Name is Layne, age is 17, occupation is babysitter. still answering questions on here even after 3 years is awesome, right? no, just proves i don't have a life. so. if you have a question, feel free to ask it on here or you can IM me on my screenname. i can answer most questions about the categories i have listed. i don't know much about sickness or physical health, or stuff to wear when your husband just died but the man who killed him, whom you're having an affair with, is going to be at the funeral. :) have a wonderful day.
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I have a very bad case of aspergers but she is normal and I can't stop thinking about her she is 10 months 10 days 17 hours 37 minutes younger than me. I want to know everything about her and kiss her, marry her, etc... Oh yea she knows about myy dissabiliy. So on to my questions.
a) Is it normal that I can't stop thinking of her.
b) Do I have a chance, she says we are just friends, but we always hang out alone, like every day.
c) Should I kiss her.
D) any other help bout me & her, plz.
I am 13 she is 12, I am a dude, and I livee in Canada. (link)
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i have a sister with aspergers. she has trouble with the opposite sex, as well.
yes, its completely normal that you can't stop thinking about her. thats how crushes work :)
you may have a chance, you may not. i'm not the one to tell you that.
you should not kiss her. you're just friends. even if the urge is strong, you must fight it. maybe next time you two are alone and you both are having a good time, try to hold her hand. if she pulls away, don't say anything more about it. even if she lets you hold her hand, don't lean in for a kiss. that may surprise her.
you both are still very young. this is not love, by any means. its just a crush. you'll meet plenty of other girls in your lifetime, believe me. as i said before, my sister has aspergers. she had a crush on this boy that didn't like her back and it upset her for a while. she eventually got over it. i'm not saying that you and this girl won't be boyfriend and girlfriend, i don't know if you will or not. but if things don't work out, its definitely not the end of the world. trust me.
take care :)
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Alright, this may be very long but I will try to shorten it as much as possible.
My life right now, kind of confusing and very frustrating. I'm going insane! It has to do with a lot of issues.
First and foremost, my ex boyfriend. He took a lot out of me. He was 8 years older than me (im 19) and even though we loved each other it was a bad relationship.
I dont know if any of you know about "The Secret", a film about happiness, but I was a strong advocator and supported of the belief that we all need to be happy. Ever since 10th grade I have been a happy, upbeat, smiling person. Nothing phased me, I gave lots of advice here to others about happiness. Then I met him and my days and nights revolved around him. He made it that way. He was a broken person and I have the kind of personality that I need to help people. So I stayed with him and took so much shit to the point where it was an emotionally abusive relationship to me. Finally, about 4 weeks ago, I ended it. It was much needed and very very hard, and I am recovering. I lost my zest, I lost part of my personality. I started dating him when I was 17 and I never got to experience young love. I was thrown into a mature relationship with no experience. Its so incredibly f***ed up that I did that to myself. And I do take blame for it.
Anyway, now I'm in recovery and I'm trying to bring the old me back, but I'm starting to realize that that person may already be far gone. I will never be the same and now I have to figure out the new person that I have become. Which is confusing. I know what I want in life, and my future, I'm a dreamer, but I don't know why I cant bring my old spark and happiness back. I'm not exactly unhappy. But I'm not happy either.
Then there's another issue. One of my best friends. Our history goes something like this:
Weve been friends since 8th grade, and now were in college and weve gone through a lot. we were literally polar opposites on the surface but intellectually we matched perfect. The thing is, I was always the preppy, kinda girlie one, and she was the dark, gothic one. never really cared about her looks. she even called herself manly. In 8th grade that was our style. Weve both changed a great amount since then. I used to be very shy, now I am very outgoing. I became girlie, I played soccer and enjoyed Spanish music and was very positive and always happy. She changed as well. Her style became girlie, and she did away with all her darkness. But the problem is her changing was influenced by me. which would be fine, except shes adopting not only the style of music and clothes that I liked, but also my personality. It drove me crazy. She saw me do or wear something, and she did the same thing. I couldnt really say anything i mean it seemed very petty but it became more than a superficial thing. She copied my mannerisms and my reactions, all my tastes and dislikes. She becoming me. This was in high school. The only thing she couldn't have that I did was a boyfriend. But imagine not being able to be unique or tell someone you do anything without having someone else say yeah I do that too.
Now we went to college and I distanced myself from her. I wanted her to become her own person. I mean she even chose the same major as me even though it didn't fit her personality at all. It was ridiculous. The first semester in college she wanted a relationship while I was secretly struggling to get rid of mine. She got one now, with a man that is 10 years older than her....The point is now shes becoming her own person because shes spending more time with him, thank god! But i feel guilty for not wanting to share every aspect of my life with her for fear she will try to adopt it. For example, modeling. Its something I have always been into, and kind of doing but not really. I am a tall girl and have every opportunity to model. She is not, but she is very beautiful and decided she wanted to model as well and is now doing it. It really is driving me insane to the point where I don't feel like I exist on my own. I don't feel unique, or like anything. I don't know what to do with myself or my life. I need some serious advice! Thank you so much for reading all of this!
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i have an idea that might sound kind of scary, but it'll all work out in the end, trust me. you said you're in college? i'm guessing you'll be finishing your sophomore year. if i'm wrong, forgive me. anyway, here's my idea:
when you finish this year, move to a completely different state. could be a border state, could be two states away, just somewhere completely new to you. doing this, you'll move somewhere where no one knows you. you'll be able to start all over. and you'll get the chance to come together with who you want to be, emotionally, personally, etc. you can create a brand new you, or keep the "you" that you are, that no one knows.
this is a bit drastic, yes. but you sound like you need change. your best friend is copying everything about you. theres no possible way that you could renew yourself with her being a shadow. you just got over a bad relationship. starting at a new school may be a bit difficult, true, but you'll get through it as long as you're strong enough. and i believe that you'll obtain that strength with getting the hell away from wherever you're at.
its just a suggestion, but think about it. and take care!
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k;; well me nd this guy have been dating 2 months;; we have only made out but talked about him fingering me; he felt me up nd he played with me down there many times he tried getting farther but i stopped him;; we were at the movies nd he felt me up;; the started ggoin down;; i felt a little uncomfortable then he just started fingering me ;; then i felt good i let him keep doing it;; i finallly stopped him; im 13 am i a slut? (link)
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no, you're not. you guys are going at a pretty healthy rate with moving to the next step. but be sure that if you go all the way to use a condom. always be safe :) take care.
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im 15 and i dont know what this means. what does it mean when your last period was brown, and you have been spotting brown unexpectedly through until your next period? my period should come in 10 days because im on the pill. what should i do? is it becauzse my body is changing? is this normal for some girls? could it also be because of stress? because i have been dealing with family issues. plz let me know. (link)
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the brown is just old or dried blood. maybe from a recent period. and spotting brown before a period is the same thing, just blood thats dried. nothing to worry about.
take care
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how do girls realy masterbeat and what does it do (link)
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i would love to answer this question. but if i, or any other member of this website, answer a question like this, we get booted. its not aloud, sorry.
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I am 17 years old, and I have recently been dealing with thoughts that, though I am biologically a female, I wish to be a male. I *love* guys clothing. (It's all I wear.) I walk and talk like a guy, and when people refer to me as "he," I feel amazing! It sounds so right to me. I'd previously identified as a butch lesbian, but I can't help thinking it might be more. I want to grow a beard. I want a guy's body and everything that comes along with it. My whole life I've been different, but I can't be quite sure I've *always* felt this way. Does that make a difference? I've felt like this for a while still. I know it's not a phase. Is it possible I'm transgender? Or just... Seriously devoted to being a crossdressing butch? (link)
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its a possibility. and guess what? in this day and age, theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. i'm sorry, i have no idea what else to say to that but answer your question, which yes, it sounds like you are.
take care :)
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Hey guess , I had sex and at first I was scared to do so. but after I did it I lost the feeling. Now I'm pregnant but I used protection Im 3 weeks and dnt know how to tell a responsible adult someone help me please. (link)
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are you sure you're pregnant? 3 weeks is a little early to know you're already pregnant. women don't get their period but every four weeks. i'd double check just to make sure. wait a couple more weeks and if you still don't get your period, take 3 tests. majority rules.
if you in fact are pregnant, (depending on whether you're in school or not) i'd talk to a guidance counselor or a health teacher. they'll give you the advice you need in order to decide what you want to do with the baby, how to tell your parents, etc. if you don't feel comfortable with that, get ahold of plannedparenthood. they can also counsel you.
i hope you're not pregnant, but if you are, it happens :\ take care, all right? and if you need anything, just message me.
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what do girls use to wash down there? i've been using regular bar soap since forever and i think i should switch, but what do i use instead? (link)
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i just learned the other day you really don't need to use anything but water. using soap and deodorants and stuff can fuck up the ph level and result in a yeast infection or worse.
but if water just doesn't make you feel clean enough, regular barsoap is just fine. just make sure its unscented.
take care
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i have blood in my semen when i jack off but i doesnt hurt and i cant see a doctor
what should i do (link)
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well i'd say you have a problem. There is blood coming out of a place that blood should not be coming out of, and you can’t see a doctor. There’s nothing anyone on here could say to you or any advice that could be given that won’t include “talk to your doctor” so whatever your vendetta is with the doctors, you need to either move on or do whatever you need to do, because I’m not doctor, but I know that blood in the semen is not normal.
Take care, and good luck
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My mom just had a baby and I noticed he had finger nails when he came out. They are pretty sharp and I was curious how it is that he didn't cut her insides up when he was in the womb? I mean I know he isn't going to like kill her with his fingernails but they seem so sharp so surely he caught them on her insides, right? How is it that babies don't cut their mom's internally with their finger nails? (link)
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you know when you're in the shower and your nails get really soft and flimsy? well, its pretty much the same thing. the baby is in the mother's fluids inside the womb and therefore their fingernails are soft. also, with the position that a baby is in (fetal position) inside the mother's womb, the hands are tucked comfortably on the stomach, not touching the walls of the uterus. :)
hope i helped
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I've been wanting to have sex for a long time but I feel like Im holding back because I think I smell down there. I've noticed since I was younger that I kind of smelled but I thought that was natural. Then I heard it isnt? Well I was just wondering if other people could smell you too and if I should worry? How can I get rid of the smell?
I take a shower almost everyday. (link)
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summer's eve came out with a sprayable women's deodorant. you just spray it on your underwear and vagina and that'll keep you from smelling. every girl has some sort of "feminine scent" if you get my drift. its natural to not smell like plain skin, A) you cross your legs all day and have two layers of fabric covering, so you're going to sweat. and sweat, no matter where it comes from, smells and B) this is a very sensitive area that several different fluids come out of. but those natural odors can be masked by the feminine deodorant, which you can find at any store near the feminine products.
take care :)
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Well, i'm in a relationship. And I haven't ever had sex
before. I am kind of nervous because I probably won't
know what to do. What am I suppose to do? I'm nervous. Why? I feel ready but i'm just nervous. (link)
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usually, when you THINK you're ready, you're not. you need to KNOW you're ready. do you love the person you're with? are you willing to give them the only virginity you'll ever have? you don't wanna waste it away. having sex for the first time is not a big race, if you know for a fact that you and said guy are in love and willing to go that extra step, not just for hormones, but to share something, then by all means, go ahead. but BE SAFE and use a condom.
usually, when a girl has sex for the first time, she's not really expected to do anything. the guy is expected to really put forth the effort because the girl may feel some discomfort or pain. this isn't typical, though, maybe 50% of the time. once you get used to the feel, thats when you start experimenting with different positions.
take care :)
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I just started dating this boy and we were talking about sex. We're both virgins but both really horny and interested in doing it some time. The thing is I don't want our relationship to be all about doing it. I want to have something strong and lasting. How long should we wait to have sex then if we do actually end up doing it? When is a good time to have sex? He said I should ask around the question of how long should you date before having sex and I told him I would get some opinions so... (link)
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4-6 months is a good length to wait, especially if you don't wanna ruin something that could be great. a lot of people make the mistake of giving it away too early and in the end it totally ruins the relationship. my boyfriend and i waited about 4 months and we're still together, after 2 years.
and remember to always be safe :) take care
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can you get pregnant from precum even if he just rubs it against the outside of your vagina and doesn't penetrate you? (link)
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if a penis is anywhere near a vagina there's a possibility of being pregnant. and yes, you can even get pregnant from precum. wait a little while before you take a test. and when you do take 3, majority rules.
take care, and always be safe with sex
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im a great student and this year although im trying my best im doing badly. i usually get anywhere from A+s to B+s , but this year my grades for the quarter will be in the B- range, and will bring down my GPA drastically. i go ask for extra help, do my homework, pay attention, but i just can't do it (junior yr high school) . i have so much on my plate and i dont know what to do. will i be screwed for college if this semester i do not do well? will i eventually improve if i keep trying? asdfafasgadsdgfadadfhnfgshtyrj (link)
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during your junior year is when the major pressure starts coming. you need to start looking at colleges, stop screwing around and try to get better grades, study, the ACT, SAT, other tests, look at campuses, its a big mess. this is when i decided not to go to college, i'm now a senior in highschool and i'm still sticking with this decision. i was exactly where you're at and cracked under all the pressure. but just because i'm choosing not to go doesn't mean i condone that choice, i know i'll most likely be screwed for life and i'm ready for things to get worse for me.
you sound like you attempt to manage your time wisely. for hope scholarship, you'll need a 3.0 or higher. as long as you try your best and manage your time wisely, you'll improve. eventually, this will settle into a certain schedule in your brain and you'll become better prepared for tests. its still only the beginning of the year, you have plenty of time to work on your grades. what they say is that in the odd numbered grades, 1,3,5,7,9,11 is that you learn in all of these. in the even numbered grades, its mostly review. so next year, it should be easier for you. also take advantage of the ACT prep class opportunities. colleges love looking at those test scores.
good luck, i'm sure you'll do perfectly fine. B-'s aren't bad at all, trust me.
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What are some things that me and my boyfriend can do to spend time together that doesnt cost money or at least is cheap? ...he lives like 40 min away so he comes over or i go over there and we meet half way. Either that or we go to the mall, movies, bowling, KD, and stuff like that. Anymore ideas? please help! :o) (link)
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what my boyfriend and i like to do is go to a redbox and rent a few cheap movies. we also just drive around aimlessly in his car, talking and stuff. listen to music. stuff like that. just get creative.
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Me = 17/m
Her = 16/f
Dating = 3 yrs
I want to tell my girlfriend the truth about me cheating on her recently. There was this girl I knew all through school and she texted me one day and asked if I wanted to hang out. I feel so guilty because I was attracted to the girl for a long time but never acted on it before. I did meet up with her and lied to my gf about it, telling her I was going to go down the road and look for a job. I met up with the girl and I told her upfront I had a girl already. Things still happened and I KNOW I am to blame for this because I couldn't be a man and control myself right. We didn't have full sex but it was pretty close at one point before I was like "Hey, I can't do this" and all.
How do I come clean with my girl? I don't want to just be like "Hey, I cheated on you" because I really am hoping she'd forgive me and give me another shot at this. What do I say? How do I tell her I cheated? (link)
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the direct approach is the best. just sit her down, make sure you two are fully alone and will be for a while (there could be sparks flying), and just say "baby (unless you guys don't use petnames, then just call her by her name or whatever) i made a mistake, i'm not proud of it, and i'm sooooooo sorry" don't go into detail, trust me she won't wanna know. just come out and say you cheated. if you're lucky, she'll show you grace. just to let you know, the textbook definition of "grace" is getting something good you DO NOT deserve. so if she does, in fact, take you back, just know that she did it out of the goodness of her heart. by NO MEANS whatsoever do you deserve her back, but you seem like a good guy. maybe you guys are strong and will continue to be strong, throughout this entire ordeal. it may take time for some emotional scars to heal, who knows? maybe they won't. but if this is the first time you've fucked up in 3 years, she'll probably be willing to give you a second chance.
good luck
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Hey guys I'm going to a very early acting open call. And I basically have to be funny and energetic. I really hope I get chosen but it will be toooo early for me to be so energetic haha. So I was wondering what drinks or foods give u energy. I heard red bull helps ! But what elese? (link)
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5 hour energy is supposed to be good. starbucks always works for me...white mocha ^.^ but if you'd prefer to have natural energy, fruits and vegetables can do that for you.
OR if you wanna go a more unhealthy approach to it, just stay up all night and drink plenty of coffee with fruits and vegetables. i don't condone this, though.
hope i helped :)
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Absolutely weird to me,
I have never seen this happen before or heard of it happening before. I haven't slept with many guys or anything, I guess I just find this weird. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for 3 months now. Sometimes during sex, he gets soft all the sudden in the middle and we can no longer continue. He doesn't think about anything else, he's enjoying it then all the sudden it goes down. He says he hates his penis because whenever he is about to cum, his penis goes down. There are times that he does finish, but why exactly do those type of moments happen? (link)
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he may have an erectile dysfunction. most doctors can prescribe a medication for that kind of thing, give him pills or something.
also i've found that (if you guys use condoms, which i hope you are) if the condom he's wearing is too small, it can suffocate and cut off the blood circulation in his penis, which can result in a softie.
have him talk to his doctor and see what the problem might be. if it is the condom, then just get a bigger size :) take care
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Ok so do guys prefer girls with big butts. I think it makes girls look weird when they've got huge byte but they are the ones who get all tha guys. I'm asking this because im starting to get a big butt. Should I be worried and try to get it smaller or do guys like that. And ifthey do is it because there's "more to grab" or what. I'd really prefer a guys opinionbut girlopinions are good to. (link)
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i'm a girl, and for some odd reason, yes. most guys prefer girls to have big butts. everyone was kind of iffy about this for a while until sir mixalot came out with "baby got back" and then it just became an epidemic. i have no idea why they do, but they just do. i find that its mostly black guys and wiggers that like huge butts, but i guess they just like the curves. when you have hips, it makes your figure look like an hour glass, which is nice to look at. if she's just a stick, its not as nice, you know? anyways, just be thankful for your curves, don't worry about them. i'm flat on all ends and i'd kill to have some guys staring at me. :) take care
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