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Q: My friends and I have recently become interested in playing card games. But, the problem is, we've played the following games so much that we're sick of them:
five card draw
texax holdem
bullcrap
spades
crazy eights
speed
indian poker
go fish
and a few others that I can't remember. Does anyone have any good card game ideas? They need to be fun and easy to play- I just need some new games. Thanks! I rate fives for good answers.

I'm sorry, but egyptian rat screw and spoons aren't real card games, no matter how fun they are.

You want good card games? I'll give you the best fucking game out there. But I'm warning you- you might never play another card game.

Euchre. (pronounced 'You-Kerr')

Yes. http://www.pagat.com/euchre/euchre.html

The number one rule in Euchre- Never let someone off easy. Always try to dick them over. It's an amazing game, and it has a perfect balance between strategy and autonomy.

Q: Ok this guy asked me who my last boyfriend was, and i havent had a boyfriend since 2nd grade and im 16. What do i say? i dont want to tell him the truth haha.

A lot of guys think it's kind of cool if a girl hasn't had a boyfriend at all. Tell him the truth. Guys get pissed if you tell them anything else.

Q: Okay, so theres this boy..and he was in my class last year and i thought he was rele weird but this year he was in one of my classes and now i rele like him.. like ALOT ! i dont know what to do because we are in two diffrent groups in school and i dont know if he likes me or not.. because sometimes i see him looking at me but i dont know.. we dont rele talk or anything just like..once or twice he asked to borrow my pencil...so its not like we even talk about anything so i seriously dont know waht to do please help oh yeah im a g/15

If you have class with him, start by talking to him about class. Ask what the homework was, if he got it, if not pretend that you didn't either (when you both have to complain about the same thing, conversation is a peice of cake). Once you're more comfortable talking to him you can start figuring out if he's actually the kind of guy you'd like to be with. Find out what he's into and ask him about it. Don't play 'head games', either. They don't work, ever.

Q:
My best friend spends WAY too much time with her bf and whenever I try to tell her she gets mad and calls me selfish. She does EVERYTHING with him now and I think she likes him more than me. What can I do?

Of course she likes him more than you. He's her boyfriend. That being said, if it bothers you that you guys don't get to hang out anymore, try and convince her to have a girls night out sometime soon.

Q: i always find the wrong guy!my last boyfriend was totally abusive!he would hurt me a lot..now im with this guy Zach and he FLIPS out over every little thing. like we went to the mall and we were holding hands and that, then i saw my friend Joe and i gave him a hug and after zach was like "your such a f**king hoe if you ever cheat on me again ill break up with you"..i guess i deserved that.then i went to go get some big cookies and he wanted a medium and they were outta medium so i got him large and he flipped out..what should i do!?

Actually, hugging another guy in front of your boyfriend is perfectly fine. As long as it's like *hug* hey, nice to see you, talk to you later!* I could understand him getting annoyed if it was an intimate hug followed by a lengthy conversation in which he did not participate, but jesus, he said you 'cheated' on him for HUGGING someone?

Any guy who is that possessive is a dick sucking mother fucking cock sucker who will make your life miserable because that's what his is.

Slap him. Then break up with him.

Q: Were Romans the first homosexuals sort of? This is research for an essay for gay rights. Also, it's okay to call women and men gay but only women can be lesbian, right?

In the beginning, Ug saw Klug's penis. The two caveman fell in love and had sexual relations on a hillside. Due to their nature, they failed to reproduce, and it wasn't for another 5,000 years that mankind successful sustained itself as homosapiens.

Total crap, but imagine if you got your teacher to believe it.

Here is a little snippet: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sappho

Sappho constantly referred to love between females in poems and such, and the greeks predated the romans slightly. Not sure exactly when same-sex-ugly-bumping first came about, but mentioning this is sure to look good.

Depending on how politically correct the teacher is, you might want to decide on how you wanna refer to them.

Q: My guy friend puts his hand on everyone's shoulder (guys and girls) when he's talking to them or whatever, standing or walking through the hallways. What's up with that?

Not to sound racist even if it will, but if he's spanish, it's because their culture is a little more touchy-feely. They've done studies. *nod*

On the other hand, I do it to, when I come up to someone to get their attention. Like, "Hey *shoulder touch* what's up? *shoulder release*" A momentary thing. If he leaves it there, I bet it gets pretty akward.

Q: I don’t really have a problem with porn per say, it’s just every guy I’ve known well enough (i.e. have dated seriously or am related too) seems to be addicted to it.

Now my boyfriend has confessed that lately he can’t go a day without watching porn, and sometimes is watching it two or three times a day. He has been late to meet me several times and is having issues handing work in on time. He hasn’t said it, but I think porn is the distraction.

So I want your opinion, how much is too much? (Obviously my boy knows he has a problem and is going to work on it) And what should I say to him? I’m stuck between telling him he ought to give it up and just trying to be supportive with scaling back because I think that’s all he plans on doing. I just figure; if you can’t manage it in moderation, stay the hell away from it.

Beyond all that, I’m getting a little ticked off honestly. I wouldn’t mind once and while when I’m not around, but this is just insulting. I know he’s under a lot of stress right now, but come on.

Do NOT tell him to stop watching porn. Saying something like, "If you love me, you won't do it." is absurd, because every male on the planet watches porn. Most use it as a way to enhance pleasure during wank-sessions. However, most do it every so often, not thrice daily.
You do need to ask him why he does it so often. If you're in the point in your relationship where sex is not some great idealogical thing anymore, ask him if there's anything new he wants you to try.
He should definitely appreciate the fact that you're really level headed about this. If he doesn't, smack-a-bitch.

Q: im m 17 and im going out with a girl who is 15 we have been going out 5 months 18 days now and we use to spend every minute we could together and we both say we love eachother alot (which i am sure i do) but recently shes been wanting more time with her friends but thats not wat bothers me, wat bothers me is that now even when i make plans with her, l8r on if her friends make plans with her shell jsut skip mine and her plans and jsut go off with her friends, ive talked to her about it last night and i believed everything was alright again she said she wanted to c me i said i wanted to c her so i told her not to make plans for sunday cause wed do something she said ok then she had to go so she said shed call me today(saturday), but it seems she didnt call me and she has gone off with her friends again, and she has plans with her friends tomorrow aswell totally making me feel insignificant compared to her friends like she has mostly this week. earlier on in the week i was talking to her and she could come up with anything to say all she said was "then y dont u just dump me, i dont want break up but if its really that bad then....?, i need to know is she leading me on?, is this a test?, she says she loves me still but how do i know shes telling the truth?, wat do i do? i love her so much but i dont know how much of this i can take, wat should i do?

The fact that she's two years younger than you, and you know exactly how many days you've been dating likely means that the relationship is more serious for you than it is for her. Talk to her about it again, and if she tells you do dump her again, call her bluff. Bitches like that ain't shit, and it would not be worth it any longer, no matter how great the 5 months and 18 days were.

Q: ok here's the deal.......me and my boyfriend have bin going out for 5 months now and it would have bin 6 if we hadn't we hadnt bin waiting to make sure thats what we wanted and going out with the same guy for that long is a recorde for me lol anyways i know i'm totally and completly in love.....my question is......am i stupid to think this guy is the one......some people say i am because i'm only seventeen but my mom described to me when she met my dad she just knew and thats how i feel like i just know he's the guy i want to spend the rest of my life with......what do you think?

thanks in advance

If this is the longest you've ever gone out with a guy, it could be a specific feeling that comes with this duration of a relationship. Talk to him about it if you want. But honestly, a teenage guy doesn't have marriage on his mind.

Q: It's almost my boyfriend and I's 2 month anniversary... do I get him something or just ignore it? If I should get him something what should it be?

Don't make a big deal about it. Give him a kiss and go out to lunch or something.

And remember, "anniversary" denotes one year. So it's technically 1/6th of an anniversary.

Q: What kind of jobs are out there for 15 year olds? i live in pittsburgh by the way.

Grocery stores let you work more hours than most places; but let's not beat around the bush, working at a grocery store sucks. See if you can get a job at an Ice Cream shop or something like that. They usually hire at around 14 or 15, and you get to make ice cream. Think about it.

Q: ok i am going out with this kid, i really like him alot. He likes me to but i also think he like my best friend. The first week we were going out my best friend kissed him but i forgave him because that is how much i like him. But do you think that i should ask him to stop flirting with her or dump me?

please help me :'(

confussed luv

I wouldn't put it so blunlty as "Pick her or me, buddy. Right here, right now." He'll probably hate you for it, and that'll effect his decision. I would, however, bring up the flirting. Not anything like, "Why the hell are you doing that?!" but, you know, more subtle.

Q: hey! our school is doing the musical "The Music Man". I was wondering who the lead guy is in it. Thanks alot!

http://www.endresnet.com/mminfo.html#CHARACTERS

Harold Hill.

Q: Whenever I shave my armpit, I get red bumps in there and the hair still looks like I didn't shave it. Like there is still "stubble" (kinda i guess) left there. I only use water to shave, so is it that? My razor is a pretty good razor. It's not disposable. Is it that I need a new blade? Please help, the red bumps look really weird/ugly, I want to get of rid of them ASAP! (and prevent them from appearing again!) THANKS!

You should start using shaving cream. It helps you get a closer shave wherever it is you happen to be shaving. Also, you might want to change the blade if the conditioning strips are totally faded, or if you've had it for a month or something.

Q: I really like to act and the auditions for the school play are in december. I do a lot of acting outside of school. I have been acting ever since 1st grade. At the moment I am taking 2 theatre classes. But last year I didn't get into the school play. I was actually crying. I knew I could do it but I didn't. The problem is, I can't sing and the play is always a musical. When I act in front of people it's a peice of cake but when I sing I just can't do it. I really want to be in this play! Any advice? I'll rate a 5 if the advice is helpful.

I have to admit this: it SUCKS that the only play your school does all year long is a musical. I'd try and get them to add at least ONE non-musical play.

But for this situation, I think you should tell the director or casting person at some point that you are really, really passionate about being part of the production, and just want to be a part of it. Also, go ahead an audition for one of the singing parts, but tell them you'd like to be considered for any part in the play. If they see that your acting is really good, they won't 'waste' you.

Q: I really need help, Last year I liked this guy lets call him Dan well Dan and I were talking and liked each other last year but I had a boyfriend last year. Then about 5 months later he said to me that he was just using me for a piece of a$$ but then this year apologized and said it was because I wasn’t giving him the time of day and sort of leading him on. Which is true I didn’t break it off for with my boyfriend and was still talking to him. Now we both like echoer again but hi am going out with someone that I really love to death but for some reason I really like Dan still. And my boyfriend HATES san with a passion and wants to beat him up but I defend Dan and my boyfriend wonders why but I just say because Dan’s like my best friend. So, my question is… should I stay with my boyfriend or go with Dan. Also I want to say that my boyfriend was drunk one night and kissed a girl on the cheek (a girl I hate!!) so that’s another reason why I’m confused. Please help me I’ve been confused for so long

If you really love your boyfriend, and really like dan, stay with your boyfriend. Honestly, it's kind of hypocritical of you to think of you boyfriend less for maybe having feelings for another person. Don't you?

Q: I do 25 crunches and 25 push-ups everyday. I plan to do more as I become better at it. I am trying to eat better, also. Is there anything else I should do to lose weight?

Try out biking or jogging (or other related activities, like badminton) and see if you get into it. I started riding my bike and ended up loving it. Helped me shed some pounds.

Q: iimm like 125 pounds!!!!! i am only 14 and i am like 5 feet dont u think thats wicked fat!?!?!? well what should i do to get skiinny i feel like a fat cow and i dont like to wear athingsuites and stuff infront off people i need to get skinny by summer what hsould i do? i rate high!!

I was overweight, once upon a time. I started trying to stop eating as soon as I was full at meals, you know? Eating until I was satasfied even, not even until I was "Full". I used to snack right when I got home from school, too. Stopped doing that. Overtime I lost like 25 pounds because I eventually ended up needing to eat less. It all has to do with the size of your stomach. If your stomach is smaller, you'll get full faster, eat less food, consume fewer calories, lose weight. I hope I helped.

Q: do guys like it when girls shave you know where or do they like it trimmed better

I'm a 16 year old dude. We talk about these things. I've never heard anyone say they like a "landing strip".

And there isn't anyone who doesn't like a "bald" one.