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alright so i have liked this boy for a while and he knows and he has been giving me mixed signals lately. and i dont know if he likes me or not..so maybe you can help. so a couple of days ago we were all hanging out and me and my friend sam were sitting across from eachother and he comes over and is like move over to me. and everytime i sat down he would sit next to me.Like once we were sitting on a bench and i was between my friend sam and mark . And he was like mark move over when he could have sat next to mark. Than he told his friend that we were going out . But we werent? it was wierd. So yeah we were hanging out but towards the end of the night he kinda ditched me almost and hung out with 2 other girls . and thats when i got confused. So does he like me, is he leading me on, or what?! and what do i do? ILL RATE HIGH FOR GOOD ANSWERS! thanks for reading this

Hey,
It would have been kind of helpful to know what age you and the guy are, because the way people flirt changes a lot with age.
If the guy has been making an effort to do things like sit next to you, then he obviously likes you. The caution I would give, is to ask why he likes you. From the other things that you mentioned, such as telling his friend you were going out, and the night he semi-abandoned you, I would be very careful around this guy.
Being a guy, and being a traitor, I am inclined to reveal the dastardly truth that many guys are complete dogs.
"Players" is the more commonly used term. Some of these guys are intelligent enough to play with emotions, lie, and generally manipulate situations in order to mislead people. In short, most of the time these guys are out to screw you, and then dump you. If they think the girl they've done this to is stupid enough, or vulnerable to it, they will play a yo-yo type game with her emotions, and she might end up being taken in by him several times.
The reason I'm explaining this is that nearly all of your guy's actions that you have described are possible indicators of being a player. In making Mark move over to sit down next to you, he was being passively agressive towards another guy who he thought might be getting close to you. He was in one way, expressing to you his superiority over your friend. That means being near you isn't enough for him, that he has to be the centre of attention, the most important guy there, which is the way players want to be. Telling his friend that you were going out with him is similarly a mark of arrogance, and almost as if he's laying claim on you before you actually accepted his advances. How did you find out about it anyway? Are you sure it wasn't just an extra draw-card to make you think he wanted to know you?
The last thing you mentioned - that he abandoned you for a few other girls. Doesn't that seem strange? This is the one thing I am going on in my assumption that the guy is a player. As I'll explain later, the other two things could be differently interpreted, but abandoning you for other girls is bad, very bad. It signals that he didn't find you interesting, or engaging enough to stay with. He thought he had better chances with those two girls, so he left you.

As I always say, you're the one who has to judge the situation, because I don't know nearly half of what's gone on. Making your friend move could just be his way of flirting with you, and even telling his friend that you were going out could be his way of wishing you were going out with him. Somehow I don't think so though. I'm not saying he might not be an ok guy, but be very careful about him.

-K

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