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HEYYY :D i'm in college and i'm a psychology major. i've had many experiences with boyfriends, crushes, friends and family. i know quite alot about sex and sex related issues, so feel free to ask me anything about that! i will be completely honest because i would want the same in return.if you drop one in my inbox, please try to be as detailed as possible (like your age & gender) so i can be as helpful as possible :D
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"No matter what, once in your life, someone will hurt you. that someone will take all that you are and rip it into pieces, and they wont even watch where the pieces land.but through the breakdown you will learn something about yourself. you will learn that you are strong. and that no matter how hard they try to destroy you.... you can conquer anyone.." ??? thanks
Hey hun! I tried searching everywhere for that, since I'm a huge fan of quotes myself... It doesn't seem to be from any movie or TV show.. BUT i did find it on a few quote pages. It might have been a quote someone made up and then it got circulated around the internet on quote pages.. (that happens alot) I couldn't even find who exactly said it or made it up :[ I'm sorry! But I'll let you know if i happen to come across any more info.
Okay. I have been off and on with my current boyfriend for almost 2years! Ive done some real stupid bad things during the time we were broken up. I dont know if i did these things cause i was hurt or no. When we broke up the last time he got a girl and it really hurt me bad even though i made the decision to break up. Anyways i started to talk to alot of guys to get him off my mind but it didnt work. During this time i half way had sex wit two guys. .when i say half way i mean it started but i stopped! With one of the guys the condom broke and i got sooo damn scared of being pregnant, std's, everything! So i took this pill called the plan b, its suppose to kill all sperm cells and it did! Thank God i wasnt pregnant! But the real problem is, about a month ago my friend called me and told me that she heard that he had something and i freaked out. I went to get tested before but i never came back for the results! I am now back with my ex(of almost 2years) and we have had sex and oral sex plenty of time before i got the phone call. Nothing feels different too me but im just scared. I called and ask the guy and of course he denied it but i still made a appointment to get checked out! Im sooo scared of having something. Im not scared for myself cause if i had something i would take responsibility and get cured but i just scare of me giving him something and him leaving me! He dont know about this or the guy. Im planing on telling him but not now! What do i do? How do i tell him if i do have something? Am i a whore? ugggh! Please help!
You guys were broken up, so please don't beat yourself about that! He got a new gf at that time anyway! I really think it's actually mature you went through the plan b, and getting checked out, because ALOT of girls don't even do all that. It's so great to heart you're taking all these precautions :] Honestly, if you love this guy and you don't want to lose him, WAIT until you get all the results from whatever test/s you took BUT please refrain from doing any sexual activity! If it turns out you have something, that's when the absolute truth has to come out no matter what, because it's about his health also. If the tests turn out good and you're okay, then I don't think it's necessary for you to tell him... just make sure you don't have sex until the results come in!
be careful! and hun, to be honest, he could have something from whatever girl he was with during the breakup! so it's not only on you... relax! and good luck :]
Here is the deal. I really like my best friend's little sister (She's 21) and Im 24. its been ongoing for about a year and a half now. We've talked off and on, and talked about getting together numerious times, but never happends. It started out fast paced, and before I knew it we were using pet names, etc. It always seems that she gets me interested, appologies for the last time, then hooks up with some other guy. This last time is actually an ex she just split up with over the summer. She knows how I feel, Ive been very honest with her, probably a little too much. She's told me that she thinks about me everyday and how she wishes things would work out, yada yada. I know Im just setting myself up for a dissapointment, but how can I stay friends with someone that I have a strong attraction to? Especially my best friends lil sis. Its hard to be around when she's with some other guy, but I think about her all the time.
I'm sorry, but it sounds like this girl likes to play games a little too much. She KNOWS you like her, so she goes ahead and does whatever she wants and then apologizes because she KNOWS you'll forgive her. She's getting her cake and eating it too, ya know? She likes the fact that you're giving her attention since a) your her brother's friend, which is almost a forbidden sexy thing to her and b) you're older! I know these kinda chicks! lol
Please, try to distance yourself from her. (Unless she really matures up FAST and stops playing games) Being attracted to someone and still being friends with them, is just a recipe for heartbreak day after day. You need some space and time to get over these feelings and maybe find someone else!
whatever happened with buffy and spike? [in buffy the vampire slayer] ? didn't buffy love spike ... but he died? and how did he die ... if he did. I'mjust really confused lol. I know this i weird, hence the category i put this question in, but yeah. no links please.
I'm actually a huge Buffy fan! They did, in fact, love eachother near the end of the Buffy series. I think he did die (for a good cause), but then came back as a ghost or something and was in a few seasons of the Angel series, I'm sure you've seen it or heard of it..? since it was a spin-off of Buffy. They didn't get back together after that though :[ That's what I remember. Hope that helped a little!
me and my boyfriend have been dating for about a year now. and i know i love him. but i guess im bored. im not atracted to him anymore, i think bout other guys all day expect for him. i dont know why i feel this way. i dont know what i want to do and i dont want to do anything drastic before i know what i really want. can anyone helppp
I know how you feel. The relationship has hit a big downer and bump in the road. It's the same old, same old.. same guy, different day. You might have, like you said, just stopped being attracted to him and therefore, might have lost the feelings you once had. Do you guys see eachother everyday? If you do, that could be a reason why. Couples that constantly see eachother have no time to miss eachother and it gets old, quick. Is he romantic at all, and do you go on exciting dates? Maybe you're stuck in the rut of dinner and a movie every single friday night? You could try something new, and go somewhere neither of you have been before..which could ignite the flame again. If you're still unhappy after awhile, it's time to let it go. You need to go after what makes you happy and gives you butterflies!
So I'm a 20 year old girl and I've been dating this guy for about 8 months now. I really love him, he loves me, and there's even talk of marriage. He's really sensitive so I know he'll want something from the heart, or at least something that has had a lot of thought put into it. We've been through a lot the past couple of months and I really want our first Valentines Day to be special. Does anyone have any suggestions on what to get a sensitive, caring guy?
Hmmm. This is a tough one because V-Day is usually geared towards women, and the holiday i mianly for men to show women how much they care and love them. The usual gift for a man from a woman (if any) is a really sweet card, hand made or bought. I know he's caring and sensitive, but the relationship is still semi-new and you don't want to over do it! If you're set on getting a gift or making something, maybe a photo album or even a really sexy gift? If you know what I mean! When your first V-Day together passes, you'll have an idea of what you should do next year.
And i repeat DO NOT want to lose weight haha.
i jus want to lose my small belly that wont go away!!
and my love handles,
I have a treadmille
But the thing is i dont know HOW to lose my stomache and make it flat
can someone tell me how much times to eat a day
what to eat and stuff because i really dont know what to do, i dontwant to lose weight, cuz i dont need to.
Thank youuuu.
Ok, if you are set on NOT losing weight, do not dieT. Continue your usual meals, but of course, no extra snacks and do not eat after 8 or 9pm. Your body starts to "slow down" for the day and your metabolism will not burn the fat! Exercise is the key here. The treadmill will work a little, but you need to do ab routines. Crunches/situps work.. even riding a bike..
Lookup online (google) some websites for ab workouts, because that's what it sounds like you want to work on. =]
Okay i've done everything with my boyfriend and its great. He was my first and so i'm still like kind of innocent to him even tho i've had sex lots. I want to push myself a little and show him that i have a kind of kinky side to me haha i need some ideas nothing that i have to go out and buy lol but even things to say to him to make him go...ohhh lol or some fun things to do Any ideas?
Hmmm.. have you tried different positions? Guys love when a girl is willing to get down and dirty, and be open to new positions.
You could also try having sex in public places..
or in different rooms/areas (kitchen, dining room table, etc.)
I know you said you didnt want to buy anything, but whipped cream might be a hot idea...?
Hey, at the end of saw one, before Jigsaw wakes up
and walks out... Whatever happened to Lawrence?
Like, he sawed off his foot, and crawled away, are
we supposed to presume he's dead or what?
Hey! I've been trying to research this for quite a while myself, since I'm a huge Saw fan. If you go to imdb.com and search for Saw (and the sequels) and go to the FAQ section of each sequel, Dr. Gordon is mentioned ALOT there, because everyone is curious.. the answers there might help a little bit, for now.
I am 19 and a female. I've always weighed the same 115. But, my breasts have gotten smaller and my butt. Is there something wrong? I do not think I should be losing size in these areas considering I have always weighed the same. So is there something wrong with me?
You're not unhealthy. Even though you think you have weighed the same, you probably lost a few founds here and there. It happens as you get older, and since you're 19, you're body is starting to "settle down", which is when you pretty much stop growing. I remember I had a big butt in 10th grade, and then when I hit 12th, I had lost it! And I remember weighing the same, but it happens, trust me. If you start to dramatically lose size in your breasts though, see a gyno.
where can i find nice brown/tan belts?
I would definitely try American Eagle or Aeropostale. You MIGHT have luck in Hollister or Pac Sun too.
Male, mid 20's.
I don't need advice on how to get my ex to be my friend again, I've already asked and researched and everything. I'm ready to be friends again.
I just don't know how to get her to talk to me so I can do all that. I mean, is there like a perfect email/blog comment/phone call that will make her actually take notice enough to let me say what I have to say?
It seriously depends on WHO ended the relationship and HOW it ended. Did you break up with her? She might not want to be friends then, because girls tend to be more emotionally involved and need a clean break to really move on. Trying to be her friend might backfire and cause her to get all confused and upset. Did she break up with you? If that turns out to be the case, I would approach it carefully. She might not want you in her life or she might think you hate her, so casually send her a text/email that says "heyy whats up with you nowadays?" and see how she responds back. If she doesn't respond at all, being friends probably isn't the best idea. Lastly! If it ended badly, chances are she's probably still pissed and it'll take alot more than a nice text/e-mail to be friends with her. Bad, messy break-ups never equal a good friendship, no matter how much time has gone by. Anger and frustration always prevails there.
Me and my boyfriend of almost 3 months had sex on monday, for the first time. I love him so much :) , but then someone told me that if you have sex that soon, then you get bored of each other and you stop talking and just have sex. Is this true? I want to be with him for a long time.
Tell me what you think, thanks.
It all really depends. Don't have sex every time you guys hang out, because the sex will get boring and soon the relationship too. Make sure you guys have good communication, and talk on the phone regularly and have normal conversations in person - like talk about your day, work/school, etc etc. If he starts pressuring about sex, and wants to do it all the time, that's when you should start to worry. Have a talk with him about how you don't want your relationship to only be about sex.. and if he doesn't agree and keeps pushing, lose 'em.
I know this guy in one of my classes. We are both seniors. He's athletic, funny and has a lot of common sense, but not academic smarts. However, while I do have a great sense of humor and am highly intelligent, I lack common sense(sometimes). I want to talk to him and (eventually) give him my phone number so we can start texting, but I can't seem to figure out how to go about that. We are both somewhat shy people. Any advice?
Well, you're in luck, because school is the best oppurtunity to meet a guy, and especially with him being in your class. I would start out with small, little things.. IF you haven't made any conversation with him yet. "Can I borrow a pen/paper?" or sit next to him, would be a good intro to ease in softly. Then you could ask him for help, "I don't get this question, what does it mean?" or "What did you get for this question, I don't know if mine's right." Guys LOVE acting like the hero, it boosts their ego AND you won't come off stupid. When you finally come to level of making conversation, and saying hi to eachother, it'll be more comfortable. When he has his cell phone out, pull yours out and you could say something like "What kind of cell phone is that? It's awesome. I don't really like mine." Then he'll start talking and you can easily ask for his number, like "Oh, actually, hey..let me get your number, since your in my class and all." I hope you get my drift! It'll work out fine :)
Im thinking about getting a pit bull puppy. I was wondering if anyone has a pit bull and what they could tell me about their experiences and what advice they could give. Anything is appreciated!!
Pitbulls aren't "bad" dogs or aggressive if they are raised right. The pitbulls you see on tv and hear about, were most likely raised to fight and were abused, that's why they turn so mean.
Anyway! I know many many people with pitbulls and I now want a pitbull puppy myself. They are wonderful dogs, everyone I know who has them, adores them. They will protect you forever! Just make sure you give it lots of love :) I suggest trying to find a pitbull puppy at a shelter, before anyone has a chance to turn it into a fighter.
so people like take pictures of the website their on or whatever.
like on the computer.
it would be like this:
http://i308.photobucket.com/albums/kk357/laurenx33xrawr/macie.jpg
how would you do this?! i really want to know.
step by step please.
I'm pretty sure that's done using the "Print Screen" button on your keyboard. It should be located on the right side of your keyboard, and it might say Prnt Scrn or something like that. Go to whatever website or page you want to copy, press that key once and go to your Paint program or any program you can paste something in. Then paste it and the whole website/page will come up. Hope that helps!
okay so im 5'3 108 pounds. i know im not fat!! but like i feel like everytime i eat something, im guna get fat. i eat really healthy though most of the time! maybe once a week i will have some ice cream or eat some fried food but thats it! idk whats wrong withme but whenver i eat i feel like, guilty, and i feel like i need to workout asap! even though im at a healthy weight and my body is pretty fit.. idkkk! i think i have like a phobia of becoming fat!?!?????? advice tips?!
I'm about your same physique as well (i'm a couple pounds heavier though! lol) and I know how guilty it is. I loooove ice cream, and especially late at night when those cravings come out.
But seriously, there is NO need to worry! Metabolism at your age is incredibly great. Your body burns fat quickly and easily. It sounds like you barely eat anything "bad" for you? Once or twice a week? That's nothing! lol Give yourself a snack once a day. As long as you continue to try and eat healthy and get SOME physical exercise, you'll be fine! There's nothing wrong with ice-cream/snacks. If you feel like working out though, do it like a few hours after you eat, so you can digest.
ok so I've been wanteing to shave nown there for a long time now but i dont know how i should or if i should. Im a virgin when i have my frist time i dont want to look stupid if i didnt shave or didnt shave right. so how do you do you shave it all or just the sides or how?
well, in society today most teenage girls & young women shave it ALL and i mean all the hair down there. guys have become very picky about this these days! all you really need to do is buy a good shaving cream, a very good razor and sit in the warm bathtub for awhile. (the hair gets softer the longer you sit in warm water) then lather up the whole area (ALOT of shaving cream!) and start shaving. you might have to use a few disposable razors if you need to get rid of alot! afterwards, pat dry and make sure you put some baby powder on the area. after all that, you should be fine =)
Okay, there is this girl at school named Julia. I always hang out with her and everyone always asks us " Do you go out" "Is that your girlfriend" all the time! We always say no were just good friends.
Well, she wants to be more than friends, and I dont.
I told her that I was seening another girl (Amanda), which I'm not, she just likes me and I like her.
Well I want to see how my relationship goes with Amanda, before I ask Julia out. But the only reason I would ever ask Julia out is because I wouldnt want to hurt her feelings.
But some idiotic, stupid girl told Julia that she will have to wait until I admit that I like Julia, and that she will have to wait until I hit second base. Thats so stupid, because she doesnt even know that I truly like her.
Also, there is this girl named Tamra who I like. She is as tall as me and that is really odd, because I am the tallest person in my grade.
Who should I go out with,because if anyone out there can help, please, Im just cluless, and I have alot more drama going on in my life! Who should I go out with?
PS. Please dont say tell Julia that I dont like her, because if you were in my shoes, there is a slim to none chance that you or I will have the guts to do that.
Okay! You don't have to tell Julia you don't like her, but PLEASE don't lead her on. Try to cut down on your time spent with her and don't flirt. Go out with who you really like, that's the only answer. Figure out who would most want to be with. Also, don't go out with someone just to have a girlfriend! If you're still clueless, stay single, it's fun! =)
are college courses hard? are they anything like the ap classes in high school?
It depends on what college you go to. I went to community than to a university. Community college is exactly like highschool, and it's more like a transition from the whole high school scene to the huge university. The classes there are easy and fun. If you pick a big college/university, the classes will be hard. Yes, sort of like AP classes, but longer, and few more essays and tests thrown in.