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Hey well as you probably see I am 19 and I'm Christian (JesusFreak) and go ahead ask me something hopefully i can give you an answer thats right and ok with you. Have a good day

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sorry to ask this and i'm asking in honest curiosity not to be stupid but like if you masturebate is it a sin??? or is you say h3ll and fu**

sorry it took so long for me respond to you i had school...so there is alot of controversy surrounding whether or not mastubation is sin or not...there is one bible verse that mentions something similar to masturbation and i believe its in the book of John not sure tho...the story goes like this (i am gonna use fake names cus i cant member the real ones....well there was a guy named andrew who had a wife and andrew also had a brother named steve...God spoke to andrew one day and told andrew to make his brother promise that if andrew were to die that steve must get his wife pregnant with steves own semen...so steve promised andrew and God...well go figure andrew died so steve was gonna do waht he promised get andrews wife pregnant so they went to have sex and right when steve was going to cum he felt guilty and pulled out and spilt his seed on the ground...God was angry killed steves family and killed steve............thats the only intrepretation to say that masturbation is wrong but the thing is God wasnt mad at the masturbation back that steve did to finish him off he was mad at the fact that he broke the promise...God also says dont be sexually immoral but when he says that he means having more then one sexual partner...........so both reasons dont provide enough to decided whether or not it is a sin so i guess it comes down to personal opinion honestly i guess it is fine as long as you dont do it to an excessive ammount or look up porn while your doing it(porn is isnt pure and basically saying you would be having sex with them if they were there)..................also cussing is a sin....there is a verse that says let nothing come out of your mouth that is vulgar or would dissapoint God and that wouldnt further Gods glory.....

JesusFreak

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hi ... im like in love with this guy and he knows it and im really nice to him and stuff i say hey to him and he used to ALWAYS say hey back and he told me EVERYTHING there is to know about him even his person life and he is now on the cms football team and now when i say hey to him on yahoo he doesnt answer but answers my sister and when i see him in school i say hey to him and he looks away ... like he doesnt know me .. he tells me NOTHING now its like football got to his head .. and he jus says dont worry bout everything and im not worrying why he gets in trouble im worrying about him !! what should i do ?? plz answer back ... lots of love

do you know if he got a gf cus that girl could have told him to stop talkin to you that happens alot...also maybe he didnt believe you that u loved him and now he realizes it and is creeped out a bit...your a sweet gilr im sure there are other guys out there who wont ignore you...

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There's this kid at my school...we are both freshman and at this oriantation, we were together a lot...( in the same groupd )Well, now i see him one to two times a day, and i dont have much time inbetween classes b.c they have a strict schedule...=(...Anyways, i really like this kid...I had the dream that you have, like when you are crushing...well I saw him today...and i literally stopped breathing...I`m trying to get his screen name and im hoping i can talk to him sometime...but my question is...What can i do to get him to notice me? Like for a minitur betweet classes or a minute after school, or online even...We both play soccer so we can talk about that but what else...? Thanks to anyone who took the time to read this...! =)

when you see him in the hallway make it a point to be in his path or travel accidently bump into him or drop ur books in front of him so he will help you pick them up...just talk about life in general like school or other stuff you life...

JesusFreak

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Hi everyone, does anybody know good ways to make money? Thanks, I'll rate the first three that answer a five.

get a job...or poker night with friends

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okay im like so______ confused! theres this boy that i really love to death i went out with him last year and couldn't get over him so here i am still in love with him! i see him in tech-ed and in the halls when were going to our classes but thats basically it! were still really good friends since we broke up and that's really great but i want us to become more then that. were always flirting and stuff when i see him but then again he acts like he doesn't like me! he's sending me so many mixed signals i don't get it! one minute he's flirting with me then the next he's talking to some other girl. i don't know if there flirting or anything but that's what it seems like to me. all of my friends think i should just tell him how i feel but i tryed that before and i didn't get anywhere all he said was "i really lke being friends and thats all i really want right now im not looking for a girlfriend" that was last year so i dont know if i should tell him or not. how do i find out if he likes me or not. if i find out that he likes me should i ask him out like right away or give it some time to make him wonder if i liek him to? thanks for reading this! sorry its so long!

hey there...i think your just lookin at signals wrong maybe hopefully seein some sign that he likes you...yeah i think its best that you just ask him about liking you and even if he says he doesnt and doesnt want a gf just ask him why you deserve to know and yeah if he does like you let him sweat a little before mentionining you like him too...

JesusFreak

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okay i've liked this guy lets call him "david" for about 2 years now well DAVID and I met in 6th grade cuz i had just moved here and the first time i saw him i knew i would like him but the thing is i hate liking guys because im only 13 and i want to get to live life anyways all through 6th grade DAVID hated me, yes hated is a pretty meaningful word but he meant it 100% he despised me,hated me,disliked me very much however you want to put it, and in the summer i told everyone i had stopped because i could not live my life knowing someone hated me and no one believed me but they didn't make it a big deal well the summer of 6th grade DAVID and i became real good friend and we had lunch and math together in 7th grade so we were really good friends and in 7th grade we always talked and he would help me with my problems and I would help him with his and a lot of people still think i liked him then 7th grade was over and we kept our friendship tight and then 8th grade started and he is in my studyhall and lunch so this would be the 3rd year we have known eachother and every year he has been in my lunch. Everyone thinks he is mean but no one knows him like me he's a real sweet guy and is very caring about his friends and family and will stick up for anyone. Well see i never actually stopped liking him because he always gets me with his smile, but I no what ur going to say ur going to say, tell him you like him he might like you... but I know him too well he'll hate me,despise me,dislike me very much again and if I really do stop liking him which is my goal for this year he won't believe me. So plz help me and here is what he does...when he hooks me up with someone that person never breaks up with me now when i hook him up with someone i tell her she dare now break his heart and she usually doesn't and he just says like I think we should be friends, i don't know but he might be doing that to the guys and sometimes at my locker guys will come and put there arms around me and DAVID will walk by and look at the guys around me in the eyes and the guys will like walk away... is he trying to tell me something?? does he know something?? or does he just want to protect me??

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thank u sooooo much

i guarentee he likes you...especcially if he is that protective of you...i dont understand why your trying to get over him cus he sounds like you 2 would make such a great couple...i actually think you should talk to him about dating each other...

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I have a really really low self confidence, if someone compliments me I immediatly think they're only saying it to be nice or they're taking the mickey. How can I be more positive and self confident?

lol there is only one answer lol take things more positively instead of looking at all the bad in this world look at the good, such as in bad situations dont look at how much things suck looks how much things could suck worse and be happy that isnt happening to you

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I have a problem with getting a boyfriend! I don't know why because I think I make a really great girlfriend (I'm told this also) and I'm extremely loyal. I'm not ugly either. I think I'm pretty OK looking (long brown hair, blue green eyes, 5'5", tan). I'd show my picture but you all would probably say "No wonder you can't get a boyfriend!" But anyway, I always seem to attract guys way older than me who are perverted and just want me for one thing. Sex.

Is there any way I can get a guy to notice me? I know this sounds cheesy and stupid, but I don't really feel "complete" without one. I don't have any friends at all. I had some but they're unreliable and never want to hang out so screw them. I want a boyfriend really bad! Plz help.

I rate btw. And also don't tell me I'm pathetic...

most people go through the the phase your going through right now...so dont worry to much the right guy is out there for you...you just need to be confident and if there is a you want to get to know go talk to them show them you arnt afriad to make the first move...i will be praying for you

JesusFreak

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ok, well i have this friend actully i would like to think of her as a best friend, cause she really is!! shes so nice and were really good friends or we used to be, but ne we never hang out ne more, i still call her one of my best friends cause she is! but i saw this one thing and it said her best friend and i wasnt on there, and i know u can have more then one best friend, but how do i find out if she still thinks of me as a best friend or not??

signed:am i a lousy friend?:

you are not a lousy friends lol...me n my bestfriend barely see each othewr but we still are best freinds cus we connect together so easily...what you could do is to find out is like start talkin about friends and get some other girel involved n ask that other girl who her best friends are then wehn that girl answers ask the girl you think doesnt consider you as a best friend anymore and theres your answer

JesusFreak

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ok well yesterday morning i woke up and i had this thing EVERY1 has like stuffy nose sore throat and coughing . well this morning i woke up and still had it so my mom let me stay home and she stayed home with me and took care of me. well then i just layed in bed and i got this TERRIBLE stomache ache under my breasts and it hurt SOOOO BAD! i was rolling in bed screaming and crying it hurt so bad! so my mom got me a heating pad and put it on it and like 10 minutes later it went away after ive had the stomache ache for about 20-30 mins. my ? is - what was wrong bc ive NEVER had a tummy ache like that before. and has anyone had that b4? oh and i was sweatin REEEEALLY bad! plz respond! oh ANY1 who answers i rate 5!

i think you should seriously go to the doctor...thats all i can say to help you but i will surely pray for you

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Me and my bf have been together for 7 months. Hes going to uni in at the beginning of october, so hes moving.
Hes one of these guys that can get any girl he wants but Im a lot more quieter. Im kinda worried about the whole trust thing.
I know he hasnt done anything in the last 7 months coz we've been together practically all the time.
Recently I found evidence that he contacted his x-gf last month. They got really close in the short time they were together. They only broke up coz she had to move. He was saying stuff like I miss your gorgeous face, call me when you are in the area etc. She practically said the same stuff.
I didnt say anything to him but I hinted it to him a little bit. He caught on but denied ever contacting her. I just left it.
Hes a really nice guy. He always puts me first and has done so much for me.
I really want to trust him but theres just something in me thats just waiting for something bad to happen.
I know long distance realtionships aren't meant to work, but hes going to come home sometimes and im going to go and see him.
Judging from what you have read, do I have something to worry about when he goes?

18/f

i dont think you do unless she is in iowa as well...but i would do further infestigating if you really feel that something might happen...and your right long distantr relationships are hard to keep going but if you guys care enough about each other then maybe yours will work...

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me and my boyfriend were at a school dance the other day. and we've been going out for 3 months now. but this one girl was at the dance to, and she likes my boyfriends alot. well he doesn't like her like that, only a friend. well sumtimes me and my borfiend go to his boat, and this is were i met this girl first about 3 weeks back. well she went uup to my boyfriend at the dance and told him she doesn't like me and that i was giving her dirty looks and crap like that, which i never did! in fact after i reconized her from the boat i smiled at her each time i seen her. well my boyfriend asked me if i didn't give her dirty looks so i told him no and he believes me. well she came up to him again and said sumin 2 him. but he wudn't tell me wat, he just told me to stay away from her. and now hes kinda acting weird, like he doesn't want to take me to the boat cuz she might be there (cuz her parents own a boat around there too). but i highly doubt that he likes her, b.c he always says he cant stand her, and he not only says that around me but his other friends.... im just wondering, whats going on, and why is he acting like this now?

maybe the girl threatened you in someway or something...it could be many things but i would surrely get to the bottom of this maybe even mention thats hes been acting weird since the dance when she told him that thing he wont tell you....

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i recently moved to boston. i have a dad who only goes by what he hears, a mom who dont care, and a step-mom who fusses about every little thing. let alone a half bro who is fixing to go into the marines, a step-sister who feels she needs talk to her boyfriend 24-7, a little brother who has his frequent bad times and 2 other siblings, a step brother and step sister who has issues of thier own. I dont want to live in the world of hatred i have had toward my family. i cant get to any of them. and i live with 4 of them. i cant make any of them see that i have feelings as well and that i have a life to live. i need help before i do something stupidly stupid.

signed:dont care anymore.

ps-i rate well

hey i know your feeling really neglected and its tough but please dont do anything stupid like killing yourself...i know sometimes people get super wrapped up in their lifes and dont notice other people and this is where friends come in if there is somoene you can talk near you or someone who cares for you alot just talk to them and dont give your family that much thought since it hurts to think about how they dont pay much attention to you and you always have God their with ya by your side keepin you company and hey anytime you need to talk just instant message me and id be glad to be their for you....

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I hate going to work with my boss. She makes me feel SO ignorant! Whenever I do one little thing wrong she raises her voice at me in front of customers and pushes me out of the way to show me how to do things right. One time I got this customer's order wrong because she (the boss) and the customer were talking to me at the same time so I thought the customer told me she wanted the 3 cookies instead of a medium drink. After I finished the order and she paid I asked her what cookies she wanted and she said she wanted the drink instead. So then the boss looks over at me and rolls her eyes and was like "What happened?" So I told her and then she started yelling and everything.

Sorry that was so long! But anyway I really like where I work and I don't want to get another job but then again, I hate feeling so low about myself like I can't do anything right. I don't like confronting people either. ESPECIALLY my boss. So what should I do?

Thanks, and I rate!

yeah i dont blame you for confronting your boss but it seems like this is really stressing you out and sooner or later your gonna start takin the stress out on youir family or friends...what you could do is instead of taking your bosses critisizms so negatively in your mind change them like when she tells you your doing something wrong,think to your self shes only doin that becuase shes jealous of me or something like that so you can make it positive instead of negative... i learned that from motivational speaker once..it helps alot...if you can try to find a tape of him his name is Jack Canfield....

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I dread going to school everyday. I hate it this year and its not my 1st year of highschool. I hate mosta my classes and the people in them...i can never get motovated to go and plus my school sucks big time. My parents always say "well having my job is worse" but my school sucks pretty hard. I hate it and sumtimes i even wish it would burn down lol. Is there sumthin that i can do to not dread it so much?

a similar case like this i already answered to day but it helps to focus on something else like when i felt the way your feeling i became a Christian and focued on Christ..and also helps to get more involved with friends and get better relationships with them to help you through it or maybe even have a good relationship with a teacher to have an adult help your through things...what your going through is completely normal most kids go through it...or you could focus on your future plans be like i havta get through one more day so im closer to what i wanna do when im older and do that each day...

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ok..my best friend lives in a lil town outside the city i live in..someone frum her skool invited me to theyre homecoming..so i get there and find out he got grounded that day..i wasnt gunna let that ruin my time..but my friend had been crushin on this guy a hole bunch..and he asked her to homecoming..but i kinda like him..and i think he likes me..we were at a party and he kept tryin to dunk me..and imma major flirt..so i did too..but after homecoming..me and her were talkin and she made it clear that he was hers..idk if i should tell her i kinda like him..or if i should stop cuz my homecoming date..if he duz like me..im afraid shell get mad at me..

in my opinion i think she would get mad...that guy is clearly hers he asked her to homecoming..so i think you should backoff him cus he is her date no matter if you like him and he likes you back or not...i would not tell her unless you wanna be in deep water (hehe get it in deep water and you and guy were dunking each other lol)

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hey,
theres a girl who's been my friend since i was 4. now im 13 and and shes my bff. well, she told her mom a bunch of shit and her mom got mad at my mom. she's been a good friend to me, but i know that she can be two faced. she can be my bff one minute, another shell be talking bout me. but the thing is is that we get along really good. should i still be her friend even though shes 2 faced?
plezzzz dont delete.

personally i wouldnt you can find a real bff who isnt 2 faced who wont talk bad about you behind your back..the reason why you guys prolly get along so well is she realises she can hurt you and you wont leave and thats wrong...

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i really like this guy that lives in my neighborhood, but im scared that if we ever go out it'll be awkward cuz we're neighbors...what could i do?

girl are you crazy...it would so not be awkward i would give anything to have someone i was going out with to live in my neighborhood instead of having to drive to their house...

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My old boyfriend just moved away without even telling me. He just left and I heard he has another girlfriend back at home. Well, he's comeing back here to visit and i'll probebly have to comfront him but i don't know what to say... i think i still like him but should i be angry ... i don't want him to hate me

you have everyright to be angry...he should have told you he moved and thats where you start off is asking him why didnt he tell you he moved, and onto the other stuff about finding a girl down there and if you want to break it off even if you didnt talk about the girl down there just say you arnt ready for a long distance relationship....

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This is my sophomore year in highschool and i hate it. I dont lyk alotta my classes and i dread getting up every morning to go there. I'v been alot more depressed this school year and im usually crushin on people all the time, but now i juss think people r cute or hott or w/e and i wont lyk them cuz then there's no way you can get hurt. I kno i'd never commite suicide or nething and i dont really start seeing a counsler about being depressed and stuff but i always go into things with such a negative attitude because everything always turns out negative. Thats a reason y im not going to homecoming and winterball this school year because i kno im gunna feel unconfortable and its gunna suck. I juss dont kno what to do anymore. I'm pretty sure theres nothing i can do tomake me wanna go to school but does anyone have any advice on my selfesteem issues...make overs and stuff lyk that isnt gunna help me feel better abiut myself cuz im not very much a girly girl...but is there sumthin else that can help?Thanks

hey hey its pretty normal what ur going through everyone pretty much goes through your stage once in your lifes...how i got through is i became a Christan and became focused on something rather then just focusing on life...however what also helps is hanging out with friends you know outside of school so you have good friends to stick by you...feel free to im me to chat more if you need any more help i got your back...

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