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I am 13 and my sister is 28, married and has 1 child. She is very clean, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke (Anymore). But she is depressed. She is in debt, and her husband is never home because of his job. He is a truck driver, so it's usually her and her baby which is 2 years old.

Every week that her husbands not home I have to go spend the night with her. It feels like a second home. One night, not to long ago, I went to her house to spend the night (of course) and she was crying. I asked her why and she started to tell me but didn't and I took it as if she was depressed or that she was alone and afraid because I wasn't there.

People have tried to steal things from her and her husband many times. Her neightbor thinks they sell drugs and take the money to buy all of the things she has. Which isn't true of course. She's in debt. My sister and I have never argued. I like to make her laugh because it makes me feel good that she can accually have fun.

Another thing is her weight. She's shorter than me and she is a little chubby. Everytime she see's herself in old photos she says she wishes she could look like that. One night I didn't want to spend the night with her and my mom made me go. The next day I found out that she was crying because she thought that I wasn't comming out. I really don't know what to do anymore. Can anyone offer any help?

Have you tried to talk to your sister? Tell her that it makes you upset, whenever she cries in front of you. You can't blame her - she just wants company. But if my sister made me stay at her house every single night her fiance wasn't there, I would be really pissed. & Of course she'd never force me to do that. Tell her, that you really care for her, but you don't feel that she should cry in front of you, because you get worried by it. =[

Also, try talking to your mom. See if maybe your sister & her child can stay the night at your house, instead of staying over there so you don't have to go there all the time. Tell your mom that you don't think it's fair that you have to go to her house everytime her husband isn't there. She's just dependent on you, you're probably the only person that she likes being around whenever her husband isn't there.. which isn't a very good thing. The only thing you can do is ask her why she's so dependent on you, and why she gets upset whenever you don't go over & stuff. Get your mom to talk to her toooo! =]

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(Rating: 5) She doesn't get upset, she told me she just felt like I didn't want to come out there.

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