tasuki's advice column

All these girls in my school wear low cut shirts, and short short skirts. My school dosen't enforce the dress code at all. What bothers me is when I'm caught looking at some girl's clevage they say things like, "Hey!" I just get kinda angry because why do all these girls wear clothes like that then not like it when people stare at there ass n' stuff. I just don't get it. They get all upset when guys try to touch them and stuff. That I can understand. But they have to understand that gusy act like that becaues they dress the way they do. My question is: Why do girls dress like that, then be mad at everyone for acting the way that they do?

I'd like to say that it's because they're not dressing that way for YOU, they're doing it for themselves. Why shouldn't we be comfortable? Why can men go just about anywhere topless, but women can't even work in their own garden without a shirt? It doesn't make sense; it isn't fair.

That's what I'd LIKE to say, but not all girls think that way. Teenagers don't have much self-esteem. These girls probably do this to look and feel pretty, they want confidence, and they think that confidence is equal to boobs. They secretly want guys to look at them, but obviously if they let you know that, they would be sluts. It's a long, cruel double standard that women have always had to deal with. That's why they act offended--they want you to think that they're pretty, not easy.

I don't know why they do that. People (males AND females) are full of contradictions. This is the way it's been throughout history. Humankind can be a beautiful thing, but humans do a lot of really messed up, brutal things as well. I'm sure these girls will get over it. People like to look at other people, and we like to be looked at. And that's that. Maybe next time, you can beat them to it and say, "Why are you undressing me with your eyes?!" You'll get a good laugh or two out of that.

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