I am a wife and a mother of three grown sons. I live in New York and am an equestrian. Most of my free time is spent riding and caring for my horses now that my sons are out of the house.
I give down to earth advice, as I tell it like I see it...and I've seen alot.
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I'll warn you-i used a lot of detail in this semi-lengthy story...if you could let me know what you think...it would be great, thanks.
I'm an 18 year old girl...turning 19 in 3 days. I was at a party with one of my good guy friends and I met a wonderful guy...he is 30. We had a bit of an innocent makeout-fest and he gave me his number and told me to call/text him anytime. We texted off an on for the next week...then I went home for the weekend (i'm currently in college and am living 3 hours away.) he got ahold of me friday night and asked if i wanted to hang out. I ended up over at his place at about 1:30 am..because he asked if i could pick him up from the bar. We talked for quite a while-and in this time frame i ended up being really into this guy-we'll call him Shawn. There was no pressure to do anything more than simply talk-er hang out like normal friends do. I initiated a kiss...this simple kiss propelled things to be taken into his bedroom..and you all know what happened next. After we were done-he laid there with me..I was wrapped up super tight in his arms...it felt so right. I had to be home before day break-so I left not too long after. Before I left-we kissed...and I said "I really don't hope I have to regret this..." Shawn said- "you definitely don't." He also told me he was into me. And He stated the fact that he doesn't care what others think of hte age difference.
Ok...fast forward to saturday night.
Shawn sent me a text relatively early that asked what I was up to...we had a bit of a short conversation via text message (i know, its an effective form of communication...((note:sarcasm.))...) and he invited me over for movie night. During the first movie, he sat in a chair next to the couch that I sat on...he got up to change DVD's and nonchalantly came over and laid on my couch-his head on my lap. We watched the movie cuddled up on his couch... To me this seemed rather reassuring to me because it felt so right...so couple-esque.
Right?
I figured that rather than seeming like the needy-immature-never-really-hooked-up-one-night-stand kind of girl...that i would talk to him on monday.
I sent him a message monday evening...and he said he'd get ahold of me later that evening.
He called me monday night. He explained that he couldn't be on the phone for long because he left his charger at home (he works out of town) and that he needs his phone for work. He also said he would get ahold of me...
And thats where my story ends.
I don't quite know what to think...because... A) I could be being over-analytical and stupid because maybe he really is into me or B) I could be analyzing correctly:the fact that it simply was a one night stand.
Thanks again for taking the time to read this-because the whole situation is driving me insane and this feedback will help me deal. (link)
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He may want to move forward and into a relationship or he may not. I wouldn't call or text him anymore. He has your number, if he wants to talk to you, he'll call you. Look at it this way...If he doesn't want to see you anymore, then your calling him will make you look like the needy one and you won't be able to change his feelings anyway. He'll just perceive you as chasing him...a sign of desperation. If, on the other hand, he does want something more with you, then it gives you the upper psychological hand that you don't need to call him and can wait for his call. Let him chase you.
My opinion...you slept with him way too soon. There is now, nothing left to the imagination, which is a very powerful attractant. Anyway, what's done is done. Play it carefully from here on in.
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I don't know the first thing about playing guitar.. but I've always wanted to learn. I have this cheap acoustic, and no money for lessons... so is there any way I'd be able to learn it easily enough through some sort of website?
One of the first songs I want to learn is "This Boy: by James Morrison. Any tips?
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There are websites online, that teach guitar chords for beginners. You have to learn the basic chords before you learn any songs or more complicated chords. Fortunately, with the knowledge of the basics, you can play innumerable songs.
I suggest finding a website that you can learn the basic chords. Practice one or two chords. Practice moving between these two chords until you can do it at speed. Then, add another and another, etc. Don't try to overload yourself by learning too many at one time. That will only lead to frustration.
After you've learned the basics, go to www.chordie.com. They have thousands and thousands of songs you can print out and play. Look for songs that have the chords that you know. Chordie is a really great sight!
Practice, practice, practice until your fingers bleed! Well, maybe not bleed, but develop callouses.
You'll also need to learn how to tune your guitar, which you can do through a website or by buying an electronic tuner.
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where did the custom to put lemon on fish originate from? (link)
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I'm sure it originated in a land where the people had access to fish and lemons! Lemon cuts the fishy taste and neutralizes odor and it has a complimentary flavor. Where it originated is anyone's guess. Maybe The Middle East. Egypt? It isn't really what you would call a custom, it is an ingredient that works well with fish. Like salt works well with beef, it's probably worldwide.
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I've received a lot of conflicting information about working as a Graphic Designer/Graphic Artist. Some sources say you need a degree in Graphic Design, and other sources say it is preferred, but not necessary. Which one is correct? Does anyone have any pointers on breaking into this industry? (link)
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You don't need a degree, but you will not get preferential consideration without it. That area is very competitive and the degree will put you in better standing, as with any competitive career. Not to mention, jobs pay better if you have a degree.
Without a degree, you may find work in a small company for less pay, which is not the end of the world, but, to further your career, get the degree.
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lets say you go horseback riding. what can make a horse jump and kick you off him or herself? what kind of mild/minor Concussion can you get? and what things do you forget? (link)
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There are many things that can cause a horse to act up. They are "flight" creatures, in other words, they take off when they are afraid. If they feel they cannot take flight or are trapped, they will display all kinds of defensive behaviors. A poor rider can even cause these behaviors as the horse wants to get away from the discomfort of the rider.
That said...if you are going trail riding at a stable that offers trail rides, you probably won't have a problem. Trail horses are, typically, dead quiet, bombproof animals. The stable owners would not likely offer to let the general public, with no equine experience, ride on an animal that will give them a problem. The worst problem you may have is the horse trying to roll, which, of course, is dangerous, but easily preventable by not letting him pretend he is trying to graze with you on his back. Before you know it, he'll be down on his knees and at that point, you'd better jump off.
A concussion from any head injury depends on the severity. It doesn't matter if you fall off a horse, get kicked by a horse or fall out of bed. If a horse lands a solid kick on your head, you're dead. If you fall off, you could get up and walk away or you could be a vegetable. It all depends on the severity of the injury. My horse stumbled in the arena and fell to her knees. I, in turn flipped over her head and landed flat on my back and hit my head on the ground (Wore a helmet). I walked away without a hitch. The previous year, a very seasoned rider, fell off her horse and was hospitalized with serious brain damage (No helmet). She died a few months later.
What impact it can have on memory? Again, I'm sure that would depend on where the injury is in the brain. Regardless, any traumatic injury can cause a person to completely forget the incident that caused it, even if it isn't a head injury. The brain protects us, psychologically and emotionally, from serious trauma. If you got your arm cut off in an accident, you are most likely to say...'The last thing I remember was...'
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so i want to get a base (to put on before eyeshadow to make it stay longer, etc)
ive read lots of reviews about urban decay primer potion but its soo expensive! 22 dollars? not thanks.
are there any drugstore bases that are comparable?
LINKS PLEASE. (link)
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I don't know about drugstore base, but Clinique's Touch Base for Eyes is $14, is fabulous and lasts forever! You need very little of it and it really works well.
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I have a Verizon Wireless Prepaid phone. The airtime date on it has expired, but today I just bought 15 dollars more worth of minutes... and I dialed the customer service number, which was 1-888-294-6804
I tried to reactivate the phone, since the airtime expired... but it keeps asking me to enter a passcode. I don't have a passcode. The only thing I could think of is they mean my voicemail password, but everytime I entered that, the recording told me it was incorrect.
I don't ever remember having a passcode. Where would I get that? and if I for some reason forget it, How do I find it out again?
I tried going to websites, and I tried talking to an actual person, but they said they didn't deal with Prepaids, so they brought me back to that menu that didn't help me with shit! lol, sorry.. I'm getting frustrated.
I used to never have to have a passcode, I used to just pick up the prepaid card, scratch the silver thing, and then put that pin in.
But I need a passcode to reactivate my phone, and I've never needed that before.
Please help! I need it by tomorrow. Thanks a lot. (link)
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You need to call them back and tell them you need to talk to someone who handles the pre paid phones. Tell them "This is the phone number given for prepaids on your website. Please direct me to the correct number." If they don't know what you're talking about or are braindead, then ask to speak with the supervisor.
You have to be persistant and don't take 'no' for an answer.
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so my puppy has gotten like over 10 ticks in the last week, and we do our best to get them off of her but im still concered. our vet told us that its ok to break them off at the head so the head stays in because the immune system of a dog will dry the head out and push it out, and she even did it to my brothers dog last year and he is fine, but im just wondering if certain types of ticks carry diseases because we've taken off 2 different types from her. and will she be ok if the tick falls off itself because weve also found scabs from what we believe has been a tick that she either knocked off or fell off. please any info will help! im so worried...shes my baby! thanks in advance! (link)
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My dog was just infested with tick two years ago. The ticks were everywhere and everyday I'd pull two or three off of him. The ticks aren't a problem if they are removed and even if they fall off by themselves. The problem is the deer tick. They are very, very tiny. The size of a pin head. They are the ones that are almost impossible to find and they spread Lyme's disease. The only thing you can do is run your hands all over your dog each day to be sure he/she remains tick free. If the deer tick has Lyme's, it can be transferred. It's a plight of all dog owners.
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Hello,
I'm a 26-year-old male. I'm 5'5" and weigh 300 pounds. I live at home with my parents and I have no job. My daily activities consist primarily of eating, sleeping and smoking cigars. My hygiene is terrible. I shower maybe twice a week, brush my teeth once a month, don't shave and my wardrobe consists of a t-shirt with food stains, a pair of mesh shorts and sneakers with holes in them.
I wasn't always this way. While I was never Mr. confident, I was able to participate in a variety of activities growing up. As a kid, I took swimming lessons, trumpet lessons and played several hours of basketball a day. In high school, I acted in eighteen theater productions and was a member of the football and bowling teams. I was a good student and upon graduating, I enrolled at the University of Maryland at College Park.
I wasn't overly excited about continuing my education at college, however. I didn't apply to any schools until my father really got on me about it, screaming at the top of his lungs. I guess I wanted to take a year off to consider my options. I also wanted to try my hand at being a professional actor. Though it's a tough business to break into, I know people that did and I was quite good at it. It had become my passion. Looking back, I suppose I should have gotten a part-time job, tried my hand at acting and if need be, go to college later.
Instead, I went to college right away. Despite being part of some high school activities, I am rather shy (ironic, given my ability to perform on stage) and I never really made too many friends. I had some trouble with the roommates I was assigned as well and returned home following my first semester 55 pounds heavier.
I lost the weight when I developed a crush on this girl. The weight loss was unintentional. I just got so nervous thinking about her, I couldn't eat. I allowed this crush to go on too long without making my feelings known. Rather than get to know her better, my mind started imagining what she'd be like (all things I'd like of course!) and so my crush deepened. I was drawn to her confidence, something I lacked. I was so lonely and lost, perhaps I was looking to her to save me.
Needing to pick a major, I chose Marketing. I didn't really know much about it. It's just that the business school was well-respected and I was also steered toward it by my parents as well. The truth is, I didn't know what I wanted to do or be. I was supposed to figure it out those first two years and I never did.
In 2003 I suffered a mental breakdown. Over time, I had become increasingly bitter and angry. I began hating people. Then one day, feeling very angry and lonely, I snapped. I proceeded to fall apart in a very bad way. I began smoking cigarettes and cigars. I stopped going to class, stopped studying. The friends I had abandoned me. And so, it got to a point where I never left my apartment. I ordered food to be delivered three to four times a day, all junk, including a pint of Ben & Jerry's just about every night. I sat on the couch and smoked a pack and a half a day, leaving the butts on the ground outside on the balcony. It got to a point where there were so many cigarette butts on the floor, they doubled as carpeting.
I also developed several phobias, including a germ phobia. I couldn't open doors with my hand. Whenever someone sneezed, I'd hold my breath until I could leave the area. As a kid, I was always a bit obsessive-compulsive (e.g., having to name everything object in the room before I could watch TV) but this breakdown made it all worse.
I was living to die basically. I am not a religious person and so I didn't have religion to hang on to. I began asking why. Why am I here? What is the point? I figured that whatever I do doesn't matter because in the end I will die. Even if I impact someone else's life along the way, in the end, they will die. So, is life simply about packing in as much fun as you can before your time is up? What if you're like me and you no longer enjoy doing things? I wished I was dead. I knew I couldn't take my own life and so I focused on how sad I was that I had been born in the first place.
I beat up a 13-year-old kid who was successfully ripping into me with an onslaught of digs and insults. I was so determined not be bullied, not to take shit from anyone that I lost control. On several occasions, I lashed out at one of my teachers because we didn't see eye to eye.
There was some thought that perhaps my inability to avoid being overcome with this uncontrollable rage might be a result of two concussions that I suffered, one in high school and one in college. It could also explain why my OCD and mild depressive moods that I had as a kid got worse.
(As a kid, I ran away from home a lot and also begged my dad to kill me)
Moving on...
Returning home with a college degree after seven years of going at it, I couldn't land a job. I had a marketing degree but it turns out I didn't really like marketing and my major GPA was terrible anyway. I tried getting a job as a reinsurance accountant because I interned as one and its what my dad does but the lack of an accounting degree proved problematic. Though it's not supposed to factor into their decision, I would not be surprised if my weight also kept me from being hired.
So, here's the thing:
1) I don't know what I can do for a living
2) I don't enjoy very many activities
3) I'm not really interested in the American dream lifestyle
4) I can't afford to see a mental health professional
5) I'm unable to go to crowded places (i.e., the mall, the movies)
6) I'm too afraid to work with strangers
7) I have no friends
8) I'm slowly killing myself with tobacco, over eating and lack of activity
9) I can't let go of the past and stop regretting all of my mistakes
10) I have no work history to put on a resume
11) I've overwhelmed with guilt and feelings of worthlessness
12) I lack something I want, something I can use as motivation
I figure my time is running out. I'll either die from cancer or a heart attack. I certainly allowed myself to have many cavities and receding gums. This may be my last chance.
I need suggestions. I need ideas for what I can do as a start. How do I make a fresh start? Heh, can I give myself amnesia so all the problems go away?
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I am a Christian so my advice will be in that direction.
Maybe it's time to start seeking God. You will always have a void in your life if you leave out the most important One, and the only One, that can fill that void. Once that void is filled, everything else starts to fall in place. On the other hand, if that void is not filled, then there will always be a certain emptiness.
Things in your life have definitely spiraled out of your control. One thing just leads to another and another and another. Taken one at a time, these things can be dealt with, but, if left unattended, they take on a life of their own.
My advice would be to start seeking God. I don't know if you are a Christian, Jew or what, but I would personally, read the Bible. Before reading, I would pray for God's guidance through His word and ask for a revelation of the truth. Then read. I can testify to the fact that God does answer pray and He does help those who seek his help. He will direct you and get you out of this mess you're in.
I would also force myself to get out and take a walk anytime you feel you are falling into the same old routine. A walk in the sunshine helps ward off depression. Everything is worse at night and on gloomy days without sunshine. Take advantage of those nice days and just get out! Take longer and longer walks as the days go by.
When you get up in the morning FORCE yourself to jump directly into the shower! Brush your teeth before you lose them all! Change the linens on your bed! Hard boil an 2 eggs for breakfast and then GET OUTSIDE! This will also help you lose weight, but don't make that your goal. You must start somewhere and the easiest way to start is with the simplest things.
You feel very bad about yourself because you've let things go to the point where everything in your life looks dire. As a Christian, I feel the devil has you exactly where he wants you, but the fact that you are reaching out for help tells me that God has other plans and has put in your heart the desire to keep going and seek out the help you need. He put that desire in you, therefore, He has plans for you. Seek Him. This could be big.
UPDATE: You did not say you were an atheist. You simply said that you were not a religious person and did not have a religion to hang on to.
Obviously, you will have to take some steps to help yourself. You recognize the problem, but that isn't good enough. You must take a first step, with or without God. Talk to your doctor and ask where you can get free help. You may be able to get free meds. There is no magic bullet.
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i just wanna know how many of you believe in mythological creatures like
-unicorns
-mermaids
-werewolves
-vampires
-dragons
things like that! i don't wanna hear something like..." we all would like to believe in such things for the joy of it...." blah blah blah
yes or no only please and why you think so , i would like facts to support your answer please!!!
thank you to all who answer my random question!
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Truth is stranger than fiction.
I have my own theories on cryptids. I am a Christian and I do believe a lot of this stuff is demonic. If you look at it close enough, you'll notice that these cryptids are very hard to catch on camera (ALWAYS a grainy picture), they appear and disappear quickly, people who see them experience strange feelings, from almost a hypnotic state to a dread and foreboding. Many of them do not obey the laws of our universe. They can move with unnatural speed and often without making a sound (Bigfoot & UFO's).
So, yes, I believe they are real, but what they are is the real question.
Here's a link you may find interesting....
http://s8int.com/
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Is there any way to find out who is calling from just a number? The same number texts me sometimes and now they're texting me like we know eachother, but I don't know who it is and they won't respond back. I have a big feeling it's an ex-boyfriend. It's really annoying and I just want their identity! Is there someway I can find out a name from a number? (link)
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Go online to a reverse lookup cell phone database and do a reverse lookup. Put the number in and see what comes up.
Sometimes you can find a free one, sometimes you have to pay.
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Hello everyone :D
Alrighty so I'm 17 years old, turning 18 in September. I've been raised with a mother who is cooky in the head, but has a strong religious side, although her other side might be extremely contradicting. But, on the other hand, I have been raised along a father as well, who is open minded, easy going, and just a tad bit religious, nothing big though. My dad's side is Catholic, my mom's side is Evangelist(i think). I, on the other hand, went to a Christian church, not sure what kind though, since there are many under Christianity. To be honest, yes, I believe in God, but I'm not devoted to church, nor am I very religious, I'm more like my father. Umm, recently, my boyfriend who is 18 years old has had his first communion, and confirmation. He talked to me, and it seriously got me thinking when he asked me the question, "Are you baptised, and if you aren't, would you like to be?". I found out I am NOT baptized, but I'm not sure about the second question. Can someone please shed some light?
-What is the purpose of being baptized?
-What if you aren't baptized and never get baptized?
-What religions require baptism and which don't?
- Pros and cons?
Any info would be greatly appreciated!!
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Catholics believe baptism should occur in infancy.
Evangelicals, and most other protestant churches, believe you should be baptized when you're an adult and have made the decision to commit your life to Christ. They don't believe infants are capable of sin, therefore, do not need to be baptized and cannot make a conscience decision to follow Christ and be washed of their sins.
Baptism is symbolic of the commitment to Christ and the washing away of sins. It also symbolizes dying in Christ (dying to your sins and the old way of life) as Jesus died on the cross for our sins and rose again. So, we are submersed (die) and come up again (rise again). As Christians, we are required by the Lord to do this.
If you don't get baptized, you haven't "come out of the closet", so to speak. It's an outward show of faith and commitment to God.
All that said, none of this is relevant if you are not committed to follow Christ. That comes first, baptism comes second. Following Christ is not the same as being religious. Religion is what man says about God. Revelation is what God says about himself, which can be found in the bible, which is the living Word of God.
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There's this guy and I care a lot about him. We met this summer and he was really good to me from like July to December. Then, in late December he told me that he still had feelings for me, but that he wanted to be alone. I refused to leave him alone because I felt like he needed me. So, he finally ended up telling me off and we didn't talk for awhile after that.
Then in January, I myspace messaged him with a letter of closure letting him know how much I loved him, and a couple of things that I wanted to get off my chest. He wrote me back saying that he still loved me and wanted to get back together. I called him and soon enough he and I were back together. He told me that he had cheated on me on Christmas time, and that was why he broke up with me. We lasted for about a week until I broke up with him because he was acting like a jackass, even saying that he had more feelings for the other girl than he did for me. He was going through a hard time, having dreams where he killed me because I cheated on him and his little sister got shot, and his mother was going on for life-threatening surgery, he was almost diagnosed with lung cancer but instead they found out that he had a bleeding ulcer. Then, he told me that he wasn't happy in a relationship, and when I told him never to say that he loved me again, he said, “Your right, I can't love you, I don't even love myself.” This was the day after he proposed to me.
A couple of days later, I text him telling him that I was sorry for everything, and that I was going to get out of his life. He told me that he okay, but that he still loved me, and we talked for a little while. When I talked about the prospect of getting back together, he was keen on it at first. Then, he told me that he was no longer single, had started dating a girl the night that I broke up with him, and that he had loved the girl that he was now with for two years, and would appreciate it if I didn't contact him again.
I left him alone for a little while, and then for Valentines day he got me a romantic gift to initiate contact. He told me that the poem contained his true feelings for me and that he was now single, which I honestly do believe. He started treating me very, very well this time. I was really happy, we were both afraid of losing each other, he wouldn't let me leave him again when I started mentioning the girls that he told me about, he didn't even want to talk about it, and things were going really great. That was from February 12th to March 18th.
In March, he got discharged from the army. The army was basically his dream job. He wanted to be in the army for 6 years, and get out as a second lieutenant. From there, he wanted to go into the marines and eventually become a police officer. However, he shattered his ankle and his wrist when he fell 20 feet from a tower. That night he told me that he felt like a failure, that he had failed at everything, our relationship and the military (which was all he felt like he had). But let me know that nothing was changing.
The day after things did. Things changed for the worst, we got into a fight where he told me that he couldn't go without sex for four months while was in basic training. Which I don't think had anything to do with it at all. I think that he was just looking for some excuse so that he could push me away again. He told me that he had, had sex with another girl, who I later found out doesn't even exist. And, I noticed how the story about Christmas time kept constantly changing.
During that week, I text him a lot. I found out that, that girl didn't even exist, and he mentioned being afraid of getting closer to me when I asked him. Also, during that time he told me that I was right, that he didn't want to leave me but that he wanted to run away. He was talking really crazy. I guess that this was to get my attention. I called his phone to make sure that he was okay, he didn't answer, he caled me later. I told him that he really scared me, he told me that he knew and that he enjoyed hurting people, because people always hurt him. He mentioned that I had hurt him this summer when I messed around with other guys.
I wrote him a letter about a week later apologizing for the way that I had treated him this summer. He was the only guy this summer who was actually worth it, and I feel like he still is, despite everything.
He told me to call him, I did, but he didn't answer the phone, he called me. I asked him what's up, and he started making small talk with me. Talking to me about how he should probably give up smoking, he's 19 years old, has been a heavy smoker for 5 years and has been smoking for 10. Then, I asked him what he thought about that letter, he told me that he thought that I needed to stop trying to figure him out. That he thought that he figured out why he treated people like this. He thought that it was because he was in so much pain that he enjoyed putting others through the same thing. I told him that I just wanted to apologize for what I did this summer, because looking back at what I did was probably really hurtful, considering how he felt about me. Then, he told me that he wasn't entirely innocent either, and that I should have kissed his ass this summer when I had the chance to. I listened to all of this, he went off on a tangent. After going off a tangent, he told me that I was too young and naïve to understand it. I asked him if he purposely hung up on me, told him fine ignore me then, and he didn't answer. My friend told me to show him that I meant that, so I deleted him off my contacts list and haven't talked to him for like 3 day.
Here's what I did this summer, I messed around with two different guys, we did everything but have sex. That, however, was a coping mechanism because he was engaged and I didn't think that we'd be together, which he doesn't even seem to understand. And, I did even tell him that I had feelings for one of the guys but I felt like he deserved to know.
Yes, a lot of that is really immature and I understand that. Some girls have told me that they think that he's just dicking me around, but I really doubt it. A lot of other people who are experienced in the push-pull game and know about bipolar disorder think that it's probably because he wants to play that game with me, although they can' t tell if he wants to be with me or not. And, that he basically sounds like he's textbook bipolar.
So, who I should listen to the harsh critics who are telling me not to talk to him, to just drop him? Or, the people that are telling me that he might actually be really into me and want to be with me, but that he could probably just have closeness issues? Both could be right, but something keeps on backing up the latter. Either way, I think if he does call me again, I'm going to play hard to get. In my perspective my harsh critics have been wrong before. I even see images of the two of us together, and as much as I've wanted to give up, I can't ever. What should I do?
Like to me, there's a lot of evidence that he's actually really into me, despite all these games. #1- When we're talking, he wants to be on the phone with me all the time. # 2 – I feel like he tells me a lot of things that he doesn't tell a lot of people. He might even show a side of himself to me that he doesn't show other people. # 3 – He listens to me and gives me advice on certain things. # 4 – On a good day he's protective of me, wants to put a smile on my face and make me laugh. # 5 – I think it's really weird how he read my letter if he's not interested in me at all. # 6 – I think it's interesting how if he's so into hurting me, he would actually tell me that he likes hurting people. Wouldn't he play around the bush? # 7 – He'll talk about things that occur in the future all the time with me, like... he'll be like, “when I'm 21...” “15 years from now...” etcetera. Am I looking too into things or is there actually a possibility that he might actually be really into me? And yes, I do understand even if he is, he's very fucked up, but I really don't care. I just want to know what people think. (link)
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He may be really into you, but he is also really screwed up. Your being in his life isn't going to change things. He needs therapy and you need to remove yourself from the situation.
If you stick around, things will only get worse from here. He's young, with emotional problems and someday he will be old with emotional problems, if he doesn't get help. Emotional problems tend to get worse as time goes by without intervention. If he's bi polar, he needs medication and could be dangerous. That's unpredictable. If you stick around, you will bear the brunt of it.
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so i'm 18 years old, female.
i will say, i love my parents to death. we have a pretty good relationship together and yeah they get annoying sometimes but they're always there for me. they care about me. the only problem is that i'm 18 and still have a curfew of 12:30!! even since i started driving at 16 my curfew has been that. now it's my dad who i have to try and persuade to try and let me stay out as long as i want. i've tried asking him if i didnt have to have a curfew and guess what he said? well if you want to pay rent, you dont have to have a curfew but as long as your under my roof, what i say goes. he also said he is worried about drunk drivers being out late at night, but whatever. it's not like ive ever done anything for them not to trust me, im honestly a really good kid. i get good grades, i have a job, i dont get into trouble. all my friends dont have curfews, i am 18, dont you think its silly too? how can i talk my dad into at least letting me stay out later?! (link)
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His house, his rules. I went through that myself when I was your age and, you know what? I hated it, but I kiss the ground my father walks on, now, decades later. It's hard to understand while you're in the middle of it because there is a desire for independence, but when you look back, you'll see how he was trying to protect you from the troubles that are in this world that you just don't understand yet. There is so much he is trying to do to make sure your life stays on the right track.
The way to get your curfew extended is to prove that you are responsible and sensible. When he is confident that you will do the right thing in every situation, then you will get more freedom.
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does anyone ever get the feeling on certain areas on your skin that it feels like its stinging. ALOT. like when you touch it, it hurts like theres cuts there. but there arent any cuts at all? it happens to me sometimes, like yesterday it happend on my foot and it hurt alot. i tried searching for it but i have no idea what it is. thanks (link)
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I know what you're saying because I have had the same symptoms myself in the past. I very rarely have them anymore and I have never received a explanation for them. I, personally, have my own theory on it. I think it's a nerve problem. Perhaps super sensitive nerve endings. I would try taking a vitamin supplement. I use All-One by Nutritech. It's a really good powdered supplement. I think alot of physical problems are caused by vitamin deficiencies. You could try the vitamin route and see what happens.
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before i start, let me begin by saying that i'm 18 years old, it's not like i'm some bratty teenager running away for no reason. but, honestly, i can't live in this house anymore. this is a mess. i'm not planning on running away forever, but these people have to miss me. i feel kind of bad about it, but i'm so mad right now, that i can't get over it. i'm 18 years old, i'm in college, and i don't even drive a car. i'm the only person in my family who doesn't drive a car. my mom drives a bmw and my family owns a lot. in high school, i was the angel of the class. i'm a straight A student, i didn't even go away for college. i've never gotten drunk in my life, never smoked. my best friend is literally my mother. i've never even slept over at anyone's house before. literally, i've been an angel. but, my family had other priorities than paying my insurance. they bought me cars, and then they never let me drive them because they hadn't put insurance on me. there is absolutely no point in that.... what so ever. so yes, i'm a little bit frustrated that my family keeps treating me like a child. right now, i'm on break and i wanted to go the gym to a spinning class at 12:15.... no one can take me. my grandmother is going to the doctor, and my mom and i got into a huge fight this morning and we're not speaking... plus she's at work. my cousin in 16 yrs old and he's the one i have to ask for rides. i'm sorry but this is ridiculous. my mother started the fight with me this morning and it just kept accelerating and accelerating and she left really angry, and i'm really angry. my grandmother won't even let me stay home alone. i know that i'm young, but i think i'm old enough to drive a car, and stay home alone, so that i can work on my term paper. so, yea i'm pissed. i need to find a way to run away for a little while... i can walk from here to the library... and at least i'll feel a little more independent that i can do that by myself. i just need to get out of here for a while... and i don't know how to do it without anyone noticing. i'm about to have a heart attack in here. it's a mess all the time, and no matter how much i clean, it's still a mess. i just can't do this anymore. can someone please help me?? and please don't answer if your answer is not to run away. i'm an adult, and i've already decided for myself. i'm just asking for advice on how to do it. (link)
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"Adults" don't "run away". Children do.
Get a job and move out. You're old enough.
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i am an asian american, 15/f by the way. i was born here in the u.s so i'm an american citizen. my parents were not born here though. they were born in Vietnam. so pretty much, i have this dream to go to South Koreal to the beautiful city of Seoul. I mean i've been studying the korean language for 3 years now. but there's one thing i'm absolutly unsure of, is it possible for a u.s citizen to live in another country? if not then are there any options or possible ways that can give me the chance to stay there, like a certain job? i'm dying to go there and live my life there in the future!
please tell me if and you have any clue i would very much appreciate it!
:) (link)
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Yes it is possible and is done all the time. You could get a work visa.
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i just started tanning for prom and i have my period but i don't use tampons and i was wondering if i could do in a tanning bed with a pad? i don't want it to catch fire i have such a fear with that ever since i saw this movie. so can i go in there with a pad? (link)
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A tanning bed can't be hot enough to catch a sanitary napkin on fire or you would burn, too!
The only way that could happen is if you were being tanned with microwaves, and that would probably kill you before your pad could catch on fire.
That said, there was a fire in a tanning bed when a man was inside, but that was more than likely a faulty bed and it wasn't the man or anything he was wearing that caught fire.
You're more likely to get an infection from a previously used tanning bed than having your pad catch on fire, but, that's another story.
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i really want to be an orthodontist and i was wondering how much school you would have to go through. i really don't want to spend a lot of time in school =/ i was also wondering if their are any schools in the U.S. that have a dentistry program (preferably in the northeast region) or if its alot of school does anyone know of any career close to an orthodontist where it doesn't require that much school? (link)
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An Orthodontist requires at least 10 years of education. College, graduate school and specialty school. It is very demanding.
Here's a link to some info, including other areas in dentistry that you might consider....
http://www.braces.org/healthcareprofessionals/orthodonticstaff/staff-careers.cfm
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i want to no if i can use baby oil when i go tanning...will it burn me or tan me??? (link)
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Yes, you can. You'll only burn if you stay too long in the sun, same as with tanning lotion.
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