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Q: Hey,
I am 22 and a counsellor. I hang around in a group of three friends (not including me) and one of our friends, Emma, is constantly complaining. She always thinks that she is depressed but I know for a fact that she isn't; I deal with depressed people every day and she is NOT one of them. She thinks that just because she has a lot of things to complain about (her workload, bad love life, etc) then she is depressed. She never stops complaining and is obsessed with finding her 'Mr Right' (her last boyfriend dumped her because she was 'too clingy') and NEVER ever shuts up about it. It's gotten to the stage where I - and my other two friends - are so damn fed up of it that we are ready to explode on her any day now. We don't want an arguement but obvious rifts are being created between my other two friends and me and Emma. One of my other friends, Jen, is seriously ill and constantly in and out of hospital, yet Emma thinks HER life is so much worse, just because she can't get a boyfriend. How do we open her eyes to what's going on and how annoying she is being? She's even starting saying things like 'I want to go to sleep and never wake up, but I don't like taking tablets so I couldn't'. It's f*cking ridiculous and we are all so fed up of it...
Sorry this was long guys. Please don't just say 'tell her she is annoying' - we've tried (only nicer) and she gets so offended. It's not that simple and we don't want to argue.
x Alannah x
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if she feels depressed, that is her feeling. to tell her that she is not depressed is absolutely ridiculous...whether or not in a medical way, if a friend is depressed=extremely sad, you need to be there for them. why not help talk her through her problems instead of trying to ignore them? sorry to be harsh, i hope i helped!
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Depression is not 'extremely sad'; the medical diagnosis is a complete lack of feeling - that's why depressed people cut, to feel something again. I am a counsellor and have just spent a year specialising in childhood depression at Uni, so I think I'd know.
She isn't even 'extremely sad'. We've spent years 'being there for her' and she doesn't even notice or care. Her best friend is DYING and she doens't care.
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I'm Mecca and i live in the UK, whereabouts you'll never know for certain. My hobbies are polo, singing, reading, and playing with my little brothers. I hope I can help you to any extent with your problems! So many of you have sure helped me with some of mine.
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Gender: Male Age: 14 Member Since: May 3, 2004 Answers: 190 Last Update: May 9, 2009 Visitors: 17324
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