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I'm an 29 year old guy.I'll always do my best to give well considered and sincere advice - give me your best shot. P.S. Don't be afraid to ask me private questions, I rarely spend a lot of time answering non-private questions.
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I'm 14/f.
I'm a freshman and I like a sophomore. Well, we're in a club together and we had a carwash today and it was a lot of fun. My crush and I started talking and it was really cool. Well, my friend filled up a bucket with water and dumped it over my head. I was already soaked enough but after that I was WET. My crush asked me why I didn't go change and I told him I didn't have anything to change into so he offered me his shirt. Well, that was really sweet of him but he then he started messing with me, like, I got him a little wet and he threatened to hit my butt and after that he threw a wet washcloth at me (not directly and not hard, just so I would get a little bit wet) and then he started smiling at me. Well, I also found out he has a girlfriend so what's the deal? I'm not trying to break them up, all I want to be is friends with him right now, but does he like me?
It sounds to me like he's just playing about. A lot of guys (I hate stereotypes) can be dogs when it comes to being faithful, and resisting fooling around with other girls. If he's got a girlfriend, then he probably shouldn't have done the washcloth gag, but hey maybe she's forgiving of his flirts. I always assure people that they're right not to try and affect other people's relationships, because it only leads them to hating the person who broke them up.
Shortly, I'd be careful, because he sounds like a player. Until you really know him, "don't make any sudden moves" ^.-
Until he's a free man, don't give him reasons to flirt with you, and try not to be too receptive. If he does dump his girlfriend, try to find out who she is and see if she's friendly. It could be very useful to know why he dumped her. Her friendship could save you bothering with him if he's a jerk, then again, she could be a creepy bitch who just doesn't want him to have a nice girlfriend - always a possibility with estranged partners.
Shortly; Wait until he's single.
-K
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"Just one more thing, he and his girlfriend are always on and off would that have anything to do with anything?"
Try to figure out if they're boy and girl, or just good friends who get together, and then fall apart until they get together again.
You could see it as a volatile relationship if you wanted to - but it's still a relationship until they're apart for a while... say 3 weeks, then you could start to check things out.
If his current relationship is like that, I'd be asking why, and making sure it isn't him, because that's the sort of thing that happens when jerks seem to have some kind of appeal to a girl. He cheats on her, she hates him for a while, then she decides she needs him, and everything's fine again until he cheats again. Nasty relationships.
Anyhoo, assess the situation!
(Rating: 5) Your advice was very very helpful. Just one more thing, he and his girlfriend are always on and off would that have anything to do with anything? Thanks for your advice!