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When life gives u lemons, make lemonade. Then, throw it in the face of the person who should've gotten you the oranges you orginally asked for.

What we do is determined by what we are. What we are is determined by what we think. What we think is determined by what we experience. What we experience is determined by what we are exposed to and what we do with that exposure.
(MIKE VANCE and DIANE DEACON)

Life is like a book with many different chapters. Some tell of tragedy, others of triumph. Some chapters are dull and ordinary, others intense and exciting. The key to being a success in life is to never stop on a difficult page, to never quit on a tough chapter. Champions have the courage to keep turning the pages because they know a better chapter lies ahead.
(RICH RUFFALO)

Because you're able to do it and because you have the right to do it, doesn't mean it's right to do it.
(Dr.LAURA SCHLESSINGER)

We are born with our eyes closed and our mouths open, and we spend our whole lives trying to reverse that mistake of nature.
(DALE E.TURNER)

You can have anything you want if you want it desperately enough. You must want it with an inner exuberance that erupts through the skin and joins the energy that created the world.
(SHEILAH GRAHAM)

We all have the ability. The difference is how we use it.
(STEVIE WONDER)

Everything is a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

Every great mistake has a halfway moment, a split second when it can be recalled and perhaps remedied.

One person can make a difference and every person should try.

The one thing worse than being alone is not being alone and wishing you were.

Real difficulties can be overcome, it is only the imaginary ones that are unconquerable.
(THEODORE N.VAIL)

The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.
(ROBERT C. DODDS)

Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not, but remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.
(EPICURUS)

When you look in the mirror, you are looking at the problem, but remember, you are also looking at the solution.

Live your life, so you don't have to hide your diary.

Dream what you dare to dream. Go where you want to go. Be what you want to be.
(CALVIN COOLIDGE)

The first thing of importance is to have confidence in yourself, in your abilities.
(KATHARINE GIBBS)

Become a 'possibilitarian'. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities-always see them, for they are always there.
(NORMAN VINCENT PEALE)

DAVID COPPERFIELD just might be the greatest magician and illusionist of all time. He is definitely a legend in his own time. Here are some of his most inspiring quotes...
'The easiest thing in the world is to come up with an excuse not to do something. I found that the most important thing in life is to stop saying,'I wish,' and to start saying,'I will.'
'Before there can be wonders, there must be wonder.'
'Whenever I pursued my dreams, I discovered something astonishing-I discovered myself. My secret has been to consider nothing impossible. Then to treat possibilities as probabilities.'
'Passion is everything.'
'I learned that there were two ways I could live my life: following my dreams or doing something else. Dreams aren't a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. When I dream, I believe I am rehearsing my future.'

Miracles do not happen in contradiction to nature, but only in contradiction to that which is known to us of nature.
(SAINT AUGUSTINE)

The world is composed of givers and takers... the takers may eat better, but the givers sleep better.

Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
(ROBERT FROST)

Love is a fruit in season at all times and within reach of every hand.
(MOTHER TERESA)

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I'm 17/f. My boyfriend of 2 years and I are going to a concert this summer and I really want to lose my virginity to him soon, so I figured why not that night? After the concert, I was wondering how I could somehow initiate it or give him a sign that I want to have sex with him THEN? I dont want to kill the moment by discussing it beforehand because I know it'd make him AND me feel uncomfortable knowing. I want to let it happen on it's own without making it seem awkward. How do I initiate the moment? (link)
First of all, initiating the moment... well when you get to the moment where you start kissing, start kissing more fervently, and do the things that most turn him on, and kiss him on the neck, maybe get on top of him, or grab his penis, or start kissing him everywhere on his body, and just show him that you don't want to take it easy, you don't want him to stop, that you want to continue till you actually have sex, and this usually comes with feeling, its not something mostly to say or do. And if he asks you what are you trying to do, tell him, make love to me, but at that moment, it won't be uncomfortable, cause you'll already be in the spur of the moment.

Second of all, if your not planning to get pregnant, then use protection, maybe you could get some protection with you, but honestly, its gonna be kind of weird, that you planned all this on your own, to have sex and lose your virginity and you even got protection, maybe it would be a bit freaky to him, but if you think it'd be cool with him, then go for it, other than that, maybe you should tell him right after the concert,if you don't want to tell him too early beforehand, but just so he'd go get some protection or something.

And hey, if you love each other, it will happen on its own, and it won't be awkward, and that's what we call, making love not having sex, you don't plan for it, it just happens.

Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck!


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I think you are absolutely right, because I never stopped to think what it would feel like for him if I plan all of this and then just kind of surprised him with it! I would look like a stalker freak! Thank you for saving me from doing something incredibly stupid. :-)




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