it took me a really long time to tell my friends, and that may be the reason that she hasn't told you about it.

-Lea

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