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depressed kid
hey there man, i figured since you werent getting no lovin that i would ask a few since im pretty fucked up in the head and cant think for myself...i like this girl..no infact i love her but i know that i cant be with her because we always fight no matter what even on a good day shes really great even though every thing i do she doesnt even notice. shes cheated and all but still love her...now im in the situation to where a guy she did stuff with wants to beat my ass because i mad when she fucked him...of course im gonna be pissed though?? right?? but anyway i was wondering if its all worth it or should i forget about her or forgive and forget??
2. how do i make myself happier in life seams like its all shit and going down the drain for nothing wondering if im gonna graduate i know i can but just not motivated because of being depressed so much but this also affects the above situation because while im depressed i dont care to make things right between the girl and I.
3.the girls parents hate me along with her brother i believe i dont know what to do cause i never meant to make them hate me infact i sorta looked up to them what the hell do i do man?
4. i smoke and i dont want to but i cant...addicted....i hate it all my friends smoke every fuckin one of them and girls normally dont like it to much so how do i quit besides using that fuckin patch bullshit....
5. back to the above question numero uno the girl that i was talking about she like changes for me and i dont want her to i want her to be herself..and she wont be herself she feels she almost has to be me i guess i dont know though what do i do??
thanks, bruised
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wow, that's a lot to handle. lets break em down, and take em one at a time.
1. the girl problem.
She's cheated. that's not a good thing, but you still love, and in the act of still loveing her, you have to have forgave her because you can't love someone you can't forgive. She doesn't ntoice the things you do for her? not many people do, you just should make things more prominant, when someone expects something, when they get it, it isn't as noticeable as when they weren't expecting it. Try to do or give her something she doesn't expect...flowers for no reason? *ahemnudgenudge* She fucked some other guy...that's never good...you love her and the guy she had sex with wants to beat your ass...hmm...i gots no idea..are you positive they had sex? or, are you just speculating? think that one through.
2. being motavated, even the over achievers have to deal with it, you're a senior, I'm guessing, so graduating should be on the top of your list, you don't want to be a super senior, or have to get a GED or anything, so really you should focus on school...even I'm an unmotavated loser a lot, but I'm not a senior..try to remove yourself from stressful situations, school, that should be the easy part, as a senior you pretty much have bogus classes, just work to get through them and pass, if your school life, and home life are good, you really shouldn't be stressed, then you can focus on the girl, and you won't be as/at all depressed and it'll be easier to handle. does she know you still love her?
3. If things went bad between you and the girl, then the parents and brother had to react negitively, because during the/a breakup it might have effected her a lot and the family had to deal with it, if the girl cries, and it's over a guy, the family is goign to all of a sudden have a negitive oppion of him, even if they didn't beforehand. if things get better with the girl, things will get better with the family too. or you could try to engage the family, or the brother because you'd probably have easier acess to him.
4. you smoke, don't want to...all your friends do it..try to find one of them who wonts to quit as well it'll be easier if you could do like a buddy system..don't buy anymore, and refuse them from friends, if you don't buy anymore, you won't smoke, not only that, but they rob your cash too...your friends all smoke, maybe they'll wise up after you tell them how you feel, don't let girls be the only reason you want to stop tho..
5. back to the girl, she changes for you,and you don't want her too, tell her that, even tho everybody changes a little for everybody, things wear off on people but if you tell her that, and get the point across, it might happen less, and she might be more aware of it.
hope i helped,
Stephen.
P.S. I think I know who this is. If so, contact the brother.
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