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So you know how everyone says sex usually sucks for the girl since it hurts her but feels good for the boy? How do you know when to stop? Does the girl orgasm or just the boy? Do you stop when the boy orgasms?

I disagree with one of the answers i read. The girl isnt guarenteed to orgasm if the guy doesnt last long enough or if there isnt enough foreplay. some women need foreplay to orgasm. The first time doesnt necessarily suck for the girl. Yes, it is usually painful, and for some girls it probably isnt enjoyable at all..but to get on a personal level mine was nice even though there was some pain. And when the boy orgasms, or ejaculates, you stop because after that, the penis loses its erection. Some guys will be able to get it back up pretty soon and continue, and others dont do second rounds. It all depends on the guy.

me and my friend brandi are bored on a saturday afternoon. i want to take pictures for my myspace but idk what angles where to take them or anything. i dont have any good ideas. can someone help me ?

mirror shots, upside down, have the camera way over your head, dont look directly at the camera, etc.

I am depressed. I cant a get boyfriend worth jack skippy. Ima tell u about myself. I am 5'2. 245lbs. Im black but light skin like Chris Brown or Alicia Keys and shoulder length hair thats a dark brown. i have regular brown eyes and a nice big smile. I dress in hoodies and jeans a lot. I dont like showing a lot of skin because im fat. Dont wanna look nasty and trashy. I dont wear make up. I was born with a disease that make me hairy so I got thick eyebrows and sideburns and i got a light musache and i grow a few strains of hair on my chin. i use to go get my chin and eyebrows professionally waxed but the woman were talkin about me.

i am short and heavy just like you are. i remember feeling lonely and wanting a boyfriend, but dont feel down about it. you will find a great guy who loves you for who you are. i have been with my bf for almost 2 years. for now, just hang out with friends, get to know new people, and someday you will find a great guy. for now , enjoy being single and spending lots of time with friends. i see you edited your question asking for ways to upgrade yourself. remember, do this for YOU , not to get some guy. i have really pretty friends, and sometimes you can tell the only reason why they are interested is because of their beauty which is no good.
excersizing and eating right is an option..i should probably follow this piece of advice myself, if it will help with your confidence, maybe go back to getting your hair waxed. dont listen to what people say, who cares?

:) dont get down about being single, i beleive there is someone out there for everyone. you will meet the right guy.

Ok i like this guy- dan. He is dating meghan but i don't think he likes her that much. He flirts with me alot and like is always like bumping into me "on accident". What do I do? He knows i like him.

Even though he seems to like you, i would back off because no girl would want to see another girl move in on her man and break them apart. it is a frustrating thing to watch happen, and its not respectful to the girl. do the right thing and not flirt with him..let him know hes not single so its not right to act like this. if you are going to take action on him, wait for him to be single.

(Me m/14) (Jake m/14) (stephanie my ex f/15)

Ok me and my ex have been broken up for about a month and a week. Her bestfreind who is a guy told me, that I need to prove things to her. Before this i told her i would lay off but i need her! How can i show her I "love" her? And me and my best freind jake are in a big fight and me and him have been freind since grade 5 and him and her have been texting and went to lunch togethere with my othere frein cody. Jake is making a big fucking deal over nothin! and wont even let me talk to him! And i think jake likes her, but how can i prove to her that i love her? cause i know that is what its going to take!

think of cute ways to get her attention. maybe putting cards or notes in her locker, giving her a cute teddy bear or chocolates, etc. the number one thing to do is to not move on to some other girl. you have to show you really love her and want to be with her and only her.remind her about the good times you had with her, maybe show her pictures, etc.

if you and your boyfriend is going out for 3 weeks and you guys were arguing a lot and he breaks up with you even though he still likes you and he wants you back after 5 days of break up would you still get back with him?

i would give it a try, but the fighting would have to stop because 3 weeks with constan fighting is pretty early. give it one more shot, explain the fighting needs to stop, and try to enjoy your time together and avoid fights by working things out calmly.

this school year, i've been moving from one clique to another cause i didn't fit in. until finally, i think my friends now are the ones.:) i love that they've accepted me and all but i can't help but get insecure because they're all pretty and fit. i know i shouldn't feel this way cuz there's more than just physical appearance but i can't help but feel it. especially when we go out and they could wear dresses or shorts with it looking good on them. please help meee.:(

13/f

i totally understand this because my friends are extreeemely beautiful and i am pretty overweigght : / so i know the feeling, but they are your friends! they enjoy your company, they think you are a good friend, etc. i know it feels crappy to see them look so pretty when you go out, but i am like the funny person in the group and we are all so close and they have been there for me, thats all that matters. everyone has their insecurities, but dont let it get to you. your friends like your comapny, and your friendship, looks arent an issue..dont let it interfere with friends!

15/f

my bf is completely taking me for granted. he never calls/txts me and when we talk online he is playing his stupid computer game and not paying attention to me.

but the weird thing is- he acts like he's all happy to be with me when we're on dates!!!

please tell me what's up with him... :( i'm so upset.

He might just value his personal space. He could genuinely be very happy with you, but likes time to himself too. I see my boyfriend a lott, and i love him. but sometimes like if he has work i feel releived that i can unwind, do some work, watch some tv or just take a drive or hang out with friends. its normal. if you are always paying for the dates, etc. then he might be using you, but he seems really happy spending time with you, so that is what counts, that he cares about you. you can bring it up if you want some reasurance, and he might tell you exactly what i suggested, he likes to just hang out and be by himself sometimes.

idk how i should show him that i love because im still a virgin but its like i want to lose it to him. but i just dont kno how i should. i asked him what he wanted for christmas and he said nothing just for me to be with him and in his arms all day and i want to give him more than that but i just dont kno what should i lose it to him? because i love him so much and i want to be with him for a as long as i can and i just dont kno what to do please help me!! asap

So many girls make the mistake of losing it to a guy in hopes it will make him stay with her longer. Dont make the mistake of losing your virginity and wastign it. You will KNOW when you are ready, like everyone else said you wont need to ask for advice. When i was ready, it hit me. I knew, there was no doubts, i was completely ready and my bf and i have been together for 2 years pretty much. Your bf doesnt seem like he is pressuring you which is a great sign. For Christmas just do something cute like snuggle up and watch movies together, maybe make him a nice meal, bake cookies, give him a cute card or something and just enjoy spending time together. Sex should wait until you are ready and know for sure. :)

sorry this is a little long.

ok well i am turnign 19 in like 1 week and i have no breasts...like there is a tiny bump and thats it. i am, just wondering are they going to continue to grow because i am 19 with no breasts and it really blows away all my self esteem and it makes me not want to get close to a guy because i have none. i wear these fake things because i am so self concious....like what 19 year old has no breasts....i dont even want big ones...atleat an A cup would be nice though. It especially makes me not want to have sex because i wouldnt want any guy to see me naked. I am also a late bloomer though because i only started growing hair under my arms at 17 and i only got my period for the first time when i was 15 and i had a thyroid problem...so maybe that has something to do with it. But this no boobs thing is seriosuly starting to kill me! so my question is will they continue to grow?? i dont care if i have small boobs i just want some boobs....thanks.

i have friends who were late bloomers, and they wound up developing their female parts. Everyone has something they are self conscious about. You are uncomofortable with your breats, other girls are concerned about their body, etc. Usually girls with very small breasts are usually pretty skinny, so you wouldnt feel selfconscious about your body like someone like me would. My point is, i have a loving boyfriend and therefore im not afraid of him seeing me. When you meet a great guy, he wont care about your breasts and you will feel comfortable with him.
In the mean time you can ask these questions to your doctor, the thyroid issue could have something to do with it. Your docotr might have a suggestion to help you, but dont get so down on yoourself because almost everyone has something about themselves they feel uncomfortable about. The right guy you meet wont care, he will love you for who you are..its true :)

i really want to have sex but imnervous about it because liek how does it happen ont he first time??? and dont say if ur too young u shouldnt do it because i am 19 years old its not like i'm 14....and i am too shy to ask my friends how it is like...plz help:S

i agree with you that you are old enough, but i dot beleive you should wait for someone who wont use you. lose it to someoen who loves you and who you love back, it will make it so much more special, you will feel much more relaxed, and you wont feel used or have the feeling like you wasted your virginity. so many girls of all ages write that they feel they got used or wasted their virginities, dont let that happen to you because it is probably a pretty bad feeling.

so back to your question. you ask how does it happen on your first time? well its diffeent for everyone. on a personal level, i waited until i felt completely ready after dating my current bf. I remember just feeling totally ready and comofortable about losing it, so the next day it kind of just happened and i persued it lol :)
yes, it will hurt the first time, but the level of pain varies woman to woman. good luck, and just keep in mind to not waste your virginity because once its gone, you dont get it back

So, i broke up with jay a while ago...and he got really upset about it. the night before i dumped him, we got into an argument because he was ignoring me, and thats not cool. so eventually the conflict ended, but he was still texting me because he "wanted" to. but i was still really pissed off. he asked why, and i said "why do you care?" and he sends me a text saying "oh, come on dont be like that" and i said "like what?" and he says "im not even gonna say it." and i said "like a jerk?" and he says "maybe" and i dont remember what i say, but he sends me a text saying that he was kidding and i send one back saying "no your not" and he quit texting me after that. now, i know that that was completely my fault. i get really irate sometimes, and i probably would have strangled him if he was in front of me. but then the next day i send him a text saying "i think we should take a break until we know eachother a little better"...i know that isnt the best way to end a relationship, but i had no other choice. he was in school. (im homeschooled, hes not) anyways, he replies saying "yea" but i could tell he didnt agree. so hes been ignoring me since and he wont talk to me for more than 2 minutes. and then i yelled at him the other day because one of my really good guy-friends who goes to jay's school told me that jay had called me a "dirty whore" and so i confront him about it, and he denies it. and then he gets mad at me AGAIN. and so now im totally lost. i would ask my best friend for help, but i dont have one anymore. what should i do??

You're right, he probably didnt want to break up so that is why he might have called you that name. You shouldnt go back to him if you arent ready, if you really feel you want to be apart from him, stay broken up and try to mend things so you two get along better. It wont be easy, it will be awkward at first, but hopefully it will get better.

well im about 15 now and my friends all they talk about is their mushroom tip. I honestly dont know what a mushroom tip is or what it does. so i went home and google searched a mushroom tip and i guess it is the tip of your penis? yeah thats kinda weird cause i guess i dont have one. All that is there is just skin and theres no development of a "mushroom tip" if you want to call it that. So i asked my mom why dont i have a mushroom tip she said cause im uncircumsized and i guess that means i have foreskin. Please help me figure out whats going on, oh yeah i showed my friend the whole deal and he said i had a chode, Whats a chode?

Being uncircumsized does not mean you are weird or abnormal. It is common for babies to get circumsized at birth, but it isnt a big deal if you arent.
as for your last question, a chode is a name for a short, thick penis

I have a friend who's girlfriend seems to like me more than she likes my friend. I'm two years older than her and I already have a girlfriend. What should I do? It would be rude to date her, yet I don't want to tell my friend? Sweet really…

Please help,

Germany

ooh , this is a dangerous situation. I dont think you should date her. It would ruin the friendship you have with your friend. You already have a girlfriend who I'm assuming you are happy with? I know you are probably flattered she seems to like you, and I would be happy if a guy liked me like that too,but dont get caught in a terrible mess, your current relationship and friendship with your friend isnt worth ruining. This is just my opinion though

-melissa

how do i tell my friend of 10 years that i like her in the least weirdest way ?

hm, this is a tough question. you have a number of ways to tell her..it might be through a letter, a phone call, or in person. telling her in person is probably your best bet because you can read her body language, etc. tell her when its just the two of you and explain that you have feelings for her. It isnt an easy situation to explain to her, so no matter how you approach it you will feel weird and anxious about her response. If the though of her response really scares you, a letter or IM conversation might be better so if she tells you she doesnt feel the same way, it wont be in person. good luck with everything and explain it in your own words.

I tend to get really shy and dont know what to say to people Im just meeting. Like with my friends im comfortable with with them so i can say anythign and im fine with that. But like i dont know how to keep a conversation going while meeting knew people because i freeze and Dont know what to say at all. :/ what should I do?

maybe meeting new people along with your friends will help you feel more comfortable. if you are talking to someone new along with a couple of friends , you might find it easier to talk, laugh, and be yourself in general. after the ice is broken, you will be more comfortable talking to them one on one. i know if i am out with my friends i feel totally comfortable going up to anyone with my friends and make convo. :)

F/15

So I use to work at a mcdonalds but I had to quit because I didn't have transportation to get there on time and to get back home but I ended up making myself look really bad when I decided not to show to work on a busy day and also by quitting the next day . I really am starting to regret quitting especially because there's a bus and train to get there and because I really need the money right now....so I guess my question how can I get my job back ? How can I talk to my manager and convince her enough to let me come back after making her look bad by stoodn her up on a busy day and leaving the next day? Please I'm willing to do anything to work again.

i had a friend who didnt show up to work a couple times and the manager was about to fire him. he talked to her and explained he was having personal problems, and the manager gave him another chance. if you talk to your manager and explain you want to make things better, he might give you another chance. you have to make a big effort to not call out or be late and show that you are really committed. good luck, and i hope your manager understands!

I love my boyfriend so much, and he knows im a virgin and i want to lose it to him because i just know that hes the guy i want to give it too. and i also want to give him head but when i give it to him i want him to know that i love him while im doing it and i just dont know how to show him though because i really do love him so much and i want to give it to him but i just dont kno how...so please help tell how?

hm, i dont really think there is a way to show you love him during the act because giving head isnt the time to say "i love you" because you will be giving head, you know what i mean? a suggestion i have is to maybe set the mood to show you love him. maybe romantic candles, a massage before you give him head, etc.

me adn my bf have been off and on for a year in a half. i love him and go crazy when im with him. he just has a way... what im worried about is if he cares about me... how do i know how he feels without making him feel that i'm pressuring him for info ya know

well, you can think back to how he has responded to certain things. if you are hurt or sick has he taken care of you?
to be honest, if you are feeling this way i would confront him so you can talk it out. maybe he has been stressed or not even realizing he has been making you doubt his feelings for you.
you two have been together for a long time, so you should be able to talk with him

Hello there,

I have a really violent brother who often for no reason throws things at me and is really quite horrible to me. I do get on really well with him, its just that sometimes he flicks and becomes some violent monster. What should I do? Is there any way that I can help him to overcome this violent side of him? Most of the time he is just fine.

Please help,

Germany

talk to your parents abotu this. he might have anger problems. the person who said he might have multiple personality disorder, i dont really agree with that because there isnt enough information. it could be anything, depression, Bi-polar, etc but we dont havee enough info. Ask your parents to keep an eye on him and punish him if he acts out like this again, and if it is bad, have him go to a psychologist.

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