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I can't gurantee that my advice will always be right. And some things I might not even know. But I will do my best to answer any questions :] I'll tell you exactly what i think, so if you don't like it, dont read it!And lately, i've discovered that one of the best answers for relationship problems is communication. talk. explain. share. it does wonders.
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My parents are way controling about my life. I am in no way supposed to hang out or talk to boys outside of school. I talk to boys on IM like everday even though i'm not supposed to(screw my parents if u ask me) but i mean i'm not allowed 2 date or even have guy friends! Is there any way that i could get my rents to change their minds? Cause talking to them won't seem to help. Also I need sum ways to sneak out to movies or w/e with my guy friends. Plz help guys! thnx xoxoxoxox
-marsbars
why are your parents so against you hanging out with boys? My parents think im weird because i have more guy friends than girls and dont understand why. Maybe it's because your parents are worried about you? You should talk to them and see why they wont let you first. Then maybe, you should have your parents meet your guy friends so that they can see that they aren't going to murder you or something.
If you want to sneak out to hang out with your guy friends [though not a good idea if you're caught], just tell your parents you're hanging out with your friends who are girls and if they ask if guys are going. You can [or not] mention casually that there might be one or two, you're not sure. but make sure to emphasize the fact that its mostly girls.
i hope you figure something out soon!
ok i cant find this anywhere online...DID STEVIE WONDER EVER GO TO COLLEGE AND IF SO...WHERE?
thanks for the helpers! :)
It doesn't seem like stevie wonder ever went to college. He seemed to have just been composing songs/performing etc instead.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stevie_Wonder#Biography
I heard about an eating disorder that doesn't have a name. It's supposedly very common. the disorder is not being able to eat in front of other people. I'd just like some information on this... is there a name for it? what is it? and is it even a disorder?
I'm just curious, that's all.
I guess it could be called "Social phobia" where a person is afraid of doing something embarrassing in front of other people. Different kinds of social phobias are not being able to speak in public, or you can't eat in front of other people without choking on food, etc.
I heard this patriotic song on the radio (I live in the USA)...it was sung by a choir and it was beautiful. The song was called HOMELAND. But I can't find it anywhere. Can someone find me the lyrics? I remember the melody, but not the words. I just remember that they mentioned something about "the love that stays unquestioned" or worded like that. It's supposed to be a popular choral piece...
There are two songs called "Homeland" i could find and neither had the section "the love tha tstays unquestioned" but you can check them still...
Homeland by kenny rogers
http://www.sing365.com/music/lyric.nsf/Homeland-lyrics-Kenny-Rogers/0FE8E93396F578E948256E6A000D1688
Homeland by Europe
http://www.sing365.com/music/lyric.nsf/Homeland-lyrics-Europe/CDE819333939615A48256AB8002B5843
I had tennis try outs today. I didn't expect to make it, because there were 40 guys fighting over 6 spots, so I wasn't too bumbed when I didn't make it.
My family is making comments about the coach and how they should have picked me, all in the spirit of making me feel better. But I got over it while I was walking off the court, how do I make them get over it?
Hmm, first let them know that you don't see it as a such a big deal. I'm guessing they're doing that just because they're afraid that you're taking it in a bad way. If you show them that you're over it, they'll probably get over it soon. Also, you can point out the good points of not making it onto the team... like more free time to do homework [or hang out] and such.
hey who knows some websites where you can download FREE music for your mp3 player. i know there is some b/c a lady my mom works with her daughter has done that. but can some of you please give me some sites?? thanks in advance
i'll rate 5 for any helpful answers!
i use emp3world.com
it's a great site and has so many songs! There has only been once or twice where i'd couldnt find my song, about 30 of the songs i have come from that website.
my best friends boyfriend likes me what should i do ?
How are you sure? Anyway, if you are sure, you should tell your friend. He already has a girlfriend, he 'shouldnt' be liking someone else... Your friend ought to know, seeing that she's going out with him. You should just tell your friend and wait and see what happens. First make sure that you're sure that he likes you.
13/f ok so i have this bf and i am so freaked becasue we are goign to stay home and see a movie this weekend but i dont know if he is the type to make a move how do i tell if he is liek that and how or when he will makle the move
You're asking us? We dont know your boyfriend any better than you do [at least i think so]. You cant really tell till the weekend? Has he ever done it before? does he seem like the type to do it? You just need to see if hes the type of forward guy who wants it, or is he shy and etc. mostly its up to you to tell. But if he wants to do it, remember that you dont have to follow him, it's your choice.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 3 months, we're both 16 years old, we care for each other very much, and know each other like the back of our own hands. However, I am having a very hard time finding a christmas present for him. I want to get him something meaningful, but I just don't know what to get! Does anyone have any ideas?
thank you so much if you can help!
-Janine
If you're spending christmas with him, you can make christmas dinner? That might be a little overcomplicated though. You can bake him cookies/cake or make him something homemade. That would show that you actually took the time to make him something. If you have cash to spend though, you can buy him something he might want such as cd or hat or maybe something you know he wants. Something meaningful can be that you can buy matching braclet or something with both of your names on it or something similar like that. Something sweet would be a teddy bear with a poem or something that said i love you. A side gift can be a kiss and a hug and telling him how much you love him.
i am over weighted and I want to lose weight but if i tell my mom or anyone I know they are going to make fun of me. What should I do
The main answer would be to exercise. And eat healthy. Diets are definitely not good ideas if you can't keep to them. If you're determined to lose weight, then exercise and mantain a healthy diet [as in eating a large amount of fruit and vegetables compared to other food groups] and if you dont like exercising, you can just run around your street, get a membership card to a nearby gym and go work out there, there are numerous ways to do small exercises that can help you lose weight. Just throwing out the trash can count as an exercise by walking to the trashcan and back, etc etc.
Well I'm 16 and female.
Well I know that it is somewhat expected that siblings will be jealous of each other but how long is it supposed to last? I have a sister who is slightly less than 2 years younger than me and I have been jealous of her ever since she could walk. She is always the pretty one, the athletic one, the funny one, the outgoing one. She even got a boyfriend before I did. My sister and I are basically complete opposites and we don't get along. I've always thought she was perfect and I was nothing. She always gets asked to dance at school dances while I sit in the corner and cry. Maybe I'm just a bit too emotional. My mom says that in many ways I'm better than my lil sister but I don't believe it. Is there any way for me to stop being jealous of my sister?
wow. you and i seem to be going through the same thing. That's how I am with my younger sister [though not that much]. I wouldn't be surprised if your sister was jealous of you for some traits you have. It's like the term "The grass is always greener on the other side of the hill". You see all her good traits, but you dont see your own. I find that even though my sister does seem better than me in almost everything, there are still some things that I'm better at than my sister. I think your mom is right, there are many ways in that you are better than your sister. You just need to open your eyes, stop comparing yourself to your sister, and find the good qualities within you. They can be anything from being more kind, being more understanding,e tc. Think about it a little and I'm sure you'll find some great things about yourself :)
I’m really into fashion and my parents know that. My mom and I have talked about me going to an art school before and she wouldn't mind if I did. I have a very good chance of getting into UCLA but there is one problem--my dad. He refuses to let me go to an art school. He wants me to go to UT (Texas) which is where he went. I'm in the top 10% of my class so I'm in automatically there. He told me that in the end it was my decision but if I decided to go to UCLA then he wouldn't pay for it. UCLA is an expensive school and it'll be even more since I'll be coming in out of state and I won't be able to pay for it on my own. I need my dad. I tried to get my mom to talk to him about it but it didn't help. So now I don't know what to do-- go to UCLA and pay for it on my own (which I most likely be able to do) or go to UT and have my dad pay for it. What do you think?
Like everyone else said. Go to UCLA. It seems like your desire is for art school and your dad shouldnt stand in your way of your dreams by wanting you to go to HIS school. If he refuses to pay for you, there are other ways, such as financial aid, scholarships... but i think you should have a talk with your dad. Tell him why you want to go to UCLA, make him understand that it is your dream, like it was his dream to go to UT [?]. Going to UT wont help you get a better future if it doesnt teach what you want, so I say, go to UCLA! GO UC schools! XD
ok, i hope someone can help me here. a lot of people say that im always "out of it" or that im sort of in a trance or something. how do i get myself to be more alert and not so bored?
One great solution [but also painful] is to just pinch yourself occasionally. I wouldn't recommend it, but desperate times call for desperate measures right?
Anyway, maybe it is from the lack of sleep? If so, start sleeping more... or just drink a lot of caffeine and hope it keeps you alert the entire day... then get a lot of sleep. Try listening to whats going on and focus, rather than zone out/daydream by maybe taking notes [if in class] or seeing if whatever topic is being discussed has any relevance to you.
I'm 16, and my boyfriend who is 18 will have been going out for 2 months next Friday. I was wondering.. should I get him a card? Or buy him a present? Or should I just not do anything..just simply wish him happy anniversary? What do people usually do for their 2 month anivarserys?
Mm... it depends on the person you are i guess. Some people make a big deal of 'month' anniversaries, other people prefer to make a big deal out of the 'year' anniversaries. I would probably make a big deal of the two months though. You can just bake him something [cookies or something] and give it to him, along with telling him "happy 2 months anniversary", but dont be too expensive or anything. It's only two months, you guys have a while to go for a long term relationship. Start with something easy, a card can work plus maybe a stuff animal? If your boyfriend is into that type of thing anyway... or a CD. :)
Why do girls help a guy cheat on his current girlfriend, then date him after they break up? They've already proven that this guy is totally willing to cheat, so do they actually think he wont do the same to them? Are girls really that stupid?
amazingly, yup. some girls can be that stupid. girls could help a guy cheat on his g/f because a) they're jealous of their relationship, b) they love to cause trouble or anything that they can gossip about or c) they're just... stupid? I wouldnt know, because i've never done that nor seen any girls do that... but yup, some girls can be stupid like that.
My gramma passed away a week ago. As a grandkid, i recieve 2000 dollars. I hafta put most of it in the bank, cus my parents are making me. The rest of it, which is probly about 300 dollars, in mine to have. Any ideas on how to spend it? Im a girl, but it doesnt make a difference cus i dont like makeup and brand name clothes and stuff. Any ideas are helpful
sorry about your grandmother :(
Hmm... if i were you, i'd save it and use some of it for christmas gifts :P but other than that... you can pretty much buy whatever you like.. or think you need.. books, cds, you can donate some to charity... there are a lot of ways you can spend your money, some wise and some not. You should save up though and get something special for yourself like a laptop or portable dvd player XD something you can treat yourself to that you normally wouldnt be able to.
So today I got this message from some random person. I called that number and I found out it was an adult. He started asking me for personal information and I told him fake stuff like my names this and that. Then he started saying I want to start a realationship with you and I just went crazy. I messaged him ssome really rude messages because I want them to leave me alone SO BADLY!!! It really pisses me off to know that I haave stalkers that might.. Who knows what???
Also, I think I know who those guys are. I have a guitar teacher and hes perverted and he loves me. (eew... hes 20 years older then me.)
So I think he gave my number to his friends.. UGh.. What jerks.. Any ideas on how to stop this?? I cant ignore them because they keep on messaging me. I told them that I will call the police if they don't shut up.
Oh and by the way I live in Indonesia where it's really dangerous to just walk outside.
change phone numbers. switch guitar teacher. tell your parents. make sure you dont go outside alone. learn self defense karate. have pepper spray with you. if they call you again, call the police on them. Let them know that you're serious.
alright, well, my friend robyn is really nice. shes one of the funniest, coolest, most awesome people that you will ever meet. however, not one of the skinniest. i feel so bad though, because i am quite a bit thinner than she is. she always walks around wearing the same type of stuff as me, with her stomach and part of her back showing alot of the time. there are people who see her and laugh because they see how she dresses, and with a body like that, i'd be way to embarrased to ever leave the house like that. i just feel bad and dont know how to handle having her know that maybe she shouldnt wear things like that with her body, shes just embarrassing herself. but i cant bring myself to say anything to her about it. what should i do?
If she doesn't care, you shouldnt care either. From what you said, she seems like an awesome person so her appearance doesn't seem to really make a difference. After all, personality rules over appearance right? If she doesn't seem embarrassed or anything you shouldnt be either. So... just ignore the other people who laugh and if you're a great friend, you'd accept her for who she is and dont feel embarrassed for her.
okay i want to know, how do you know when your in love? ive likes this guy from the first time ive met him. we never talked. but i mean.. well we kinda did. but it was more with staring and talking through people. and its been 5 months since ive last seen him. but ive liked him for 7 months.. and i dono i just feel this thing with him thats un-explainable. (im 15/f by the way)
but would u say i could be in love? and what do you think love is?
This could just be your mind playing tricks on you. Do you think you can live without him? Actually dont answer that one... are you willing to give up everything to make him happy? Think carefully about that one. Do you feel comfortable talking to him [try talking to him first] and every time you see him, do you get the same excited emotion? Make sure you dont confuse between love and lust, love and like, and just imagination.
Someone asked a similar question [though not so specific] that you should check out.
http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=388753
And more people should answer that question so we can just copy and paste the link that pretty much answers it.
Ok well there's this guy and i really like him but i dobt he likes me and i dobt he ever will but there very lil hope that he will but anyways how can i stop liking him and try to stop thinking bout him he's driving me crazy!..in a good way! :D
wow, i had that issue for about three years, haha. Try focusing on other things, like hobbies, sports, school, etc. Hang out more with friends and try not to think about him. Sooner or later you'll come to the realization that there's no chance that he'll like you, but for now, just keep your mind busy, that's what i did. :) and yes, brandy's song "have you ever" is pretty good in this circumstance.