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Q: ok im so conflicted
i sit by these to guys in one of my classes and like they always steal like snacks and pop i bring to class and stuff and its fun but me and the kid behind me we like pretned to hit eachother like we could beat eachother up its funny cause hes like 8 inchs taller then me but its like hes always touching me in sum way like prtending to hit me or hit me lightly or holding on to my hair and seeing how long it takes me to noitce and he like taps his foot on my desk and kicks my butt and moves my desk and stuff i dont know if he flirting or if hes just doin it for sumthin to do and even when were not in class he'lll make silly face at me and talk to me and do this thing called jump start where he like pokes me on both of my side on my nerve and it makes me like jumo but plz expalin to me if he flirting or not i can never tell
help me and thanks

Yep, he probably is flirting. I think he likes you, all guys do that to girls when they like them. Now its your choice to flirt back or not haha.

Q: My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost three years (in nov it will be 3) well at the beginning of our relationship he cheated on me with this girl that HATES me, 2 months after I ended up finding out FROM HER! He then told me everything and all that, he said his reasoning was that we were ina huge right and his brother was being charged and might goto jail and everything was bad. The girl and him took pictures of them making out! (all they did was makeout) but the fact is he cheated one... When I found out it was so long after when it happened that I said we could work it out... well 3 years later I still think about it once and while... and I know he totally regrets what he did and that I have "punished" him enough but what I don't get is even now I am totally jealous and insecure when he wants to go out with his friends, I always think he is gonna cheat on me and he is getting really annoyed with my constant assuming... I don't know what i can do to stop assuming that he will cheat, I love him and I know he loves me I wnat to spend the rest of my life with him but I am so scared that something will happen again... what should i do? Any thing I can do to help stop my worrying?

I think I would have the same problem too. Just tell him that since he cheated its still in your mind, and your scared of losing him. I think you should just not say anything about not trusting him because that will start fights. To trust him again, well..after he cheated, this whole time has he always been good to you, and does what he says he'll do??...if yes, then you should trust this guy. Everyone makes mistakes but once you cheat, you might cheat again. But who knows..its different for lots of guys..just trust in him and yeah. If he dcheats again, break it off.

Q: To give some background information, I am 14 years old (female). I am currently dating this amazing guy who is 16. He's a very very nice guy and I think that I'm falling in love with him. Well, I started dating when I was 12, yes I know that was young but I wanted to be "cool". My first boyfriend was from church (14) and I had this great friend (13)from my church. I always saw them flirting and I really didn't think much of it. One day, we were at a youth group meeting and I found the two of them making out behind the church and I was completely heart broken. I broke up with him and then I moved onto boyfriend #2 who was 15 and I was 12. He was still having sex with his ex girlfriend so that was the end of us. Finally (4 boyfriends after the one that had sex with his ex... all of the others cheated on me too...) I found this guy that was PERFECT... So I thought. We were together for 4 months and I was in love. He was the first guy that I said "I love you" to and actually meant it. Things in my life couldn't have been better. Then around our 3rd month of being together, he got on the subject of sex and I was like well, I want to wait a little bit because I'm not ready. He kept telling me "No you're ready, I love you blah blah blah." He was presuring me into having sex with him and I was going to give in. Luckily, I was having things going on in my family at the time and I could never see him so he broke up with me and I found out that he was cheating on me with some 17 year old girl ( He had sex with her) And she thought she was pregnant. I went into this depression and I was cutting and tried to commit suicide. About a month later I met this amazing guy named Tim. We've been dating for 5 and a half months now and I love him, I know I do. He had the same situation with his ex girlfriend, she started doing drugs and she cheated on him and she pressured him into having sex and he wasn't ready (They didn't have sex though.) The thing is, I'm still nervous as HELL to fall in love with him because I don't want to get my heart broken again... He's #7 and I want him to be the one... I really do but I'm so so so scared that I'm going to get hurt again. I've told him that and he tells me that he'd never do that to me, EVER. I've heard that line over and over again. I feel like I trust him, but I really don't know. Can anyone help me try to get over being paranoid?? I really feel like I love this guy and I want to make it last.

PS: He goes to a different school than I do.

Thank you SO much if you can help.... Sorry this was so long =/ I really need the help though.

Well hate to break it to you, but you guys will probably break up.. Right now, your at the age wwhere all your boyfriends are just for fun you know? It only starts getting serious when your like 18..or maybe even in your 20's. Something will happen, wether you find someone new, or he does...or the not going to the same schools thing will suck...so have fun while it lasts because it wont last forever.

Q: Ok, I've been rated 35 times and my column says I was rated 20 times. What's going on?

Actually, its every 30 days you start over with ratings. So yeah every thirsty days your ratings will get erased.

Q: Does anyone know any good songs that about like life and heart breaks and like you need that person back. Those kind of songs. Pretty much some emo songs lol. Can you PLEASE leave the song name and the band. Thanks a bunch!!

Ashlee Simpson has a lot of heart break songs (www.ashleesimpsonmusic.com), britney Spears does too (her song Everytime) but I dont know any like emo bands or whatever.

Q: hey i am just wondering if anyone knows who this song is by or what the title of the song is..
here is the part i know..

its lyke i think ur fine...u really blow my mind....maybe someday u and me can run away....i jus want u to know..i wanna be ur romeo....hey to the end....hey to the end.

thanks!!!

Hey if you go to www.letssingit.com and type in the lyrics you'll find the song!

Q: okay.. my two bestfriends do not like eachother and i dont know why but they cannot be around eachother. When I hang out with one of them the other one gets mad cuz she says I always ditch her. And if I go places with them together the one person will start talking about the other person and the other person will get upset. I've tried talking to them both but they won't be friends!!!! Its starting to really bother me! sry if this is confusing lol..someone help!!!

You need to talk to them both. tell them not to drag you into their problems, and you want to hang out with both of them. If the other person gets mad, tell them to deal with it because you want to be their friend. Harsh, a little..but they shouldent try to do that to you

Q: 14/f
I know alot of people have asked this question..but what are some good haloween costumes? I don't want anything "hot or sexy or sluttish" nothing like that cuz I'm going with some 7th graders..something original..and I don't want to spend too much money..plus I don't have too much at home..any ideas? I have to go to a party TONIGHT! Thanks!

A nurse, witch, Osama Bin laden..a mean girl, you could be a charachter from one of your favorite movies, a singer/actress. Hope I helped, good luck..you could just go to the store and look through all the costumes and find one you like. its faster that way.

Q: ok... our school is one of 2 high schools in the district... and srry if this is long.. but.. the other one had a "silently loud" protest the other day b/c the principle said they couldn't wear white, black, or pink t-shirts anymore... and the guys had to cut their hair... and the no one can wear black makeup....... like eyeshadow, lipstick, etc..... and now they wanna do that to our school... we are havin a protest on monday and everyone.. well.. mostly everyone.. is wearin black... everything black...... is there any other way to get them to realize that we mean buisness.???? thnx much.... i rate.. InsaneSanityBabi

Yah you could be like "I'm christian (or cathloic) so I can wear it if I want" once you say that they have to let you wear it. But good idea with the black thing, and whoever has jelly bracelts let them wear that too..good luck with this thing!

Q: i wanna know whats da differents between puppy love or love?

Puppy love is like 11,12,13 year old love..love love is like well you have strong feelings for that person and you could see yourself getting married and all..

Q: Okay to start im a 14-f. I went out with this kid lets call him Nick. So Nick and I went out for like a week and then broke up. After we were still friends and everything so one day I went to his house and we still liked each other and ended up having sex. Before we did this we promised eachother we wern't going to tell anyone at school. So the next day at school he tells like everyone! I was really mad and had a feeling who he told which was his ex-girlfriend so I went and talked to her and now hes mad at me for talking to her! I really like this guy and dont know what to do to make him not mad at me1 its just that everything is so stressing because everyone knowz bout us and stuff... plz help!
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What a jerk. Dont talk to him anymore. He broke your trust and now everyone in tha school is gonna talk crap. Dont ever be seen talking with him and if he trys to talk to you blow him off. Wow, that makes me mad...and tell everyone hes lying!

Q: i really like this one guy, the problem is he lives in mequon and i live in grafton, i figured out that he liked me last night and i love him so much, but he only wants to be friends w/ benifits bcuz a relationship wouldnt work out bcuz the distance..! i need help! *thanks*

I dont think friends with benefits is a good idea. Doesnt that make him seem he just wants to use you? Thats what I think..just be friends! If your friends with benefits you'll start liking him more and more and then you'll get your heart broken.

Q: Hi, my site is threedaysgrace_gurl! Anyway, I did alot of things to my column, but I was wondering if there were any sites that have like a list of questions (ex. What's your favorit color? or Do you have a boyfriend?) Stuff that I can answer and put on my column so people can see my bio and stuff! I appreciate it! Thanks so much! - Threedaysgrace_gurl!

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=shorties_surveys or http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=x_surveys_4u ...you'll find something! I like the second one the best. And on the left side column of the site, they have links to other peoples survey sites.

Q: i know this guy, i met him over the summer at camp and i think i might like him. the thing is we live 5 hours away from eachother... so we can't hang out but i think he likes me too. please help!

Well if he likes you too, I suggest just talking online, emailing, and on the phone. Relationships never work out when their is a distance. You may be like "Oh well nothing will happen between us" but theres a pretty good chance you or him will meet someone else, or you'll have a reaosn to break up. And not seeing him will kinda suck..so dont do it but be friends with him.

Q: I dont have my drivers license yet so what do I do to get one?

Go to your local DMV, sign up for classes and take your permit test. Then from there you take permit tests and licsence tests and behind the wheel and all. Good luck.

Q: there was this guy that i liked alot and he asked me to our homecoming dance like 3 weeks ahead and it was going good until right b4 homecoming i realized i didnt really like him like that nemore and i just wanted to be friends but i didnt want to tell him until after so it wouldnt be awkward so at the dance i was trying to not lead him on but he took it as i was ditching him and now he like hates me and i've tried appologizing and i dont know what else to do and its always unconfortable for me if im near him what should i say or do?

Just tell him why you were acting weird-you didnt like him as much but you guys can still be friends. If he doesnt want to be friends, well then oh well you have other people you can be friends with.

Q: this is a dumb question, but i really don't know...

what is PMSing? I heard that term a few times in the last few days and i didn't get it. plz help

Pre Menstral Sydrome(something you get before your period). Its just mood swings. One minute you can be all happy and one minute you can be all pissy at everyone. You get the moods when its before/on your period. Some people have it bad, some people dont..and you also get cramps and stuff

Q: At the end of the last school year, one of my best friends (Sarah) got a boyfriend and was always blowing me and our other best friend (Lorraine) off to hang out with her boyfriend. Over the summer they broke up and luckily Sarah's been her old self again, but Lorraine can't let go of the fact that Sarah used to blow us off for her guy. I've forgiven Sarah, but Lorraine hasn't, and now the two of them seem to be fighting over me to "get back at" the other. They're both trying to make plans with me and leave out the other, and it's driving me insane! I want to confront them about this, but how should I go about doing that?

Just say that if they dont want to be friends, fine...but they shouldent drag you into this problem. If they never want to hang out, just hang out with sarah alone and hang out with lorannie alone and tell them not to talk crap about eachother when your with them because you dont want to hear it. If you want them to be friends again, like sweetascandii said..MAKE them talk to eachother and get everything sorted out. Hope everythin works out!

Q: What are some really cute love song parts and quotes that I can put in my AIM info. Nothing too copied off of though. Thanks!! I rate all 5s!

www.firehotquotes.com~Go to song quotes or whatever. They have a lot!

Q: Hey girl! I love your column haha and your answers are always great! I have a question..how do you get so many people to ask you questions..I mean I've only had a few questions asked to me..I can make a big difference and I would love to help out everyone with their problems! Haha thanks girl!

Hey, the key is to get people to add you as their favorites. Click "Browse Columnists" under "Get advice" and go to columns and say "Hey, I'm Taliaa, can you put me under your favorites? My column is..." Also, click "View Questions" under give advice and answer questions! If you didnt know already, under View questions is questions that people ask for EVERY columnist to answer. Once you start answering lots and lots of questions under the "View questions" page, eventually someone will click your name and ask for help. Also every time you answer a question, your name shows up first on the "Browse Columnists" page..another way to get people to click your name. Having questions in your inbox, rarley happens. When I first started I got none and now I get 2 or 3 a week. And if you ask most people on here, they dont get messages in their inbox often too. So it takes time, but once you start to answer questions, have people add you as a favorite, people will find your column! Oh and when someone asks you a question, it will say "Inbox: 1(or more) new" Good luck with your column! xoxo~Sherry