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Hi!My name is Melissa.I'm from G.I. New York.I love being able to help people and giving advice.I'm usually the person who people come to for advice and i'm always glad to be there for them.If you just wanna talk or if you want advice you can IM me.UnLuckyWishes3.I'm really into sports and love to play basketball.I play JV voleyball and Varsity track.

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hi. i'm a 16/f and when i masterbate, i think of girls. i look at pics of girls. not guys, girls. but i still like guys!! am i..gay?

You might be.If your thinking about girls alot more then guys and your into girls more, you could be.If i can help at all or if you just wanna talk let me know.Hope you get everything straightened out.

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Here's my story though it's kind of embarressing... For about 2-3 years now, I have had this clear slime come out my yeah, and I don't think it's normal, but is it somthing I need to REALLY WORRY ABOUT? I mean is it normal... It's like I am constantly wet (though I am still a Virgin and I haven't been there yet) and I hate it...so I wear baby powder down there to keep it from smelling just in case it does... any advice.....

Dont worry its perfectly normal.It'll go away over the years.Most of the time it usually just means your period is on its way.It usually come about a week or two before a period.Hope i helped and dont worry.

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ok, problem. theres this guy at my skooL.. he likes me a lot he even told me he loved me. i really like him too! i can't go out with him though.. he had sex when he was 11 and im afraid he'll want that from me and only think about sex. the thing is though i REALLY like him! i mean ive never liked anybody this much before. ive seriously thought about going out with him, even though he is considered a "nerd" but i really don't care what people think. i just dont know if i can go out with him bcuz of the whole sex thing.. what do i do? please if you could help me thatd be great =c) thanx!

If you really like him, let him know and tell him you want to go out but not if he expects you to have sex with him, until your ready.It's worth giving a shot if you really like him.Hope everything works out!

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hey yah the guy i liked said i was ugly so should i confront him?

Yea i would.i mean its alright to an opinion but as long as he's kinda keeping it to himself and not parading around sayinthg that i gues you should respect his opinion.it sstill really mean though.sorry if i didnt help.:/

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My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for that long. When we're kissing and really into it, he tries to finger me and I really am not ready for that right now. How do I explain/tell him I very much enjoy kissing him, but I don't want things to go too far just yet?

Tell him that.I know it sounds corny but let him know you really like kissing him but your not quite ready for that yet but you'll tell him when you are.Like when your kissing him and he tries to do that let him know.And dont let him pressure you into anything you dont want to.Hope i helped and everything works out.Hope u and your boyfriend are happy!

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yoo ii have like 10 reallii reallii cutee outfits nd idk wich wun ta wear for thu first daii of skool .. can yoo pick a numberr between wun nd ten for me plznthx

ummm.. how about 2 that number sounds cute.Hope i helped.Have a good first day of school.

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ok.. my birthday is on saterday.. well yea.. everyones asking me what i want and i say.. idk.. but i do know.. i just think it costs too much to ask a friend to get you.. but anyways.. i was wondering what i should tell people to get me.. i mean.. i already know the girls are going to get me like.. shower gel and stuff.. but the question is.. what would i ask a guy to get me? sorry it was so long.. :D

p.s. im pretty much a grlie girl so.. taht might help... maybe..



i willll rate ya :D

Maybe like a gift card or something to like any store you like.For my b-day my guy friends got me money or a gift card to the mall.That way i could just get what iwanted because i never knew when people asked me.Hope i helped and HAppy Birthday!

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My last 2 years in Middle School, we didn't need to tryout for basketball. Basically, everyone played because it was a small school. I moved and now I'm in 8th grade, and I just heard tryouts are Monday (4 days!!) I had no clue because I've been going to the same school for 7 years until this year. What is going to be expected for us to do (like specific shots and things I need to know) and how hard do you think it might be?
Thanks,
Worried

I had to try out in 7th grade for my schools basketball team.He had us do alot of drills.Like on communication and passing the ball and guarding , jumpshots, boxing out, foul shots, lay-ups, and other stuff.It wasnt really that hard.some parts were but i ahd to do ok b/c i made thr team.If you need any more advice i'd be happy to help.Hope i helped.godd luck making the team!

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do u know a way u could practice slow dancing WITHOUT a guy or friend or anything like just up n ur room>?

If you have a long dress with long arms you could practice on that and put it on a hanger and hang it from your ceiling or another off your wall and practice were to put your arms and slowly backing away.Just the simple stuff is all you need to know.

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i was thinking of babysitting for people..(most likely people i dont know) with a friend of mine..this way the job is easier. Is this a good idea? Do you think i`ll be successful? How should i get perfect strangers to trust me to babysit their kids...any tips? thank you :)

i babysit too but usually by myself.when you first meet the parents or gaurdians just go up and introduce yourself.If you know CPR and other health things like that let tell them and say "if anything were to happen".That always seems to comfort them.and asking them how they are when you first see them and hope they have a good night if thier going out to dinner or something.i knwo it mgiht not sound like your gaining thier trust but being polite and kind gives them a good feeling knowing that a good person's watching thier kid(s).Hope i helped and you have fun.

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Ok me and my boyfriend just broke up on Friday. then on Monday some guy i like asked me out, but i still like my ex-boyfriend what should i say to the guy that asked me out?

Tell him you still need time to get over your ex-boyfriend and when you are you'll be more thne happy to go out with him.I mean its not really fair to you or the other guy if you go out with him and your kinda sad because your thinking about your ex and he's thinking about you and your not.Or if you really like this guy and you want to go out with him, go for it.You did just break up and after a break up alot of people still like and miss thier ex.I know you want advice and this kinda is but do what makes you happy.Hope i helped, and everything works out.

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I'm 14 and going into high school this school year. I have been friends with this girl lets just call her Liss since...the end of 6th grade. We became best friends ever in 7th grade and then everything with her other friends went downhill from there. They all hate me and some have now threatened to kill me. I'm not scared, that has nothing to do with this but i'm making a point. I thinks he thinks she can't like me anymore cuz this has been going on awhile and she doesn't wanna get into trouble with her other friends when they do the same thing to her as me. COnfusing i know. Lately, she's been making exscuses not to hang out, she adds me in her profile if i ask her cuz thats how her pro works but she takes me out the next day and never puts me back in. I've told her this bothers me and she always makes up some dumbass exscuse like I had to take someone out there wasnt room. And i'm like i'm ur best friend take someone who isnt. I never said that but i sure did think it. The point is...i think her and i are starting to stop being friends and i dont want to. She's a wonderful person and one of my best friends and i don't wanna lose her to the people who she *THINKS* are her friends. They do seriously threaten to beat and kill me and her..but they are cowards and dont even have the guts to look me in the eye. They wont hurt us no matter what they say but i think she might be scared and stop being my friend just cuz of them. Help me..i'm all confused!

This happens alot around that age it really really sux....ALOT!you should try to confront her about it and let her know whats on your mind and you dont want her to change or be scared because of her friends.You two sound really tight and if your as good as friends as you sound you'll be able to work it out.Dont feel bad i'm going through sorta the same thing my best friend hates me.I'm not sure really why either.If you need advice or just wanna talk my s/n is UnLuckyWishes3 or just drop something in my inbox.

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ok...well me and my best friend were so close, like sisters, and tehn she started hanging out with people that she said she hated! can you please help? thanks!

x0 CoNfUsEd FrIeNd!

I'll try and help i'm not sure if i really understand everything.Were you and your friend close and then she ditched you because of the people she hates?Try and talk to her, just ask her over or something and talk about it.Tell her whats on your mind without yelling or alot of confrontation.Thats definatly weird if all of a sudden she starts hanging out with people she hates.dont feel bad my best friend hates me right now because she thinks i like her boyfriend and i dont find him attractive, like more then a friend.And i just wanted her to be happy with him but things are weird and crazy sometimes.It sounds like you really care about your friend and you dont want to lose her.Just talk to her, it seems to help in alot of problems if you talk and stay calm.hope everything works out.

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After putting chap stick,lotion,etc on my lips, my lips are really soft, but when I add lip gloss over it my lips tend to peel. I use Clinique and MAC lip gloss some of those most expensive lip glosses n it still makes my lips peel. Is there anything I can do to not make them peel? Its driving me insane! This is the ONLY thing I cannot figure out!

I use this chap stick "Softlips" its in a white tube and you can get it @ Target , Wal-Mart and probably liek Tops maybe.It's medicated and it kills the dead skin on your lips.The first time you use it only kinda burns but not really.It helps alot.Try putting it on lik e10min. before you put on your lipgloss.hope i helped.

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people have been saying me and two bestfriends look so much alike as though we're triplets. lol but we're not the only ones, i was wondering why do bestfriends always look like one another? dressing-wise too. its natural they wanna look like each other rite?

Yea and when you pry hang out with people so much you pick up what they like and what they like to do.Me and my best friend are starting to look alike and have the same hair color.It's kinda weird, but cool.hope i helped.

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i have a classmate who has terrible body odour and we duno how to tell her that she really needs a deodrant or perfume! how can i tell her that shes BO, without hurting her feelings?

I've had this problem before just once and a while be like something smells off do you smell it too.I said ii nicely like it was something in the air but i think she understood and one time i really thought it was something in the air and realized what it was.She just gave me a smile like thanks for telling me.Hope i helped.

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My friend is gonig outw ith my first love and ever and I am a little upset because he has half of my heart and i know she loves him so much and he loves her so ,much but half of me feels jealous is that normal?

Yea thats definatly normal.My best friend went out with my firstlove too except it was about four, five months ago.It was your first love its gonna be normal to feel a little jealously.hope i helped.

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i have 3 brothers and my dad...(my mom too but she isnt the prob.) well anyway..they ALWAYS piss on the seat..sometimes its a lot and i HATE that! im always the one to have to spray disinfectant and wipe it off. One time i was dumb enough not to look before i sat down..and i sat in piss! how sick is that..o man. i tried telling them how mad i am about that..i even tried leaving the seat up so they have more space to aim..but its not working. Should i try all this again only more seriously this time? Please help..i just wanna be able to feel that my own bathroom is clean..im so grossed out!

any help is great thank u so much!!!!!!

Yea i definatly would.Dont feel bad i share a bathroom with my brother and i'm always cleaning up the toliet seat and cleannig up after hm and it's really gross and he's older then me.Sometimes i get a posterboard and write "Clean Up YOUR Pee!" or "Clean The Toliet Seat AFter Use.". It helps most of the time and i keep nagging him too.Hope i helped.Guys can be such a pain in the butt.

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I think I like one of my closest friends and I think she just might like me back. But it's tough because I don't really want to say anything me being a girl myself... Should I tell her how I feel and risk our friendship or just ignore it?

You could talk to her and tell her how you feel and before you tell her that tell her that if she doesn't feel the same way thats fine because you dont want to lose your friendship.Or if your really afraid about losing your friendship you could talk to her about who she likes.Just maybe start talking about school or home and gradually like get into the conversation and if you think she's hinting towards you and you think you should go ahead and tell her.Hope i helped and everything works out.

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hey! I was wondering if you had a dance team at your middle school or kno anyone who does. 3 of my friends and I are starting one this year and are sort of like the coaches/captins cuz we have to make up the dances, do tryouts and all that. We didnt know how much we would really do with the dance team though cuz all the other teams at our school are cheerleading (they cheer during the games and go to competition), baseball, soccer, and basketball. We knew we would try to go to competition, but if thats only a couple times during the year or whatever what else would we do?

Maybe you could try and ask if you could perform before basketball games, i a couple of schools do that because the cheerleaders took football.Or even ask if they could perform before the cheerleaders even if its only one routine.If your school has a talent show you could do that too.hope i helped.

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