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hey guys..my column has been the same for soooooo long now...so im gunna change it up a bit! any ideas please let me know! anyway..heres the ordinary junk...im kayla, im 14, i like in md close to dc, i go to rhs - home of the rams! yay haha, and i dn i just love helping people!

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I would like to thank y'all in advance before you read this. It's probably rather long just because I think you need a little backround information about me... Good luck and thanks if you give me advice... I'll rate you high for this one (That sounds like a bribe)... ANYWAY... I'm having kind of a friend/idenity crisis. First off.. I use to NEVER hang out with girls. I was always one of the guys until 8th grade (I am not going into 10) When I grew boobs, had a NICE body, and was the captian of the competition cheerleading sqaud of my middle school. I had everything I wanted... I was beautiful, and popular (Shalow.. I know) Then, I didn't even make the high school cheerleading sqaud and I was kind of at an all time low. It was one of the most depressing time periods ever for me. That summer I gained 30 pounds and had no friends except my boyfriend. Luckily, I had my boyfriend there for me, which is still with me. At the begining of my freshman year I told my boyfriend how I was kind of nervous about going back to school because of my drastic change. So he told me I should hang out with girls. And so I did. I found a group of girls to hang out with. Turns out the year before I had bad thoughts about them but once I got to know them they werent what I really thought... (big lesson you all... don't jugde) Anyway, So that year was okay. I had girlfriends and stuff.. But I was kinda over weight and feeling really crummy about myself. But I wasn't gunna let that get me down... So I decided to get in something to take the place of my lifetime love, cheerleading. I became an active member in student council. There I became class president, And now I am student body president. I kinda prefer this position over cheerleading. ANYWAY... back to my friends... This summer was kind of weird with my girl friends position. I was happy i had girls to talk to about girl stuff and do girl things with. My boyfriend was happy too. So this summer I started big with TONS of partys and tons of drinking. Me and my girlfriends had a riot. But then I went to 3 leadership camps and decided that I wanted to be a role modle. So i stoped smoking, and drinking, and the parties. Well after I didn't want to do that my girl friends kind of left me behind even though we were really close. We barely talk anymore... And if we do its because they don't have anything else better to do and they wanna chill because they're bored. I know my possibilities.... I know my position.... I know what I can do... But what do y'all think about my position? About me? And what I should do.. Thanks

oo wow ok lots 2 deal w. here haha! ok about the being over weight, you had motivation for gaining it [depression], so get motivation for losing it![getting your friends back!] when ur ready 2 lose it, excersize 3-4 times a week for 30mins-1hr, n eat healthy! ok about the losing ur friends, its good th u didnt let them change u 4 good! i mean if they rly cared about you, they wouldnt stop tlkn 2 u as much just bc u dont party anymore! be proud of urself for tryina make urself somethin more than a drunk!! wahoo! haha. try hangin out w. new ppl, try 2 get close 2 the ppl tht r on ur student counsil. mayb the other friendships didnt wrk bc u didnt have enough in common. i think tht u have a great position, i can tell ya i respect u alot frm wut u wrote bc u realized u had a problem, n u fixed it. you should just do w.e ur comfy with, but i think ur a rly strong girl who has alot 2 live up 2! gl hun!! x0x0x

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(Rating: 5) Thank you alot! Yeah, I've been working on my weight. I've lost alot of it too! Losing friends is always hard, but I guess there's alot of people that could accept me for me. Thanks again :)
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