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oh. well i have a friend, and we both have gotten wicked close in the past two years. we hang out with each other and all our friends and its usually at her house. but all of a sudden i started talking to her brother a lot. he talks to me online and stuff and we make plans together. i dont want anything to go on between us because i know that if something goes wrong then i might lose her friendship, which is really tough to get anyway. me and her family [including her brother] have plans this week and he said he was going to show me how to play the guitar. what should i say to him? cuz i really do like him. thanks x0x0 * jp

Say yes, that sounds really cool. I know how hard it is to hold back feelings, and you shouldnt do that. Hang out with him..and if a relationship with him comes up.. I would take it. Tell your friend you dont want to lose her, but you really like her brother. The two of you are drifting apart anyway. Good luck..i hope everything works out well
-melissa

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help help help...we will rate u... we no someone who is thinking about killing/cuting/or running away! She is the type of person who would really go out and do it. but whenever we try to call her she hangs up and now she wont answer her phone and she isnt on AIM anymore...we dont know what to do or think...all we think about it what the worst sanerio is!!!
HELP
RATE
PLEASE!

Call her parents..if you cant get ahold of them, tell your parents and they can take it to her parents. This is pretty serious, so dont wait
-melissa

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Well,there's a boy I like and my feelings are so deep for him,and he is my friend.But I don't know how to tell him or should I tell him,because he has a girlfriend.So how can I tell him and what should I say?
I am a female,
and I'm 14

Ok, i really thhink you should tell him. But dont persue it..like hit on him or hook up with him..because he has a gf. Just say " i had to get it out.." or something...Its up to him to decide if he wants to break up with his gf or not. I hope everything works out. Just keep being his friend..become a closer friend...

-melissa

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I have this freind and I have known her for about 2 years now. She is getting to be very braty and braggy. She is sooo spoiled and gets everything she wants. And like just the other day she was like complaining about the number of presents she got. I am so sick of putting up with her. But we have like a group of people ( about 7 ) and we do everything together. I dont know what to do, becuaes it is impossible to avoid her! Please help, I rate!

How do the rest of the people in your group feel? If your feeling this way im almost positive others are feeling this way also. Get some of them together and talk to her about it. Its bad to keep feelings bottled up..I learned that the hard way with an old friend of mine. So get your feelings out..because nobody wants to hang around with a spoiled brat. Say what you feeel..and good luck
-melissa

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well i need advice on where to have my new years party. i dont want to have it at my house becuase my parents would never let me and my firend wont have it at her house and we are trying to beat this other party that people are going to so i need advice and help on where we should have it at. i will rate for effort,

maybe a friend who knows a friend knows someone who can have it there? Im sure you already tried that..well if you get planning now you can have a hotel party, you could go driving with someone and have a party in there..especially if its a car that hold 7 or 8 people, an abandoned house, an open field, ..probably too cold out there..in my town they have a "party on the street" type of thing..and they have the ball drop and stuff. You could have people meet you there and all of you can get drunk in a nearby dugout and then walk around lol. Sorry, some of these ideas are lame..but I hope it all works out for you. Next year if you had time you could rent out a place..who knows maybe there is still time
-melissa

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when i tell my mom that im going to one of friends houses but really im going somehwere wlse..what excuse do i give when she calls me and asks me where im at and what im doing?

Do you mean she calls your friends house and your friends mom said you werent there..and she calls your cell? Well if that were the case..say you and your friend were out walking,biking, etc or say you went to your friends neighbors house..which is your friend also. Tell your mom you were just about to call her and say sorry you forgot..or you can say you and your friend went to catch a movie and you forgot to call..but be careful..you cant keep using the excuse " i forgot to call" Lying to your mom about where you are does work if your careful, but dont overuse the same excuse that "o i forgot to call," Moms do catch on..and the same thing happened to my friend..only she got caught. So be careful
-melissa

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I'm a 16/m thats moving from California to Rhode Island. its the biggest change of my life and i'm not sure what to do about it. How will i ever fit in?? How do i get accepted by my peers? Whats that style/fashion there? Can anyone give me advice on how to make a smooth transition into Rhode Island?? Thanks!

Hey, im sure you`ll fit in smoothly right away. Its not everyday that a new student from across the country moves into your school! Everyone is gonna want to ask you about cali and how its like there and stuff..i bet all the girls will be all over you in no time also :) To be accepted just be yourself..the way you are right now in california. Im confident your going to fit in fine...i dont live in rhode island so i wouldnt know the exact fashion of whats in..but i think you`ll be fine wearing pants,shirts..lol just wear clothes ;)
Good luck, you`ll be fine..if not..drop me a line
-melissa :)

PS XoLoVeYaXo435 pretty much stole my answer..look at her answer..and look at mine. Lol thats pathetic

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I was going out with this guy that i like a lot. He's perfect in my eyes, and i am in his. we were perfect for each other and things were great until my cousin got involved. she's a little more "advanced" and he likes that. he doesnt like her like her at all, but he wouldnt mind getting some. i felt like a bad gf because i wouldnt do that stuff but he understood. anyways, things eventually didnt work out, and i broke up with him. now, hes going out with someone that i used to be friends with. all of my other guy friends talk to him and say that he still loves me, but he has a gf so i dont see how thats possible. i really wish he did because i still love him a lot. so anyway, we flirt a LOT, and lately ive been more in love with him than ever. i dont know what to do because i dont know if he still loves me, or if hes just leading me on. it seems as though he still has feelings for me but i dont know how to tell. what do i do? i really want them to break up, but i dont want them to until he really does still love me. any advice? i'd rly appreciate it. i dont care how incoherant your reponse is, i'll rate you a 5.

Hey , just because he has a new gf doesnt mean he loves her. He just might be going out with her to try and get over you. Their relationship doesnt seem half as solid as yours were with him. I dont think your a bf stealer because its not like your doing things with him on the side. Keep flirting with him and Im confident that you`ll get back together. After some more flirting I think you should talk with him about her..ask him if he still has feelings for you..let him know you still love him. Dont try and break them up though, you wont need to because i think this guy still likes you a lot also. Good luck with everything
-melissa

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Ive been dating a guy for a few days over a week, we've done sexual things and after each time when we talk on the phone he always asks me if i had an orgasm. He gets really turned on when i moan and i get really turned on when he says my name so we both usually try to do that for each other. Well when he asks me if i had an orgasm, i always ask him to, and we both kind of aviod the answer, i dont think either of us have ever, but should i just lie and say i did or what? how should i handle the answer to this question?

Orgasms arent everything..well did you feel pleasured by him? You can still feel pleasure and not have one..so0o if you did you can tell him..well no i didnt...but damn you were still o good.. or something sexy lol. Thats what I would say because even though its early in the relationship, honesty is important to me, so thats what my answer would be. Think about whats important to you..and go with your heart. If you like honesty and feel comfortable ...then tell him the truth..if not...you could lie..but i wouldnt do that
Just my opinion though..hope i helped out
-melissa

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hi im 14 f and i want a boyfriend! where is the best place 2 meet one?
thanks love nicki
xxx

Hey, they are everywhere! Around school you might meet a new guy or start talking to someone you never met before..at the movies if there is a cute usher start talking to him, (my friend jasmine knows all about that haha) even at mcdonalds when your with your friends after a movie! Just last week me and 3 friends were in McDonalds when 4 guys came over and started talking with us! Opportunities are everywhere ! At the rollerrink, mall, everywhere!
You`ll find someone in no time
-melissa

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I'm 14 and a male, k back when I was little I had all these girls on me but now its like they dont want to hang out with me. I try to hang out with all the cool kids but that just dont help, I meen I can hang out with any group i want but it dont matter all the girls I like dont like me. I dont want to go out with a girl that i dont like, but i dont want the girls that i like to go out with me just to be kind i want them to like like me i try showing them that i like them but they dont seem to get the message what can i do to get them to like me

Hey, I feel your pain..it sux, but you cant make a girl like you. You have to be yourself and one day the lucky girl will come along who likes you. If you do things like buy these girls stuff, act a different way, etc. they wont like you for yourself..they'll either feel bad and go out with you to be nice..or they'll go out with you just because you did something for them or brought them something. Just keep an open mind, be yourself, and im sure one day a great girl will come along for you. I'm in the same boat as you are..no guys out there for me right now..but I just have to stay positive and wait for the right one to come along :)
-melissa

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This guy asked me out like two years ago and I said no but now he and I are sort of friends. And I think he might still like me. So if I hinted around and flirted and stuff do you think he would ask me out again? Or do you think I already missed my only chance?

No way i dont think you missed your chance at all! In fact, your relationship will probably be better being that 2 years went by. Both of you are more mature. So go for it! Flirt around and im sure you can get him in no time
Good luck! :)
-melissa

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I want to do more than just make out with my boyfriend, but we've just been goin to the movies so it's kinda hard to do anythin else when so many people are around. So any ideas on what we could do or what i could say that would turn him on?

Guys are pretty easy to turn on, so i dont think you`ll have a problem with turning your bf on. In school when your talking about movie plans..maybe run your hands through his hair and say "how bout we see " " ( a movie that nobody will be at) so we can be alone." He`ll def. get the message. Also, if theres ever a time when one of you guys are home alone..grab the opportunity! lol Maybe a friend of yours has "cool" parents who will allow them to have some guys and girls over. You guys could get privacy there too. If your ever at the mall or something and you guys split up from your mom..you can always go back to the car :)
Hope i helped out!
-melissa

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okay, one of my kinda close guy friends [who likes me more than a friend] bought me a necklace for xmas... the thing is, he "forgot" to take off the price tag which was stuck on underneath the box.. it was $129.. the price tag was also inside the box kinda hidden under the necklace plate. obviously he wanted me to see how much it costed? lol what do u guyz think?

Hey im pretty sure this guy did it on purpose. Its pretty obvious. If he forgot maybe there would only be one price tag on there. Also, if its $120 and it was me, i would defiantely make sure i took the tag off! I think its sweet but at the same time i think its..corny...shallow..because leaving the price tag on is just something you dont do! I do think its sweet on the other hand because wow this guy reaaally must like you ! Dont feel obligated to buy him anything expensive..its the thought that counts..not the pricetag. :)
-melissa

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I'm a girl, I have 2 good guy friends. I have a promise with one of them that i can't tell anyone.. well the other day me and the other guy friend got into a fight b/c i wouldn't tell him the promise i had. he said true friends have honesty. i figure that promises are deeper than honesty towards another friend. if i tell the secret, i lose the friend i have the promise with. if i don't tell, i lose the other friend. how can i just keep both guys my friends?

I would tell him that your definately a good friend because your keeping a promise your not supposed to tell. Tell this other guy that if he ever had a secret and wanted you to promise to never tell anyone, that you wouldnt..and that he would also keep a secret of yours. Tell him its not about him (if it is..dont say that lol) and you hope he understands that friends keep secrets.
I think if he thinks about it for awhile, he'll understand
:)
-melissa

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my bf isnt excactly the cutest person in the world but i love him so much. alot of the time some of my friends that i'm not that close to always ask me questions about why im going out with him. and this girls in one of my classes always says how she would only go out with a guy if he was cute. and my bf sits right behind me in that class. he's not like ugly or anything but he's not hot either. i don't know what 2 do about it when pple tell me that i shouldnt go out with him or ask me why i am going out with him. please help........

screw what they think! one of the top 5 things i hate is when people say/do stuff to try and break people up. Your with a great guy and who cares what they think! next time someone says that to you..stick up for your guy! you know if you were in his place you'd want him to do the same right. Plus its wrong what theyre saying! tell her to mind her business and your very happy with your guy and you dont care what anyone else thinks. All these people who say this to you have nothing better to do..they are so pathetic! Most of them are jealous
Stick up for your relationship..dont let them say stuff again..looks arent everything and its something so0o many people dont realize. But im glad you realize it
-melissa

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OK today is Christmas and my dad got drunk.Well my mom and him were arguing and my dad sometime hits my mom well I have a brother he's 17 and today he had enough and my brother went and hit him then they began fighting and alot of mess started.I don't know what to do or even think and my brother is leaving to the Army I'm really confused plz helm I'm 14/f.

What you can do is be supportive of your mom. Talk to her about getting elp because shes been abused..tell her you want family counseling. None of this is your fault..so dont think you can save everything and make it right.Your dad needs to do a lot of that. After you elt your voice be heard..there isnt much you can do. Space yourself away from your dad..keep yourself happy by hanging with friends more. I hope this all passes. Best of luck.
-melissa

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i heard that if u stop eating u will acctually gain weight. is that true?

No, you`ll lose a bunch of weight in the beginning..but then you`ll gain it back. The body will live off of the fat in your body at first..and msucle..which will cause weigt loss. However the body cant do that forever..so if you go anorexic lets say...the little bit you eat will be stored and you will stop losing weight. Then as you get back to your normal food consumption..you`ll gain some weight
-melissa

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Hey..umm I have been talkin to this guy for about 9 months we went out for a month but he moved now he's back..and now he gave me my first kiss,first heartbreak,first real boyfriend,frist frenchkiss,and we've came close ta sex...but im only 13 and he's 16...He always tells me he loves me...but i cant say it back but i feel the same way..my mom said i was too young to say i love you.and i dont wanna make her mad..but i feel it and we've been through soo much..could i maybe be in love and only be 13?? Ashleigh

love is the strongest emotion out there. I cant tell you "yes you can be in love" or "no,, your too young" because the feeling is within you. Love is not only te strongest emotion out there..but its also one of the hardest things to define. So my opinion? Yes i think you can be. But I dont think its the same kind of love you`ll feel for your husband one day. Its all a difference of opinion. Some people will swear that you cant love until age 20 or some ridiculous age..but who the hell do people think they are to put an age requirement on love?
Love is very complex but i think its possible for you to be in love. do i think this is the strongest love you`ll ever feel? no. but hey its only my opinion. Follow your heart..feel what you feel. Its all in your heart
-melissa

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I'm not supposed to know about this, but one of my friends is having these really disturbing dreams, just really disturbing, scary stuff that seems outta horror movie...Thing is they happen when she's awake, like, when she closes her eyes...And they're out of control. I mean, I know everyone gets weird images sometimes in their brain when they close their eyes, but this is definately beyond normal.
She has said that if they continue past New Years she will see a therapist, so I'm not asking for what to do, I know perfectly well how to handle it if she doesn't take the bull by the horns, but what I want to know is if there is an actual medical condition associated with these symptoms..I've heard of them before.
Also, I've got another friend who says these weird things that don't make any sense, like she says stuff happened that's totally outrageous, and then someone disproves it, and she still says they happened...And everyone accuses her of lying, but it just really seems lik she BELEIVES these things have happened to her! Is there a medical condition with this symptom, in which the victim creates excessive memories that never happened?

Im not sure either but go to www.dreammoods.com and post that there..and people who are into that kinda stuff will respond. As for the other thing..im not sure..she might have mental problems. Talk to her about going to a doctor or someone..they can diagnose her. Doctors will always know best.
sorry for the lack of info..Hope i helped out
-melissa

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