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hello fellow advice seekers, my name is Johanna and I'm currently a student about to enter high school. My days are spent with my friends, family, music, and camera. I've been known for my advice and don't turn down any questions. Feedback makes me happy, so I can give everyone the answers they want.

in my point of view, i accel in these topics:
-friendships
-relationships
-school/work
-ideas/helpful tips

and who knows? maybe ill gain some knowledge by actually thinking of new situations.

it cant hurt to get my opinion, now can it? so ask away my friends.

sincerely, ask_anything

advice

how do i get my gf from cutting herself?

you can talk to your gf and ask her why she cuts herself, be there for her and try to comfort her in any way possible. if her cutting is really dangerous, you might want to find help for her... depends how far into the problem you want to go i guess. good luck, you sound like a really caring person =] -ask_anything

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why is it that all the questions that i've answered dont show up on my column?! i mean there still showing up in the question pool... so they havnt been deleted..
i3abyGerl1111111

the system might be kind of slow tonight... things should start getting back to normal by tomorrow... =] -ask_anything

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i have a best friend and i met her this year at school. but when ever i go over her house i always feel uncomfortible around her family. it kinda feels like they dont want me to be there. but it might just be me. and sometimes she gets mad that i dont wanna hang out with her but i cant tell her the reason. what should i do?

if you dont feel comfortable around your best friend's family, have her over your house instead for a while. unless you did something really wrong or something her family doesnt agree with, they shouldnt have a reason to dislike you. some families dont show their emotions well, and you just have to ignore it sometimes. if this problem concerns you to a point where you question your friendship- talk to your friend. have her talk to her family if they are bothered, maybe she can figure it out for you! dont ditch your friendship just because you feel unwanted around her family! =] -ask_anything

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Ok when either me or my brother are on AIM it says we have ad-ware in the AIM software. When I'm in it it randomly puts on a away message with this link and it says still friends?? We've run the Norton Anti-Virus on it and Spy Sweeper which is supposed to get rid of ad-ware and spy-ware. How did we get it and how do we get rid of it?

i dont know if this will work- but delete your instant messenger files with the program and then re-install it and dont click on any links that are labeled kinda weird [or just check the url address on it first]. good luck =] -ask_anything

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does anyone know any good "best friend" songs or like friend songs.. something along the lines of that.. if you do can you give me the singer and title of the song.. thanks

i cant remember this one song... but if it comes to me ill edit my answer and tell you...
here a few that could fall into a "best friend" category:
"100 years" by Five for Fighting
"Here's to the Night" by Eve 6

... i cant think of anymore at the moment! sorry! hope this helped! =] -ask_anything

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dear random ask adive grlee....im going out with this really kwl grl that i like but her best friend h8s me...or that is wut i think...wut should i do???
anonymously ur best friends bf

dear "anonymously ur best friends bf"-
if you arent sure that your girlfriend's best friend hates you, you should ask your girlfriend to talk to her. ask your girlfriend to find out what's going on- and what might be making her best friend upset at you. you never know, you could be thinking her best friend hates you, but really are getting mixed signals. good luck with your situation =] -ask_anything

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I don't know what to wear for the first day of school. I don't really have a great sence of style and i was wondering if you could help me. My hair is brown and eye brown and i am 5'2. Got any good styles for that???

the big style for the year that they showed on tv was labeled as the "sexy librarian look". not too showy- as in no mini skirts. but i also found this website you might consider reading for more trendy ideas:
http://www.boston.com/yourlife/fashion/articles/2004/08/16/school_hallways_will_look_mixed_and_matched/
city to city fashions differ, so depending on where you live it could vary. search some of your city websites and look for back to school fashion links. hope i helped a tad! =] -ask_anything

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my best friend went out with this guy that i liked and i found out that this guy doesnt even really like her and he likes me...he broke up with my best friend and then asked me out...i dont noe wut to do cuz my friend said shes not mad but i noe she is wut should i do?

if your friend said she's not mad, then take her word. if she decides that she's mad after you two start going out- just tell her you had asked and she said she wouldnt get upset. your best friend would want you to be happy, as you would want her. but if you feel like during the relationship your friend starts to get upset, dont forget to spend time with her, because nobody likes a boy obsessed best friend! and if your best friend is sensitive, dont shove your relationship with the guy in her face... thats really uncool. but always ask what she thinks, and make sure you listen to whatever she has to say. its your decision whether or not to go out with him- but read my advice and hopefully your decision will come a little bit easier. good luck! =] -ask_anything

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im really confused. I like the girly look, but i also like the punk-rock look. I listen to both kinds of music. i dont know what i should dress like this year. what do you think?

that definitly isnt an easy choice. what my advice would be is to come up with a new type of look- punkish and girlish. I dont know any specific ways to do this, but if it matches... i think you could really pull of a new look. but if you dont like that idea- switch off some days with different looks from each type. enjoy all your choices, and be confident in whatever you wear because it will show! =] -ask_anything

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How can I bring my self-esteem up? I'm really loathing myself and not liking it :(.

everyone's self-esteem can be brought up differently.

"Self-acceptance, self-love, a positive self-image, the freedom to be ourselves; all these are crucial aspects of self-esteem"

i found that on a website and you might want to focus on some areas to bring up that self-esteem. try not to be negative towards life, look on the bright side. leave one in my inbox if you want to learn about self-esteem some more! good luck! =] -ask_anything

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how wud u have a conversation w/ a guy who like sports and cars w/out having to talk about sports and cars?

well almost every guy loves sports and cars, find out by talking to him what his other interests are. if you find anything in common, start it off there. im sure if a guy is polite enough, he'll at least try to carry on a conversation with you about anything... if you need any more ideas leave one in my inbox. good luck! =] -ask_anything

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I have cuts all up and down my arms... im sucidal but the problem is.... i dont remeber doing them... i dont do drugs or drnk... what could have happened?

well, im not going to have the right answer most likely, but maybe at night you sleep walk and cut your arms. this is just an idea i came up with when i read your question. it might be a possibility? try having someone hide your knives/cutters so if it does happen when you sleepwalk, you wont fine the tools. if you black out, [as it questioned in your additional info] i dont think you would be conscious enough to do that? thats just a guess. good luck with finding out the answer you want! =] -ask_anything

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what are some good deoderents that dont leave white marks on ur clothes ANND work well to stop sweating???
thanks, Manda

i dont know a certain brand that stops sweating and doesnt leave a white mark.. but i do know a handy trick so the white doesnt show up! before you put your deoderent on- take the side of your shirt and roll it up all the way so you can take the deoderent stick and apply it from underneath the shirt. that way any of the left over white will be on the inside of the shirt not the outside! Its my Mom's trick and it might be one of a kind =] Leave one in my inbox and i can give you a better explanation if you need! good luck! =] -ask_anything

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Hey I want to loose 100 pounds in 1 year! Thats my goal. Anyways. What are some excersizes i can do and how often,how long and ect to do them. What food do i eat? And do you have any sites? That can help me. Thank you so much i will rate everyone a 5 if you help! Ill even rate you if you didnt help because you tried lol.

first off- it's good you have a goal. but i hope you are in a situation where losing weight is something you need to do for your health benefit. if you are doing this for your health, than you should definitly start off with something easy. Walk around the house [or wherever you live] a few times. then move your way into jogging, and then into running. once you feel comfortable going a certain distance- next time do a little bit farther. food choices are simple- stick to the basic healthy diet [ask your doctor for this, im not an expert on the food diagram]. dont cut back on any important food group other than junk/snacky/not-so-great-for-you foods. to get specific sites- search google.com for your exact site you want to find [ex. basic, healthy diet or weight loss exercises] try around with key words until you find the site you want! good luck with your goal and always remember to stretch before exercises! =] -ask_anything

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Ok, I need to buy another pair of shoes for school but I don't know what to get. I already have the new Nike shoes that have the number "20" on the side but I forget what you call them. Can you please help me out? I just can't seem to think of what to get and school is starting this Thursday. Thanks

i cant tell you what shoes to get specifically, but shoes you should have ready should fall into a few categories: sports shoe/running shoe, dressy shoe/concert shoes, casual shoes/modern shoes/"DC's,Phat Farm's,etc." ... those are basic shoes you should have, sorry they arent specific brands or anything- but they are categories everyone should have for picking shoes for the day... or so i think ;)! good luck with the shoe hunt! and pick out a pair of shoes that suit you, not just what others like! =] -ask_anything

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...im getting my teeth pulled..the 2 like first molars...i uess im getting laughing gas and a shot...umm what do they use and does it hurt can someone like tell me these things lol im sooo nervous and i just need to know whats going on....thanks sooo much =)

haha this is a perfect question because i had the same exact thing done! [but i had 4 molars pulled]. well for where i went, they sit you down in a seperate area and they tell you what's going to happen. [the procedure]. they put a mask over your nose that has oxygen in it first, then they slowly add the laughing gas into it. laughing gas does NOT hurt- it's just kinda weird. anyways, they give you the shot to numb your gums, and because the laughing gas is making you a little bit drowsy, the shot is no big deal. the shot makes it all numb and when they pull out the teeth (depending if there are roots or not) it shouldnt cause too much pain- just a little pressure. the more of the root they have to get out- the more pressure. the nice thing about laughing gas is that your all funny feeling but still able to respond if the dentist asks you anything. when i had laughing gas, if you felt uncomfortable with the gas at any time, you just needed to breath through your mouth and everything will be back to normal. [its kind of hard to explain what it feels like... i guess you could say a dreamy kind of feeling]. i was extremely nervous as you are too, but once its over with, you'll be like... "hey! it's overwith now!" lol BIG HELPFUL HINT: TAKE TYLANOL BEFORE AND AFTER THE PROCEDURE. and be ready to not be able to talk for an hour afterwords because you'll have gause in your mouth (the soft padded things to get the blood). good luck! and dont be nervous, you'll be fine! =] -ask_anything
ps: if you have any more questions about it, ill be glad to answer them- just leave one in my inbox!

Edit: when you breath through your mouth [if the laughing gas gets uncomfortable] you get the oxygen back in your system and instantly you come out of the dreamy state. You won't have the effects of laughing gas until you breath through your nose again.

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Ok theres this girl who I've been friends with for 12 years, and our moms even longer. I'm so sick of her because shes really mean to me one minute and nice the next. If I tell her about it she'll like scream at me and then i'll get in trouble with my mom. Also, she doesn't get along with anyone because she's really weird and stuff and she follows me around and its SO ANNOYING! PLEASE HELP!

well if you've been friends with her for 12 years, you cant just dump her now. if she just started having those mean one min. nice the next min. situations- she might be having mood swings- i have plenty of friends that have them. If you've tried to tell her and she acts so sorely, you shouldn't try to again. Tell your Mom your problem and maybe she can talk to your friend's mom [if they are so close, they shouldnt mind talking about it]. If you really don't want to be around this girl, you should try to be around some other friends for a while. Don't ignore her everyday and treat her like dirt- just take a break from her. Just don't hurt her feelings or talk trash about her- no one likes that, doesnt matter who you are. And if you still cant get some time away from her, tell your mom and hopefully she can bail you out sometimes or talk to your friend's mom. hope this helped a little- good luck! =] - ask_anything

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okay.. you know some shows like 7 heaven, boys meet world, sister sisters well any ways show like that haves people tell them what to say and they read lines and bord or something.. i was wondering
like Mad tv, whoe line is it anyway and opera and trl just say things when ther on live or they read cards to?? i know sound stupid but i not it just i touhgt give me idea becouse i taking drama i agoing do something in class where you come up with somethin and make up when there word u have to be or somthing. i have lot of my mind today and asking lot of stuff see other people optaon

well i know whose line is it anyway is all made up on the spot (improvising), operah (im assuming you meant to say) has sort of a rehearsed line set-up. operah herself has certain questions she reads off [i believe] but the people she asks dont have cue cards to read. from what i think, they might be advised as to what questions will be asked so they can come up with answers ahead of time. TRL is read off cue cards unless they are talking to kids in the crowds or something. im not sure about Mad TV because i dont watch it [or i dont think i do]... so hope this advice helped, good luck with your drama class =] -ask_anything

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soo i have this girl friend n shes cool and all, but everytime we go to the mall, or were down the shore on the boardwalk or something, she always gets the guys. Shes pretty and all but some of my friends dont think shes the prettiest girl in the world half of them sey im prettier then her. It doesnt really bug me, but im more outgoing n i speak for myself n im always the one doing everything for her and talking to the hott guys for her cause she cant do it herself. I dont know what to do cause the guys see right through me and onto her even though i'm the one usually the guys go for when im not with her. I dont know if i should let it go or talk to her or what? But when im not with her i get the guys n all my other friends get mad at me? pleease help!

well usually when you talk for your friend to the boys, they see your friend as the one interested- not you. if you say things to the boys that make you seem interested, they will consider you [most likely]. if your friend that shy, it's extremely nice of you to help her with the guy situations. what you should do is tell your friend what you told in your question- how you're tired of her getting all the guys when you're always the one to talk for her. for your second problem with other friends, and the guys being all over you- you cant help it! i assume you dont want to do something to make you non-attractive ;)! you just might want to help some of your other friends with guys [if thats what they want]- but if they are mad at you, as in they think you are too boy involved, then maybe you should take a break from the guys for a while? i tried to get the all the advice aspects you needed for your question, hope it helped a little! good luck! =] - ask_anything

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I have to get an MRI done on my head...(lol) n im closterphobic(sp?)..anyone know any ways to help me get thru that hour?

yeah getting an MRI and being clostrophobic isnt a good match. some tips on getting through the procedure would be to relax [as enough people would say], try to think about something that your mind could focus on during the hour or sing your favorite song in your head [never have tried that one yet], think about what you want to do during the next few weeks- maybe a project you get assigned for school [if it has started yet]. close your eyes, having them open might make you freak out. you can also tell whoever is doing the MRI on you, that you have that phobia- they could possibly further explain helpful tips [as i can assume they've had others like you before]. good luck with your MRI! and if it helps dont worry- the machinery wont topple down on you i promise ;)! =] -ask_ anyting

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