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Q: ok i like this guy that all my friends think is a dork and they dont know i have a crush on him. you see i've started going to this school a couple of monthes ago and well i am sorta dignosed with paranoia. I have a real hard time opening up to people cuz my experience at my one other school and when i was there people that i thought were my friends told the whole grade who i liked and when it happened to them they didn't care to much but i did and now i'm afraid of telling my new friends about my crush and what they'll say. PLEASE HELP!

P.S. i'm really shy 2 so that might play into all this but i dont know ;)and i'm a 14 yr old female

Dont tell them. really. You always think you can tell your friends your secrets, but somehow they tell other people. Just keep it to yourself, but try to meet this kid and be friends with him and maybe more later on.

Q: okey dokey, my ex bf's friend asked me out n he never even met me. i said i had to meet him first and we would have to become friends before we went out. all my friends think that if i go out with him he is gonna rape me just cuz he's 15 (i'm 13) n he had sex b4. i will probably go out with him but i already let him know i dont drink smoke do drugs or have sex. he's okay w/ that but he talks about all this sexual stuff online to me. i wanna go out with him but how do i tell my friends he's not a bad person and how do i tell him that i dont really wanna talk about sexual stuff? thx, *PrEssUrEd*-p.s-i did some sexual stuff b4 just i didnt have sex and all my friends tell me to do sexual stuff

Well first off, tell the guy that if he ever talks about sex, or sexual things on the internet that your going to block him or never talk to him again. That shouuld make him stop. And I think he says he doesnt care that you wont have sex..because he's going to try to get you to do stuff anyway. I dont think he's a good idea. He seems desperate if he asked you out without knowing/seeing you. But if you dont care what I think, go for it..but with older guys tyhere could always be heartbreak..

Q: Don't take this the wrong way. I'm 13/f and I'm ok with the regualr sex (WHEN I'M MARRIED) But even though I'm too your to think about it, 69 and oral sex I'm scared of. I just really dont feel comfortable with the idea. I wouldn't wanna lick the boy's thing, and I wouldn't want his tounge "up there" please help me becuase I really am scared.

You dont have to do it if you dont want to. Just tell your husband/boyfriend that and he should be ok with it! You dont have to do anything you dont feel comfortable doing

Q: Mk, I really like this guy named Mike. This past summer he asked me out on a a date twice, but sadly I had to reject him due to some things that had been going on in my life. So far this school year, he wont talk to me, but he will stare at me all time. But he asked some other to homecoming. I cant figure out if he is just trying to make me jelious, or if he has given up on me...I really like him and I want to figure this out! Please help!!

Go up to him and tell him why you regected him and tell him you want to go out with him. He is probably just trying to move on since you regected him soo go up to him and tell him how you feel.

Q: Ok... so there is this guy, he is a senior. I am a freshman. He came over to my house this afternoon and at first we sat across the room from eachother and then he threw a pillow at me and the we got in a pillow fight and then my dad came downstairs and told me to behave so "adam" says yea sit down and behave and pointed to the seat next to him, so I say down, then he put his arm around me and we just flirted around for and hour. Do you think he likes me?
Thnkz

Umm Yes he could probably like you. But since he's a senior, your a freshmen it could mean only one thing. he's trying to do you..no offense but thats ually all it is. Seniors dont go out with freshmen unless they want something. But I'm not saying this for all guys, but theres a good chance all he wants is some sex.

Q: I fall for men to quickly and then end up getting hurt. It is usually when you like a guy they don't feel the same way or vice versa. Now, I don't technically like someone right now, but I'd like to find someone I can spend time with and get to know so that I know something will happen. Any adive? I am nice, attractive, open minded, opinionated, spiritual, funny, love sports, love to talk, and just have a good time. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but there has to be something. People are always telling me how beautiful I am, and then they end up asking me why I don't have a BF, and I ask myself the same questions. Thanks!

You just need to meet people through friends, at partys, and mostly, in school. Think about the guys in your classes..are any of them worth getting to know better? If yeah, go for it and if your not attracted to them that way..you can be friends. You need to be patient too, your time will come!

Q: I have a sister who is almost 18, and I am 16 and she treats me pretty badly. Now, I know that is typical for two sisters to do while both in high school. She doesn't have a lot of friends and not many people like her because she is rude to everyone and talks down to people a lot. I started high school this year, at a new school, and a lot of new people. Now, the people I have been going to school with for the past 6 or so years treated me horribly in Elementary school, so I left and went to another school. There I was treated bad to, so I decided to go back to the junior high everyone I knew was going to. My 9th grade year, I did alright, I became friends with people I never thought I would, but this year, because of my sisters reputation people are talking trash about me, and telling me I'm not worth there time. I don't really have any friends, I sit in the library at lunch, and most of the time I don't really talk to anyone. I was wondering if there was a way to meet new people, or some way to not let them judge me for who my sister is? It hurts to be left out, and forgotten by people because of someone else. Thank you.

join a club or sports team for school. The people that dont like you, are losers anyway and dont deserve to be your friends. Their losers because they judge you by how your sister is and thats stupid. Just join a club you like, or tryout for a team and you'll find a friend! Even if its not the most popular girl/guy at least you'll have a friend.

Q: okay so my boyfriend is turning 15 january 11th...im turning 15 decemeber 7th...im kinda already just THINKING of things to get him bc ive never had a serious bf lyke him and ive never got a guy a present...im kinda basing it on if he gets me a present then ill get him 1...but i reallie almost KNOW hes geting me one bc he gets me lil presents alot lyke when he went to vegas he got me a little keychain that sed my name...yannoe? just cute stuff like that but ii wanna get him something nice...hes a skater boii n he lykes H.I.M and BAM....ne ideas wat i coudl get him?

A skateboard? or a certificate to one of his skate shops or something..think about what he likes, where he gets the stuff from, and go to the place and buy something there or get a certificate.

Q: Ok, my boy friend is really nice and I've been waiting to talk to him for sometime now, but I haven't been able to see him and I feel as if I've been losing connection and I don't want to do that! Well, I have this really big cold sore, that I accidentally bit and it's really big! It's the size of my upper 1/2 of my thumb. Tomorrow is the only day I can see him this week but NO ONE can see me like this, let alone HIM!! What do I do?

I get cold sores, really really bad. But he is your boyfriend and he knows what you look like without a cold sore so i think you should go anyway. Put a band-aid on it or tell him not to make fun of it or anything. So yeah, hang out with him.

Q: Okay, I like this guy we will call him M. I only have one class with him, but he sits at my table so we talk all the time. So I asked my friend K to see what he thought of me and K was like M said you were cool and he doesn't know if he like likes you and he doesn't know you that well. So I was talking to one of my friends online and hes like you should go for it and ask him out. I just don't want to get hurt again so quickly after my last crush. I don't want to rush things but I really want a b/f. What do you think I should do?

thanks

ask him out but just as friends..be like "do u wanna hang out sometime with a bunch of my friends" and get to know him better that way. Once you both get to know eachother..then you could probably see if there is something or not. Just be patient and good luck.

Q: So I have been hooking up with this guy for a few monthes... lets call him josh. So josh is really cute and i do like hooking up with him. the only problem is, he is dating my ex-best friend. I havent hooked up with him while they have been dating, but i really want too, and im sure i could hook up with him if i wanted too. I go to a differant school then my ex-best friend but the same school as josh, only he is a grade older. I really wanna hook up with him again, but i dont know if I should because of his current girlfriend. Please help me. I don't want to be a slut for doing this, i just have liked him way before my ex-best friend has ever known him! (she basically stole him from me too)thanks for the help... i really appreciate all your responses!
- Katherine

Dont hook up with him if their going out. You could ask Josh if he likes you, and see if he wants to hook up and all..But he should break up with that girl first.

Q: hey im on my skool soccer team and we run soo much...we run for two hours every day! and at the end of the soccer season we go to track for t he rest of the year to keep us in shape for next yrs soccer season....im 5'2 and i weigh 124 lbs..im starting to get celulite on my butt and my thighs and not big but they r flabby same with my stomach and i kinda have love handels....should i lose this weight if im runnin so much? how much weight do u think i should be losing??

We wont know for sure-it depends on how fast your running and all. Just eat right and with the exercise you should be losing weight. But not in like a week, it might take weeks/months to see your weight go down. But thats healthy!

Q: erm...ok, I'm 13/f/ca, and next year I'm going to be a freshman in Highschool, I'm wanting for hopfully some...encouraging words. I"ve heard this kid saying I'll trashcan me cuz then he'll be a seinor. Do Seniors really make your Freshman year a living hell? how bad is it really? I need the truth really, cuz some people say you're never trashcaned in highschool, and others say Seniors are made to make Freshmans lives year a living hell.

pleaaaaaase help!!

signed,
Paranoid

Everyone was scared at the end of the 8th grade, but when it came to the first day of high school..Nothing happened. The rumors arent true, and freshmen year was fun! Just dont get in fights with the upperclassmen. Oh encouraging words, you can do it! haha...do your homework, dont slack off. Because its not like middle school, if you fail in middle skool u can go onto highschool. but if you fail in high school you have to take the class over! so work hard and join clubs or teams so you can meet new people.

Q: thiz guy we'll call him "bob" well bob is a really good friend of mine and we like each other well on aim the other nite i wrote in the wrong box "the condoms are in the pantie drawr" n he got it instead of mi friend n i realli dont hav condoms in thur mi friend sed she dose and so i 4got 2 put the ? at the bak so i was talking to him and he was like so can i come over so we can use the condoms and i was like i seriously dont have any but u can come over any way and he was lik sure but now he thinks i keep condoms and im only 14!!! so i dont know what to do now!

please help

thnx

Just tell him you dont, and that your not like that...or have your friend IM him and say she has condoms not you and if he doesnt believe you then forget it..

Q: Hey i was wondering if anyone knew any jobs for 14 yearoldz? im 13 but im turning 14 in december so im planning on looking for a job as soon as i turn 14 but if you know of any jobs at all that would take a 14 year old please tell me! thanks

Depends on where you live. Grocery stores and fast food places will probably give you a job.

Q: What would you tell a friend that you were talking to online that was going to die in 20 minutes because he/she just stabbed themselves in the stomach?

Call the cops!!! If he was just joking you cant take the chance call the cops

Q: ok theres this girl and shes a year older than me and she goes to my school ok yeah and some one gave her my sn and now she wont leave me alone i ahve profiels and stuff so she leaves messages in my guestbook alwaysz constatly call ing me fata$$ or b**** or anythign u can think of and shes annoying she sayz this stuff at school and im not a narc so im not telling on her but i wann kick her a** but i know i will get in depp trouble what do i do to put her in her place and make her shut up!?

Block her from your screen name, and make new profiles and stuff. So that wa she wont know the links. You should just ignore her at school, try as best as you can and if she still bugs you should go up to her and talk to her, or yell at her.

Q: So my boyfriend and I, both almost 18, were together for nearly 11 months, virtually every single day. We were inseparable. We'll both be going to college next year, and we were planning on moving somewhere away and finding an apartment together. There was even tentative talk of marriage. I felt like I could really see where my future was headed. I was so completely in love.

But then he tells me, one month ago tomorrow, that it's just not working out. He says he doesn't feel the same anymore, and that he can't give his whole life to me. I was completely devastated and cried for days straight.

He's the most wonderful person I've ever met. We share our group of friends, so we agreed that we would both try our best to stay friends and avoid awkwardness, and forcing people to choose sides.
So I'm still around him all the time, and every time I see him or talk to him, I'm just reminded of all the reasons I fell in love with him and everything that I've lost. It just sends me spiralling into sadness all over again.

But he's helped me so much with so many things. He brightens my day, and he's a genuinely good person. I don't blame him at all for what happened. I can't bear to lose him completely, but how else can I get these thoughts and feelings out of my head?!

You need to find someone new. You know that a relationship with him wont work out so you need to start looking for new guys. Is there any co-workers, class-mates, etc. that you might like or want to get to know better? if yeah, go for it..you need to see new people and when your with the new person you wont be in pain anymore.

Q: I'm 13/f and I got my period about 5 months ago. I heard you start to get breasts after 2 years. is this true?? just wondering. Thanks.

Nope its not true, because I had boobs way before the 2 year mark. It all depends on the girl. Not really on your period..

Q: I bought "Dark age of Camelot" at a yard sale and it says a I need a "CD key" to play it and the slip inside the cover wasn't with the game so anyone who has that game please give me the number in the white box in that booklet.

If you dont get anyone on here that will give you the code. I suggest going to the place were you got it from and ask for it, and if they dont have it..get ur money back.