Dear Readers:
I think my life experience is what qualifies me to write this column. I made every mistake imaginable. But have learned from them. Most important I still remember what it was like to be 12, 13, 14, 15, and so on. Currently I am a single mom, I have two wonderful boys. One in college. We are all happy emotionally. We love life, and know that you can too. I try to be the kind of parent that understands. I know that I can help you to understand where you parents are coming from, and help you get over the difficulties of being young. You can even have your parents write to me and I will help them to get over their fears and at least respect you and your feelings. I have been married and divorced twice, so I have experience in that field also. But now I own my own home, and my own business and am successful. Lots of luck to you! Hope to hear from you.
Website: Ask Michele
E-mail: cobweb2@comcast.net
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Age: 56
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i dont get much..you could say "action" haha for a girl my age usually gets. im planning on having sex for the first time in about a week and ive been trying to prepare myself! about a week ago i started fingering myself just to try and loosen it up a little bit, but i really don't know what i'm doing! how far in are you suppose to go? i usually do two fingers, SOMETIMES three but it does hurt a little bit. well thanks, and if there is any other information i should know it would be great if you could tell me [: (link)
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You really need to stimulate your clitoris, which is not located inside your vagina. It actually sits just above the opening in your vagina but between the out lips. If you are not sure, then look up on goolge images, "vagina" there should be a medical drawing that will show you where your clitoris is. STimulate that with your fingers is OK, make sure you are well lubricated with lotion or something. That should help to getyou aroused.
-Michele
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work out all the time and lose weight from a place and also gain meat from another place, if you dont understand i mean like if you go running everyday for a long time you know, and you lose weight from your legs and u think u gained some meat in your stomache is that even possible since you lost from your leg, haha this is a rlly wierd question i kno but im jus curiouse :) thankss! (link)
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If you work out often, and work out hard, you'll burn body fat and build muscle. Your body will actually change. Fat deposits will diminish, and muscles will get bigger. It actually can look very nice and sexy.
If you run often, you'll burn a lot of calories and you'll lose fat from where ever it is deposited on your body. You have to eat a sensible diet too. If your diet is too high in fat and you actually eat more calories than you burn, you won't loose as much as you would like.
Hope this helps.
- Michele
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Well I had a bladder infection and they said it was viral-not bacterial and I was just wondering what are some of the ways I got it if it was viral and exactly what does that mean (link)
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Viruses are "germs" that cause things like colds and flu, and even problems like bladder infections. The way they learn if they are viral or not, is if they test your urine for bacteria, (easy to find with the right test equipment), and if there is no bacteria present, but you have all the symptoms, then they assume it is viral. Viral infections need to run their course, anti-biotics are no good against them. Viruses only live in people, or mammals (to be exact) you can only catch them from other people or pets. Unlike bacterial infections which can lurk anywhere. We are all exposed to them every day. Staying healthy is the best way to avoid them.
You can avoid future problems by building up your immune system with diet and vitamin suppllements. Cranberry capsuls and cranberry juice are excellent for your bladder and help to prevent infections of both kinds. They promote "good intestinal flora" in your bladder.
I take some myself every day. BEcause I am prone to bladder infections. It really has helped.
- Michele
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I am 28 have become a very depressed,angry,unsocialable person! I have been depressed and stressed for many years actually!!
I have depression, stress, anxiety and anger and i reconized that i need help few years ago and have been to a counselour twice 2 different ones and have been on anti depressents in the past. I am trying so hard to better myself but how can i better my self and get the help i need if i can't afford it? that is one main reason why i am unable to seek the help that i need and i'm sure that goes for many others! I am noticing that with time it has gotten worse for me beacuse it builds up but what do i do? any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! (link)
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Hi,
I have asked myself the same question, so many people like yourself are in the same boat. That kind of help costs a lot of money, which just makes things worse. I knew that I needed help, but couldn't afford it, but I don't think I was ever a candidate for medication. I certainly would have liked to see a therapist on a regular basis. Instead I started reading. That was something that I could afford. I read a lot of books about self esteem, and lousy parents, and addictions and depression and I managed to get out of it. When I did go to therapy, those few times I could afford it, I learned as much as I could, asked a lot of questions. Went over it and over it, in my mind so I could "own it". I needed to find my voice to ask for help. I learned to believe that I deserved to be happy. I learned that from book about co-dependency. You can try the book store, but once you find a book you might be interested in, look for it on amazon, or on the internet, I'll bet you;ll find it cheaper.
Yeah, I did corny things like write encouraging sayings and hang them near my bathroom mirror and I read them every day. And soon I started to believe them. I made myself better. I am in my 50's, raised to emotionally healthy boys, and finished college just a year ago! My life was in the toilet when I was in my 20's.
I hope this helps.
Good luck to you.
- Michele
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does corn bread or corn muffins really make your butt fatter? (link)
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No, not by themselves. That is not true.
What makes you fatter is taking in more calories each day, than what you burn each day. It does not matter what the calories are made up of. All foods have calories. Some have more than others. Potato chips, ice cream and candy are high in empty calories. Vegetables and fruits are lower in calories and have other heathy nutrients that your body needs. There is nothing wrong with corn bread. But too much corn bread will add more calories than you can burn. Getting more exercise means you can eat more calories in a day. If you don't get any exercise then you should watch your calories. If you are watching your calories, a piece of whole wheat bread would be better than corn bread for you. Reading the nutrition label on foods is a big help in comparing the calorie content of food.
-Michele
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im 19 yrs old, female, virgin [:
well i have a boyfriend of two years, yes i love him so much. we've never had sex yet but i know im ready. im going to be getting my period this wednesday. he wants to do it next weekend but obviously i can't because i will be on my period. so i said in two weeks we can meaning, not this upcoming weekend (halloween weekend) but the next weekend. my period would end around that tuesday, and if we did have sex on like that saturday, would it be risky? keep in mind i have been on birth control for about two years now, for regulating my period and i know we would use a condom. thank you! [: (link)
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If you have been on birth control for two years, with no problems, (like spotting in between, which would mean that the pill you are on is not strong enough to prevent pregnancy.) And if you are going to use a condom, then I think you are safe. So the weekend after Haloween is good. You are being sensible using birth control and I congratulate you. I was on birth control for 12 years and it never failed me.
- Michele
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Hello All,
I am a 19 year old woman. I have been off birth control for 5 months (since June). I had my period at the end of June and at the end of July and then it stopped. I have missed my period for 3 months now and I'm worried. When I was 2 weeks late I took a home pregnancy test and it came back negative. At 3 weeks late I went to the doctor and they took another "pee" test and that also came back negative. At 5 weeks late I took another pregnancy test and it came back negative and I took another one 5 days after that and it still came back negative. I haven't taken a test for a little over a month now (because I am sick of wasting my money). I had severe lower back pain and some nausea for the first month of my missed periods but then it went away. I still haven't gotten my period and I'm just now starting (this past week and a half) to get breast tinglings and nausea and insomnia and my lower abdomen feels very hard and tight. The past few days I have been getting cramping and my legs and hips hurt. I have an appointment on Nov. 4th with my doctor to see what's going on but I would like some input sooner than that so I can kind of try and know what's going on with me. Do you all think I could be pregnant? What else could be wrong with me if I'm not? Any input/advice would be helpful! (link)
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There are other reasons for not getting your period, (but not many) How is your diet? Are you very very thin. To you work out a lot and burn calories and fat. Girls who are anorexic, or work out too much and burn too many calories in order to remove as much body fat as possible, will also see that they menstrual cycle stops.
If that is not the case, then you may have a cyst on your ovary. If that is the case, I guess you will find out on Nov. 4th, when you go to the doctor. So many of the tests you took turned out negative, I would say that you are NOT pregnant. If you were experiencing an ectopic pregnancy, or tubular pregnancy, in which the egg fertizing in your tube instead of your uterus, you would be in very much pain (by now) as the egg grew, because the tube is too small to contain it.
Good luck at the doctors. Hope everthing turns out ok.
- Michele
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how do I acheive a really healthy looking face?
and i want natural i don't really want to wear any makeup.
I know the get rest,and drink lots of water, and wash your face daily. but I'm borken out all over and I do these things, so is there any really good products out there. And i'm not the kind of person that needs proactive or anything just a really good in store product. Thanks for your help! (link)
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Try taking vitamins for a beautiful all over glow that if you continue, can last all your life and keep your skin younger than your friends of the same age. Flax seed oil and Omega three Fatty Acid capsuls are great. Anything with fish oil, or cod liver oil is great for your skim. What is important are the Omega Fatty acids, There is Omega three (found in flax oil) Omega 6, found in fish oils and Omega 9, found in olive or safflower oil. You can buy capsuls that contain these vitamins to make taking them convenient. But adding fresh natural flax seed oil to cerals or salads is great. Fish oil is best taken in capsul form for obvious reasons. Don't worry about these oils causing acne. They don't. They are good for your heart too. If you have doubts, google Fish oil and healthy skin, or Flax Seed oil and healthy skin. You'll see.
Good luck.
-Michele
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Okay, so I'm 14 and for the past year or so my mom and I haven't been getting along. At all. She yells at me for the littlest things, and never lets me explain myself. She never listens to me and just assumes she knows what I'm gonna say before I say it. I feel lie she never even wantsed me, she treats my older sis and younger bro like they are angels, when my sis does drugs, my bro has anger issues, and I just try to be perfect, she points out the littlest imperfections in me and makes me feel bad about myself, and the way I dress, and do my hair and makeup and everything all the time. I've actually thought of suicide before.
I know most ppl are going to be like 'oh well just talk to her about it' anda bunch of other things like that but I've tried, plenty of times. And she just gets defensive, yells, and acts like she did nothing wrong. Its to the point where we barely even talk anymore. So I don't know what to do about it. If you have anything you can tell me....please help? (link)
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Honey,
I know what you are going thru, though it has been many many years. It is like living it all over again. And today my brother and sister are failures and I am successful. And my mother still thinks she was a perfect mother.
I know you are young and time passes slowly, but it does go by. The best thing you can do is get strong, get some skills so that you can support yourself and get out of the house as soon as you turn 18, or as soon as possible after. If college is an option then go for it. That is the best way. Any kind of education or training in some trade will help. Find your own inner self, by being your own best friend. Don't let their sickness afect you. Don't let her harsh words and put down become your internal message. Seek out adults (maybe at school or a part time job) who think well of you, who praise you, and try to work hard to gain their confidence and praise. It will be slow to internalize their good words, but it can work. Be patient. Some day you will be in total charge of your own life. Set yourself up so you can look back and just feel sorry for them. Being successful is the best revenge against people who are not supportive.
I know that is how it is supposed to be in families, but not all of us are given good families.
Good luck to you.
-Michele
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okay so i heard that there was vitamins that can help make your hair grow longer faster. so i wanted to know what they were and where i can get them. thank you very much. (link)
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Silicon strengthens hair, nails and skin, and contributes to hair growth. There are many different formulas offered by many different vitamin companines. BioSil is one, it has a patented formula, and is offered by Jarrow Formulas. It is a liquid that is easily added to other foods by a dropper. You may find other formulas that are cheaper. Also, a good diet high in quality protein is the best way to grow long health hair and nails. Eggs, milk, meat, or if you don't like meat, then protein powders. I found a increase in how fast my hair is growing by adding Hemp Protein powder to my smoothies each day.
Stay Healthy.
Michele
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Ok. I'm in my early 30's. I'm a single father. My mother is recently widowed. I own and operate a multi-location company. I also manage a handful of celebrity clients as well. So I guess you could say I have alot on my plate. Given I'm an earner alot of people outside of myself call on me for financial support. I'm in a different city everyweek and I spend my days working in my offices and my nights at the studio or scheduled functions with my clients. Recently the woman I love and wish to spend my life with came her for advice on our relationship and to my dismay perfect strangers who have met me have passed judgement on me. Allow me to explain. I met this woman about 4 years ago and at that time I was knee deep in work as usual and I was coming out of failing relationship but for some reason God decided to bring this woman my way. She's beautiful, sexy, smart, determined, loving, caring and did I mention beautiful? Nevertheless we met and instantly hit it off. I actually felt so comfortable with her that I took my daughter along with me on our first date. To me I had nothing to hide and I wanted her to know exactly who I am. My breakup drug on...like some relationships do and I found myself in the middle of a love triangle. On top of that I had infidelity issues. Yes I said it. I'm not here to lie to you. She also had her friends too. So the poor you is not what it seems. Most importantly the first love of her life seem to always be a compared me and I didnt seem to measure up to him. She loved to party. Party all the time til I had to ask her to slow down. On top of that she ran with a crew of serial seducing ladies who had relationships with some of my friends and clients. We had fun. Alot fun. So to me it was what it was. We loved hanging out but we never talked of the future. Anyways enough about that. The other relationship is finally over. It has been for awhile. I'm not saying it was right or wrong but I am being honest. My biggest problem is people tend to comment on the very same thing that they themselves have been through. Life's not a scripted journey. Every chapter is different. Moving on. Did I mention I run with entertainers and athletes? So that means woman are throwing themselves at you from every angle and because of this I find myself in some sticky situations to say the least. I've learned that I love her. That came to me like a dead weight dropped on my head. I love her deeply. The problem is she cant let go of the past and I cant change the past. If I could I would in a heartbeat because I'm ready to move on with my life. My mother and father were married 54 years when my father died so I tend to think that theyre relationship was a successful one. So thats who I look to for advice and what I found is that even my father had his ways. No ones perfect. But for everyone to say "Once a cheater always a cheater" is not fair. Love doesnt give you a heads up and most men dont get it til its too late. I've since then changed my ways. I stay out the club. I only go out with her. I keep the female traffic off my phone. Basically I'm at a place where I just want to be with her. However, since I'm really busy she takes that as cheating and I dont think thats fair. For example she may call me or text me and I'll respond clearly that I'm in a production meeting or with an attorney or maybe even in rehearsal for a show. Once I say that she begins to ask me a series of questions that I cant answer at the time since our atty is $425.00 an hour. But then she goes into a tantrum and turns me and evil towards me and I just dont think thats fair. I dont deal with any other women. She hasnt heard about me being around any women for quite some time now but she still wont let the past be the past and I love her. Deeply. We both discussed counseling but my issue was I felt that we should pay 50/50 so we both have vested interest in the sessions but that never happen. Normally when she tells her side and they get around to my side people come to a split decision for lack of better words. Now with the response from this site coupled with the past against my fight she's decided to leave me? Are you guys happy now? I mean you've never met me. Dont know my struggle. Most of you sound like you've had your own struggle with the opposite sex. What makes you an expert? I love her. Now she's gone away from me and I dont know what to do about it. I am not cheating on her. I asked her to take the next step and move in together and/or get married. I have no problem with committment to her. I admit. I was wrong in the beginning. But thats not where we are now. I've stepped up and changed my ways. I'm not the evil person she lead you out to believe. I want her back. I miss her. I need her to understand that I've grown. My life has changed. Yes people do make changes. They dont change completely but people make changes. Have you never made a mistake or had a regret on an something you did? I ask you. Is my relationship salvagable? Is their way for her to see that I'm here for her? I would never hurt her again. She mean to much to me. Can you help me? Thanks. (link)
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Only time will tell if your relationship is salvagable? And time may be what is needed. You say you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her, and she knows that,but is not reciprocating. Remember ACTIONS speak LOUDER than words.
I think the statements she has made about your cheating in the past, and that you don't compare with her first love, are just excuses. Many of us, men and women, have overlooked these things in a person we are in love with. LIke you said, your dad had issues, but your mom put up with it. Were they in love, of course they were, was it easy no, but there was enough there to keep them together.
And that is another point. She should be proud of your success, and she should be understanding and patient when you are too busy to talk to her. As long as you go out of your way to make her feel special, when you do have time, that should give you a free pass. After all, we all have to earn a living. This same dynamic goes on between you and your kids. You have to make an effort to make sure that they don't feel left out or unloved when you are too busy, and they have to understand when you are too busy. Patience is needed all around. We all have to behave like adults and not put pressure on people when things happen that they have no control over. That kind of behavior is understandable in small children. Shouldn't you expect that same kind of understanding from the significant adult in your life?
As for the things you do have control over..... the infidelity has stopped, you have gone out of your way to avoid the women who make themselves readily available, you have stopped partying and have made it clear that you only wish to be with her. And how has she responded? She has responsed with.... you're still cheating...... you're too busy.....I can't (read won't) forget what you did in the past....., well you get the picture.
This reads loud and clear to me that she is not in love with you. Yet she may like it that you are still persuing her. And why not, she could very well be thinking that if nothing goes right, she has you to fall back on. Believe me, women do this.
You have to face the fact that you are not first on her list. Believe me, who ever that person is, can get away with murder and she'll support him. There is no rhyme or reason why we love who we love. But looking at your relationship from the outside, most people would say. "Why is he wasting his time on someone who obviosly doesn't care for him." "He has so much to offer, if he found someone he was more compatible with, he could be happy."
And by that I mean find someone who respects you, who recognizes when you make changes for the better. Who celebrates your accomplishements, both in business and your personal life. Who respects your kids and your responsibility to them and perhaps to your mother now as well. Who doesn't pressure you to make them happy. Because in the end, we can only make ourselves happy. And happiness comes from learning about what really counts in life. (I know, it's corny, but it hasn't changed in a million years, and a million more won't change it either.)
When you were partying, and being promiscuous and involved in a love triangle, and living that fast life, you and she were compatible. She has not changed, you have and for the better, and I don't suggest that you go back to that life style. But if you changed for her, you were wasting your time. I hope you changed for yourself, and now see that this life is better than the one you had, better for you, and your kids, and your famillial obligations and for your career. You seem to be developing a sort of spiritual life and that is good. Nuture your spirit. And you will be happy. NOw you need to come to the realization that you deserve someone who loves themselves, who is happy with themselves, and all the other things that I mentioned and that person will be capable of loving you, deeply and with respect. She may not be the "sexiest, most beautiful, fun loving, party animal, who will make you the envy of everyone on the planet when she is draped on your arm. But if you love and respect each other, you'll think so, and that is all that matters. And your mutual happiness, love and respect for each other will be the envy of all your friends and aquaintences.
But if all this does not make sense, and you still want to fight for her, my advice to you is to avoid her, ignore her, start to pull back.....and soon she'll be making excuses to call you, to contact you, and/or to run into to you. Because I think she is addicted to the attention. She wants attention from as many men as she can get it from, and you are included in that group. So if you don't mind being part of a group and settling for the crumbs, then follow this advice.
Let me also say, that I checked my column and I don't see that I gave advice to someone like you describe. And if she described things exactl like you did, I would not have told her that she was better off without you, I would have told her that you were better off without her. Because we all deserve someon who will be devoted to us. Assuming WE behave in a way to deserve that devotion. You've made the changes necessary, now find someone who deserves to be with the great guy that you have turned out to be.
The last thought I will leave you with is:
When God wants to punish us, he grants us our wishes, so be careful what you wish for.
Michele
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my discharge has been a little chunky lately, like cottage cheese. is this bad? whats the reason for this (link)
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That is exactly what the discharge from a yeast infection looks like. And along with the white discharge is itching. ARe you experiencing any itching? If you are, then you definitly have a yeast infection.
A yeast infection is not uncommon. Many women get them from swimming in chlorinated pools or after being on anti-biotic medication. To get rid of them you need to take monistat. You can get it at any pharmacy. Usually it is a suppository, and you have to insert it. You'll feel better right away, but be sure and follow the instructions or it will come back. You may be prone to them, so it would be a good idea to keep some monistat around, so you can take it right away and not suffer.
Michele
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Ok so my partner and I were having relations and all of the sudden he just went limp. He said he hadn't slept in two days and he had been drinking recently. A few minutes later he was hard again but I'm still curious as to why that happened. Anyone know? (link)
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It is exactly what he said it is. He hadn't slept, and he had been drinking. In his case it just took more stimulation to get it going. But when he gets older, if he continues to loose sleep and drink to much, he will experience more episodes like that and they will last longer
Michele
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What are the rules for being a Haside (orthadox) jew? Can you only wear Black? when do you start wearing a wig, etc...i'm dying to know everything.
And doesn't it seem wierd when they carry/ wear expensive things? Because i feel like they shouldn't want to have materialistic items.
ANything you can tell me would be great!
Thanks! (link)
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I know a little, so I will share it with you.
Hasidic jews are orthodox and keep kosher and keep the sabbath. No work from Friday sundown to saturday sundown. The women, once they are married, must keep their heads shaved and wear a wig. They wear black from that day on, also.
They must always defer to their husbands, and when out in public, must walk behind them. The husband/father is the patriarch of the family and he comes before the children and the wife.
Hasidic jews, for years have been involved in the diamond business. they are known as the best diamond cutters in the world. Many of them have stayed in this business and carry on the their family's tradition. But not all. So if they are in the diamond business, you can imagine that they are very wealthy, but it is not ok to flaunt that wealth. They dress and behave in such a manner that does not call attention to themselves or their wealth. But if you are ever invited to the bar mitzfa (sp.?) celebratioin of an hasidic jewish boy, you will see the wealth because they often will spend a fortune on such celebrations.
In Israel, there are sectc calle the ultra orthodox. Well in hearing about them in the news, I don't see much difference between them and the Islamist. These ultra orthodox jews required their women to wear head scarves, they cannot wear pants, they cannot drive. In their neighborhoods in Israel, they have been known to stone women who don't sit on the backs of busses or give up their seats to a man, or not wear head scarves.
And yet these two sects hate each other. Oh well. I guess it is what makes the world go round.
Michele
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i heard that 9/11 was an inside job. can i have some answers and opinions cuz i really don't know what to believe plus there's so much evidence its kinda hard to ignore. i don't know what to believe anymore. heelllpp =[
p.s. didn't really know what category to put it under sry. (link)
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Alex Jones, have you heard about him. He wholeheartedly believes that is was an inside job. He has a web site. called www.infowars.com
http://www.infowars.com/
I don't know. I have read a lot of his sight and I think it could be possible. I am certainly very very very unhappy with our government right now. I do believe that they are capable of anything. But I am still happy to live in this country. We do have freedoms that many other people living in other countries do not have. Problem is, if what Alex Jones and people like him, say is true, then I don't know for how long we will be able to keep our freedoms.
Check out the sight and see what you think.
It is good to look at all sides of the story.
Michele
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well i have finally come to terms that im a pessimist, and i hate it. but i really can not help it.
1)i REALLY dislike where i live and everyone who lives in it. even my friends. theyre definately the best here for me, but im usually unhappy when i am with themm.
2)i either bring everyone else down or bottle my problems up and become really moody. i am a moody person in general i guess. every little thing bothers me.
3)i have some things from my past that i cant let go of. i dont know how.
so i guess my question is :
with all of these problems that i can not avoid or change, how do i become a happier person? i am trying really hard to let go of my problems from my past. i am trying really hard to enjoy when im with my friends. i tried asking my parents to move. nothings working. what can i do? i just want to live happily.
welll id really like for this to be answered by:
someone who understands where im coming from.
someone who has had this problem and has been able to change.
someone who knows you cant always change yourself to make your life better.
someone who is realistic.
stories, tips, advice would be great. thanks
PS. sorry for the length (link)
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What you need is the serenity prayer. It is not HOLY it is just called that. It is what helped me. I taped it onto my mirror and I read it every day, and finally I began to live it. It really works. What do you have to loose.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
You see, you may not be able to change your surroundings NOW, but you will some day. Some day you will be in charge of your life. You will be the person deciding what direction you will go in. Will you be happy, or will you still be thinking about all the things you don't like that you cannot change? YOu see you cannot change things about your friends, but you can change how you react to them. You can accept them for who they are. Do they need changing? Probably they do, but they are the only ones who can make that decision. Like you are the only one that can make it for you.
You can change your life for the better by accepting yourself as an important person who has value, and who just now is young, and you are not in the drivers seat, but......are you prepared for when you will be? Or will you then, still blame, parents, friends, the outside world, and where you live.....on all your problems?
Happy people are the ones who decide what they think they like then set goals to reach it. Then reach it.
I know it sounds corny now, but you'll feel the same way when you are older. Question is, will you have regrets then, that you didn't take the steps to grant yourself a better future? Or will you still just be pessimistic?
If you really hate where you live...what plans do you have to get out of there when you are an adult? Sure you might find some guy willing to take you away, but what if he tires of you and dumps you. What are you going to do. Go back? Or work as a waitress in a diner? THen start to hate that place. An education is the only way to get out of where you are on your terms. Employable skills will make you valuable, then you can choose to work where ever you want. Set your sights on college and then you will control your destiny. Really.
It can happen.
Michele
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hi. i'm a freshman. and i kinda like this junior. it's possible he has herpes. what do i do?
do i have a chance with him even though hes a junior.. and if he has herpes.. what happens then? (link)
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You're not sure, it could be just a rumor. But not uncommon. Herpes comes from having sex, and if he is sexually active, then he could very well have herpes. ONce you get it, you get it for life. So maybe you should find a new boyfriend. Let me put it this way, if you find out that he does have herpes, and he is still looking to have sex with you or with anyone, it shows how irresponsible he is. I mean he could be on medication, if he went to the doctor, and acyclovir works well, that would be the responsible and caring thing to do. If he doesn't care who he infects. Then I would stay away from him. By the way, herpes is much more painful in women than in men. So he could have it, and not have any reason to treat it, and not care who he gives it too. So be careful, and never have unprotected sex. But remember, you can get herpes from oral sex.
Michele
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i have always been a really sexual person, the problem is - my boyfriend isn't. I have values and I am not a whore, but I have always had alot of sexual tensions so when my boyfriend of 2 years suggested we have sex I was more than ready. After we did it I realized how much I really like it and was always up for it but he didn't have the same sex drive. I don't want to pressure him into anything so I don't talk about it much, but I can't help who I am I really love to feel sexy and have fun and who else to do that with than the one I love!
I think the sex is good for him he just told me he just doesn't hve that much of a sex drive - he's 18 so I don't understand why. I am not an unattractive girl, and he loves me I don't doubt that, I just don't know why he doesn't want to have sex? I compliment him all the time so I don't think he is insecure...
I'm a really sexual person, and this is driving me crazy what can I do? (link)
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Yes, incompatability in sex could drive any couple crazy. I understand. It is not good when a couple's sex drive doesn't match. And it is great when it does. If he cares about you, he should have his health checked out. It does not make sense that a man of 18, does not have a strong sex drive. Oh it's possible, but not common, so a health condition should be ruled out. He doesn't know what he is missing. A sex drive is normal. And a young man should have a strong one. I hope he can find a doctor that is sympathetic and will listen. There are other symptoms to look for, like low testosterone levels, but only a doctor can do that. It's worth a shot.
Michele
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how do you know how to pronounce a word.. is there a website that when you type in a word someone will pronounce it for you? I have to study for a spelling bee (link)
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Yes, dictionary.com they have every word in the dictionary! And they do have a pronunciation feature. But you have to join to use that feature. it may be free to sign up. I am not sure, you can go to that website and find out.
Michele
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i think one of my friends boyfriends is hitting her. i always shee bruises on her and cuts. theres no way she falls that much. i think shes just scared to go to court about it. what happens if she does tell the cops? do they go to court?
what happens. please be specific. (link)
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Young grandma gave good advice, but let me add this. Tell your friend that it never stops at hitting. IT gets worse, very worse. She should stop seeing him immediately and be sure he knows in no uncertain terms that she will call the authorities if he bothers her again, and then when he does, and yes he will....she should not hesitate to call. I hope she has a cell phone.
Michele
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