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Name: Laura
Age: 14
Single or taken: Hem, single...
Height: 5'7 and a half
Weight: A three digit number
Eyes: Green
Hair: Reddish Brownish blondeish? lol
Grade: 9th.
Schooled at: Home
Race: Umm, I'm German, Irish, French and Italian...?
Religion: Christian (Baptist to be exact)

Don't fall for someone who won't be there to catch you.

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okay ive been going ou with a guy for 2 days now and i cant stop thinking about him..i think about him all the time everytime i close my eyes all i see is him..when we have to say bye on the phone..i wanna say i love you...but im not sure...could i be inlove??

I doubt it. Everyone usually feels that way the first couple of days, so no, don't say it because chances are it's not true.

~Laura~

Sorry if this question has been asked before!!

You see, i wash my hair everyday, and it always smells soo good like my shampoo! I let it airdry, + it naturally goes curly.
The thing is, i straighten my hair; a lot, with the CHI [ceramic hairstyling iron.. it's my saviour!! :D hehe] my hair isn't dead, but it always smells kind of.. well, burnt i guess. So my question is, how can i get it to not smell like that? lol. It's kind of embarassing because people are always playing with my hair, and if i can smell it, i'm pretty sure they can too. Is there any kind of product you can put in afterwards to give it a nice smelling scent? Some sprays i've tried have only made it frizzy :S

thank you in advance guys!!

Okay, I think maybe you're doing it too long. If you leave the straightener on your hair too long, it gets a burnt smell to it. Try just putting the hair in the iron and running the iron down your strand of hair really quickly a few times, just until it's straight. Then move on, and don't do that part again. When you're done, get some Herbal Essences Leave In Condition, spray it on, it helps de-frizz, and it has a REALLY great scent! :)

~Laura~

ok here's the deal... i'm 14 years old...FRESHMAN!!!.... and i realli realli want to find a boyfriend... but i keep falling for the players... they're always so nice and funny and cute... i just can't get away from them...
then there'z these...other...guys that are totalli not cute at all, but are realli realli nice... what should i do?

You should stop only dating "hot" guys, who the hell cares what they look like? Shallow people.

~Laura~

Hey everyone,

I'm playing a character in play where i have to keep a straight face while someone sings to me in German... does anyone have any advice on how to keep a straight face and not laugh or giggle during the performance?

Get with the character and practice a lot. Find out what it is they're saying, and it's probably nothing funny at all. If you need to, think of something sad. Like someone dying, or something, and it will keep your mind off laughing

~Laura~

ok well my mom told me last week she thinks its time i go see a gyno. well i dont have a problem with it b/c i am sexually active and i think i might need to go. well im guessing she obviously thinks me and my boyfriend are doing stuff if she's making me go there. well im really scared to tell her so im going to keep it from her as long as i can. my friends have told me that the questions they ask you are confidentail.. well is there any way i can ask the gyno if i can get birth control and they can give it to me without my mom thinking anything like can they tell her she should probably put me on it to regulate my period? i know this is weird but what do u think?

Yeah, totally, mom's are really good about knowing what's going on. She wouldn't be making you go if she didn't think you needed to, so hey, while you're there, why not? Just be like "Mom, I'm old enough, I'm already going to be there, so I need birth control." or whatever. If she asks why, tell her. It's not like she doesn't already know, I mean, they can tell. :)

~Laura~

I'm 16 and my boyfriend is 17. We've been together for 16 months and i truly believe that we are madly in love. I somewhat believe he is the one for me. He's a senior and will be graduating this year, I'm only a junior. I'm really scared of whats going to happen when he graduates. I've seen movies and shows where the couple breaks up because the one goes to college and never sees each other or whatever the deal is. He's not sure where he is going yet but i really hope it all works out. he mentioned something before like "if we're still going out next summer before i go away to college, i'll propose." It's scary how i feel like i could run away and get married with him right now. what do u think about this situation?

I really think it will work out if you don't tie him down right this second. Just let him know how you feel, but don't be like "Either we get married or I leave you" because that would scare him off. If he really loves you he will try to make it work.

~Laura~

im 13/f and my sister whose 19 moved out about 1 1/2 yrs ago nd recently moved back in. She had a really controlling boyfriend and they were hooked on heroine. My mom had agreed to let her move back in if she stopped doin in. She moved back in about 2mnths ago and got rid of the old boyfriend. She got a new boyfriend but she's still using drugs. it's not just a once in a while thing either, its everyday, and as i said, my mom doesnt know and shes always saying how proud she is that my sister stopped doing drugs. I don't want to wreck me nd my sistersn relationship, but i think my mom needs to know because im afraid my sister will hurt herself.

-confused

I wouldn't tell your mom. But tell your sister that you know she's still doing it, and if she doesn't stop soon you're going to tell. If she makes you promise not to tell, just say "I can't garuntee, because I love you and you're hurting yourself." or something like that, but just make sure she knows that you know about it. Sorry, and good luck.

~Laura~

okay well i really need a guy in my life... someone who is there for me and can help me with my problems... because it seems like all my friends are like blocking me or something it just isn't fair.. :-/ i want a sweet guy who knows how to confert a girl... does anyone know that feeling??

Oh goodness, do I know that feeling. >.> I felt it for like, the longest time ever. But don't worry, the right guy will come along soon. It's funny, you always find what you need when you are at the end of your ropes looking for it. I found mine. :D

~Laura~

i need a homecoming date and all these girls wanna go with me but i dont no who to take. i like them all but none more then the other. i dont wanna make ne of them feel bad. wuts a good way to pick the right one?

Take the one you know the best and have the most chemistry with. I'm assuming you know them all, but there's probably ONE that's more "your type" than the others, right? If not, take the first one to ask you.

~Laura~

Just out of curiosity, what does "hooking up" mean to you? It seems to mean something different for everybody...

Not really being "exclusive" but just like hanging out for pizza, or seeing someone you kinda know somewhere and then going and doing something

~Laura~

ok, i need your opinion on something. and its looong so if you can help me, pleeeease email me at sshheellbbyy@hotmail.com. thanks sooo much

I can help, but it would be a lot easier if you would please just type it on here, if you want I can answer it, let you tell me you've read it by just asking another question and saying "I read it" and then deleting it, if you don't want everyone to see. Sorry, I'm not into e-mailing people I don't know. >.> I hope you can post it here, I'll help in anyway I can.

~Laura~

ok this is a weird question but...how do u make those holes in the knees of ur jean...i know i cud just use scissors but would it still give me like the little thread things...i know this is a weird question but if u have any idea about what im talkin about and u have done this urself before....please answer!!! Thanks!!!

Cut a slit and then pull it a little bit, and then try washing them, or if you see a thread keep pulling it, or if you have a serrated knife be really careful and cut back and forth a little bit. Good luck!

~Laura~

PS, if all else fails, buy them like that. :P

Okay is it true that laxatives help/make you lose weight?? and also, if you take too much, is it dangerous?? thankx

Heh, yeah, it's true, but no, it's not healthy for you. They obviously send stuff out of your body and that makes you loose weight, but it also isn't good because you could get addicted and you need SOMETHING in your system, and that could flush it all out.

~Laura~

I have never had a boy friend and I am fearing that I never will. Most of my friends say wait until High School. But the thing is I can't wait, not the fact that I just want one it's is because I have felt for many guys but I have never been asked out. A friend of mine that I haven't seen for a while I saw and he look alot older and cuter than the last encounter with him. But the thing was he had a girl friend. I've been friends with him for a while and I somewhat have feelings for him. But that is besides the point. It made me think if will ever be the girl wrapped up in anothers arms. I've never been told that I've been crushed on or any thing. I need advice.
Signed sad

I know the feeling, it's happened to me before. Just because no one tells you they like you, doesn't mean no one does. You sound like a nice person and I'm sure someone out there likes you, but just hasn't told you. Trust me, I've felt for TONS of guys that weren't interested, had girlfriends, or I didn't know that well, and only two of them have turned out great. But two is better than none. Keep your head up, and your friends are probably right, lots of things happen in high school, and there's more students and a lot more gosspip. If that didn't help, just say so and I'll try again.

~Laura~

ok well yesterday morning i woke up and i had this thing EVERY1 has like stuffy nose sore throat and coughing . well this morning i woke up and still had it so my mom let me stay home and she stayed home with me and took care of me. well then i just layed in bed and i got this TERRIBLE stomache ache under my breasts and it hurt SOOOO BAD! i was rolling in bed screaming and crying it hurt so bad! so my mom got me a heating pad and put it on it and like 10 minutes later it went away after ive had the stomache ache for about 20-30 mins. my ? is - what was wrong bc ive NEVER had a tummy ache like that before. and has anyone had that b4? oh and i was sweatin REEEEALLY bad! plz respond! oh ANY1 who answers i rate 5!

It's probably a flu, muscle aches are really common with flus. Still, see the doctor immediatly.

~Laura~

ok well i went to " your questions " to see if any one answered my question. well the only question in there isnt mine. its like I dont know what subject to put it under!
Question Posted Sunday September 19 2004, 7:18 pm

ok*
I am a freshman in high school...There is this guy in school that I like... his name is nick and well some people say that he likes me tOo. We are talkin all the time and we are each others hoes... yea not really funny but its an inside joke... AnyWayZ. I like him and so does my friend paige but that really doesnt matter... but this girl breanna is like threatin'n me like if I go out with him she is gunna beat me up and I dont know what to do... we are always together and we both told her to leave us alone and she wont... I dont wanna get her mad at me and make her wanna beat my butt... but I like him.... what should I do!

thanks*
Erika

^ wat happenend?

Okay, I logged back in and it's fine. Log out, then log back in.

~Laura~

i haven't had my period yet, and i'm 13. my mom was 15 when she got hers and my sister who is 15 hasn't got hers yet. i thought that i would get those "genes" but lately my discharge has been tinted red in some spots. Also today i had no discharge at all. am i going to be starting soon? because i haven't had cramps, or PMS yet.

My grandma was 13, my mom was 13, my sister was 13, I was 12, but my aunt, my mom's sister, was 17. So really, it does kinda matter about your mom's starting age, but it's not based completely on that.

But yeah, I'd say you're about ready. Have fun!

~Laura~

what is the difference between a flat iron and a straightener..and which one works better? don't say they're the same thing because I know they're not =) thanks!

A flat iron usually comes with attachments. Like one that makes your hair small crimped, one big wavey crimps, one straight, and maybe a cool design. A straightener is just for people with curler hair and JUST straightens. And it also flips your hair, but it doesn't have the little design attatchment. Hope I helped!

~Laura~

ok, I just recently dumped my bf of three months. I'm 13/f, and I felt really bad about dumping him. I had thought about it all the time. On the school bus he acted fine, but I could tell he was hurt. I also heard a nasty rumor about him. (it's soo gross) But I kind of dumped him for that, and feel so rude. So at the dance, he asked me to dance, I said sorry for dumping him. We danced, and it was awesome. We're back together again. So...

1. Did I make the right decision?
2. Should I believe the nasty rumor?
3. WILL SOMEONE HELP ME?

It's not too long. :)

Anyway, yeah, it's good that you got back together. It was kinda wrong to dump him over a rumor. Just ask him if he's heard it, and if it's true. Just be flat out, and if he's really a great guy, he'll tell you. So, 1. Getting back together with him? Yes. 2. Not unless you ask him about it. 3. Hope I did!

~Laura~

on the first day of school i met this kid and he complimented me on a couple things because we have alot in common. every time we passed eachother in the halls he'd wave, smile, or say hi, and everyone said he def. liked me. well the past week he hasnt been even looking at me so i was getting upset, then i learned from other people that he has a gf who he's been with for a long time. well yesterday at church he sat behind me and he's like "YOU... YOU... i jerked off to you last night" and hes like "and you were the girl from my dream..." and i was like oh cool! and we started talking, and he was like "how come you never say hi to me in the halls anymore?"... so im confused i think he likes me but i dunno about his gf. what do you think?

Hahah. People jerk off to me all the time. *nod* No, but anyway.

Maybe he's just being friendly? Everybody wants friends, and I act that way with all my friends, so yeah, I'ma say he's just a friendly person.

~Laura~

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