I've spent the past 7 months recooperating from my last break up, my boyfriend really meant a lot to me.
Now I finally decided I'm back up for dating, and just when I decide that, I meet the most amazing boy. We spent the night together. He was so sweet, and he had all the qualities I've been looking for. When I was around him, I felt like I could just live in the moment forever, he actually made me feel like I was worth something.
He gave me his number and asked me to call him, and so I did. But he didn't pick up, three times I left messages, and he hasn't responded. I've sent him text messages, and it will take him hours to respond, mainly with only one word answers like "Cool", "Ok", "Yea", and answers like that.
I want to know, what do you guys think I should do? It's been 2 days since I last called or text messaged him. Should I try again? Or should I just give up all hope?
This was the best way for me to feel better to. (scarcasm) Finally recover from a break up, meet someone, then have them ignore me.
I'm sorry. What I am about to say will sound rather harsh. I feel like a big meanie. But hear me out...
First, what this guy is doing to you...Fairly common. (And I don't mean to offend any of you guys reading this. I know only some of you are jerks :P) He was interested, but now that he's satisfied his curiousity, well...I don't think you'll be hearing from him very much anymore. In the immortal words of Greg and Liz, "He's just not that into you."
He likes you, he just doesn't like you enough to continue dating you. Probably. Sure sounds like it to me. You might be wondering why he just doesn't go ahead and say this to your face. Well, he probably doesn't want to feel like a big meanie by saying this to you. From what I have been told, typical guy logic. (And yes, I was told this by an actual MAN.)
If he really liked you, and wanted to date you, you wouldn't have to call him. He'd probably be calling you. And he'd probably have a alot more to say than just a few words. So put down the phone. He's trying to give you a hint by not returning your calls and being short with you. You don't need to call him again, you need to move on.
Again, really sorry. I know it sucks. You've just gotten over your boyfriend and now this guy has to act like a jerk. It's not because there is anything wrong with you. It happens to all of us. Just remember that you are fantastic, and eventually some SMART guy will come along who realizes that you are fantastic too. If what's-his-face is too stupid to realize how wonderful you are, well...You didn't want to date someone with a horrendous case of brain cell defeciency anyway :D
And, as always, since you are a dating female I will suggest this book: "He's Just Not That Into You," By Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. A must have for all us girls. Believe me...Takes a WHOLE LOTTA guesswork out of your interactions with the opposite sex.
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I want to thank you so much for your advice! It really did help me a lot
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