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pls i want to know if it is bad for me to have a girlfriend if i am not ready to marry.

Nope. You didn't mention how old you are, but you can date a girl and not have to marry her. That's what you do. You date a lot of different people to find out what you are really looking for, that way when the right person comes around you know that she is the one for you.

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What is this song? The chorus keeps repeating "swing swing".... Thanks so much.

Swing, Swing by The All-American Rejects

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16/f.

i liked this guy and he liked me. me n him go to the same school.
we both live "out of zone" for our school and should be going elsewhere.
well, he called me recently and told me that he didnt want a relationship with me because of lacrosse and his grades.
but come to find out, he lied to me and hes going out with one of my friends that goes to the school that we should be going to.

i really liked him and i spent my sweet 16 depressed over him. should i confront him about it? call him and tell him we need to talk? or should i just let it be, seeing as he's been ignoring me lately?

Honestly, just let it go. He probably only lied to you because he was trying not to hurt your feelings. But he is a boy, and didn't realize that you would still be upset. Don't call him. It will only make things worse. Try writing him a letter and explain how you feel, and then throw it away. Wait for him to talk to you, becuase he may feel uncomfortable about making you upset.

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what are some different bands that aren't really heard about that much? i like bands like brand new and manchester orchestra -but i'm not too picky. i like indie, screamo, expiremental, etc. (anything really) any others that not every body has heard every song by them yet? that'd be great!
ps. i've tried to look around and not really much luck.

Houston Calls
Acceptance
Patent Pending
A Thorn For Every Heart

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what is the name of the sone ( kinda hip-hop ) that goes.."if that aint love then i dont know what love is".

Cupid's Chokehold by Gym Class Heroes

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So for my math project i need to find 5 different pictures of actual objects in real life,

1. a rectangle that is not a square
2. a paralellogram that is not a rectangle
3. a square
4. a trapeziod
5. a nonparallelogram and a nontrapezoid

they must be perfect, like we actually have to show measurements on the sqaure showing its really a square etc

i have no idea where to go find these pictures, preferably on the internet
pleasee help me outt!

Try
Http://www.gettyimages.com

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is it okay if i play with myself?

Yes.
Do it all you want.
You won't go blind.
Or grow hair on your palm.
I promise.

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what is a reasonable curfew for a responsible sixteen year old?

I'm 17 but when I was sixteen it depended...

On a school night 10pm
Any other night 11pm

Sometimes it varied if I had the car but not often. I called my parents and always told them what I was doing so they were pretty lax

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how long should they last .
and like
how do i actually give one
how long should it last
and is it wrong to give one in a movie theatre?
sites ?

1] It really depends on the guy. But I promise you will know when it is over.

2] Try to think of it as an ice cream cone that is melting all over your hand. So you have to keep liking it from different angles. You'll have to see what works best for you and your guy.

3]YES it is wrong to give one in a movie theatre. one becase there are other people around and two your boyfriend just paid $19 so you could give him a blowjob instead of watching the movie.

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i want to add the song 4ever by the Veronicas to my myspace music, but when i go to their website www.myspace.com/theveronicas it doesn't let me add the song! does anyone know where & how i can add the song besides putting a music video on? thanks! ♥

You could always go to this site
http://www.imeem.com

set up a profile and make a playlist(even if you just want one song) and then it can give you a code to put it on your myspace. Paste the code where ever you want.

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anyone know this song,
it's not super fast but kinda?
some lyrics are

'some people have it,
and other people don't'

'you been making some threats.'

then it goes
whoaa whoaa whoaa

'say you miss me, you probably don't.
'well i been crossin somelines that other people wont'

dont tell me to use azlyrics.com

Bulls in Brooklyn -The Academy Is...

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there is a song im 99% sure is by hawthorne heights i desperatley need the name of. Some of the lyrics are something like "you are the last thing i think of before i go to sleep at night" pr something like that. and i think it says something about forever in it. but i really REALLY need the name of this song and the lyrics if possible.

thankyou so much.

We are so last year from "If only you were lonely"

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I need help on getting a proxy that isn't blocked to get on myspace at school, or anywhere that it is blocked. the only thing is, is that im always searching proxy lists but those sites are blocked too. it seems like everything is blocked at school, and i shouldn't complain but it seems unreasonable, ridiculous, and unneccesary. (sorry for spelling errors.) How do i create my own Proxy Site or whatever that my school won't know and wont block?

Try Proxy.org someone told me that they can't block sites that are .org. put in the address at that website to randomly pick a proxy. sometimes it takes a few tries to get one that isn't blocked.

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How do you know if you're in love?

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.


You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.


Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.


Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's lonliness.


Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.


Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidents.


Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.


Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.


Do you pardon their faults becuase you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.


Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.


Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.


Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.


Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.


Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.


Do you stay because a blinded uncomprehensible mix of pain and realtion pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.


Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.


Would you give them your heart, your life and your death?
Then it's love.




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What are some songs that talk about like, not fitting in, not belonging, being alone, not having anyone, or just kind of depressing songs?
Thanks.

Dashboard Confessional - Hands Down

The Academy Is - Attention
The Academy Is - Classifieds
The Academy Is - Down and Out
Armor For Sleep - Car Underwater
Fall Out Boy - Saturday
Fall Out Boy - Calm before the storm
Taking Back Sunday - Slow dance on the inside
Taking Back Sunday - There's No I In Team
Taking Back Sunday - Cute without the E
Taking Back Sunday - You're So Last Summer
Senses Fail - You're Cute When You Scream
Senses Fail - One Eight Seven
Story of the Year - Sidewalks
My Chemical Romance - Helena
My Chemical Romance - Drowning Lessons
The All American Rejects - It ends tonight
The All American Rejects - Stab My Back
Sum 41 - Pieces
Blink 182 - Adams Song
The Used - All That I've Got
The Used - I'm a Fake
The Used - A Box Full Of Sharp Object
Paramore - All we know



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I'm a 17 year old guy. I have been dating this girl for a long fun while now, and we have an awesome relationship. We talk and joke around like best friends and get jiggy with it as lovers do. The only thing is that a road block just recently popped up. Throughout the relationship she had been telling me that she was a virgin and never saw a penis before and all that stuff. Then we were wasted one night and she decided to give me this big confession that infact she wasn't a virgin. She had touched, licked, and sure enough had sex with an ex that before this point she always spoke lowly of him. A lot of the time she would even bring him up in common conversation. So, now she tells me this and first I feel betrayed because I have been lied to for so long. Second, I feel confused because you think she wouldn't talk so bad about this guy if he took her virginity. Third and lastly, I feel scared because thinking that she was a virgin, we fooled around a little without a condom. That brings up worries of STD's and so forth. What should I think or say or do? Am I mad at her? When she says she regets it do I believe her? Does she still of feelings for this guy (who, if I might say myself is 100% full of nasty)? Should I trust that she isn't keeping anymore lies from me?

It will take time to rebuild the ammount of trust that you had, but it can be done. Maybe she really does regret what happend before and didnt want to tell you. Or maybe she thought you would not take the relationship seriously if you knew that she wasn't a virgin. I think you need to talk to her about it. BUT do not harp on it over and over again...make your point and only have the discussion once. Whatever you do not bring this up all the time when you are fighting it will only ruin your relationship and cause resentment.

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what's the difference between "Loving" and "likeing" someone????

Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest?
It isn't love, it's like.


You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them.
It isn't love, it's lust.


Are you proud, and eager to show them off?
It isn't love, it's luck.


Do you want them because you know they're there?
It isn't love, it's lonliness.


Are you there because it's what everyone wants?
It isn't love, it's loyalty.


Are you there because he kisses you or holds your hand?
It isn't love, its low confidents.


Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them?
It isn't love, it's pity.


Do you belong to them because their sight makes you heart skip a beat?
It isn't love, it's infatuation.


Do you pardon their faults becuase you care about them?
It isn't love, it's friendship.


Do you tell them everyday that they are the only one you think of?
It isn't love, it's a lie.


Are you willing to give your favorite things to them?
It isn't love, its charity.


Does your heart ache and break when they're sad?
Then it's love.


Do you cry their pain even though your strong?
Than it's love.


Do their eyes see your true heart and touch your soul so deeply it hurts?
Then it's love.


Do you stay because a blinded uncomprehensible mix of pain and realtion pulls you close and keeps you there?
Than it's love.


Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are?
Then it's love.


Would you give them your heart, your life and your dealth?
Then it's love.


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ok i have this friend that me and her known me for like 2 years and we're pretty much good friends. She tells me a lot of secrets and she knows that im trustworthy. and all that and she has a other friend who known her for like 7 months she has a secret about something and she didnt wanna tell me she just told me half of the secret but she said she doesnt wanna tell anymore but next day she talked to her other friend and said"i gotta tell you something about what happened" and i overheard because they were talking behind me and i heard something that relates to the half of the secrets she told me but i didnt listen to what she was telling her caue i was pretty much mad cause she doesnt wanna tell me but she told her other friend just met 7months ago i mean i feel really untrusted and all that what do you think about this situation?

Maybe the secret is about you. Maybe it is about something that would upset you if you heard about it. Maybe it has to do with this other girl's life and is really none of your buisness. Its probably nothing. She most likely still trusts you, she just doesnt want to dicuss this matter with you.

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What way can you actually break an arm.
Ive thought aout a few ways but they dont exactly make sense.

Any ways to make it easier at least?
xo

People break bones in all sorts of ways.
You can get broken bones from a car accident, falling, I slipped on some playground equipement in 2nd grade and broke mine. Your arm could be crushed by something and be broken.

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** this could go under a number of different categories...** and uhh... sorry its so long.

so well, basically, my life sucks.
and theres not really anything i can do about it.

my family is dysfunctional,
my friendships are falling apart,

the onlything good in my life is a guy who i fell in love with 3 years ago. however, he moved 2000 miles away. and i rarely get to see him (obviously) or talk to him like i would like.

im ready to end everything.
ive been a cutter for like 2 years now.
and my life is getting worse every day.

what should i do? besides go see a counselor; surround myself with people who care and who would take my mind off of it; and talk to a trusted adult; see a doctor; etc. is there anything i can do?


im female and almost 16 if that really matters. doubt it does.

Have you tried writing? You could get a online journal on greatest journal. I have one and I write in it all the time. You can also join communities about whatever you are interested in. I've found that it has really helped me because I can safely let all my emotions out.

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