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Jealousy?
Well I'm 16 and female.
Well I know that it is somewhat expected that siblings will be jealous of each other but how long is it supposed to last? I have a sister who is slightly less than 2 years younger than me and I have been jealous of her ever since she could walk. She is always the pretty one, the athletic one, the funny one, the outgoing one. She even got a boyfriend before I did. My sister and I are basically complete opposites and we don't get along. I've always thought she was perfect and I was nothing. She always gets asked to dance at school dances while I sit in the corner and cry. Maybe I'm just a bit too emotional. My mom says that in many ways I'm better than my lil sister but I don't believe it. Is there any way for me to stop being jealous of my sister?
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wow, this is a bit tricky, i can understand how you can feel this way, i also am not athletic, and have not been to so many dances, but don't compare yourself, your sister could be jelous of you too actualy,and yes it is defintily a sibling thing, later down the road you will see that you and your sister aren't as different as you may have thought, you'll need her later down the road in life, so i would let your sister have her life and let you have yours, later on in life you'll see how it all comes together, hope i could help you!!
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Wow okay I no what your going through in a way. I had worked myself to make the cheerleading squad for 2 years and i never did and then my sister made it the first time she tried out. The thing is i had no confidence in myself. Im shure your a beautiful girl if not on the outside on the inside. Maybe what you need is some confidence just try finding sumthing that you are good at and it will really help you. For the whole pretty part you can always try adding a lil make up or doing something with your hair if you already dont. Just remember everyone is good at something and everyone is different; thats what makes people special.
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I am very sorry you feel this way. I know it's tough to be jealous of someone, especially someone you live with. Don't let it get you down though! Everyone has their strong points, and it seems like your sister has that outgoing trait. There is no way to completely cease your jealousy, but maybe, if you learn to like yourself a little better, the jealousy will dim out. Try and seek your own strong points. Both physically and emotionally. Are you caring, do you have unusually pretty eyes,charismatic, a good reader/writer?? Any of those...there has to be something your good at. Everyone is unsatisfied with their own appearance in some aspect or another whether or not they admit it. I'm sure there's something your sister can't stand about herself...there's got to be something. I'm sorry you guys don't get a long...my sister is 2 years older than me too and we seem to get along pretty well. Sure, we fight. But, sometimes we go out and have dinner together...or watch a movie...do eachother's hair/makeup. Try and get along with your sister, possibly hanging out with her or something, you might learn to be less jealous. The closer you are to her, the easier it will be to see her weaknesses. Everyone has them, and it's nothing to be ashamed of either. I'm sure there's some beauty in you. Just look in a mirror and keep telling yourself "I am a pretty girl" you'll find something you like about yourself. :)
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wow. you and i seem to be going through the same thing. That's how I am with my younger sister [though not that much]. I wouldn't be surprised if your sister was jealous of you for some traits you have. It's like the term "The grass is always greener on the other side of the hill". You see all her good traits, but you dont see your own. I find that even though my sister does seem better than me in almost everything, there are still some things that I'm better at than my sister. I think your mom is right, there are many ways in that you are better than your sister. You just need to open your eyes, stop comparing yourself to your sister, and find the good qualities within you. They can be anything from being more kind, being more understanding,e tc. Think about it a little and I'm sure you'll find some great things about yourself :)
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awe! well i think that you shouldnt worry about what your sister does... i mean like you should go out and do your own thing it will take your mind off of her try to be around your friends more and i bet that there are many ways in which you are better than your sister but no one is perfect and neither is your sister (even tho you might think she is.. shes not) so you should worry and it has nothing to do with how emotional you think you are everyone experiences a feeling of jealousy sooner or later in life [♥]
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