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This may be a stupid question to some, but I thought I might as well ask it.

Is telling a guy you like him really as easy as some people make it sound? I mean, I'm pretty confident and outgoing, but with guys, I can be pretty shy.

I like a certain guy... I mean, I'll talk to him and stuff, but I can't tell him I like him unless I KNOW he likes me, too. I doubt he likes me back, personally. But some people are just like, "Tell him!" and I don't know if I should. So... should I, how, and is it that easy? Thanks in advance.

The actual act of telling him IS really easy. The hard part is building up the confidence to do so, and it's really, really hard. Harder than trig, even. You may consider writing him a note, which does take some of the pressure off. Or perhaps squeezing your eyes shut and tensing your whole body up for a minute, then slowly relaxing, just before you do it. You don't have to make eye contact with him, which also helps some. And it's okay to sound awkward at first, for example, randomly shouting "I LIKE YOU!" in a freakishly loud voice. After that, you can calm down and it will be easier to say "I've been to shy to tell you, but I have a crush on you, blah blah blah." in your normal person voice. There's no way to make it easy...just less hard.

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(Rating: 5) haha, thanks!

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