Hey I'm Stephen, I'm 20, I'm pretty athletic, I have blackish hair, and brown eyes. 6'1.
Website: Thoughts of just some other guy on the earth
Gender: Male
Location: Orlando, Fl
Occupation: Student
Age: 20
Member Since: January 1, 2005
Answers: 32
Last Update: August 27, 2005
Visitors: 4003
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well ok i really want to have sex but im afraid if i have sex with some 1 at my school then every 1 will find out..... (link)
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well...I suggest finding someone that you trust a lot...and are sexually attracted to, and go out with them...and things will take their course, and eventually, sex will happen...and you wont be called a slut/manwhore, or be looked down upon, because 1 you're together, and most likely, you'd be together for a while, and 2, if you trust them, and tell them not to tell anyone, they probably wont. So, find someone you trust, and like and everything, and hook up with them...you won't be called something bad or have people hate you. and they most likely won't tell anyone depending on who it is..
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I am confused... i have these friends and they do alot of drugs, its not that im aigainst drugs or anything but i just feel like i cant keep up with them anymore. Their really good people and i love them and they love me ... so what do i do? (link)
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woah...hmm....drugs are bad, lol, you can't keep up wit hthem anymore...what does that mean for, one...and second of all...you can still be friends with them and not do everythnig they do, i mean, depending on how into it they are, ya know...because i mean, if they eat, sleep, and live coke, you might not want to hang around so much anymore, ya know, but if you're set with them doin that stuff then i guess you'll just have to sit around and not do it, because that stuff'll mess you up, you know? so, just kinda sit tight, and you can all be friends forever, but they'll be high all the time, and you won't.
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uhhh......i really want a b/f but i might be moveing what should i do because i dont want to lead a guy on and then just leave and never see him again cuz that would be retarded.... (link)
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Well to be honest, i have a question about your question, so you should probably tell me the answer to that later, but, do you just want a boyfriend to have a boyfriend, or do you want a certain guy to be your boyfriend, or both? and well, i've been in this situation before..I likes a girl who liked me, but she was moving at the end of summer so we never did anything about it. Relatively close to after she moved away, I totally regretted not doing anything about it, and i wish i would have to this day. I mean...don't forget you're only 15, so it's not that big of a deal if you move away, while your bf, or almost bf or whatever lives here, because you'll just have to call it off, but atleast you guys had fun while you lived here...and I don't think it's fair to you for go without that special guy, for 6 months or whatever just because you're moving, and also, what if it turns out you're not moving and you didn't do anything about both of you liking each other, and now that special guy doesn't like you anymore and you feel like an idiot..ya know? so, i say, go with having a boyfriend, or lookign into having one regardless of the fact that you might be moving, because i didn't do anything, and trust me, i realized it sucked real quick.
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i thought i liked someone and i guess i kind of led them on that way. but now i dont-i find them incredibly annoying and i dont know how to hint that im just not into him without hurting his feelings (link)
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Personaly, I like honest, truthful answers, if you decided you don't like him...come out and tell him, if you said to him that you like him, and he said he liked you to, then i guess he'll probably be more hurt then not..so I guess, just come out and tell him so that way you don't have to continue to be annoyed with him any more, if you tell him what's up then he'll know, and i know it's esier for me to say then for you to do it, but i think that's just the best way to go..if you don't wanna use that approch, then maybe just..cuting down the communication between you to would be better, like, not calling him(if you did) or having to go early when he calls you, not answering IMs, or answering them, and responding really slowly, or not at all without an excuse, and he'll get the idea, most likely. It really depends on the guy, and what you said, and what he said, and how you guys acted before you decided he was annoying.
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what would you suspose happen if your brain turned into giggly-jello? if you were nefarious would you like yourself, i dont think i'd like you to much? if one were to start randomly screaming in french would you laugh, or try to listen? i bet you will never guess of who this is, and at that i laugh inside. so i am going to show you a couple of my poems, to make you wonder...
What calls?
What is the sun?
Who can describe a wrinkle in time?
A place in time,
To stop and think,
Stop and ponder,
About the day.
Looking back,
Facing forward,
Finding your thoughts.
Loosing your train,
Coming back to where you ended.
Facing the day,
Ending the night.
What calls on you?
What calls about you?
Do you serve a purpose,
I bet you do.
Are you the one calling me,
Do you want to be the one leading me through this tunnel,
The tunnel of life.
Will the tunnel end,
Or does it go on forever?
Are you the creator of life?
Are you the one responsible for this madness,
That they call sanity?
Do you want to be the one who feeds all the hungry children?
Do want all the lost lives laying on your hands,
Are you responsible for the deaths of innocent people?
Are you the killer of man kind,
Or are you just one of us?
here you go, just some of my work passed on for you to read. have fun with it, when you finally find out who this is, let me know. au revior as the french do say. good bye my dear sir. (link)
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I like the poems however i have absolutely no idea who this is whatsoever.
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I blame hormones, really, but there are so many interesting girls out there this year, and I feel kind of odd for considering them all as "Candidates." I mean, that's the only way I can think of it, and it's not like I think I can just look are a girl and make her al mushy gushy, but a LOT of girls like me (Obviously I don't like any of them, I wouldn't be asking this question) and it's kind of nice for a change. I used to be overweight and ugly, and I don't know what to do with my newfound... Freedom?
What's really weird is most of them are freshman who I've known for a while, but not until now have I found them attractive.
Any thoughts/advice in general? (link)
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well, hell, take advantage of it if you're the latest fad, run with it, everyone loves you so now you are loved. Candidates is how they should be viewed because as of now, that's what they are, just keep on being you and people will take notice pick out an elite few, and feel it out for the right one, it's all up to you.
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so, say you like this guy.
and have, for a few months.
he knows, but doesn't actually feel the same way.
you'd like to have a friendship with this guy
but everytime you talk to him you sound like a complete idiot because your mind turns into jello.
any advice on how to be...normal?
-jelloid. (link)
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umm...once you get a friendship with him, talking will be extremely easy, so like, friendship=no jello, it's really quite simple for me to say, but harder for you...baby steps...baby steps..
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What if you knew this... Person... And you used to really care about them but, they never really cared about you... And some bad stuff happened and you two didn't talk, but over the past several days you guys have talked a few times... But you are afraid of that person because they are really cold hearted and don't have ANY good in them and you are like terrified of them. And your best friend that is also good friends with her/him told you that it was a good possibility that, that person is only talking to you to see what they can get out of you and see how much they can control you? I mean that's kind of terrible when a kid is best friends with both of them and he says that the mean kid is only talking to you to see how much power he/she has over you isn't? That's just plain sad too... Anyway, what would you do if you were afraid of them? And I mean like literally scared of them... And had the mind set that they are pretty much just using you? (And yeah surprisingly this is a serious question. Sorry if it doesn't make much sense to you though...) (link)
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umm...i kinda lost you a little bit during that but uhm..well...if your friend is friends with you that really mean person, i guess he should know how that really mean person is..if he says that mean person is mean and trying to use you...idk...they probably are, depending on how much faith you have in that friend.
so yeah
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ok there is this guy name josh and we went out over the summer then broke up a day before school started. I still like him. we havent tlaked in a while but the other day we did a little bit. Last week my friend asked him would he ever go back out with me, and he just smiled. but he has a girlfriend. Also, alst week someone asked him would he ever go out wth this girl name brooke nad he said nnooo .. but he didnt say yes or no when someone asked about me. Then wed. at church, he sat near me and we talked in a group for a little bit. Do you think he still likes me? what should i do? im 14 and female (link)
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Most likely. it seems to relly be looking that way. you should start talking again.
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to make a very very very long story short, me (13/f), my sis (14/f), and 1 of our best friends (13/m) are all Best friends. but after an incedent the other night, me and my sis are thinkin that he is starting to like my sis, because he grabs her, he calls her his WIT (wife in training) and we thought it was all a joke, but now were rethinking it. aslo, shes starting to like him, at first she wants to, then she doesnt want to, then she does, and it goes on and on and on, i need some advice, should she go out with him, or just leave it as friends, i would really love for u to help (link)
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hmm, they should prolly keep things going, and progressing the way that they are for now, i mean, is it a "go out, or don't go out" altamatum? if things keep going, they should go out..
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I don't like myself, every tiny detail about myself. I hate my appearance... My hair, my face, my teeth, my hands, my eyebrows, chest, stomach, back, arms, etc... I hate every characteristic of my personality, every last one. What should I do?
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Bullspit. everyone has likeably characteristics, ganted, some moreso, and moreover then others, but everyone, no matter how sometimes you'd like to belive that they dont...has something extrodinarily good about them. You obviously have a low selfesteem, and don't seem to have too good of personal reguard for yourself, nownow, we're not talking "Extreme mackover here" we're talking, "wake up you big stupid." Sometimes, you can't see in yourself what other people see in you, you don't see the magnificant shining pearl white swan that others see, you only see the nasty old ugly duckling...sorry for relating it to disney movies...but...Everyone seems to go through a self-hating time period at least once in their life. I had a huge down time in my life, and still sometimes don't exactly think highly of myself, but then, sometimes...I just realize a few things...
1. I do have friends, and they wouldn't stick around if i was this horrible godaweful person...and i mean..it's not like they're my friends for my looks, or for money or anything..so, i can't be too too bad of a guy.
2. I have a family that loves me and will be there for me through thick and thin, even if I am a bit of a butthole..
3. I'd like to think of myself as a good person, I'm caring, I'm there for people (most of the time, granted they're not being stupid) and sometimes..people might need me
4. it's all about effort, as long as I'm still trying, and I'm still going at it, I'm better then all of those who have quit, or died trying to be where I am.
5. I do have a use in life, I'm here for a reason, I was borne to do things.
those are only a few...but most of what you outlined happened to be physical characteristics, and then you summed up hating your personality in just one big group, I don't nkow about you, but that shows that you are less favorable of your physical appearance then your overall personality due to its representation in the question you posted...maybe, and quite possibly I'm over analyzing your stated question, but hey, what the heck..I'm allowed.
Personality.
This is where I attack your question because I know who you are. Just hush. Seriously, there is no way in hell you can hate every fiber of your being and be existing. Don't you feel that those around you, such as myself, have to like, and want to be around you for a reason, or are you to the point where you trhink they're all insane wacko-losers because of it? That many people can't be wrong. When it comes to physical appearance, things can go many ways, and mean many things. Most people, I'd probably say about 80% (but that's just a guess) do not like some trait about their body. Personally, I think I'm a skinny weird looking lump of genes, and that I'm not all that great looking, I mean, looking at me won't scare people away or kill small animals or anything, but I'm just not "hott" or anything. I'm "alright" you know, kinda a next door neighbor that you can tolerate looking at for short periods of time to get the paper in the morning type stuff. lol. when it comes down to it, you're gorgeous. Especially on the inside. And no one, no one should ever make you feel that you are not a unique wonderfully diverse awesome person, because if they do, intentionally, then they are the scum of the earth.
hope that was somewhat close to something somewhat close to something relative to something you where expecting, somewhat.
_Stephen, by the way, we can all learn from me, because I am crazy, and sometimes crazy bums in the D.C. Metro make sense. (N.Y. subway as well..don't mean to leave my newspaper homies down in the projects out!! REPREP!)
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All right, two of my friends like each ther. No harm there right? Wrong to them. Yous ee my guy friend is in 8th grade wile the girl he likes is in 6th grade. They both want to go out with eachother but they can't and the reason isn't the grade difference. The reason is that the guys basketball coach is the girl's geograpy teacher. And the teacher gets mad when the girl takes about the guy during class so he yells at the guy at practice. The guy doesn't want to get in trouble and the girl doesn't want to get him in trouble. I say they're both wimps but ya know. What can I say to help them in the slightest way? It's getting on my nerves. LOL.
jessica ann (link)
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I don't care. lol....umm....they should suck it up.
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my friend says he's in "love", and the the one he "loves", "loves" him back, but won't go out with him cause she likes some other guy. can i beat him in the head and tell him to get over it?
all humans are idiots (link)
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get a big stick.
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okay...here goes....i'm 15..female...he is 14....i kinda like this guy..and he kinda likes me...but i love my ex....and he isn't over his....so niether of us are ready for a relationship....but i really like him...so i decided that i might ask him to be my valentine...now i am having doubts...because i haven't exactly been that trustworthy....so i think he may be mad at me....plus i also just had another fight with my ex....so i'm upset about that...so i don't know if i should ask him to be mine on vday....i already have the card...now i'm just debating on wether to give it to him...i don't want to be lonely...but i don't want to push him or get too involved just yet in a serious relationship...help :\? (link)
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You like you ex, and your ex likes you, but you're both not over you other ex's, and some other dude likes you....wow...look at the mess you've made...well...first question to ask yourself is...why didn't it work out between you...you mentioned trustworthy-ness, ouch, that's a tuffy..well..personally, i just say..wait and see what happens, but if i were you...i'd give him the card, but it depends what it has in it, normally ex's will still have some sort of feeling for each other, no matter how long ago it was..so just give him the card...she how he reacts, and about getting over other ex's, that'll happen in time...and if the ex that you love is trustworthy you think, go out with him....the new guy....eh...just see what happens...i guess sepnd some time with him...play it out, test the water, see how you feel about him..
hope this helps somewhat,
Stephen
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so, there is this friend of mine who likes this girl. and this girl is still coping with another guy. so she doesn't really feel the same way.
and this friend of mine is sad about it. and I don't know what to do.
but I just wanted to somehow let him know a couple of things.
a: he doesn't have to lie to me, and I really wish he wouldn't. if he is worried about me telling the girl, I won't.
b: I care about him. I wanted to let him know that I am there for him no matter what. I don't care if he is a major asshole, I hope he doesn't expect me to just let that be. I'll leave him alone, or beat up the girl, or buy him flowers.
c: it'll get better. he'll eventually get over her, and though it really means nothing now, it's the truth.
d: once again, I really wish he wouldn't lie to me.
e: I know this isn't a question, but I'm gay and told him I'd talk to him in a few days. (link)
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Thankyou casey. You're a real sport.
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what happens when he's your prince charming but im not his cinderella. should i just move on? (link)
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probably, does he have a cinderella? if so, there's only one ending to that book that i know of..but no one says there wasn't a sequel.
Don't forget the prince tried for a long time to find the foot that fit the slipper.
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There goes my heart
Breaking in two
There goes my eyes
Crying over you
My arms don't want
For us to part
So when you go
Here comes the blues
There goes my heart
Wasn't I good to you
Didn't I show it
And if I ever hurt you
I didn't know it
If you think I don't care
Then you're mistaken
My love was always there
But now my heart's breakin'
Oh baby what a crying shame
To let it all slip away
And call it yesterday
Oh baby my life would be so blue
My heart would break in two
Oh what a crying shame
Darlin' you don't have to love me, just pretend.
this makes me sad, kiddo.
i love you more than anything.
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I'm sorry it makes you sad, and you lie.
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hey there man, i figured since you werent getting no lovin that i would ask a few since im pretty fucked up in the head and cant think for myself...i like this girl..no infact i love her but i know that i cant be with her because we always fight no matter what even on a good day shes really great even though every thing i do she doesnt even notice. shes cheated and all but still love her...now im in the situation to where a guy she did stuff with wants to beat my ass because i mad when she fucked him...of course im gonna be pissed though?? right?? but anyway i was wondering if its all worth it or should i forget about her or forgive and forget??
2. how do i make myself happier in life seams like its all shit and going down the drain for nothing wondering if im gonna graduate i know i can but just not motivated because of being depressed so much but this also affects the above situation because while im depressed i dont care to make things right between the girl and I.
3.the girls parents hate me along with her brother i believe i dont know what to do cause i never meant to make them hate me infact i sorta looked up to them what the hell do i do man?
4. i smoke and i dont want to but i cant...addicted....i hate it all my friends smoke every fuckin one of them and girls normally dont like it to much so how do i quit besides using that fuckin patch bullshit....
5. back to the above question numero uno the girl that i was talking about she like changes for me and i dont want her to i want her to be herself..and she wont be herself she feels she almost has to be me i guess i dont know though what do i do??
thanks, bruised (link)
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wow, that's a lot to handle. lets break em down, and take em one at a time.
1. the girl problem.
She's cheated. that's not a good thing, but you still love, and in the act of still loveing her, you have to have forgave her because you can't love someone you can't forgive. She doesn't ntoice the things you do for her? not many people do, you just should make things more prominant, when someone expects something, when they get it, it isn't as noticeable as when they weren't expecting it. Try to do or give her something she doesn't expect...flowers for no reason? *ahemnudgenudge* She fucked some other guy...that's never good...you love her and the guy she had sex with wants to beat your ass...hmm...i gots no idea..are you positive they had sex? or, are you just speculating? think that one through.
2. being motavated, even the over achievers have to deal with it, you're a senior, I'm guessing, so graduating should be on the top of your list, you don't want to be a super senior, or have to get a GED or anything, so really you should focus on school...even I'm an unmotavated loser a lot, but I'm not a senior..try to remove yourself from stressful situations, school, that should be the easy part, as a senior you pretty much have bogus classes, just work to get through them and pass, if your school life, and home life are good, you really shouldn't be stressed, then you can focus on the girl, and you won't be as/at all depressed and it'll be easier to handle. does she know you still love her?
3. If things went bad between you and the girl, then the parents and brother had to react negitively, because during the/a breakup it might have effected her a lot and the family had to deal with it, if the girl cries, and it's over a guy, the family is goign to all of a sudden have a negitive oppion of him, even if they didn't beforehand. if things get better with the girl, things will get better with the family too. or you could try to engage the family, or the brother because you'd probably have easier acess to him.
4. you smoke, don't want to...all your friends do it..try to find one of them who wonts to quit as well it'll be easier if you could do like a buddy system..don't buy anymore, and refuse them from friends, if you don't buy anymore, you won't smoke, not only that, but they rob your cash too...your friends all smoke, maybe they'll wise up after you tell them how you feel, don't let girls be the only reason you want to stop tho..
5. back to the girl, she changes for you,and you don't want her too, tell her that, even tho everybody changes a little for everybody, things wear off on people but if you tell her that, and get the point across, it might happen less, and she might be more aware of it.
hope i helped,
Stephen.
P.S. I think I know who this is. If so, contact the brother.
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I have a really big problem. Well, actually, it's a really little problem. My GF has some issues with my equipment. Lets just say it ain't quite crunk. She's really sweet about it but I know she is dissapointed. Any insight?
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well, not hung. (link)
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I've got nothing, when it comes to your anatamy, you really have nothing to with it, so i mean, it really shouldn't matter to her, and atleast she's sweet about it but there's not much to say about a question like this, ya know....there's really nothing I can say about this except, well, goodluck, and I'm sorry, i guess, but even if she's dissapointed, it shouldn't matter that much.
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I like this guy that is in 2 of my classes and i dont know what to do cause i dont know if he likes me back.. got any advice? (link)
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classes are great, and everything because they breed communication, and communication is the basis of all relationships, so having two classes is great, you should talk to him about it, and engage him about your feelings and everything, otherwise, he knows nothing...
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