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HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hey well im kinda having a problem..well one of my BEST FRIENDS is having a huge problem..shes starting to take pills to make her depression go away and shes starting on mj, booze, etc..and she would NEVER do this stuff..she told me that her dad abuses her and her dad doesnt let her eat until she finishs cleaning the house..and she has 7 brothers and sisters in the house so ITS NEVER CLEAN!!! everyday she comes crying to me..and shes the strongest person i have ever met in my life becuz her past was really bad..she was raped and mollested by her own mother..and her mom is living in arizona and she lives with her dad and his gf here in california. and he says that hes gonna send her back to arizona with her mom..and she says that shes gonna commit suicide becuz she has no point in living..and it sucks. PLEASE..PLEASE help me i really dont kno whut to do and please do not say "talk to her about it" or "tell an adult" becuz it wont work!!!! (ive tried sooo many times..) ugghh if u have any ides plese help me and ill be sure to rate ya.
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OMG!...thats so awful =[ Talk to her dad about it or try to get her to talk to her dad try to convince her not to take drugs and stuff cuz that will ruin her life completely. but you should definately talk to your mom/dad about it and tell them that you need to get her help and stuff im sure they will get some great help if not try it for yourself just dont let her commit suicide
go to the police or anything just get help!
i hope that i could help! =]
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I think that you or your friend should call DSS immediately! Suicide is not a solution. She should talk to a counselor or something about that. But for everything else--she definitely needs to call someone!
-Em
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wait i can help.. but how old is she?
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Wow! Well,first of all constantly remind your friend how strong she is and how much you admire that in her and how much you love her and want her to be around and in your life for a long long time!!What is happening to her is most definitely abuse and neglect!Withholding food and making her take care of the house and all her siblings is abuse and far too much of a demand.She needs to speak with the police or Child Protective Services.She can safely go to them without them telling her dad,until they decide what they're going to do,and what actions they're going to take.If it's really that bad don't feel ashamed to call someone YOURSELF for HER!Yes,she may get angry at first,but you're doing it because you love her!!If you have a nice stable home and your parents are willing to take her in,Child Protective Services may release her into the custody of your parents temporarily,so she'd be living with you.Let her know that no pill or drink is going to stop her hurt inside,and suicide is not ever an answer.Remind her of all the reasons she has to live for!!1-800-418-6423 is a Safe School Hotline,and your name is NEVER asked,if you call them they should be able to connect you with or direct you to the correct people to speak to,such as CPS or the police!I'll keep your friend AND you in my prayers!Please keep me posted,and I hope this helped you in some small way.If you ever need anything more,leave me a note in my inbox and I will be more than happy to do whatever I can!!Stay strong hunnie-not just for you but for her! :)
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First of all witholding food from a child as a punishment is illegal. So is sexual abuse. You can call Child Protective Services and report this and not give your name. That is what I would do. The depression and suicide will go away when she is out from under the abuse. They will never know you are the one that called either and they can go to her school and talk to her so that her father isn't present and she won't feel threatened. That is the first thing that I would do. Get this stuff reported so that she can move on with her ife in a healthy environment and your friend will never have to know that you betrayed her trust. You could even talk to your Mom and have her call if you don't want to but in the State of California every call even if the caller does not identify themselves has to be investigated.
Then just be there for her. Let her talk to you and encourage her to tell someone like a teacher or counselor. If you start doing this now she may have the courage to tell the social worker that comes out to talk with her. Have any of the other kids been abused by their Mom or Dad? If so make sure that you mention all of the kids that have been abused so that the social worker talks to all of them. Then no one will ever know that it was you. One of the siblings could have told someone or called it in themselves.
One way or the other you can't keep quiet about it. You have to tell someone even if you don't give a name. But your friend is in extreme danger one way or the other. Many times telling someone that they are going to kill themselves is a way of reaching out for help and if you keep quiet they don't get the help they are reaching out for. So if you call in and don't give your name then it will not effect your friendship with her because she will never know it was you and then she can get the help she needs and it sounds like she needs to get out of her current living situation.
Let me know how things turn out. And if you need to talk I am here. Many times the person that is being told goes through a lot of stress and anxiety and feelings of hopelessness because they don't know what to do so remember that you aren't alone.
Best of luck... :)
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I learned this in class so this might be helpful. The best thing you can do is listen to her problems, and tell her that you care. Also, try to be with her at all times. Since shes suicidial..Doing little things like walking with her to school or something shows that you care. Also, call her every night and talk for like 10 minutes. And you do need to tell someone. What happens when she kills herself and you regret not telling anyone? Even if you think she was joking around, you never know and you have to take it seriously. I suggest talking to her about getting help and tell her your going to be there right with her! If you convince her to talk to someone, go with her because it will make her feel a whole lot better and comfortable. Being with her, talking to her on the phone, shows that you care. So if she does decide that shes gonna take her life..she might think about you, and think about how much you care..and change her mind. I hope I helped. If you want, you can leave a message in my inbox for more information on how to deal with suicide. Because I have school notes with lots of information. And I just summarized it here. I hope your friend does ok!
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