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Welcome to my advice column. My name is Dawn. First, I assure you I am not like other young people at all. There is nothing about me that is overly special. I have an extreme fear of going back in time, getting stuck there then contracting a disease that's curable now but not curable then, and of being drowned by peacocks. o.0 I have little respect for what hasn't earned it, most of the world is little more than my plaything or a joke to me but what makes it inside my walls is there forever. I was probably tampered with as a child by aliens. Godspeed.
This is an advice column. I have little patients for idiots...
Q: Can I ask you a question?
A: You just did, now I'm all out of answers for today, try again never.
Q: What's the song that goes like this ... ?
A: How is this asking for advice?
Q: I had unprotected sex 23,086,165 times, am I pregnant?
A: Take a damn test and stop being such a whore.
Q: Does he like me?
A: If you have to ask stupid questions like this, to complete strangers who know neither of you, then I highly doubt it. And if he does, then he's an idiot.
Q: Ok, I have to write this essay on (fill in the blank), what should I write?
A: Try growing a brain to think for yourself. You'll never amount to anything if you try to get others to do your homework for you.
Q: Rate this picture, am I ugly?
A: Once again, how is this asking for advice. Stop trying to get self-confirmation through strangers online. You have real self-issues and should probably see a therapist.
Q: Lyk how do u no if u r a lez?
A: You should really learn proper spelling and grammar. It's beyond me how anyone can understand a thing you said.
If you have a serious question, I can be one of the most helpful people you know. I may be only 22, but I have experienced a lot in my life. If I don't know the answer to your delema, I wont pretend to know it and give some random answer that sounded good at the time, I will simply let you know that I don't have the answer, and reffer you to some place that you can find the answer.
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What I'm dealing with here is an 8-month relationship with a girl 6 years younger than me. I'm 26, she's 20... I treat her with a lot of respect and am always there when she needs me, and she is always there for me, too, up until this point. Prior to what happened, our relationship really seemed 50/50. Her mother, who is in bad health, has decided that I'm "controlling, possessive, insensitive, lacking all social manners" and has told this girl that if she ever thinks about marrying me, she will not approve, and if she gets pregnant by me, she'll be disowned.
I feel this is totally wrong. My parents would not do this to me, and I am at a loss to understand it. She and I are happy with each other, at least that's what she tells me. She says she loves me "more than you know," but cannot be torn anymore. She says she wants to be friends, and "maybe someday" things can be different. She says she doesn't want her mother to die resenting me, because that would make her resent me. She also says she "cannot function" without her family relationship and needs "space and time."
What's strange is her mother doesn't have a problem (or so she says) with us being friends and going to a movie now and then. I'm totally confused. What are your thoughts on the matter?
I'm sorry to say, but it sounds like your lady-friend has made up her mind: her mother over you. I know, it's wrong of her mother to make her choose, but the truth is, she honestly didn't have to choose, but she did. I agree with you that choosing a mate shouldn't be one's family's decision; but have you considered that she may have actually have changed her mind about you?
In any case, when a woman says she needs time and space, then you should give it to her. And plenty of it. So, get on with your life, as hard as it may be, date other women, and leave her alone except for a brief, friendly call every month or two. She's still quite young and may truly need some time to make up her mind about you.
Forget the "movie or two". You want to avoid any limbo status that might crop up between you two(as that will make situations harder for the both of you). And don't spend your time pinning away for her and devising some way to win her back. When she's ready, if she's ready, she'll come back.
Sincerly,
Tipsy Gypsy
(Rating: 5) Not what I wanted to hear, but good advice anyways.