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alright, well, my friend robyn is really nice. shes one of the funniest, coolest, most awesome people that you will ever meet. however, not one of the skinniest. i feel so bad though, because i am quite a bit thinner than she is. she always walks around wearing the same type of stuff as me, with her stomach and part of her back showing alot of the time. there are people who see her and laugh because they see how she dresses, and with a body like that, i'd be way to embarrased to ever leave the house like that. i just feel bad and dont know how to handle having her know that maybe she shouldnt wear things like that with her body, shes just embarrassing herself. but i cant bring myself to say anything to her about it. what should i do?
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Alright, sounds like you two are pretty good friends. Well, if Robyn doesnt care what other people think of her(which, by the way,is an awesome trait)then you, being the good friend that im assuming you probably are, shouldnt care either. If people laugh and she just ignores it because she doesnt care, you should do the same. If she really was upset by it, she would have done something to change it by now. If it really bothers you that badly, maybe you're not the great friend Robyn thinks she has. If it does bother you, take a good look in the mirror and see just how judgemental you really are being. Seriously, if she doesnt care what they think, niether should you. Hope I helped.
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it's good you care about your friend enough to care about her personal issues. somethings you could do..well you could just be like "hey robyn im going to the gym, want to come with me?" if she says yes maybe that will start to become a regular thing and it will be good for her to workout. if that doesn't work, invite her shopping. when trying on clothes and you ask eachother what looks good or not, tell her it just 'doesnt fit right', to try something else when she tries something on too small for her. if she still wont listen, i would just either suggest talking to her and telling her the situation or leaving her be. (she's your best friend, and best friends should be able to tell eachother when other people make fun of them) hopefully she'll listen. = )
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If she doesn't care, you shouldnt care either. From what you said, she seems like an awesome person so her appearance doesn't seem to really make a difference. After all, personality rules over appearance right? If she doesn't seem embarrassed or anything you shouldnt be either. So... just ignore the other people who laugh and if you're a great friend, you'd accept her for who she is and dont feel embarrassed for her.
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