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So, I used to be a rather social child, even with strangers (not safe, I know), but I had tons of friends and I was a bit of a wild child. For some reason, at the beginning of this year, I suddenly don't like people. I mean, I don't mind watching people, but it's being around them. Like, if I go to the mall, I get super nervous and I've almost hyperventilated once. My mom says I'm just being a dramatic teenager, but I don't think so. I just get afraid that people are watching me or that something bad is gonna happen and it twists up in my gut and everything. And I always go with my gut instincts because a couple years ago, I got a bad feeling in my stomach the day someone jumped me at school (for hanging out with someone else). Do I have a phobia of public places and people in general? I'm just curious, because I really don't mind being alone. In fact, my best days are when I'm completely alone in my room with the computer... I'm sure that's unhealthy, though. (link)
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This is classic symptoms for panic and anxiety disorders. I can say that having gone through it. It's a medical issue and that's why you have rapidly gone from social butterfly to terrified of people and well, frankly your shadow.
It's not normal to enter a mall and feel all eyes are on you and then start to hyperventilate. Nor is it normal to fear or avoid public places due to unfounded reasons that are in the end quite strange to others.
It's highly likely a mental health problem a panic or anxiety disorder (a minor issue) that needs addressed by a psychiatrist (not a therapist or family doctor) and medication and counseling that will eventually have you triumph over it.
Your mom's view of you being dramatic isn't correct. Tell her that you have read on here and elsewhere that the problem you have issues with could be medical and an anxiety/panic disorder that won't just go away. For your peace of mind see a doctor. It's better to do that than continue to suffer even if it's nothing. But yes, something isn't normal or right about this situation.
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I'm off to college this Tuesday and am waiting on a package that I really thought would arrive by now. It shipped on the 15th. I looked up the tracking number, and the last update was that the package departed a FedEx facility about 30 min away from my house at 2:19 AM yesterday. There were no updates since then and still no package. Is this normal? I'm starting to get restless because I really want this to come in before I leave. (link)
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Call FedEX and ask them what's going on. You never mentioned what country it originated from. If outside the U.S. the problem may have been with customs needing to inspect it. If an item is domestic and sent FedEX ground or even by air to another U.S. location it's supposed to arrive the next morning by noon. The fact they don't deliver on weekends doesn't mean much as it is now Friday. Call them and demand a supervisor.
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My sister is a fifteen-year-old girl dealing with severe depression and is currently taking medication for it. I've also asked this question in the past, but now it's just getting worse and I'm afraid it's grown far too serious.
My sister is still obsessed with the same older boy who just graduated from our high school and she can no longer see him and she also 'claims' she hates him one second, then loves him the next. She was molesting him with Facebook messages and everything. She got her little friend in on bugging him too and he's freaking out, so he messaged me on what to do. He says she's driving him crazy because she's warning his girlfriend that he is a 'dirty manwhore' and to break up with him. He's extremely angry about this. And so am I because her friend is just encouraging this and I know I should be defending my sister, but I know when something is going too far. We tried a therapist, but she was no help at all. My father is hardly part of our family nor does he speak English, so he's out of the picture and my mother is far to leniant on the subject. She doesn't realize how serious this is and I don't want my sister to totally hate me for calling the cops or something on her. I really want to help my sister, but I don't know how to do this.
How can I get her to leave him alone and completely get out of his life?
Note, my sister is extremely touchy and tempermental. Even if you say hi the wrong way, she'll get set off and bombard you about it. I tried to talk to her about forgetting him and moving on, but she yelled at me and she also found another boy she likes, but she got nasty with him the same way she did with the other boy and now he doesn't like her and she's upset about it... Should I just talk to my mom about getting my sister admitted into a hospital or...? Because the thought is extremely scary... (link)
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Never consult a therapist who isn't even a doctor for depression or any kind of mental health disorder. They aren't qualified even if they can prescribe medicine to diagnose and treat this effectively if at all. The same goes double for a family doctor. Period. That's from experience and decades of it.
She needs to see a psychiatrist and have that person determine if she in fact is depressed or if she has depression that may in fact be built into another mental illness. If so you have to see if it is merely the undercurrent that fuels the main issue. She sounds as though she may be bipolar with up and down moods, impulsive decisions, severely depressed one minute, elated the next, and constant never ending harassment of others.
That's one type of bipolar the second is all of this along with delusions and voices, grandiose ideas, and the thought that quite literally she runs the universe much like GOD or is omnipresent, omnipotent with everything in life even concerning other's actions controlled by her mind.
Also, a big red flag is that sufferers cannot be reasoned with no matter the situation be it normal or not, won't see themselves as having a problem, but rather think you do and are overly sensitive and react strangely to just about anything. Been there. Was exactly that once myself.
I'm not a doctor but your mom and yourself to a degree need to wake up and smell the coffee and react because none of what your sister does appears normal. Then you have evidence that others say they are being harassed on phone and e-mail too and have documented what your sister wrote online or called for.
That's also a massive giveaway too as people around her will know she's acting "off of it." If there's a ton of people pissed off with her for weird behavior that's a problem. They can file harassment charges re: e-mail, calls. Also, teachers can see that she's not acting altogether either.
What your mother should do is take her to an emergency room as yes, it's an emergency as it could be a psychiatric issue and mention the severe depression plus this behavior and tell them you're all deeply concerned and would like an assessment done there.
They can't keep her in the hospital longer than 72 hours if that if they think she will be okay but this needs to be done as it gets tons worse for her and everyone else if it drags.
Molestation refers to someone often a minor who an adult assaults in a sexual manner that is of course illegal and not wanted. You can't do that by Facebook. You can write unwanted material in a sexual way to people who don't want it if that's what you meant. Overly aggressive, promiscuity, dangerous and or heightened sexual behavior is also tied in with bipolar if she in fact has it.
You should talk to your mother, show her what you wrote here and countless web pages that show bipolar and other illnesses looking exactly like your sister's and have them have the emergency on call psychiatrist at a hospital look at it as a therapist doesn't have the skills or speciality to do remotely that. It's better to check and be wrong than to wait and be sorry later.
Also, you need to know that regardless of what you sister has or hasn't got she's not "INSANE". She like everyone who has a mental illness no matter the severity is sick. It's an illness and just an illness regardless of name or severity. It's something that once treated with medication and counseling is dormant.
Just like Cancer or anything else it's just an illness and she's normal like everyone else once treated. It's a stigma and wrong to think of anyone with a mental illness as insane or to completely write them off. I'm sure you didn't mean that but I'm just saying this for others who read it and think this erroneously.
For her sake and everyone else's tell your mother exactly what you know is going on, who has been e-mailed and what they accuse her of doing and show her this response and question and get her some form of help. The therapist isn't cutting it and doesn't know what's going on. There's no fooling a psychiatrist who sees this all the time if in fact she's in this shape.
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MY parents and I are sick of my cousin, my brother and his friends being loud and obnoxious in front of our house and selling drugs in our driveway and in my brothers room. My parents cant kick them out because my brother broke 2 doors and he'll try to fight my dad. We are really sick of them drug dealing in front of our house, they carry guns and I think that's another reason why my dad is scared of them, they have pulled guns on my uncle and other people that they fight in our yard. They park in our yard and run in our house whenever they want to. The police told my aunt she was coming from the drug house and she doesnt even do drugs. My parents do not do drugs or sell them. I think they are afraid to call the police. They think that if they call the police on my brother, cousin and his friend they will get into trouble since theres drug dealing going on around our house, they also think we will get taken away. These people are very loud in our yard, they our rude and disrespectful and I want it all to stop. If we call the police will me and my brother get taken away? What number do I call to report illegal drug dealing?
I live in texas (link)
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Call the police and tell them exactly word for word what you wrote us with. They will be able to charge them with drug offenses, criminal trespass on your premises, intimidation and offenses related to pulling a weapon on someone and threatening death. They'll be locked up where they belong.
If you and or your parents feel your safety is at stake or you could be killed in retaliation from who these guys run with TELL THE POLICE. They will make sure you are in a safe environment and protected.
Will they take you away? The police won't take you anywhere unless you A) have committed a crime or B) need them to protect you and are in harms way or of potential harm to yourself. All they would do would put you in a safe place until such times as your parents or caretakers can prove they can provide a safe environment. It's always temporary if protective services are called in. Either way you have to do what is right and tell police. Nothing will change positively until you do and right now if you don't things will escalate worse at home.
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Hi I am a female, 17.
My boyfriend is 19.
We both work I work days and his schedule is all over the place. He works usually 7 to 1 or 7 to 5 but somedays he'll work 7 to 7. I work 7 to five.
I don't have a phone it has been broken for nearly a month. I text him on my breaks from my friends phone since she works at my work too. He replies maybe half the time. I ask him usually when I will see him again. Well he usually says he's tired from work and sometimes he's already busy. Well whenever I can't get a hold of him and I know he is off work I just go to his house and surprise him. He never seems to mind and we usually end up falling asleep. Well whenever I want to do something big I ask him at least a week in advanced. I asked him to go camping with our friends and I and he said he had work so I didn't mind. He told me we'd plan another trip but when I asked him about it he said we weren't going to. And every year my friends and I go to California during Christmas break for 5 days and I invited him. My best friend is dating his best friend so I thought it would be fun for us four to go. I asked him and he said he couldn't get work off when it's several months away. Well I told him I am tired of us sitting around at his house and never doing anything and how I want to go out every now and then. He said he is socially uncomfortable. I told him not to keep making up excuses and how I just want us to do exciting things now and then. Of course he never replied so I told him to think about it and that I adored him. He always complains about me not having a phone to talk to him but when I do text him he never replies, and he never ever replies when I ask to hang out. I told him I wanted him to meet my family and he refuses, and I told him we're not going to have sex again until he at least meets my nieces and nephews since they are only here for the summer and I won't see them again until next summer. When I told him that he said he wasn't even going to kiss me, and now when I sleepover he won't kiss me or even touch me unless I get really upset and roll to the other end of the bed. I just don't get him lately. When we first got together he always wanted to do things and hang out and he seemed very interested. I see him maybe 2 times a week. We've been dating three months.
Is this because of his schedule or me being upset with him. How do I get him to become more interested in me. (link)
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I would do yourself the ultimate favor and cut the guy loose. This has only been three months and if it dragged out any longer you would be left miserable in the end. It seems that he's socially, emotionally, and physically detached from you and not in to you or meeting your needs.
Alarm bells are ringing because he never responds to you, doesn't want anything to do with your family, socializing or being together outside the house. You might be texting too much but still... It's very weird behavior for a boyfriend who is supposed to love you.
As much as it may hurt tell him that you aren't happy with him for these reasons and wish to move on. He's not going to change and you're going to wind up even more neglected and resentful because he's not seeing the problem and can't. He may also have someone on the side but likely doubtful.
You guys just aren't clicking and him not showing affection, concern for needs or even kissing you suggests something isn't at all right. I would ditch him based on answering a ton of questions like yours. You are incompatible.
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i am 12 and i am terriffied of shots! i feel like i am going to die!!! will you help me get so i am not so terriffied of getting my tdap/tetnus, whooping cough shot? my appointment is soon!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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If you don't want to take these shots nobody including a school or any organization can to make you conform to policies.
All you need to do is go to local city hall and get a form that exempts you from this on religious grounds of which you don't have to even list. Vacines from what recen research seems to be showing can and are in some cases causing more problems than not. Nobody can say for sure but they've been trying to establish a link between them and autism for a long time.
Back to my point it's up to you and your parents to make a decision about the vaccines, get exempted etc. and not worry over it. It's your body and choice not a school's or anywhere else's.
If you do get them focus on something else, choose a spot on the wall and feel a pinch. It's done with faster tan you can think about it but I do feel it's not worth it but if you go for it that's all that happens. It's done in seconds.
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i want a nice speech for farewell party to my friends at institute, please. (link)
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You need to write it yourself without any ideas or help from anyone else. Why? You KNOW these people and have LIVED in their company for years and we haven't. Your speech won't be successful unless you organize and write down what they mean to you, what the program meant etc. etc. and tie it together.
Pour your heart out in words and use those feelings and your gut to edit and craft it into a final product you feel confident in giving. That's what I always do. If you want the perfect speech tailored just to them it's got to come from within you and your gut. All you're doing is showing what they really make you feel inside. Once you get to that place you have to express it with words and humorous and serious memories. It's not that hard and they'll appreciate it.
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I'm an 18 year old bisexual girl, and I'm a virgin. It's something that's always in the back of my mind and it does worry me - for years I have wanted to lose it. I wanted to be able to be promiscuous and not make a big deal of sex, but I just don't have it in me. I am not a naturally promiscuous person - I've tried, but I'm just not comfortable being that intimate with someone unless I am very, very close to them.
Now, here are some points I want to make. Firstly, I'm not someone who can't get laid. Not to sound big-headed, but I am considered attractive by most and get a lot of male attention (although I'm bisexual, I'm not out yet and don't tend to get attention from females). Secondly, I don't think there's anything wrong with being a virgin at my age. People should be able to have as little or as much sex as they want without being judged. However, I won't say I don't feel the pressures - I do, a lot. No one knows I'm a virgin apart from closer friends I've known since I was 13 or younger, I hide it from everyone else.
So, really, I know I should just be comfortable with it and wait till I find someone I am comfortable enough to have sex with. But here's the thing: I really want to have sex. I have such a high sex drive and it's something I constantly think and fantasise about. I want to start experimenting and having sex be a part of my life. I don't want to have to wait for someone I really, really like and who I'm really close to, because knowing me, that could take years.
But of course, the problem is, I know I'll find it difficult to have sex with someone I'm not close to (even if I'm attracted to them) and to tell them that I'm a virgin beforehand (I couldn't do it without telling them, because they'd either find out I was a virgin anyway, or just think I wasn't that good in bed.)
I guess my question is: what's worth it? Is it worth waiting and just being consumed by lust but not being able to have sex, until I find someone I'm really comfortable with? (And like I said, this could take years, I rarely fall for people seriously.) On the other hand, is it worth just getting it over with through an experience I might not enjoy, so I can start experimenting and having a sex life? And if you'd recommend the latter, how do I go about it?
I do have a lot of problems with physical intimacy which gets in the way of this, so if anything knows how I could sort this out, it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you x (link)
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I'm going to be blunt. Your hormones not your brain is trying to dictate what decision you make. You have a high sex-drive and need to learn how to control it without actual sex. You can read up on that in other places, books, publications as we can't do that here.
Having sex just to experience and or "get it over with" is about the dumbest mistakes people can make. They always wind up with someone they don't give a shit about and likewise the same in most cases with their partner.
It can also lead to STDs, pregnancy, and even AIDS of which you can die from. That's what promiscuity can lead to as well as a reputation and a host of other problems both emotional and physical. I understand your "sex without being judged" belief and agree but sex without common sense and solid choices negates that.
You say there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age. Do you honestly believe that? While not needing to tell everyone it seems like something you think should be hidden. Obviously, when you think about it you feel some level of shame or embarrassment over it. DON'T.
Sx with someone you don't care about is meaningless and just a physical act with no emotional attachment (which is the major part) and you likely will regret it later and not look back on that first experience well. It's worth waiting for the right person, time, place and an attachment to and figure out healthier ways to handle your hormones and drive.
Also, if you have loads of problems with physical intimacy with anyone be them close or not how do you expect to have a sex life with random partners or anyone just yet? You have to deal with that problem first. Don't rush things it's not a competition to catch up with what other people are doing or something to do on a whim. You can experiment and be safe without the actual sex itself.
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Hi, I recently started my period a few months ago and am 13 years of age. I also often go swimming with my family. I know I can't use pads well swimming because, well, obvious reasons and I don't know many other options that I can use and get cheap. I am scared to use them though because I'm afraid I'll leave them in to long and get an infection, or it will hurt when I put it on and take it out...Please help? (link)
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There actually is a product you can use in place of tampons and pads. It's called a menstrual cup. Essentially what it is consists of latex or non-latex type material that is inserted into the vagina to collect menstrual blood etc. It doesn't hurt. It's usually resuable. If you do a Google on Diva Cup it will allow you to find stores in U.S. and Canada that sells it cheaply.
Also, tons of good advice from people below that should help you but yes, there is indeed products other than pads and tampons and especially one that be worn swimming or not.
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So I got really sick this year during the month before the last month of school and I wound up missing 16 days of school. My doctor actually called the school and alerted them of what had happened. Nobody said anything when I went back to school after missing 16 days so I figured I was fine. Then during the summer I got my last report card in the mail and it said I had 16 unexcused absences.
I called the school and the only lady that was still there told me that I was labeled a "truant" and that I wouldn't be able to get my license!
I told her what happened but she said she didn't have the rights to change it because she was only a librarian and not an attendance worker and that seeing as it was so far in the future now that I probably wouldn't be able to get it changed anyways and that the only way it would be removed is if I attended school next year for 30 days in a row without missing any days.
The problem is I really wanted to be able to take my written test in the next few weeks and to be able to get my permit at least but now I'm wondering if the person at the DMV is going to check my attendance and then see that they labeled me a Truant and not allow me to get it.
So will they check my attendance when I go to take my written test?
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Relax! This person doesn't know anything about your illness and doctor's letter and is spouting off what she thinks is right based on 16 absences. She's right ordinarily that's long enough time to be dropped from a course and labeled truant without a note.
After 15 days passes without you showing up at school they are allowed to label you as truant in most cases and refuse to award you a credit for the course. I'm sure if your parents approach school admin along with your doctor they can change things so that you can get your license but only after you complete those 16 days.
If the school won't do this bitch to the trustee (an elected official) in your school district and have your doctor back it up or approach the mayor's office and councillors or if nothing the doctor nor they can do tell the media at the local paper.
Someone will clearly advocate for you at one of those levels if your parent and doctor can't by approaching the school first.
I'm probably misunderstanding this but where I come from, Canada, you can be 16 or older and all you have to do is go to the DMV and pay whatever the fee is to do the written test for a learners or full license. They don't ask nor need to know where you learned to drive be it from parents or a school. Why not look into that and try. If you know your stuff you can pass right? That's how it works here. You can cut out the middle man.
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to see and talk to someone with out my parents permission? I've gone over to the signs for depression and I do have a lot of them I'm 17. My parents have called me depressed but they don't see it as an issue. With school starting soon, I just want to be able to focus more and stuff since its my senior yr. (link)
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You should talk to your parents again. There's NOTHING to feel embarrassed over at all. This is a health issue and they need to help you. To be assessed for something like this you'll need insurance and their support.
They may think your problem is minor but you need to tell them candidly exactly what you are thinking, feeling, having anxiety over and how you feel consistently. Tell them you know seeing a doctor costs money but that you need peace of mind and shouldn't ignore these feelings that aren't normally how you are. It could be dangerous to ignore them.
Also, only a psychiatrist NOT a family doctor can diagnose you or tell you that you are fine. Family doctors are not trained to do so and any who offered up a diagnoses is usually wrong because of the complexity of mental illness.
Your mom and dad who think you may be depressed or see it as minor really have no idea that these things start out small and grow rapidly. That's so of bipolar disorder. If you're having rapid cycle mood swings, depressed thoughts, some of elation or a mixture see someone pronto as that often escalates to delusional behavior and bipolar disorder.
Back to you feeling depressed for moment. Here's what you should do bypass a family doctor or clinic and go to an emergency room. Yes, this is a mental health matter and therefore an emergency because it is volatile and constantly changing. Have their on staff psychiatrist do an evaluation. They'll ask questions, answer honestly and will likely send you home with the proper medication and start seeing you regularly.
Hospitals only keep people for 72 hours or more if they think that you are of danger to yourself or being in the outside world is of danger to you. That won't happen. Go to a hospital and have them check it out even if parents think it's nothing as you clearly know something isn't right at all.
If they won't do anything tell your teacher and guidance counsellor what's happening and that you want medical help but parents won't take you to see someone. They can apply pressure to your parents to make it happen especially if they too have seen changes that make them think something isn't right. Trust what your gut says.
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19/M/Caucasian
For as long as I can remember, the skin on my genitals has been really dark. It is a darker complexion than that of my tan, and those body parts are not exposed to sunlight - nor do I use a tanning bed. I was just wondering why they are darker than the rest of my skin, it doesn't make sense to me. (link)
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Put simply the skin and tissues that make up that area of the body is rougher and of different pigment and discoloration than any other skin found on you. It's normal and you're fine. It's simply a different kind of skin, tissues etc. that make up your genitals, scrotum etc.
Also, people who are circumcised often have a scar of a different color than their skin because of where foreskin once was. It's left over skin and if you were worried over it's color don't.
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I'm 16/f
okay so to begin with I'm NOT a virgin. I lost it to a close friend and he has nothing to say about this.
So I've Been masterbating since I was in 2-3rd grade not fingering myself but rubbing, anyway; taking a closer look u see that my labia is 'stretched out and a slightly darker color then it should be. I've noticed this before and went to a doctor for it. She said it was not harmful.
What I'm worried about is it appearence. What if a guy wants to eat me out and is digusted by it?? Quite frankly it makes me nervous. Any pointers??
Hugs&rockets --olie (link)
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Your doctor is 100% right. It's nothing at all to be uptight about. Private parts both male and female are made from rougher skin than any other parts of the body and tissue as well.
This tissue and parts will look slightly darker or discolored from any other body part. In short, it's normal. As for labia that's normal to have one longer etc. and there's nothing you could have done to make it any less or more so. It's just how it is.
If any guy was disgusted with it and trust me most won't be than they have no business being anywhere near you or that area as they haven't maturity. Most guys FYI, probably feel the same way you do about your private parts when it comes to there's guys have the same discoloration, even left over tissue and scars from circumcision etc so it's not a problem. The only pointer is to relax and know that it's A-okay and will be 100% fine. if you make no big deal of it he'll never think about it.
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Hello, I'm from England and just finished with my college life (6th form). I am waiting for my results to come back in august and then I can hopefully be setting off for university! the thing is I am so scared, it's such a big change for me, I've always had my family with me and we've always had money but my dad has recently abandoned us for another woman and taken almost all the money.
So most of my worries are money wise, since my mother has been a house-wife and is now struggling with money while the divorce is going through and I'll be quite far away by my standards (down in Luton). I'm more than willing to get a job once I get there but my cousin who is all ready at uni said there's no time between having fun and school
Which leads me to the next concern, Socialising. I would rather work and study than be getting drunk but I'm a shy person and don't make good friends easily so I'm worried people will see me and think I'm just strange and ignore me :/.
The final concern I have is about the workload, I don't know what to expect at all and if anyone (particularly those who have done Psychology) could tell me how difficult the shift is from A level to university and how much I am expected to be doing in a given week would be much appreciated.
I guess what I'm asking for is a sort of guide of tips or own knowledge that will help me relax, I'm the only member of my immediate family to get into university so they really aren't much help and besides that, were all falling apart at the seams lol. thank you :) (link)
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One thing you should buy that is an absolute must and your life line is a digital recorder that you can use with professor's permission be you learning disabled or extremely poor note-taker or whatever other valid reason to tape the professors lectures.
If you have a learning problem or it's hard for you to process what they're talking about and write it all down they will often allow you or share copies of written lectures to those student only.
Aside from great note-taking never skip class ever or stay home unless SUPER sick to your stomach. Why? It's impossible to catch up and a habit hard to break so don't. If you go to school every single day, take great notes, study the same way you always have you'll be fine. The stakes are higher but it's essentially all about time management and doing the assignment right, pacing yourself and being on time. You already do that.
The hours may be different but if they impede your ability to lead a normal schedule something isn't right. This all changes if you are holding a job and you'll have to tell your boss that you are in university earning a degree and have to study and need hours that will allow you to do both and don't settle for anything else because you can't regardless of money situation. You have to work with them around your schedule.
There are times if there's a big project or group effort or paper even when all-nighters do come in to play but depending what you are doing they aren't a constant thing.
Believe it or not NOT everyone drinks. Some don't because of addiction, others religion, or some just don't want to. That's NORMAL and fine. Lots of people drink, lots of people don't of all ages. If you don't want to drink around others than stick with that.
The kind of people who only like to drink all the time or even do drugs socially are the ones to avoid like the plague as they'll drag you down and they're often the first to bomb right out--and you can't. If people don't like you because you aren't down with reckless behavior than that's okay. There are many sincere people out there that will want to know you and hang around you. Look towards them.
Finally, if your cousin is at the same university see if she can look out for you or offer up a room as well to cut your costs. You'll be fine and believe me are worrying about what all students worry about. As long as you pace yourself and expect maybe 2-3 hours of take home work at night (if that) you'll be fine. It's exactly like managing all your high-school courses and always being on top of stuff.
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I need to know a cheap mic that i can connect to a sony camcorder for example.
I have a youtube channel for pranks and i need to figure out how to use and sync a mic with the video. thanks (link)
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I know you posted this ages ago and never got your answer. If I were you I would talk to the head of your school's audio/visual department or drama club and tell them that you need to know what microphone to buy and how to sync sounds you recorded with video. They can no doubt teach you if you are willing to learn.
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i am 13 and everyone i know (including girls younger than me) have bigger breasts than me. is there anyway to help stimulate their growth? big boobs run in my family ( my sister has DD's!) but apparently not me. am i normal? (link)
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It's a genetics thing. You're what they refer to as a late-bloomer. It means that while your peers have experienced something during puberty now rather than later that your genes will come to it later. There's nothing you can do to stimulate growth. It happens naturally and you just have to hang in. It has nothing to do with age.
It will happen and odds are your mother or someone down the line also were later bloomers. You ought to talk to her about it and your self-esteem and other girls and see what she can do to make you feel better. There are undergarments that are designed to enhance that area but see what she feels you should do especially if any teasing is going on.
Also, at 13 there's a ton of changes going on internally and at their own speed all controlled by genetics. You really shouldn't be that concerned as you're still in early stages. If you feel worried about it mention it to your doctor who likely will tell you the same thing as there doesn't seem to be a medical issue behind this. And yes, you're 100% normal aside from being a weird teenager to begin with ;)
Also, if you speak candidly to your mother and sister they'll tell you size isn't everything. A lot of women who are bigger often have back pain and other problems and long to be smaller. Either way nature will iron all of this out for you eventually.
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I feel like a lot of people pick on me. My parents will pick on me. For example, I went shopping with my mom, she picked out a shirt for me but I didn't like it. She started making fun of me and saying how I have no taste and how awful I am for not liking her style. My older brother will pick on me because one time I was really sad and he thought I was pretending to be sad so I could get attention.. which is not at all what I was doing. I was sitting in the corner just all quiet.. My friends pick on me because one time I asked a really dumb question and now whenever I ask a question they laugh at me and bring it up. This "friend" of mine picked on me because my boobs were smaller than hers. My family picked on me because I had to go an entire week without internet, without cell phone, without communicating with my friends. It was really tough on me, but to have my family make fun of me for it was just really hard.
I feel like a lot of people pick on me and that's probably why I always have such a low self esteem.. I have no confidence in myself and I'm not really proud of myself for anything. I think I might have mild depression too because I don't really smile or laugh like I used to the past few years. I just feel awful and it makes me worse whenever someone makes fun of me.
I tried talking to some people like my parents about it but they honestly just laugh at me saying "its a joke".. but it never comes off that way when they say it.. I guess I just have a fragile and sensitive heart.
I really don't know what to do. I want to be happy and have a high self esteem.. but its really hard when people are making fun of me like this and making me feel worse. What should I do? (link)
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There's NO such thing as mild depression. There's depression and that's it. I know that from experience. It hits like a mack truck and believe me you'll know it. You won't be able to function (without treatment) and constant fatigue and sadness as well as mood swings will be present. That's just some of what it's like.
What you have is an incredibly thin skin that you need to toughen up. Your family is doing nothing more than verbal sparring and you need to know how to recognize that and counter back. It's gentle ribbing but for some reason you aren't seeing what it really is and are too sensitive. What hurts you clearly isn't hurting others and we need to establish why.
Your mom was merely kidding about your fashion sense and not attacking you. Your brother's just being like most siblings but there's no real punch behind it. I'm sure your "friend" is either socially inept, kidding or just poking fun hoping you'll laugh but you should tell her that it hurt as it isn't fair to poke fun about people's physical attributes. Just roll with the punches and learn what's worth taking offense to rather than not.
If this has left your confidence and self-esteem in the toilet than you do in fact have a problem. You need to see a psychologist or licensed therapist to work out what is really at the source of it and learn how to cope as letting this kind of thing destroy your quality of life is wrong.
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I am going for my gyno visit this week. I'm a bit nervous about some things. I am 19 years old and am sexually active. My mother does not know this.... and would kill me if she knew. The only reason I am going is because I have a persistent yeast infection. Anyway they said I need to come in a half hour early to fill out paper work. Are they going to ask me about my sexual history in the paper work, because my mom will be with me and I can't write that down with her next to me....What should I do? And when they call me into the room will they make my mom leave if she follows me there? I want to be honest with the doctor I just can't let my mom know....
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Tell your mother that you need to go in alone and feel embarrassed with her being in the room but will call for her if you need to. It's nothing personal and she knows that.
At some point they'll have you fill out a medical form and then eventually you have to disclose sexual history etc. that you rather wouldn't. It's necessary to make sure you are healthy and detrimental if you hide it. They won't care (heard, seen it all) nor can they legally tell your mom or anyone else what you said. At the same time it can benefit you as you can get a prescription for birth control to ensure you're fine.
The other thing is you can tell your mom the truth which is best for you and that you wanted to get birth control while there and stay safe. She might not like that and give you grief for a bit but in the end respect it. Either way tell her this is embarrassing and that you just want to do it privately and get out. Also you're an ADULT at 19 and she doesn't have to be there or know anything at this point. tell the doctor the truth as you have to.
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I get really paranoid & stressed out about the littlest things. How can I calm my nerves & get my mind off of things?. (link)
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Have you ever been assessed by a psychiatrist for an anxiety disorder? A family doctor has no business doing that but can and should refer you. Your problem if it's existed for a really long time may be irrational and a medical one that requires medication and therapy to manage and find the peace you are looking for. They'll teach you coping strategies and how to deal. It might be the best thing you've done for yourself to seek medical help.
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OKay so I wont take long I am senior and in the 12th grade and there is this new admission in my school he is in the 11th grade
he is cute and i kinda want to get to know him
but the problem is i am a senior.. and it would be really weird just walking upto him and saying HIIII and conversing
that sort of stuff cant happen
i mean you know i am fairly popular in school and my friends notice. and i know the 11th grade people quite well
and i dont want stupid stuff going around school
but
this guy is really cute and i really think he might just turn out to be my type
but i dont know how i get to know him!!!!!!! (link)
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Talk to him. There is only a year's difference in age. You need to forget this elitist bullshit with cliques and what others perceive. If you want to get to know someone go ahead and do so. If your friends want to deny you that right or say something about it tell them that it isn't their business.
Why can't that happen? It would be the dumbest thing in the world if you didn't get to know someone based on that. You never know what good can come of it.
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