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There's this guy John that i met at camp last year
He was such a sweetheart, and so funny!
At the time, i was going out with a guy Steve...
and John liked my friend Laura...
but Laura was 4 years older, and had a boyfriend.
So this year.. i saw john again.
Same sweet guy..
except.. so much hotter! whoo!
So.. we're talking like best friends always do..
and he is putting his face really close to mine..
like, our foreheads are touching as a "joke"
But.. then he held my hand, in a "friendly" way..
So our hands are clasped together.
Everytime we sit next to eachother..
(wich is always..cus everytime i sit down, he sits next to me.)
he holds my hand,
but now he holds my hand so that it's laced in his
and holds our hands on top of our legs.. (cus their usually touching)
Then today he put his arm around my waist and puts his face really close to mine again and looked so deep into my eyes
i also always see him looking at me
When we hold hands.. people say "are you two going out?"
and he doesnt answer.. so i always have to say "nope"
and then they say "so why are you holding hands???"
and John says either "maybe we want to.." or "cause"
My heart races everytime we even hold hands..
i feel so warm when he does
like a warm rush of blood through my body
wich is crazy.. cus its just holding hands..barely anything.. but with him.. its like EVERYTHING. i always wish i wa holding his hands right now.. or him holding me.. but why?
My friend Shannon mouthed to him "do you like her?"..
pointing to me...
and i saw him nod his head yes
ah! whats going on?!
do you think he does like me?
Do you think i shud go out with him?
Do i love him..??? whooah.
So0o0o0o Confusiing!!...
XoXo.. Lexie

Aww! He so likes you!

I think you already know how much you like him, and maybe even love him or you're falling in love with him, so if you're comfortable with it go out with him!

Good luck :) - Emily

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lately it seems like life is passing me by...
like a feather and i'm letting it blow by, it's summer and im not doing anything with myself.
i mean im hanging out w/my friends & swimming, tanning, playing sports, games & everyting
but it seems like something is missing
im. . . BORED. I love feeling acomplishment & w/out extracuriculears going on its like
im not working for anything or trying or anything
=\ im happy and eveything but what can i do to fufill me? does ANYBODY know how i feel? and how to help??

Hey! You could always try volunteering, getting a job (somewhere that interests you) or best of all joining a sports team. Just keep trying out new activities and suggest going to new places with your friends and family. Try going to your local recreation centre, they usually have booklets with programs and activities that are going on in your community.
The bottom line is to just try new things until you find something that interests you!

Good luck :) - Emily

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so my hair is super curly and frizzy.
i straighten it most days beacuse i dont want/like to wear it how it naturally curls. i think it looks bad. i have about shoulder length light brown hair.

my question is how do i get my hair to be wavy. like pretty waves. not super tight curls, but not straihgt. in between.

steps would be much apprciated.

If you take a shower about an hour before you go to bed and sleep with your hair in damp/wet braids that might work. Just take out the braids in the morning and your hair (hopefully will be dry, it depends on how thick your hair is and how warm your room is) should be wavy, just make sure you dont brush them.

Also you could try products and shampoos/conditioners to get rid of the frizz. I'm not sure of a good brand but I'm sure someone will mention something that worked for them.

Good luck! :)
- Emily

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Okay…..^_^ this might take a while. Well, at camp, on the second day of the time we were there, Abby and I were sitting on a loveseat during this camp activity thing. Everyone was told that they had to sit in the middle, (which is where we were sitting) So, Mikey gets up from the back and looks around for a place to sit. He looks straight at me and sits down INBETWEEN me and abby. We are sitting there, and my heart was kinda pounding. Anyway, he starts to poke my leg…. and so of course I had to poke him back. So we went on like that for awhile. And then he laid his hand on my leg for like 5 seconds and smirked at me…. almost like a challenge…>.> so I had to do it back of course. So then, we went on like that forEVER and it was almost like the nervous game but I stopped. And then I elbowed him in the side, and it was funny!

Okay! NEXT DAY! WOOOOO…Okay, I was in crafts with abby and kirstie and Marissa. And Mikey was in Ping-Pong, which is in the same room. Then I finished my craft, and he had lost at ping-pong. I walked past him to go talk too abby and he stops me. He’s all….”sit on my lap” and I was all…O_O no! and then he was all…. Please? And I said, No, cause I’m not a slut. So he asked me to sit on the arm of the chair. So I did for like a minute. But then my butt started to ache so I got up and moved into the chair next to him. Then he started to show off, and he rocked back and forth in the chair he was sitting in, and flipped it backwards on purpose. He was sitting like that for a while, but then he was uncomfortable, cause he couldn’t get up. So he asked me to help him. So I tried…. for like 2 seconds, but got bored so I gave up. Then he was whining and whining and stuff. Then he stopped and looked at me and was all, “hold my hand…” And I was all “._.;;;;;” But I did, ^_^ and then he said that I had really soft hands which made me laugh. Then abby and kirstie helped him get the chair up, but he wouldn’t let go of my hand.

THEN, , we had swimming. I went down to the pool, but I didn’t know he was going to be there, and I didn’t want to swim cause I had my cloths on, and I had my period. BUT, he kept threating to push me in and I didn’t wanna get wet so I sat next to the lifeguard. The lifeguard was all, “If you touch her and push her in then I’ll get pushed in to and I WOULD NOT be happy…*glare*” (cause she was holding my hand so he couldn’t get me.) ^_^ Heehee, anyway, so he just stood over me and dripped water on me, and splashed me, AND HE WAS SHIRTLESS! …*Drool* but then I got bored so I wen’t and put my legs into the water in the shallow end with kirstie, and It was nice and we were sitting there and I was all ahhhhh. But of course, he had to come over. So he walks over in all his wet shirtless glory and is holding a Frisbee. He dips the Frisbee under that water and all the sudden splashes me. I sat there very quietly, and he said…”You can hit me if you want…” and I was all…”I’m not going to hit you…. *and then I jumped in the water fully clothed* I’M GOING TO KILL YOOOU!” Lets just say he ran away like a little girl, lol.

Then since my group was with his for the next activity which was ultimate Frisbee, he pretended to be sick and sat on the sidelines and watched kirstie and me. We were doing handstands and stuff and it was fun. After that, we were walking back past the rec hall, and he ran up out of no-where and just grabbed my hand. It was like…*Mikey appears out of no-where* *snatch’s hand* I got very scared, but I let him hold it! ^_^;;;, then some random kid was all, “Hey Mikey! Is that your new girlfriend!” and I looked at Mikey and went “EWWWWWWWWWWW” and walked away. ^_^ Heehee, oopsie? Then after that, there was just random flirting and him throwing stuff at me and being adorable, and stuff

Then when we got back home and stuff, kirstie randomly asked him why he kept hitting on me at camp, and he said its cause he likes me!


Okay,my quistion is, do you think he likes me, and i'm wondering if i should date him, cause he is in rehab right now....and after camp he made out with some other girl. WHAT SHOULD I DO!?!?!?!?!

He DEFINATELY likes you.

If you like him you should try to find out (maybe by asking kirstie or another friend, or just by watching) if he acts like to every girl or it's just to you.

If you trust him enough and feel comfortable enough, go for it!

good luck! :)
- Emily

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14/f. i've checked my BMI on many sites and some sites say that i'm underweight and some say that i'm normal. My BMI is around 17. but i still have some fat around my lower stomach. is it still safe to do crunches and exercise to try to lose that fat? i'm 14, 5'3" and i weight about 98 pounds. but my stomach is still buldgie. what can i do? without becoming underweight?

I think it's perfectly fine to exercise and you will build muscle which may raise your weight depending on how much muscle you actually build.

Also, you are still growing and you will most likely gain weight within the next few years even if you exercise and are eating right. It's just part of growing up. So go ahead with exercising, crunches and whatever else, just make sure you're eating right and you'll stay healthy.

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My cousin is a big person, she's fat and big chested. Some of the clothes she wears are really inappropriate. Yesterday she had on something that looked like her boobs were going to fall out. What should I say to her about the way she dresses? At school she's just a big joke with all the boys. They called he Double D Lottay and stuff. So what should I do?

You could always try to go shopping with her (I saw someone already said this, it's really good idea) and pick out things and be like "Oh, I think this would look really good on you! What do you think of it?"

You may figure out why she dresses the way she does by her response. If she dislikes what you find is appropriate there is not much you can do. Chances are her style will change soon anyways!

Good luck! :)

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does anyone know this song.. the begining goes girl, girl, girl, girl ..its like a recent song and its like r&b

Try typing the lyrics into google!
You probably need to find out more of the lyrics to determine the song though, lots have a begining like that.

Good luck!

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