|
| |
I posted this to a single person, before I knew it could be answered by anybody with an account;
I am a 17 year old male, and came across your site by accident, or possibly fate. I have a big social problem. I've always been described as "the different one". I was always the one who did his work in class, or didn't do things exactly the same way as everybody else. I was just different like that since primary school. (I'll just say at this point that I'm not gay. A lot of people ask that when you say you're "different") The problem is, I've never been able to shake certain difficulties I've had as a result of being unusual. So now I find myself at 17; I've never been to a party where I've drunk. I've never been kissed. I've never had a girlfriend. Nobody knows who I am, nobody seems to care. I find it difficult to make friends, because I feel socially awkward, because everybody expects me to know things that I don't, because I never developed those social skills. Most of the friends I do have are the poisonous kind. They will be friendly some days, but only because it benefits them. At other times they seem totally unfriendly. I feel like I'm tied into keeping them, because it's not as easy as just pretending they don't exist, and if I alienated them, then I wouldn't have anybody left.
I don't want to become "normal" (if that exists as something to become), I would just like to know how I can fit better into the social structure of school life, and develop general social skills. I feel like I got expelled from the school of social interaction as a kid, and now I've found out there's no adult ed. class.
Thanks,
SilentOne (link)
|
hey,
i know exactly what you mean.
i was in very similar situtations..ive never gotten drunk, and i barely go to any parties..and i used to be very shy
what ive done is just learn to be myself around people. most highschoolers are very immature..but there are some like you, who are quiet, and dont say much.
a lot of people havent been in a relationship at your age...maybe its just that youdont like a lot of the girls at your school...if you do like a girl.
i think you just need the confidence to talk to people, and dont try to totally fit in with the crowd. be yourself...people will respect you for that.
working out can help you feel better about yourself, and can help you to get confidence
i assume you are going back too school? when your in a class, just start some small talk with the people around you. "hi, my name is...." easy things like that. and as the year goes along, you'll probably find yourself being more friendly with people, and talking more.
you also want to look aprochable..dont mop around, and look at the floor when you, look straight ahead, and look around with a sort of smile on your face.
also, if there is a club that interests you, you should join it. thats always agreat way to make new friends
theres a website called myspace.com
maybe youve heard about it?
its a great way too meet new people..and you find a lot of people from your area.
im on there (if u wanna check it out).. www.myspace.com/dont_wake_the_memories
anyways, i hope i helped you out a little.
feel free to chat with me online if you have more problems you want to talk about
aim- xx Just My Luck
msn- nicolex696x@hotmail.com
yahoo- nicolex696x
|
|
Rating: 5
| |
Thanks, everything except the Myspace suggestion is good, and that's just me. I'm sick of my friends not being "real".
|
|
