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Ask me about: Social Situations, Relationships, Depression, Suicide, Health, How to Deal with Loss, School, Random weird things that don't fit into any of the above ;) I think I'm pretty good at giving advice, just ask and I'll give it my best shot. I've experienced a lot of it, and I don't mind doing a little research if I haven't. I love playing piano, clarinet, in general I just love music, and I love to write and read, poetry especially, and I love mathematics, physics, and oceanography. I've been told I'm mature for my age, but I don't know, I just think that a person has to be who they are, true to themselves, and not worry about what fits into an age group. I love simply living as best as I can, working when I have to, and having fun. It's all in your perspective. Just a quote that I like "Dreams are made and broken, potentials realized and never reached, all on the breath of one phrase: It could be."
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im a teenage girl who truly hates her parents to death. They've both cheated on each other, and not just once. They dont think or care about me or my careless little 9 year old brother. They have me in the middle hoping i'll pick or protect one of them, and they've said no matter who i pick, i'll still lose one of them and wont get to see them ever again, but their both literally whores. Worst thing is, i suffer from severe depression, and i cut myself, sometimes to much and sometimes to deep, i've taken 2 overdoses, but have ended up getting the pills pumped out, i might as well kill myself, but i've decided to go 2 my home country, the Dominican Republic, to do high school over there, i no i shouldn't be trying to escape my problems, but it's better than commiting suicide, wat else can i do? Can someone please help? I dont think im a freak, just misunderstood. Please write back
First, try not to harbor too much hate and resentment towards your parents. They're not bad people, but they've made some pretty bad and irresponsible choices in their lives, and probably don't know how to deal with the ramifications of the consequences themselves. Still, it doesn't sound like you or your nine-year-old brother should live with either of them, they're very irresponsible. If they ever physically or emotionally abuse you or your little brother, call Social Services /immediately/, they'll be able to get you out of that situation and living with either a relative or an adoptive family. One of my best friends was adopted because he was living with irresponsible adults, and his life has improved beyond measure.
Now, no matter how bad it is, and how hard it is to deal with reality, cutting yourself is definitely not going to make you feel better or help you solve anything, and neither is taking pills. I would suggest getting involved in activities you like to do, sports, or reading, or anything else you're interested in, to take your mind off of things. If you're on medication for the depression, I would stop taking it. It's been clinically proven to actually increase suicidal thoughts and depression, rather than helping anything. Remember that there are always people that you can talk to, and that will understand what you're going through, whether they're your friends, another family member like your grandparents, aunts and uncles, or cousins, or even the people on this site. They'll want to help.
I honestly think that going to the Dominican Republic to do high school is a good idea, if it means getting away from your parents until they can sort out their problems. Who would you be living with, or are you old enough to live on your own? Sometimes a change of setting can be a good thing, and you can leave a lot of problems and stress behind and kind of start over. It's not really running from your problems, as there's not much you can do stuck where you are.
Just try and cheer up, you've got a whole life ahead of you with glorious opportunities to pursue. Always remember that suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. Hope I've helped!
Love,
Nevaeh
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this is the best advice i have gotten, and your right, my mom has custody of me, and as of yesterday, she decided that i have to stay with her and suffer, no matter what, i threatened to kill myself, and she said she'd call the police, but she doesn't understand that i'm for real, and there's no point in calling the police if i'm already dead, i'm not looking forward to living with her or my dad's lover of the weak, i'd rather die
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