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I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.

Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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I'm 17. I've been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now. He's 24, and things couldn't be better. One problem. He's married to another woman. I had NO idea he was married when we got together 4 months ago. Had I known then what I know now, I wouldn't have ever kept up contact with him. So, I know, but he doesn't know I know. And I'm guessing the wife has NO idea about his infedility. I've known this for about two weeks. I taped us "in the act", in case I ever needed proof.



Question is: how should I go about handling this?

Should I bring it up to HIM first?

Should I somehow tell his WIFE? And if you think I should do that, in what form of communication do you think would be best?

Do you think I should just end the relationship suddenly without mentioning it to him, and then stay the hell away, or what?



I would like to know if MY significant other were up to no good. I know it's not so much my business, but I would have trouble living with myself knowing I kept such a drastic secret from a woman who has every right to know. :( (link)
I'm sorry if you are particularly fond of this guy, but the truth is is that he is a scumbag and he deserves to be punished for statutory rape, however close to 18 you are. Even if you don't want that to happen, the least you could do is tell it to his wife. You OWE it to her. If she needs the proof, then give it to her. She needs to know that her husband has been screwing around on her with a minor.


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Thank you sooo much for your response!! And yes, you are absolutely right about him - he is a major scumbag! I really apreciate your help, and I will definitely think about your contribution!! :)




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