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people picking on me= destroy self esteem
I feel like a lot of people pick on me. My parents will pick on me. For example, I went shopping with my mom, she picked out a shirt for me but I didn't like it. She started making fun of me and saying how I have no taste and how awful I am for not liking her style. My older brother will pick on me because one time I was really sad and he thought I was pretending to be sad so I could get attention.. which is not at all what I was doing. I was sitting in the corner just all quiet.. My friends pick on me because one time I asked a really dumb question and now whenever I ask a question they laugh at me and bring it up. This "friend" of mine picked on me because my boobs were smaller than hers. My family picked on me because I had to go an entire week without internet, without cell phone, without communicating with my friends. It was really tough on me, but to have my family make fun of me for it was just really hard.
I feel like a lot of people pick on me and that's probably why I always have such a low self esteem.. I have no confidence in myself and I'm not really proud of myself for anything. I think I might have mild depression too because I don't really smile or laugh like I used to the past few years. I just feel awful and it makes me worse whenever someone makes fun of me.
I tried talking to some people like my parents about it but they honestly just laugh at me saying "its a joke".. but it never comes off that way when they say it.. I guess I just have a fragile and sensitive heart.
I really don't know what to do. I want to be happy and have a high self esteem.. but its really hard when people are making fun of me like this and making me feel worse. What should I do?
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There's NO such thing as mild depression. There's depression and that's it. I know that from experience. It hits like a mack truck and believe me you'll know it. You won't be able to function (without treatment) and constant fatigue and sadness as well as mood swings will be present. That's just some of what it's like.
What you have is an incredibly thin skin that you need to toughen up. Your family is doing nothing more than verbal sparring and you need to know how to recognize that and counter back. It's gentle ribbing but for some reason you aren't seeing what it really is and are too sensitive. What hurts you clearly isn't hurting others and we need to establish why.
Your mom was merely kidding about your fashion sense and not attacking you. Your brother's just being like most siblings but there's no real punch behind it. I'm sure your "friend" is either socially inept, kidding or just poking fun hoping you'll laugh but you should tell her that it hurt as it isn't fair to poke fun about people's physical attributes. Just roll with the punches and learn what's worth taking offense to rather than not.
If this has left your confidence and self-esteem in the toilet than you do in fact have a problem. You need to see a psychologist or licensed therapist to work out what is really at the source of it and learn how to cope as letting this kind of thing destroy your quality of life is wrong.
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Just tell them to stop picking on you! stand up for yourself, yell at them. Tell them that you dont just think its a joke, and it actually hurts your feelings. People pick on you... it happens your whole life. The only way you can stop it is if you speak up (:
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