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Hey, i was the girl that asked this question - http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=561649
Well, now ryan is complaining that i have been hooking up with half of the guys in my school, which isnt true at all. i have only hooked up with about 8 guys since he has broken up with me. and most of them out of depression.. he starts SCREAMING at me, that im a slut.
i didnt state this in my last question but i am 16 and i am a sophmore, and he is 18 and is a senior.
Ryan-
lol ur rediculous....go ahead hook up with every1 and be slut
he imed that to me this morning on ichat. i got a text from him at 1 am last night
"Ryan- soo.. you hook up with jake 45 minutes after i broke up with you. coool."
like, mature much?
heres another one-- ryan: "you say you wanna get back together. you say your waiting. but all i see is you hooking up with one guy after the other. i dont like being lied to. ontop of that, you get mad and upset whenever you hear im getting with someone else.. when your getting with like half the school."
me: "im not getting with half the school. i cant talk now im out with people"
ryan: "laura, dont even try to deny anything. just stop lying its pathetic. have fun mackin it with whoever you are with."
me: "erite,, maybe i will"
ryan: "goodbye"
me: "oh, im pretty sure i never said i was waiting, i said the opposite. and then im pretty sure you were never going to ask for me backkk sooo... whatever"
ryan: "maybe i was... ever think of that?"
me: "HAHAHA nope"
he texts me later that night
ryan: "im gunna ask you something right now, and if you dont answer it truthfully ill know. dont bother trying to cover your ass so im not mad.. because if you lie i promise you its over for good and ill never talk to you ever again. just tell me the truth and maybe ill still talk to you. how many people have you hooked up with since we broke up?"
me: i told you.. im over my texting. call me if you care that much.
ryan: for 50 cents i think this is worth it.
me: alright.. 5 or 6... maybe 8 guys..
ryan: why do you find it necessiary to lie to me?
me: im not....
ryan: cuz i remember asking you 10 mins ago and you said HAAHA no. this right here laura.. is why we cant get back together anytime soon. all i keep hearing is im sorry. and you lying constantly.
me: well, sory is all i can say at this point. you have NO buisness in who im with and shit now, you broke up with me.
ryan: you act like i dumped you for no reason. i was always willing to work things out. and one thing led to another and you hook up with all of these people and tell me all these lies. blah blah blah. apparently you had other plans.."
today. my friend katie calls me up and says "ryan had sex with the girl he cheated on you with"
i go.. really? tahts cool. i dont care. i dont have the tears for it anymore. i dont know how. i just dont... it doesnt hurt me anymore. he is yelling at ME for hooking up with guys.. HOOKING UP? i should punch him in the face for having sex with that girl!
he texts my firend christie saying "BEING SINGLE IS AMAZING I CAN FUCK WHOEVER I WANT! i had no idea what i was missing. im sooo glad i broke up with her." ...immature much? he knew i was with her, thankfully i just droppd her off at her house 10 mins before he texted her....
i dont know what to say to him. but i want to make a closure... a nice, straight forward, a little bit bitchy closure. i deleted him off of facebook already... so, thats a start. i think im just gunna make a huge closure. but i need your help...telling him that i am done.
thank you in advance! :)
Wow, seems like things changed since your last question. I went through this with my ex, but he was the one acting like you're acting. You seriously think 8 people isn't a lot? If you actually liked him you would be with none. You don't hook up because of depression. That's just not right. You seriously remind me of my ex. I still liked him at first, after we first broke up. But he kept dating random girls because he was 'lonely' and that would piss me off so bad. I didn't expect him to wait for me, I was just waiting things out to see if he really cared and what he would do. But he went and dated those girls. So I can totally see where this Ryan guy is coming from. You say you want closure, but trust me, there won't be closure for a long time. You can't force closure. Eventually, if you and him stop talking and fighting, things will calm down. Closure comes when you least expect it. To SAY you're done, and to BE done, are two different things. Just ignore him for a little while, and you will start to drift away from him, because you are in no way ready for a serious relationship.
It seems every one is richer than me.,
and everyone has the "it" look but me,
and I want that look.
the tan skin with blonde blonde hair, and pretty makeup with the cute clothes (always!)
Help..
Those blonde, preppy, dumb, money-loving, ignorant, closed-minded sluts only get made fun of by normal people. Why would you want to be one of them? They're too caught up in themselves to see anything else. Soceity has brain washed them. I feel sorry for them. And I feel sorry for you wanting to be like that. The only guys that like girls like that are disgusting players. They only want girls like that because the girls are gullible and just want attention and will give the guys anything they want. If you need more money, you can always get a job (if you're old enough), but don't do it for the wrong reasons.
This was a toy in the 1990s that was sort of like a rock tumbler. You got these things that looked like rocks and put them in something, and then they would turn into these plastic gems, and you could put the gems on this treasure chest, it was pink, the gems would just snap into place. And I think you could snap the gems into jewelry too. The gems came in all different colors and were different shapes, like rectangular and diamond shapes.
I've spent way too long searching for what this thing was called but I can't find it anywhere. Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
I'm sorry I can't really help you, but this is the closest I could find. It might be on this page: http://www.thefind.com/family/info-rock-tumbler-gemstone-jewelry
A week and a half ago I admitted to my guy friend that I liked him and I pretty much scared the hell out of him. We didn't talk over that weekend or the monday after, and by then I'd already realized that the way I told him (long story) was way too forward, and in addition to the fact that it's not everyday a girl justs blurts that out to him. Then on tuesday, which was last week I apologized for freaking him out and he said it was ok and he pretty much admitted that I freaked him out but that was the last time we discussed it. I'm completely relieved that we're still friends but he never said whether he feels te same way or not, so I'm thinking that either he's been thinking about it and is not sure how to respond or not sure how he feels or he's just trying to forget about it. Last Wednesday though I could clearly tell he was nervous whenever I looked at him or spoke to him, not in the way he spoke but just by his body language and facial expression. and in one of our classes he still seemed nervous but he was still talking to me and we would still laugh about some stuff so I was relieved that he wasn't avoiding me or anything. But during that period, and we weren't doing anything that period we were just hanging out while other people in our class were taking a test, he kept looking over at me, which he never usually does, so i don't know what to think of that. After tat day vacation started and tomorrow it'll be a week since we last talked and he hasn't texted me or anything, which I guess is not too surprising because he never really did that much in the past. I can't help to wonder if he's still thinking about it&is still unsure or if he's been trying to forget about it. But either way I would assume that once we're back in school on Monday no matter what the case is he's still going to have the fact that I like him in mind whenever he talks to me. But I'm scared after this week and a half the thought will have blown over too much. And I've decided that if he decides he likes me back, then the ball is in his court, and I won't push him about it or bring it up unless he does, because if anything I'm really lucky that he's still my friend, that usually wouldn't happen to me (but with guys ive like in the past, they always found out from other people, not me, telling this particular guy directly that I liked him was one of the hardest things I've ever done). Even though I'm completely willing to remain friends if that's what ends up happening, I still want to be kindof flirty with him and sortof make sure he doesn't forget how I feel and still considers ever giving me a chance. How do I act around him without being too pushy and being too obvious?
Don't act weird about it and don't change. And definitely don't apologize again. There's always the possibility that he likes you so just play it cool. But next time, you really shouldn't just admit to a guy that you like him like that. Just flirt and let nature take its course. You've got to give guys a little bit of work to do or they'll just give up.
i have a problem and seriously need some help to figure out what to do i need someone to talk to
Why don't you love him? Is it because of the way he treats you? Is it an abusive relationship? (Emotionally or physically) If so, you need to do something about it and get out of it as soon as possible.
Or is it because the love is fading, you don't see him enough, you're having communication problems, or something along those lines? If it's one of those, just talk to him. Tell him how you feel and ask him to be honest with you.
can anyone find a flat pic of this tattoo(not on someones body)
if not thats ok i'll just have to try and draw it...
http://media.photobucket.com/image/gothic%20rose%20tattoo/correav7/shit/Side-Tattoo-Gothic-Rose-Vine-tattoo.jpg?o=28
I can't help you but I just want to say that's really pretty.
15/f
I just made out for the first time a couple days ago. I was nervous at first but then i just went with the flow. The only thing that happened that was bad was that there was alobber on mine and his chin. It was horrible. i was so embarrased. I dont know who did it like that but i am afraid it was me and i dont know if i did it right. I dont want him to think i am a bad kisser. what do i do?
Swallow first before you make out with him. Haha. Messy kisses aren't that appealing.
i am really confused. i met this guy through my friend when we were at the cinema and he kept talking to me when i was there. he was asking loads of questions about me and stuff and once i got home and i noticed he had added me on msn. for days we were talking and i really got along with him well. and i was under the impression that he liked me. (without him actually saying it) he has said i am good looking, i am funny etc and that he wants a girlfriend. so we were talking every day for about a week and now he just does not message me. its weird. i would message him but i dont want to if he has just decided he doesnt like me? i do like him and would like to keep talking to him. if he has met someone else does that mean he isnt interested in me? (that sounds a really stupid question) but i am just confused. and if he has met someone else should i not speak to him anymore?
He might think that you just aren't interested because you never talk to him first. I know, I have the same problem, I don't like starting conversations with guys, but if you really like him you need to just do it. It wouldn't hurt to just say 'hi'.
So, i went out with Ryan for 6 months. We broke up last month, the day after our 6 month on the 25th :/.
A while back, in the beginning of our relationship.. he cheated on me with a girl. Well, this girl lives pretty far.. about 500 miles away. She comes down here sometimes with her friend. So, she was down one weekend and i decided to hang out with her. I have been talking to her for a long time, just trying to keep peace with her. Supposeably Ryan knew i was hanging out with her and got mad, well.. if i want to get to know the girl and just keep peace with her.. and talk to her about what really happened.. im allowed to as Ryans girlfriend..right?
Well, he got reallyreally mad and broke up with me because "he was no longer happy"... i dont understand?
we were takling on sunday, and this is what i said to him...
Me-
i have been thinking about our 6 months together.. i thought about how we both made some mistakes, but you made the bigger ones. I gave you about 2 chances.. like after you cheated on me and broke up with me in january. After those happened, i took you back after consideration.. i screw one thing up, (a pretty big thing, but not AS big as the things you did) and you break up with me.. i dunno... i just have been thinking about that lately.. almost all break. i know i lied to you about what i was doing, but not necessarily, i left her out of the plans because i was not 100% sure if it was gunna actually happen till we got to her house. i know i was talking to her but anthony kept changing his mind and everything.. but thats not what this is about. its about how i gave you alot of chances, and i do something wrong and you just end it. you dont consider giving me another chance.. idunno. i just was thinking about that, i thought you should know what was on my mind.
Ryan-
well i knew ud bring this up eventually
and i havnt figured out a way to tell you this...i tried but i guess you didnt see it how i was trying to say it
i didnt break up with you because of some unforgivable mistake
i didnt break up with you out of anger.
but after that happened. nothing felt right. and i still dont know why
i wasnt happy
and i dont know why
i couldnt stay in a relationship that i wasnt hhappy in .
and i couldnt pretend to be happy when i wasnt. i just couldnt. not around you
this isnt about forgiving you. ive already done that. it wasnt that big of a deal what happened. i mean you lied but w.e i got past it
its just i wasnt happy
laura i wasnt happy wen i went to bed everynight. and i wasnt happy wen i woke up
id have nightmares every single night. EVERY NIGHT
somenights id wake up crying .or sweating. or out of breath
i just love this kid soo much. i dont know what to do...
i got in a fake facebook open relationship. he texted me at 1 am "YOU CAN GO FUCK YOURSELF, fuckin goin out with brandon. u have some fucking nerve" i texted him back like.. ry its fake.. and he was like "this is so redicilous i cant believe u would ever do that."
ever since he snapped on me.. (that was sunday night/monday morning).. i didnt talk to him. it is now wednesday and today he tried to pull me out of my 8th period class.. and i saw him. my mouth dropped. i was like WHAT THE HELL. i didnt leave my class. i learned to have some dicipline for myself.
and he doesnt understand why i cant be friends iwth him, its hard to be in love and friends with someone. its terrible.
Lately, i havent been thinking much of it. but, i know deep down i am not over this and i really need to get back with him. after everything that has happened, i still love him. and i need him. he keeps telling me taht he loves me. i dont know what to do! im in such a messy situation. i just need help. i need something that i can say to him, that will get him back maybe? i dont konw. i just want him back. i want him to come chasing for me. i want to be in his arms. i want to kiss him. i miss him so much:/
the other day. i was at my friends house. we were talking and in mid sentance it came out "i miss ryan.." i almost went hysterical. it was the first time i admitted to it.
i hung out with him thursday night. i snuck out and slept over his house. we had sex. it felt like the good old times. im just so DESPERATE for him! i need him!!!!
if you guys can feel my pain.. i dont nkow. but i hope you do. maybe someone with experiance with something like that will help?
btw ever since we broke up he hasnt been the same, hes been getting drunk with other girls.. and he isnt a drinker and driver. he did. i screamed at him. i lost all respect for him after that. i couldnt believe he drove drunk after HIS FRIEND died from it! the guy he used to be would say "nah, sorry i gotta drive"... i dont know what is going on with him. he isnt the same person anymore.
He's telling you he loves you but not doing anything about it. If he really loved you he would be trying to get back with you. You seriously need to turn this situation around and make him work harder. Don't give in so easily, and don't act confused or upset. If the time comes to be honest and really let him know how you feel, you can do that, but always act like you're sure of your actions and you don't need him. When you act confident, it's going to confuse him. When you act like you don't care, it's going to make him try to make you care. You already apologized for what you did, so stop apologizing now. If you keep bringing it up, he'll just keep holding it against you. And the second thing you need to do, is make him choose all or nothing. Don't TELL him that, but as long as he can have you without dating you, he's not going to try to get you back. I know it will be hard but you need to ignore him until he makes the the move to get you back.
For all my life i've pretty much been a naturally slender girl,for one exception- my chubby cheeks! It makes me look 12, were as i'll be turning 16 soon. Everyone tells me it'll be good for when i'm older,i know this,but its doing no good for me now =P. to me, its my only insecurity. I would so love to have some nice,high cheek bones like everyone else in my family!(so its not genetic,luckily). I was looking it up on google, and i heard of some excersizes that can help thin out the face and get rid of "face fat". Do you think this would possibly work? They have some work outs online,but theres one package you can buy-its called "perfectcheekbones". If you've heard of it-do you think its a scam? What could i do to get rid of this chubby face of mine? (it doesn't help that i have a tiny chin!) I'm also wondering what haircuts would look best to make my face look slimmer(and a chin look..bigger? haha),and colors that make someone looks older or bring out cheek bones as well =]. really, if you've got anything on this,it'd help me very much,thanks !
Aw, I wish I had bigger cheeks and a smaller chin. Lucky =/ Mine are somewhat big but I'd be so happy if they were bigger. If you try to make your face skinnier, it's not going to look right. You're naturally this way, and any other way will look unnatural. But if you lose a little bit of weight, you will probably see a drastic change in your cheeks, because people lose fat from their face first. Also, if your hair is middle parted, side parting it will definitely slim it down some. I know you don't like the way you look, but most people would kill to look like you. You probably look like a gorgeous porcelain doll.