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Q: i REALLY want to shop at a&f and hollister and stores like that. it's not because everyone else does, it's because personally i like there clothes. my parents make me shop at wal mart and it's messing up my social life. i hate wal mart's clothes and shit and my friends ask me why i don't wear the good brands. and it's not like my family can't afford good clothes, because my dad's a multi millionaire. they just don't understand WHY i want to spend so much on clothes. i've made up my mind and don't tell me it doesn't matter what i wear because i'll give you a 1. i need to prove to my parents that shopping at the expensive stores is worth it. and i can't make any money on my own because if i do, my parents say I CANT spend it on a&f and hollister clothes. it's messing up my social life. i wont have friends ever again because i cant wear nice clothes. im done with wal mart so what can i say to my parents so they'll let me shop where i want ?!? i'm old enough to choose where i want to purchase my clothes, especially when my dad was over 1 million dollars.

anything good will get you a 5
i promise

Im guessin u like to flaunt you're rich haha me 2. We basically have something in common (just kidding).

Anyway yeah back to the question. I think you should ask for an allowance...like say $100 a week and save how much you can to buy the clothes...I mean it doesn't make sense begging and begging and they're not giving in and then you get in truble...it's not worth it trust me.

secondly you can at least slowly ask to shop somewhere else if not a&f or hollister...at least forever 21 or something just ask not to go walmart again.

And hopefully you'll get ur allowance and stuff. Hope i helped

Q: I have the urge to write a story for some reason, but I can't think of anything people would want to read. I'm thinking of like a chapter book, something I can make a summer project out of. But the problem is, I always have problems figuring out what to write about! I want it to be from the point of a teenage girl, something I can relate to being, and then have an interesting plotline that follows. Something about going through a hard time. It could have to do with relationships, but also something beyond that too. Set in the present time. So tell me, what would you guys like to read??

BTW, I am good at descriptive writing.

I will rate high and thanks so much in advance!

there aren't relly any fantasy books like harry potter which wuld be a gud book to read..
I personally love too write books and my fav is high school drama..it's like every girl goes through it.

Q: yesterday i ate......
half an egg
half a piece of toast
1 strip of bakery pizza
a small handful of ships
3 Sandy Cookies (thats what there called)
a homemade hamburger in a roll
corn on the cob
1 milky way
1 apple
3 regular rits crackers

that's what i ate in a day. about how many calories is that and is that too much too little or just right? anything i need to change or improve or cut down? thanks. i'll rate if you answer everything.

Well I'm not sure how much calories but it seems pretty alright except the milky way. maybe you should eat a whole egg and whole slice of toast

Q: Okay, to make a long story short, me and my friend got into a fight with our other friend because we confronted her about blowing us off and shit because she got a new boyfriend. The whole thing was blown way out of proportion. Anyway, she forgave my friend, but not me, because I was meaner (apparently). The girl told me, "Your basically dead to me." She also told me she could never forgive me and that she didn't care what I said or did. This girl was one of my best friends. It's really hard to loose a friend, and never even get a second chance. How do I get over it? (It's definately going to be hard because we have the same group of friends.)

I have also tried having a civil conversation with her as well. She gives me a one word answer, and acts as I'm not worth her words. I'm tired of feeling like shit over this..PLEASE HELP.

Ok all I have to say now..is just let her know your feelings and that's your friendship means alot to u..it shuld work

Q: Ok so when I go underwater it always hurts my nose, anything tips you can give to help me? I am not trying to wear those geeky goggles or plug my nose everytime I submerge! I cannot blow out of my nose underwater just incase your were wondering! so if so anytips? is there a feeling I should get to know im readyy and my nose isnt gonna hurt?

do u mean water goes in your nose? Well then you can try not to push offf wid ur nose in the water of dive in.

if not the alternative is goggles...srri

Q: 14/f. I have ants in my room, and I already vacuumed as many as I can, but they keep coming back.& We don't have raid because it gives my mom a miagrane. Anything non-chemial that I can use to keep them away?

Well where i live there's this bugmat thing that use electricity and sends scents in the room to kill them.

But on tv I saw it had this bug zapper thing it like sends out the scent jus like bugmat. Try your local store.

You could also probably spray it when your family is out.

Q: i recently learned i am pregnant. so far, im thinkin its prolly a month and a half along. im 16, and there is NOOOOOOO way in the world i can have this baby. theres no way in the world i can tell anyone my boyfriend of over a year got me pregnant. my family's real good friends with his, and things just wouldnt be pretty. also, both our families are real religious and would drown us in all the 'sex before marriage is a sin' stuff. well, fact of the matter is, since we havent told anyone about it yet- i havent gone to a doctor. i know youre supposed to get prenatal care the second you find out youre pregnant- but i cant bring myself to tell anyone, and truthfully- i really dont want to have this baby. i will NOT have an abortion, but i think i might be having a miscarriage, or about to be having one. i have all of the symptoms. i guess my questions are;
1. how do i tell people?
2. how do i know for sure if im having a miscarriage?
and 3. am i a horrible person?

Firstly u are not a horrible person..it can happen to the best of us. Secondly you should tlk to a doctor before assuming you're having a miscarriage and ask questions to the doctor. And thirdly at least tell an aunt or a sister yu can't handle all that stress...and if not tell you mum but let her understand you're very soorry and scared.

Q: i'm fifteen yrs old. i'll be sixteen in 3 months. which isn't very far away. in november i met a guy and i really liked him. we talked for a whole day and then he asked me out. I said yes and i fell wayy hard. we had a relationship like no other. we deffently fell in love. he was 17. his birthday is in like two weeks. when we broke up i made an agreement with myself to get him back because i really did love him.. we were apart for a month and he dated people and so did i but we always found ourselves making out and holding hands every chance we got and talking on the phone everynight and still saying i love you. then he went out with my best friend and this completely killed me. one week later they broke up because she cheated on him and then he asked me back out. i didn't even hisitate to say yes. i had the love of my life back. this time we've been together for 4 months. it's been nothing short of amazing. we've seriously been through everything and we have an undying love for each other. last week my mom told me that she didn't want us dating any more being she thinks he's too old and she thinks he s a loser because he droped outa school. ive tried talking to her about this before and it worked. but she said this time her mind is final. this guy is really my everything but his friends don't like me. they think i cheat on him and stuff and are constinaly telling him he can do better. well we've been trying so hard to stay together and now he's ready to just give up. i think he got this idea from his friends but even tough we broke up last night.. nothing's changed.. i think he's coming over tomorrow to talk to me about it and i even wrote him a long email... if i dont get him back i swear i'll die. any advice for me...

i'm not goin gto move on so don't bother telling me that...

any questions about anything just ask.

Well it seems ya'll really love each other alot. Even though his friends tells him this if he loves you enough to trust u he shouldn't break up with you for that. Let him understand what you went through to be with him when he sees or talks to you next.

Ask him his reasons for breaking up with you and pay special attention to them. If he does say the break up is final ask for one other chance.

I hope all works well for you

Q: Hi. I'm Kaylee and I'm just turned 18.

My problem is my Mom, Emmy, who posts my pictures all over the internet. Mom cybers with men from all over the world. Its sort of her hobby and she meets some of them too. But she has started posting pictures of me and my sister and they have fallen into the wrong hands. People are seeing me in my new black dress and making comments.

If I tell Mom not to post my pics she tells me to mind my own business because these people are her friends. But I dont like them.

What would YOU do to stop Mom posting your pics in your new black dress. If you had one. A dress, not a Mom?

Well firstly maybe you should tell her you doon't want a picture taken...that way she kinda can't send them.
And 2ndly tell an adult u trust that won't tell her. Explain to them and ask for advice. You need someone that knows why she's doing this.
And I think you should tell her that you really don't like her doing this to you and ask her to kindly stop it because it's ruining your life.

I know I proobably didn't help much but I'm srry aboout ur situation

Q: is chlorine good for your skin? when i go in a pool for a while, get out, and take a shower, the next day my skin is soft. is chlorine bad for your hair too?

I don't think it has anything wit skin but it's horrid for your hair.

Q: I am 16 /F. Last week i visited my girl friend, she told me they are naturalists and celebrate all week ends as a naturalists and they wear nothing at home. So I went their to see and I was astonished to see all of them nude (Dad, mom, my friend, her 12 year old sis and 19 year old bro). Is this kind of thing allowed? Isnt it a kind of incest?

Nope this isn't a type of incest..believe it or not that's how they live.

Q: When you shave are you supposed to shave the upper part of your leg too? I never have because the hairs are so light you can notice...but are you supposed to?

You don't have to...plus I don't recomend it. Sometimes they get relly relly bad razzor bumps so u shuldnt

Q: if anybody here is really good with computers... i need your help ASAP! im writing this from my other computer... but my laptop... i don't know what is wrong with it. it wont turn on!!!! i tried plugging it in... and nothing. i took out the battery and nothing. i might be able to fix anything that's wrong with it if i could atleast turn it on... somebody pleasee help me. i could take it into school on tuesday because its a laptop school and we have like a clinic, but maybe i could fix it myself.... if anyone is really good with computers... please please help me!!!!! -thank you xoxo

Yeah maybe you should carry it to the school cause if u can't get it on no way you can fix it....sorrry. my laptop is a b*t** too...i hate it!

Q: how many bytes and in a MB?

ill rate

a million

Q: I had my last cycle April 28 through around May 3. I've got something important going on May 30 that I can't miss, but will have to if I'm on my peroid. Am I correct in thinking that there's a 100% chance I'll miss it?

Well it's kinda based on if you get your period every 28-30 day cycle or before or after. Ther might be a chance.. u might miss it...but be in for any unexpected surprises

Q: My mom's college reunion is coming up and I can't make it. This really nice, funny, and may i mention CUTE boy is gunna be there that I have known since i was a tiny baby. I have quite a large crush on him, but we see eachother like 2-3 times a year. I can't go to the reunion because of a really busy schedule. I really want to maintain the friendship with this boy but how can I get my mom motivated to invite his family over when she HATES having people over? They live like an hour and a half to two hours away. My mom thinks its too far for them to drive.

If your mum is comfy with you and boys tell her the main reason you want them to come. And well otherwise just ask her to have a little party after the reunion...it's a pretty gud excuse to me

Q: how do u get rid of underarm odor with using the deodorant?

Wash your underarms with a powerful soap eg-irish spring. And make sure you shave em...the dirt and water gets caught in the hairs...makes it smell

Q: 13/f
Lately I've been getting lots of white heads.
Like every morning a have another one, its stupid and annoying. I wash my face daily. What can I use to get rid of white heads and keep them away?

p.s; please don't say proactiv or clean & clear

I rate high. Thanks in advance.

yeah you said no clean and clear but maybe you didn't use the correct oones. I has pimples on my forehead...and every morning had a new pimple and whitehead.

Using the daily wash once...is certainly not enough. In the morning you need to clean the night's oil and the evening the day's one.

I duno if it will work for you but I use clean and clear the daily wash(sensitive skin), the astrigent and the moisturizer...it's pretty gud.

However I've also used loreal paris pure zone and it's good too. I kinda stopped using it because the micro beads where a little too small and so I switched..however it should work just fine on whiteheads.

Q: I love green day... love them. i think about them but one little thing like trigger words like...love...rock...green day...green.... hot...sexy..boyfriend....holiday... these and more are tirgger words.. even things that have nothing to do with gereen day are triggering me to think about them... billie joe is so cute.. and i can't help myself about this problem.

I don't think it's obessed but I guess if u think it is it might be. Maybe you should like think of something else when they come to mind. Try to calm urself on different non related topics and hey...listen to diff musicians

Q: The chair I use at my computer is actually a large recliner. It sits pretty low compared to where my monitor is. After long bouts of using the computer (and since I play WoW, that happens a lot), my neck tends to hurt. I know this is due to my chair. Do I need a harder, taller chair that forces me to sit up? I've moved this chair and sat in it every which way, but to no avail. Any recommendations for a good, not-make-my-neck-hurt chair?