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ok...my boyfriend and i have been having problems lately...but only i realize it....he told me he stopped smoking weed 2 wks ago...and now i found out hes back on it...and also...we wer suppose to go to see the grudge yesterday and then he told me he had no money n it was bc h e bought weed instead....well so friday i had plans to go to this shoppin area with my 2 friends n he calls me and asks to go somewhere with him....i told him where i was going n that i already had plans n asked if he wanted to come...well he kept making excuses and i havent seen him for a week...so i was like getting kinda mad so finally he was like ok fine ill go and i was like u dont have to if u dont wanna but he ended up coming...well he acted so mean most of the time...he sat with his friends n sat there whispering n laffing while i just sat with my friends....i kept askin if he was mad or something n hed just say no....finally he started acting himself again and i told him to call me that nite when he got home n i was like and don forget this time n he was like ok i wont i promise...and he didnt call...and he didnt call all day today....tomrow hes suppose to come over n wer gonna go trick or treatin together (we still like trick or treating lol) and idk if i shuld call him 2 ask if he is still coming or if i shoudl wait n see if he calls me...idk wat his prob is.....wat shuld i do im reallie upset....

You need to dump him because he can't obviously commit to a relationship and you shouldn't ever date a guy that is on drugs or is an alcoholic! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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i need to get advice on my six year relationship, iam very unhappy as i have just found out my partner is texting a girl he dumped me for two years ago,we split up for 3 months i which time he had another relationship, we got back together as i had two of his kids and was pregnant again he told me abort the baby but i dont belive in it so i kept her, he made all my pregnancy a misery and i found out he was texting and phoneing this oter girl, i was sterllised recently an now for the third time i have found out he has been phoneing and texting this other girl, he keeps telling me he loves me but how can i belive him i cant trust him at all, i have three kids he will want custody if we split up so iam trapped

The kids shouldn't have your partner as a father. You can try to get Couple Therapy, i doubt that would help, though it might... Have you ever thought about putting your children into the orphange(spell?)??? I know you may love the, and your partner may love them too, but your too young to handle it and maybe later in a couple of years you can try to adopt them or just break-up with your partner and let him take one or two of the children... Sorry hun, your in a lot of trouble there... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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know this is long but plz read it!!!!!!!!!!!

hey my name is kayla and i really really need help............ i had a dance earlier and the 4 guyz i like were there 1 was an x (kyle) 1 was a guy that likez me but haz a gf (nick) one iz really really hott and knowz i think he iz (cody) and 1 used to like me but he said this morning he didn't any more yet today at the skool halloween dance i was a slut so i was wairing a very reveiling shirt, my tightest jeans, a black braw w/the straps of my shoulders, and a a black thong w/the straps sticking out......... and we made a big circle so that the judges could chose the best costume but him, his gf, and this other guy that likes me (robert) weren't dressed up so they weren't in the circle then the next thing you know robert comes up to me and says he thinks i should tuck my thong straps in cuz dustin iz saying stuff so i said i didn't care and then when i went over by him to sit down he said that he was glad to know i was wairing a thong and then l8r on when me and my friendz were doing the cha cha slide every time i looked at him her was looking at me........... so well does he still like me or not???????.............. then l8r on nick asked me to dance cuz he likez me and i like him yet he has a gf........... so well wat do i do and y is he still going out w/his gf if he really likes me????????........ but i have to back in time for a minute cuz like right after i got there i saw my friendz and while i was talking to them cody, who has a gf that wasn't there, walked up and broke one of my jelly bracelets and might i add that he broke 1 at skool a couple dayz b4 and then my friend told him i think he iz REALLY REALLY HOTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!.......... so well does he like me too or wat??????..........

thank you SOOOOOOO much 4 reading this i will never 4 get u if u can help






Hey i luv ya all
but i still luv kyle, nick, cody, and dustin more

kayla

Cody probably doesn't like you anymore, but he was just attracted to you from your appearal and he is just trying to mess with you... You should talk to Nick and see if he really likes you... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Hey question, i have a really important date on Friday and my boyfriend is really cute!!!! but that night i have to babysit my next door neighbor and the mom is payin me $50 to babysit!!!
PlEaSe HeLp,
A bit confused

Well, you can't break-up the babysitting plans because it's really hard to find a babysitter on such short notice... why don't you ask your boyfriend to come with you and help??? Yall could have a lot of fun too... and afterwards, you can still have the date that yall planned... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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hey this is one of ur friends....umm i have a ?
cuz my boyfriend is really nice to me but someitmes he gets mad to easily,but what im askin u is that him and my best friend do not get along at all! If i wanna go somewhere wit my best friend by boyfriend wont come with...i try to get them to to get along but the just wont! help!

Well, next time you are going somewhere with one of them, get the toehr to come to and just lie. And once yall meet up try to talk to them, tell them to deal with eachother when you are around because you love them both... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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hey..i know its a little late but..i decided to dress up as cleopatra for halloween but i dont know what all to wear..please help..thanks!

Anything gold... A lot of gold and black, and a little silver... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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My Boyfriend and me just had a little fight , well the head cheerleader heard about it and now she's al over my boyfriend and were not even broken up , well we made up and she still wants him , she like bends down in front of him with her cheerleader clothes on or she trys to sit with us and well she drives me crazy , but the thing is my boyfriend dosnt like her and he's the star Quarterback on the football team, and he tells her to back off , is he the good kind of boyfriend every gurl wants? plz help

Well, that's what MOST girls would want as a boyfriend... He's sounds really nice though... try to tell off the girl too and then maybe she will take a hint... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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ok... our school is one of 2 high schools in the district... and srry if this is long.. but.. the other one had a "silently loud" protest the other day b/c the principle said they couldn't wear white, black, or pink t-shirts anymore... and the guys had to cut their hair... and the no one can wear black makeup....... like eyeshadow, lipstick, etc..... and now they wanna do that to our school... we are havin a protest on monday and everyone.. well.. mostly everyone.. is wearin black... everything black...... is there any other way to get them to realize that we mean buisness.???? thnx much.... i rate.. InsaneSanityBabi

Well, just try to get more people into it... and i mean the WHOLE school! And maybe get the other highschool with yall too! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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ok well i seem to get into major fights with my brother which then leads to my parents! and the fights are usually me ending up really hurt! today was one of them! i got beat in the head by my 18 eyar old brother and my parents said i deserved it. and i had major panic attack because i was hit so hard! so my mom says she cares about me.. but then says she hates me and that i need to go to hell and blah blah blah! and my brother gets away with everything! he was told to leave the truck keys here, and he didnt and didnt get in trouble. and he steals a lot of stuff from me and my parents, and continues to get what he wants! i have told my mom several times what is happening and she does not believe anything i say and does not think i am right! and it always ends up with me hit some way some how! i am only 15. and my brother is on probation, but drinks underage and smokes pot alot. i dont know how to handle this anymore, and if i try to leave i will get the cops called on me by my parents! i am ONLY 15, getting literally emotionally and physically abused by my family! i have called the cops on my family but it seems to do no good, b/c they do not help me! please, if anyone is out there that is a mother or a father or someone that could help me! please.. i need something to help me deal with this situation! =( please, help me

Well, since the cops aren't do anything, go to the Child Protective Services!!! They will for sure do something!!! And maybe take pictures of the pot that your brother is using and all the bruises from the abuse so you have proof!! I don't know if you can get Student Welfare, but try that though too... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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my friend richard is really cute but has a girlfriend well we went to a kickback and he got me drunk aswell as his self well when he was drunk he tried to take advantage of me he didnt get to but he did finger me and stuff lets just say we did 3rd base he doesnt remember what happened and my friend told me he keeps asking me if i remember what should i tell him? should i be mad? should i 4 get it?

Hun, i would try to forget, maybe if talk to him if you HAVE to... Stay as far away from his girlfriend though as much as possible... if she finds out, you will be in deep shit. I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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okay.. my two bestfriends do not like eachother and i dont know why but they cannot be around eachother. When I hang out with one of them the other one gets mad cuz she says I always ditch her. And if I go places with them together the one person will start talking about the other person and the other person will get upset. I've tried talking to them both but they won't be friends!!!! Its starting to really bother me! sry if this is confusing lol..someone help!!!

They shouldn't drag you in to the center of it all because it's their problems! Try to talk to them and see if they can withstand eachother when they are around... Just tell them to deal with it because you don't want to lose a friend in a silly fight! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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I ment this boy named Zach. He was everything I wanted. Pretty face, made me laugh, football player, the dream guy. But then he started being mean towards me and saying things like I dress like a slut and stuff. I told him I didn't like it. So he dumped me and said he didn't like my attitude. He is still mean towards me and criticizes everything I do. I have to resist to not slap him. Any advice?

Yeah i would slap him! I know you want to resist that, but like cussing him out and all doesn't work... And don't even let him dare try to hit you back!!! I hope i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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well.. i'm in 8th grade. i feel way too old to go out trick or treating, but i have nothing else to do!! plus, nobody is going with me. should i just go for my last time, or skip it?? when did everyone else stop??

You should skip it if you aren't going with anyone... I stoped when i was in the 5th grade because where i lived at the time, parents wouldn't give candy to kids in junior high and older and everyone thought it was immature, but where i live now, toting is the most popular thing to do!... You should go to a haunted house, Six Flags, or a horror movie that is out with a bunch of your friends... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Situation: I'm involved in a long distance relationship.. Neither of us can drive right now.. and my parents wont let me date yet. His mom doesnt have her license right now (not sure why) so we dont have rides to see each other. My older sister doesnt approve of me dating him.. so she wont take me to see him.. and i barely know anyone that lives in his town.

Can anyone think of a way we can make this relationship last.. we're deeply in love.. but its hard not being together...

we've asked friends for rides.. and they wont take us.. Could someone please tell me how we can be together.. and it not be so hard on the both of us?

Thanks!

A webcam would be perfect!! That's what my friends are doing right now, they are engaged and one lives here in Texas in college and the other is completing medical school in Cuba... A bus would be good too! Greyhound would probably be the best... Now, long-distance phone calls are expensive unless you have the plan where you only pay so much a month without limited minutes... just AIM and e-mail eachother more often... Sorr, hun that's the best i can do... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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i have this friend(we'll call her carli) and she got relly mad at me bc she thought that her bf liked me. so i went to her bf, and he told me that he did not like me. well, we tried to tell carli, but she just rolled her eyes and walked away. then today, someone told me they saw carli in the backseat of this guys car at the movies, and they were,uh, gettin kinda dirrty, if you get my drift. i think she such a hypocrit bc shes doin stuff with a guy and she was just fuming the other day bc she thought her bf was givin me the eye. but what really bugs me is she told everyone else that me and her bf were "together" and he dumped her for me. everyone believed her, and not me. and they dont even believe this other chick who saw her in the car. they think i made the girl say it to get the attention off me. i want carli to know that her bf doesnt like me, the school to know i wasnt with her bf and that carli was in the backseat of another guys car. revenge is sweet, so make it good.
thanks!!
oOoCarrieoOo
and dont tell me to throw pigs blood on her using my powers..im not that kind of carrie!!

Sorry, but it sounds like it's already too late to try to convince people the true story... she sounds like a slut and an attention whore! You should would just blow her off and start flirting wither her ex infront of her and make her all jealous! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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ok i figure im gonna have to start from the beginning i had a b/f and we went out for a little over 6 months then out of no where he text's me at 4 in the morning sayin he likes sum1 else and he wants to break up and that night hes all over this girl at a school game and i seriously wanted to cry the whole time i went home and cry then he comes on and tells me the real reason that he dumped me was cause i treated him like shit when he always made me cry and i gave up goin to cali to hang out wit him so now the girl he dumped me for dont like (if she ever even did) so now hes actin all depressed and talking to me when he knows i dont wanna talk to him and i like this other guy whos sooo swert to me and is so nice and hung out wit me that night at the game and listen to all the stuff i said about him and yeah no hes trying to ask me to hang out and stuff and the guy i like is starting to act kinda wierd what am i supposed to do i have no intrest in being my ex's friend cause of what he did but i cant help feeling bad for him SUM! HELP ME PLZ!!!!

Okay, just blow off your ex!! He is just being an asshole and just probably wants you as a rebound... I think you should start hanging out more with your sweet friend!! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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Ok well there's this kid that I've liked for awhile. We went out before but broke up..and I've bascially liked him on and off since. The only problem is I only like him when I know I don't have a chance...even when we were going out it felt weird. It seems that when I know he likes me I really have no interest but when I know he doesn't like me I get all depressed and I like him soooo much. Don't get me wrong..I don't just want to get attetion because when he likes me i do still have a little thing for him but I like him so much more when he doesn't like me! I really think I should tell him how I feel this time but I don't know how! Pleaseee help me!

14-f

I say tell him how you feel... Then you and him will decide what will happen next... I hoped i helped you!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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ok Here I go, I really really really like this guy. I met him at a party (i knew him i just didn't know him know him) and my friends kept telling me that he looked like he likes me. (paying attention to me, flirting) So like a week later I began to fall head over heels for him. I don't see him that often at school and when I do we give a little wave. I just don't have the guts to tell him. I want him to know but now I'm very insecure about when I like guys cause I always get heartbroken. Lets just say, I basically fell for the wrong guys. I know I should just move on. But its always going to be there in the pit of my heart. The confusing part is I want him to know and then I don't. Why? Why do I think that way? I'm thinking to myself I'm way out of his league in looks and everything. (you can see my picture on x0x_surfergirl_x0x) Plus he's popular and I DO NOT like getting that whole attention spaz when I'm going out with someone. Sorry for it being sooo long. I'm just really depressed but when I see him my heart flutters. :) What do I do?
xo0x adriana

You sound like your in love with the guy and that can be good and bad... You want him to know because you really like him a lot and want him to ask you out and you don't want to know because your afraid of rejection and just don't want to go through all that again...

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Hey well I met this guy in a chat room and we got to talkin and it turned out that he went to my school , and when I found him in my school he turned out to be the Captian of the Football team and he seamed to like me but I already have a boyfriend...... I love my boyfriend to death but the guy I met lets just say his name is Shawn asked me out and I turned him down , was that the right thing to do???

Yes, you did do the right thing! Maybe you and "Shawn" can still be friends and if it doesn't work out between your boyfriend now, maybe something will happen between you and Shawn... I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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k well i am havin thi huge halloween party tomorrow night and i was wonderin if ne one knew ne good costume ideas (like cute &sexy not like disgustin)
thnx and if it help 13/f

A playboy bunny would be soOo cute!! Or even a catwoman costume, that would be cute too!! I hoped i helped!! :)

xO Chelsea Ox

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