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Q: Ok this might be hard to follow but lets give it a shot. Well right now i am in such a screwed up situation. As far as my friends i dont even know what or who to believe. Ok well me and this girl Kathy have been best of friends for bout 3 years now. And use to me and this boy tj used to be i met him and thats how i met kathy. Well back toward the end of may me and kathy told tj off cause he was lying. Ok so sometime in the begining of july he comes back into the picture wants another chance i was hesistating but kathy wasnt so i gave it a shot. Well turns out my feeling was right i should not have cause i ended up telling him off again for lying and coping off with an attitude. And every since then i haven't seen him or talked to him and dont wont to.And there for a few weeks kathy wasnt either. Well say the 2nd or 3rd week in august TJ and another one of his buddies come back into the picture. Well right off the bat i had a bad feeling bout them both. And turns out kathy goes out with tj's buddy. And every since that week that tj and his buddy came back into the picture Kathy hasnt been acting herself. Not towards me that she has known for 3 years or her real good friend crystal sometimes. And her and crystal are like sisters. I havent been acting myself either but that cause of this plus some is getting me misurably stressed. Anyways my question is do yall know anyway we can get it through Kathy's head that she needs to give Tj the big boot and also some other people and start acting herself again and realize that she is hurting her close ones?

P.S. me and kathy have been so close, We used to talk to each other everyday, I used to go and spend the night at her house every weekend help her and her family out til bout a month and a half ago when she wasnt acting right.

O.K
It sounds like Kathy doesn't know at all what she's in for. She needs to know a few things and you are JUST the person to tell her. You need to tell her that TJ and his little "friend" are bad news. They lie, they cheat, and they're not good people at all. Maybe she might want to be their friends but she doesn't know what she's in for and it's your job to tell her. You have to tell her that she's making a huge mistake. Say, "Kathy, who are you going to believe? Me that you've known for three years or this jerk and his friend?" she should choose you. Tell her that you should mean a lot more to her than those two jerks! Tell her she doesn't even know and you do. Also, this might hurt but tell her that if she can't be your friend, so be it. Tell her either she starts acting like your best friend or she gets out of your life. Because whether you like it or not, people like that will seriously hurt you in the end if you don't tell her right there that she needs to be your friend or she doesn't. BUT... tell her that you want her to be her friend but if she is too caught up in TJ's life, she doesn't need you and you don't her. I know in the end it'll work out and you and Kathy will go back to being best friends again. I just have that 6th sense that you and her will work out your problems and talk about whatever needs to be talked about. Talk to her about how you feel. If she was EVER your friend, she'll know and understand. I hope to God that you'll be fine with all this in your head. I pray that you'll be friends with the one that you care about the most! I give you the best of luck and if you want, you can even email me tell how it went. Then, I can help more. I'm sorry if this doesn't help but I really hope it does! Bye, sweetie! :-)

Good luck!

~~~Kayla~~~