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Q: okay. so, i'm studying in an exclusive girls school and i've recently crushed on a girl. i know its wrong, but it just happened. anyways, i need tips on how NOT to keep it obvious. i'm good at that, but the thing is, today i suddenly blurt out something that MADE IT obvious. so any advice?

oh, and besides that, i MIGHT admit it to her... so, any suggestions on time, day (like the last day of school or something), place and how i'm gonna say it? please help :)

thanks in advanced!

I completely understand. I am bi, and my parents don't know.
If you don't want to make it obvious, you can take two routes. Be VERY flirtatious, and people would think you were metro. Or you can simply try to become bff's with this girl. Then when you're close, you can sort things out.
If you're going to admit to her, do it WHEN YOU CAN SEE HER, and do it alone, or with a close friend who sympathizes. Going somewhere somewhat private is a good idea, because broadcasting it is probabaly not sensible. I don't know if you're open about this with anyone, but it would be good to talk to someone else, a real person who understands the situation and get advice. I really don't know what else to tell you, because I don't know the situation. If you'd like to e-mail me with details, I can help you more.
LYL
Rose

Q: goes any1 no of some good cover up??

My FAVORITE is clean&clear advantage. its a liquid in a stick, and it also has acne meds, and it doesn't clog pores. They're like 5 bucks at walmart, and they last forever.
Lots of Love
Rose

Q: if you wear your hair in a ponytail but you move the position of your ponytail every day or every other day will your hair grow?

a ponytail doesn't affect growing, but if its really tight it can pull hair out. If you're gonna wear all ponys, loosen it a little. don't keep it bound tight.
LYL
Rose

Q: ok what's the difference between being on your period and ovulating? because i heard that if people do it while they are "ovulating" then it will be more of a chance to get pregnant. but if it's the same as a period.. won't blood get everywhere? basically, what is ovulating?

ovulating is the time BEFORE your period. Like especially the day before.
its when the eggs are stuck to the walls, before the period itself flushes them out.
So what it's saying is you are more likely to get pregnant when the eggs are actually ready. LOL
Love
Rose
P.S. if you do it while you're on your period you CANNOT get pregnant.

Q: how often should i trim my hair? thanks

about once every 4-6 weeks to keep it healthy.

Q: why does guys hair grow faster and longer than girls hair does?

Because guys cut it more.
The more often you cut your hair, the faster it grows. Get a trim once a month and it'll grow faster.
Lots of Love
Rose

Q: Sorry if this isn't in the right category. I wasn't quite sure which one to put it in.

Okay so here's the deal. I got in a huge fight with my dad (we always fight and he's an alcoholic) right before going to my friend's party. Well, everybody knows what happens at highschoool parties: everybody get's drunk and whatever. Well, I was really upset about the fight I got into with my dad and at the party i decided to drink A LOT(which isn't good because the whole reason why I was drinking was to forget about my alcoholic dad and I don't want to turn out like him) and i usually don't drink too much at parties, maybe get a little tipsy but never over the top piss drunk. Well, this time I did. I passed out on the couch not too far into the night and woke up the next morning naked on the floor with my clothes scattered around the house. I don't remember what happened, what I did, what I didn't do, and I'm SOOOOOOOOOOOOOO scared that something could have happened. This is a huge problem because there are so many things that could happen. I could've had sex with somebody and gotten pregnant or have an STD or something. I don't know.... And if something happened things with my boyfriend are shot to hell which REALLY isn't good because he's the only person i can talk to about anything and I love him and I don't want to lose him... I wish I could take back that night. I don't know what to do. This stress is killing me. HELP.

Wow. This is really serious.
Well, firstly, make up with your dad. Even if its just a band aid fix, make up. Trust me.
Then, go get tested. STDs are best treated early, and if you don't want a baby the sooner you know the better.
As soon as you know, go talk to him. Tell him that you got hammered because of your stress, and you're worried that you've been raped.
I don't know if this will help you, but I hope so.
*hugs* Rose

Q: My goal weight is 135-140
My weight now is 161

I swim 2 and 1/2 hours everyday and lift weights everyother day. My diet thing is basically just eating healthier. If i keep eating healthy and eating low fat stuff about how long will it tak eme to reach my goal wieght?

its not really how much fat you eat, its the type. Lipids(thats fat) is part of the body. Its what makes your skin waterproof. Keeping your calories lower(around 2,000 calories per day) will help a lot. Make sure you eat breakfast, cuz it kick-starts your metabolism.
if you just started dieting, it could be about a month. If you've lost a bunch of weight already, you could take about two(2-3 lbs a week, times 8= about 20 lbs in 8 weeks). The reason is that at first you lose a lot of water weight to begin with, making you lose up to eight in the first week safely.
Well, I don't know if I helped, but I hope it goes well.
Rose

Q: Ok, me and my class are going on a big trip soon. We get to room with people that we want and there is four to a room. My best friend has another friend that never pays any attention to me. That is who we are rooming with. Me, my best friend, her other friend, and another one of our friends. My best friendsother firend acts like i never excsist and when me, her and my bff hang out neither pay any attention to me and i try to be a part of the conversation but they still exclude me. Wehave already tuned in our room papers so i cant change who i room with. I have t be with them both for a week and i dont want to be miserable on a trip that i should have be having fun at. I know that my bff's friend will exclude me and not pay any attention to me and when she does that my bff also does it. I know that they dont realize it but i have already talked to them and nothing about them is going to change. I want to have fun on the trip but i don't want to feel left out. Any suggestions? thanks!

this is so totally like my life. If you're stuck rooming with them, so be it, but if this girl is your bff, she shouldn't ignore you. I've seen that just ignoring her works. Ignore her, and she'll talk to you. Until then, really bond with your other friend. If that still doesn't work, pick a new friend, and get to know them.
I hope this helps!!!
Rosie

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Hey Peoples...
I'm a Pennsylvania girl plopped right down in the middle of the nowhere, and hating it.
I sing, act, write, read way too much, and I love my girls.
Currently SiNgLe, but I want someone.
I give okay advice, but I won't bullshit to you. If I don't know, I'll tell you straight up. I'm NOT going to sugarcoat answers, and if you rate me down, whatevs. WHO CARES. I'm not here to be the most popular collumnist. I'm here to give advice.
On that note,
Lots of Love
Rose