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Location: NY
Occupation: Writer, Director, Actor
Age: 14
AIM: Xinephzero
Member Since: June 5, 2006
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Last Update: March 20, 2008
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friday night my school had a dance and a couple boys pushed this other boy into me and they were saying "dance with her, dance with her." but he backed away and said no. whats with that, could it mean anything...? (link)
'prolly means he likes you, and they were trying to coax him into getting over his nervousness :)


Well My problems in my name. The situation is complicated but basically im in a long distant relationship, and i keep cheating on him. I love him so much AND NO ONE SAY I DONT BECAUSE I DO. i dont know what to do about it cos i love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but i keep cheating and its hurting him and me. What do i do (link)
I am currently in a long-distance relationship, so I know where you're coming from... However, you have GOT TO decide which is more important to you: Him or the other guys. I'm sorry, I know that's not easy, but it's basically your only option.


i just downloaded limewire. i downloaded a song, but i got a little alert that said something like: there is no license for this file. dowload anyways? limewire is not responsible for... what does that mean? is it legal ? (link)
It's not legal... There is no legal way you can get music for free. Sorry.

What that message basically means is "If you're downloading illegal stuff, don't blame it on us if you go to jail". That kind of thing... They're just trying to get blame off their heads.


What do you do if you fall in love with your best friend, and can't tell them? (link)
Do you think they love you back? I could use a bit more detail on this one.


Does anyone know this song. of pink floyd's? (it's not one of these days either). it has like a bass at the beginning and it just repeats and repeats. its like dum du dum du dum..kinda sounds like a turtle walking.. (link)
I just happen to be a Pink Floyd Freak :)

If I'm not mistaken, the song you're thinking of is "Money" on the album "Dark Side of the Moon". Good song.


what does D.U.F.F. mean? some dude commented one of my pics on myspace and put "nice d.u.f.f."
?? (link)
D.U.F.F or “duff” stands for "designated ugly fat friend". These are the not so fit, unattractive counterparts that pretty girls have accompany them to a bar in order to ward off all attempts by other men to get in their pants.

That's the definition I found online -_-


This isn't exactly a "help me" kind of question, but, it is a valed question. I was just wondering, if anyone decides to answer me..."What is happening here?" I have been going through the questions and I am lucky if I see every 4th question have one answer! It used to be every question had at least 5 or 6 answers. Anything happening I should know about? Isn't anyone here anymore? Well, thank you for those of you who do answer. (link)
*shrug*
I suppose people are just trying to answer stuff that lies within their area of expertise.


i really need help. like, from a pyschatrist. and i really don't know how to ask my parents.
but first i wanted to ask everyone on here a few questions.
IF YOU HAVE BEEN TO A SHRINK;
-- is it weird talking to them?
-- does it really help?
-- how did you ask your parents?
-- how does it work? like the visits?

thank you everyone that takes the time to answer. (link)
1. It all depends whether you find a shrink who's right for you. For me, I was very comfortable with my shrink, so no.

2. YES. Even if they only give you minor advice, it's good to just have someone to listen.

3. I didn't. I got referred.

4. Usually, someone takes you in to see the shrink for an hour or so every week. It can be more or less depending on the case... It's pretty simple.

I hope this helps! And if you really don't know how to ask, then perhaps you could at least bring it up in conversation, see what they think. At present, that may be your best bet.


if my bf and i are both virgins, could we still get STDs? (link)
Quite possibly... Some STDs you are born with, but can then be transferred through sex. Checking with your doctor would be your best bet.


does anyone know a website where i can download free music without getting any viruses?? (link)
No place is entirely safe. I would reccomend LimeWire, in my experience it's the least problematic. Just make sure you're using strong virus protection.


i keep spittig and my period is keep comeing on and off...like i=my pad don't be full..so i would like to know is that a sig of pregancy...i had sex on the 31st of august and on the 2 of september
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This really isn't my department...

It may be. The best advice I can give you is A. Ask your doctor, B. Check for any other irregularities with your body, or if all else fails, C. Google it.

Sorry I couldn't be of more help.


Hi. Whats a website thats like MySpace?

I've tryed friendster, myyearbook, livejournal, and xanga.

Please Help!! (link)
Perhaps get a friend to invite you to Facebook?


what does opiate of the masses mean? (link)
"drug of the masses".
Something the masses are addicted to, and can't seem to quit.


i have a LITTLE fuzz between my eyebrows but you can still see it. The problem is my mom won't let me get rid of it. I don't understand why. She told me that she'll kill me if I do it. I asked her why she wouldn't let me do it but she didn't say anything. I want to get rid of it. Any ideas would be really helpful. Oh by the way i'm 14/f. (link)
I have the exact same thing. I wax it regularly... And if it's important to you, you can surely get an answer out of her. Just press her about it. Worst comes to worst, go out and get it waxed or get a friend to do it.


I am feeling really sad today. Something happened and I can't stop crying. How do I cheer myself up? (link)
Time heals all wounds. Unfortunately, today and tomorrow are pretty much going to suck. There are many constructive things you could do for the future: Seek psychological help, talk to friends... However, as for today and tomorrow, I reccomend taking a break from reality. This is something that you should rarely do, and should only attempt when the pain becomes too much to bear. Basically, if you have video games, play them. If you have DVDs, watch them. Anything good on TV? Just keep yourself entertained constantly. And remember: Things will get better!


Okay, so this summer i went to a sleepaway camp for two months and i met my (current) boyfriend there. He lives in a different state then i do and in the beg. it was'nt hard at all to keep in touch and have a relationship with him, but now that school started we stopped talking as much as we did before (we now talk like once a day and maybe twice). But tonight i was at my house with my friends and we were talking online and he told me that he had to talk to me "about us" and then he quickly mentioned that it wasnt bad. so i called him after my friends left but he was busy with his friends so he hung up and called me back like an hour l8er and said "hey i'm really messed up right now so ill call you tomorrow bye" (i thought that that meant that he was drunk) so i hung up right away without syaing bye because i was kind of upset at him for ignoring me the whole night and i guess i was also kind of scared of what he might have to say to me. so i was just wondering what you guys think he might have to say to me and if you think our relationship could maybe be over?

thanks so much (link)
For now, wait.

If you can't bear that, then get in contact with him at an hour when he's sure to be stable and ready to talk. I'd reccomend either right after he gets home after school or at about 8:30 on a week-night.

However, I wouldn't worry too badly. If he said it's not anything bad, then he would have no reason to lie at that point.


No need to go into detail... But for the right and justified intentions, how can you cheat a lie detector test? I know there's a way I just don't know how. I would please appreciate any and all serious suggestions, don't reply if you honestly don't know thanks. (link)
I certainly hope your intentions are justified....

Speak in monotone. Keep calm. Make sure your eyes are looking straight ahead of you at all times. Do not think about the answers you are giving. If you want more detail...

http://www.wikihow.com/Cheat-a-Polygraph-Test-(Lie-Detector)


Ok, so this is a bit of a messy situation and any advice you can give will be greatly appricated.
Im an 18yr old female - I've been dating my boyfriend on and off for six years - none of my friends like him. They say hes abusive and controlling. At the moment we are "on a break" but i know that we're going to get back together ... i just dont want my friends to find out becasuse i dont want them to worry about me. Even though my realationship isnt always pretty, i love what i have and im not going to lose it again.
So anything you can say that might help me know what to do would be greatly appricated
thanks
Jenna (link)
I'm not sure I know enough about this guy to answer fully, but I'll try....

The most likely possibility is that your friends are right. You do NOT have to take that from any guy... Remember, losing him is not the end of the world. There are many, many others out there who share his good qualities and not his bad.

If you're 100% sure that he's right for you, then go out of your way to show them what you like about him. Point out his good qualities... Like I said, I don't know that much about the guy, but you can apply that in a lot of way.

Hope this helps.


Ok.. I know this may sound really stupid but I'm going into high school and had to take an elective. I chose Commercial Design.. although I wasn't really familiar with the subject. Anyway, what exactly IS commercial design? Like what do you do? lol.. thank youu :] (link)
Commercial design is making art for ads and public places.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Commercial_art

But, yeah.... You probably should have known what you were picking before hand.


heyyy erm do any of you know any sites where you can download music that is totally free? thanks :) (link)
I'm assuming that you don't care about "legal".....

Your best bet is to download limewire. They have TONS of free music and other stuff.... Just make sure you have good virus protection.

www.limewire.com




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