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My dad made me cry my eyes out today. This is what happened.
Well last August I was asked by my cousin to be a bridesmaid for her wedding in April of this year. I said yes, and at the time was unemployed. Well I have a job now at a really good company. But I'm still on a 3 month probation. My grandma (who is paying for the wedding) was expecting me to take 3 days off on a weekend this Febuary just for a dress fitting!! She lives 6 hours away, and I would have had to take the greyhound bus. I told my dad this and he started screaming at me, saying that I was going to lose my job over this. I have a mental illness, and this is the first job I've had in 5 years. He said I would never get another job again and that he wanted me to drop out of the wedding, and that the job was too important. Well I started to cry because I really want to be a bridesmaid but also don't want to lose my job. I asked him if he could phone grandma and make some sort of comprimise, like maybe get the dress fitted her. Then he said "the fact that you're crying shows how delicate you are". He was really mean about the whole thing.
I still want to be in the wedding. I talked to my grandma and she is going to send up the fabric for me to get a local seamstress to make the dress so I won't have to take time off work until the wedding. But I'm still really upset at my dad. How should I act around him? And does anyone else think what he said was out of line? (link)
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He shouldn't have gotten upset with you so quickly. He had every right to be concerned about your job but he did go about it the wrong way, and if anything, the crying comment was just completely out of line. He doesn't sound very easy to talk to ... my dad used to yell at me and then I'd start crying and he'd yell at me more for crying...and reasoning with him just didn't work.
Maybe try to catch him during a calmer time and say, "If I'm delicate, then my feelings should be handled all the more carefully." It might really piss him off, but don't let him manipulate you and stand your ground. He's going to yell either way, right? Might as well say what you feel and get yelled at rather than voice no opinion and get yelled at. It will take some practice to not cry in these arguments but the closer you bring yourself to not crying the more he'll realize that he's messing up because he can't get ot you like he used to.
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Thankyou for your support, it really helps.
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