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Q: two scenarios that piss me off (on AIM)

1)) i make a whole long really nice a/m, save it, and then wen i click "im away" its times new roman black and all it says is the title that i saved it as

2))wen i like my other sn ( i have the latest AIM) lots of times when i click "apply" its times new roman black font and it says about three of the words i put in with a bunch of dashes. For example if i wrote "brb im really busy and upset" brb im reall---

SO ANNOYING! please help.

Try uninstalling aim, and install it again! See if that works..if not, Then I dont really know!

Q: i have friends and sometimes i feel like they dont need me... i dont know why... i cant tell them about it because then they would obviously say that its not true. i have a bestest friend but shes not in the U.S. so i cant see her veryday and hang with her. please help me...

I feel the same way. But their your friends, of course they wanna hang out and stuff..so just forget about what your telling yourself cuz they do like you!

Q: I HAVE THIS WRITING ASSIGNMENT DUE ON TUESDAY & IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT I GET A GOOD GRADE I HAVE TO WRITE A 400 WORD PAPER ABOUT ANYTHING I WUNT PREFERABLY AN ESSAY BUT BASICLLY I NEED A TOPIC CAN ANY1 HELP ME?
~AnThOnY~ M/13

What are you intrested in? Think about it...you can write about the presidential election, your favorite book, magazine, favorite music artist..hope I helped! Oh and a good idea is to write about something you wrote about last year or the year before or something and you'll do really good. because you wrote about it before..just make sure the teacher doesnt know!

Q: Hey. I have a question, well more like I need some advice. Okay. There's this guy Brandon who I met about 2 months ago. Before we met, we talked on the phone and he always said he loved me and would do anything for me. Once we met, I didn't talk to him for about a month. About 2 weeks ago, he IMed me online and said he liked me and all this other crap. Then he got mad because I wouldn't cyber with him. A couple nights ago, he told my friend that he was really sorry and that he wanted to go out with me.

What should I do if he asks me?

Well hes a loser for getting mad at you because you wont cyber with him..so if he asks you out I think you should say no. Cuz obviously all he wants is a cyber buddy or something.

Q: I really need to find out whats wrong with me. Im almost 17 and ive never had a bf or my first kiss. Not to sound conceited, but TONS of people talk about how "gorgeous" and "nice" I am. Some people WONT even beleive me when i tell them ive never had a bf. I always see these nasty, uglier, RUDE girls get ALL these guys. But ive never even had one. I guess maybe its cuz im shy around people i dont know, but if you talk to me im NOT. Ive became more outgoing and flirted with guys.. but i cant seem to find anyone im actually interested in. I just wanna know what it feels like to have a bf. (I dont just want one to have one.) I feel almost like im missing out on my teen years. Sometimes i even get depressed thinking im doing something wrong. Any advice?

The reason why all the ugly girls get guys is because the ugly girls are more likley to have sex with the guys. This guy is always going out with ugly girls and when he asked me out I yelled at him and I was like "Excuse me, your not gonna add me to your collection of ugly girlfriends cuz im hotter than those girls" haha anyway, your time will come! Just gotta be patient, so all you can do now is flirt..and flirt some more! Hope I helped:)

Q: Does anyone know of a website to post pics on. Like either a photo album one or an actual website one. I don't want Picture Trail, EasyDesigner, Xanga, or Xprofile. If you know of any others that are user friendly, let me know! Thanks! -Free2bMe :)

Go to www.freewebs.com, where you can have a free website with 7 free pages, a free guestbook, and a free WebsAlbum(Photo Album). You can upload up to
50 pictures(you can delete old images so you can have space for new pics) but you can always get more Image Space but it does cost money. If you decide to use Freewebs, leave one in my inbox. I'll be happy to give you step by step instructions on how to add images,pages, a guestbook, etc. But most of it you can probably figure out on your own!

Q: hey well im kinda having a problem..well one of my BEST FRIENDS is having a huge problem..shes starting to take pills to make her depression go away and shes starting on mj, booze, etc..and she would NEVER do this stuff..she told me that her dad abuses her and her dad doesnt let her eat until she finishs cleaning the house..and she has 7 brothers and sisters in the house so ITS NEVER CLEAN!!! everyday she comes crying to me..and shes the strongest person i have ever met in my life becuz her past was really bad..she was raped and mollested by her own mother..and her mom is living in arizona and she lives with her dad and his gf here in california. and he says that hes gonna send her back to arizona with her mom..and she says that shes gonna commit suicide becuz she has no point in living..and it sucks. PLEASE..PLEASE help me i really dont kno whut to do and please do not say "talk to her about it" or "tell an adult" becuz it wont work!!!! (ive tried sooo many times..) ugghh if u have any ides plese help me and ill be sure to rate ya.

I learned this in class so this might be helpful. The best thing you can do is listen to her problems, and tell her that you care. Also, try to be with her at all times. Since shes suicidial..Doing little things like walking with her to school or something shows that you care. Also, call her every night and talk for like 10 minutes. And you do need to tell someone. What happens when she kills herself and you regret not telling anyone? Even if you think she was joking around, you never know and you have to take it seriously. I suggest talking to her about getting help and tell her your going to be there right with her! If you convince her to talk to someone, go with her because it will make her feel a whole lot better and comfortable. Being with her, talking to her on the phone, shows that you care. So if she does decide that shes gonna take her life..she might think about you, and think about how much you care..and change her mind. I hope I helped. If you want, you can leave a message in my inbox for more information on how to deal with suicide. Because I have school notes with lots of information. And I just summarized it here. I hope your friend does ok!

Q: okay im 13/f and me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1 month and like 9 days and we havent kissed yet and i want him to make the first move but i want him to do it and get it over with and like yeah and his friend said that i should just do it but im scared...what should i do?

Maybe you should make the first move! Guys love that, and then yeah. haha Good luck;)

Q: does anyone know where i can go to find some hairstyles to look at because i have to get it cut soon.. & also does anyone know some places i can go to get cheap and affordable clothes & what kin dof clothes to look for

thnx

Discount stores that have like 20%-50% off cute stuff..like Ross, Marhsalls, just depends on where you live! Go to a salon, and they usally have books that you can look through. Hope I helped a little:)

Q: hi i just got my 3rd to last filling and im numb!! ive had novocaine before btu this time its relay bothering me!! does ne1 no how to make the numness go away because my mom just cooked a really good dinner and last tie i tried eating i chewed half of my lip up lol. and he always has to double on my novocaine because i have sensitive gums or whatsoever. i want to eat!! duz neone no how to get rid of the numbness or at least make it go away faster?? kthnx

Nothing you can really do, just go to sleep or watch tv. When you wake up it will probably be ok to eat. Or after a few hours of tv you'll be able to eat..

Q: okay.. there is thys guy.. and we started goin out on september 28.. well yeah.. he broke up with his girl to go out with me.. and so yeah.. well.. ill be walkyn down tha halls.. and hes with other grls.. and i dont mynd.. but like.. he waits for them after class.. and he only hugs or kisses me.. like.. in tha room with tha vending machines.. like.. when were all alone.. and everyone is tellin me to break up with him.. but i dont want to because.. 1. i have a problem with keeping guys.. because after like.. a day i get bored with them and break up with them.. and it was almost been 2 weeks with me and him.. 2. hes a GOOOOD kisser.. :D 3. everytyme i get mad or we get mad at each other.. he'll call me and be like.. i like you so much.. i wish i could see you more.. and all that.. so.. yeah.. i dont kno wht to do.. :/

~~> if it helps... im 14 and a freshman.. and hes 16 and a sophmore

Well hes not doing anything with those girl, so dont break up with him..You said you want to be with him, so be with him. Dont listen to your friends.

Q: Hello!! Hi i normally give out advice but i need some! bad! Well i have a really bad habit and its biting my nails. It sounds normal but the habit's so bad that when i quit smoking it was easier(!). Now when i bite my nails i bit it down so its just a couple millimerers!! (ouchhiee) Also, when half of my nail is gone a chew and pull my skin around my nail, to like the second layer of skin!and it burns when im peeling it like downward but it..iono its painful but its a habit. i dont realy cut as much as i chew my nails! its turning into something way worse! does anyone have ne ideas how i can stop! il rate u a five..:) help me plz!

Put nailpolish on your nails, and when you bite them they'll be really gross so then you wont chew on them.

Q: This girl likes me, and i like her, but she is not sure if she wants to go out with me, but it seems like we are still goin out and all, we kiss and hug and hang out like everyday, she says i dont have to wait for her, but i want to cause i think i like love her and shit

What should i do?

Well ask her if she would EVER want to be with you. If yes, then wait. If no, then you should move on..Hope I helped!!

Q: okay i like this guy and i flirt wit him and he be flirtin wit me back, i really really like him and he knows this cuz my friends told him, so today and like 2 weeks ago..he was like oh do u like matt and i was like idk and he was like do u wanna go wit him and i was like naw and he was like do u wanna go wit me..and i didnt kno if he was jokin around or bein seirous so i didnt wanna feel stupid so i sed no..like not like mean or ne thing just like laughing bout it..so my question is wut should i do bout this i mean i would like to go wit him but i dont kno if he was like seirous..plz help..thanks

Maybe he wanted to go out with you, and that was the way of him asking you. Just talk to him and be like "Remember when I said I didnt wanna go out with you..yea well I lied" and see what he says!

Q: hey i have brite blonde hair and my hair is 4 inches past my shoulders... my homecoming is coming up and i dont know how i should do my hair becuz my mom doesnt want me to go somewhere to get it done... my dress is black and pink and its like 5 inches past my knees kinda flowly.. how should i do my hair and makeup?? Thanks!!! * I rATE! *

How about scrunching your hair (you know with moose!) it'll look so cute since you have long hair. or you could just straighten it. For makeup, a light pink lip gloss, pink blush, black eyeliner, blk mascara, and a light pink eyeshadow...have fun at homecoming

Q: how can i make homecoming extra fun?

Before homecoming, go out to eat with some friends!

Q: My cousin is pregnant (she's married and she's 25 so you don't think she's like young and a whore). Everyone in our family is having a hard time to figure out names for the baby. I'm pretty sure it's going to be a boy, but to be on the safe side, can you give me really cute baby names? Besides Michael, Emily, Lisa, Jaquelene, Joy, Jonathan, Julie, and Jason? Because Joy and Lisa are her sisters, Jason is her brother, Jonathan, Julie, Michael, and Emily are her cousins (Emily is me) and Jaquelene is her daughters name so we don't want to have any kids with the same name in our family. She's not that great at naming. She was gonna name her daughter Fern. I'm sorry if you're name is Fern but honestly, a fern is a plant. A flower is MUCH prettier than Fern. Sorry if that was offencive to anyone on here named Fern!! Thanks so much if you can help me!

Boys*Josh, Tyler, Liam, Justin, Joe, Zack, David, Daniel, Dustin, Matt, Mason, Scott, Skyler, Brian, Anthony, Vince, Seth, Davon, Chris, Kyle, Hassan, Pete, Eric

Girls*Sheridan, Jacklyn, Jackie, Shelley, Brittany, Jordan, Kristin, Sherry(haha), Mercedes, Shauna, Shannon, Jennifer, my minds going blank haha

Hope I helped!

Q: Well I like this guy and he said he liked me. He used to like this other girl too and they still like eachother I think.They claim not to but I know they really do. He invites me everywhere all the time, but I just dont think he likes me. I mean he never is the one 2 iniciate a convo[he's not shy!] or nething but he'll say hey or w/e and he invites me places all the time. What do you think?

Maybe he likes both you and the other girl. If you like him, go for it. Hang out all the time and maybe something will happen. Good luck!

Q: Ok. I like this guy (his name is Felipe) and I think he likes me back but I'm not sure because he comes over every single Sunday (to go to church at night) and we hang out (a lot), do stupid things together (climbing trees then jumping down), and basically have a lot of fun. He jumps on my back to give him piggy back rides (even though he's 18 [turning 19 in November] and I'm 13). But then when we go to church, he completely ignores me (not during church but after the mass ends and everyone talks). What's up with that? Does he like me or not?! Please answer quickly! !~*CoNfUsEd GiRl*~!

Hey, I dont think you should go out with him. Hes 19, your 13...and you both go to church..he may like you but thats not right...just be friends..and maybe during mass his focus is on God, not you?

Q: Hi. This is my first question ^_^
I'm 14 (15 next month) and I just got into high school. Last year and all the school years before it I went to a private seventh-day adventist school. This year I switched over to public school because the private school was getting worse and I wanted to take Japanese and Computer Programming, which it didn't offer.
Well, on the first day of school, I didn't know -anyone- and this girl, let's call her "D", invited me to eat lunch with her and her friend (who we can call "G").
They're very nice, and we've become like best friends. D and G have known each other forever, and are best friends, so I sort of feel like the third wheel. My best friend since I was 5 goes to that school, but she has a different lunch period and since she's a junior we have no classes together.
I'm not really like D and G. As I've gotten to know them, I see they're sort of like the girls who talk about other girls just because they're prettier or smarter than them (without realizing it, unfortunately many females do this unintentionally and ignorantly). I know some people now, and I think I'd want to eat lunch with them more, but I would feel bad leaving D and G alone, since our table is less filled than others.
They always talk about these guys they like and how hot they are, and I don't like the same type of guys. Usually, I won't like a guy before talking to him, I need to know the intellectual side of them first, but D and G know I don't like their type and they constantly talk about their "guys" (they also stalk them, and I don't really want to get a stalker reputation since I don't, I was just talking with D and G).
Should I ditch them, and how so?
Thanks.
-Farren

Meet new people, and tell D & G that your gonna eat lunch with your new friends. They should understand. But maybe you should hang out with d ang g once in a while? Just so they feel you didnt ditch them completly. Because you said yourself, their nice people. Hope I helped!!